The Black Mother Wound Podcast

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Welcome to The Black Mother Wound, a podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl. In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love.Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.  

  1. 5d ago

    You Can't Heal Your Mother Wound Without Making Hard Choices

    Ask me anything (link) Y'all, I need us to have an honest conversation about what it actually takes to heal your mother wound. Because one thing I'm noticing from the questions you send me is that many of us are still looking for a way to protect our peace, set boundaries, and become independent without having to make some really uncomfortable decisions. And sis, that's just not how this works. In this episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast, I'm answering three listener questions about dealing with a manipulative mother, protecting your children from unhealthy family dynamics, living at home while trying to heal, and navigating the guilt that comes with setting boundaries. We're talking about why you can't control your mother's behavior, why becoming emotionally and financially independent is so important, and why setting boundaries means accepting that some people aren't going to like your decisions. I'm also challenging you to examine the ways you may still be showing up as a daughter seeking your mother's approval instead of an adult woman taking authority over her own life. Healing your mother wound isn't about figuring out how to make everybody happy. It's about learning to show up for yourself, protect your inner little girl, and make the hard choices necessary to build the life you want. In this episode, we're talking about: Protecting yourself and your children from a mother's harmful behavior. Why distancing yourself from your mother doesn't mean you can control what she says or does. The emotional and financial challenges of living with your mother while trying to heal. Why boundaries are about changing your behavior, not forcing someone else to change. Learning to manage guilt, grief, and rejection without abandoning yourself. Taking responsibility for your life and reclaiming your autonomy. Stay Connected Have a question about healing your mother wound? Submit it through the Ask Me Anything link in the show notes for a chance to have your question answered on the podcast. I'm also working on The Daughterhood, a documentary short exploring who we get to become as we heal our mother wounds. Learn more about the project and how you can support its production through the link in the show notes. Follow us on Instagram @blackmotherwound or @jenniferarnise and don't forget to subscribe, rate, and share the podcast. Remember: You can't control how other people respond to your boundaries, but you can decide how you're going to show up for yourself.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  2. Oct 13

    Live at the 2026 Mental Wealth Expo With Minaa B.

    This week’s episode was recorded live at the 2026 Mental Wealth Expo hosted by Charlamagne Tha God and the Mental Wealth Alliance. I’m joined by licensed therapist and author Minaa B for a conversation about the Black mother wound, sibling relationships and what happens when the mother who hurt you becomes the mother who needs your care. We talk about: -How the mother wound impacts self-trust, confidence and people pleasing-Why siblings can grow up in the same house and have completely different experiences-Favoritism, competition and emotional neglect between siblings-How childhood roles follow us into our adult sibling relationships-Caring for an aging or toxic mother without abandoning yourself-Why caregiving does not have to mean sacrificing your mental health-Setting boundaries with family while still showing compassion-Letting go of the need to prove you’re a “good daughter” Healing your mother wound is not about fixing your relationship with your mother. It’s about healing the relationship you have with yourself. Keep the conversation going on Instagram @BlackMotherWound. More about Minaa B: Minaa B. is a highly sought-after licensed therapist, author of Owning Our Struggles, and creator of The Siblinghood Theory, a relational framework that examines how sibling and peer relationships shape how we navigate belonging, conflict, and connection throughout life. An expert in her field, Minaa has been featured in numerous media outlets, including The TODAY Show, BBC, CNN, and more. She hosts This Feels Familiar, a podcast that explores the relational patterns that keep people stuck, and serves as a relationship expert for eharmony. Minnab.com Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  3. Oct 6

    Go After Your Dreams DAMNIT!

    What happens after you’ve spent years healing your mother wound? At some point, you have to start living. In this episode, I’m talking about having the audacity to go after the life you actually want, especially when you didn’t grow up with someone encouraging your dreams, believing in you or teaching you how to believe in yourself. I share what this looks like in my own life as I return to the parts of myself that have always been there, including writing my first novel, working on a documentary and fully embracing myself as an artist. We talk about: Becoming someone different from who your mother expected you to be• Why healing requires more than understanding your pain• Building a community that supports who you’re becoming• Learning to trust your dreams without needing everyone else to understand them• Starting before you know exactly how everything will work• Doing the thing because you love it, not because it has to immediately make money• Giving yourself permission to change, pivot and want more If you’ve been doing this work for a while, the question becomes: What are you healing for if you’re not going to change your life? You don’t need the entire roadmap. You need to trust yourself enough to start and keep going. Keep the conversation going on Instagram @JenniferArnise or @BlackMotherWound. Here’s the link to ask your questions. And here’s the information about the Mental Wealth Alliance Expo See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  4. Sep 29

    LIVE PODCAST RECORDING

    This episode is a little different. You’re listening to audio from the live episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast I recorded in June 2026 in front of a live audience. And y’all came with the questions. We talked about what healing actually looks like when your mother is still in your life, how the mother wound follows us into friendships and romantic relationships, rebuilding trust with our children and learning how to create safety within ourselves. Because healing your mother wound is not about having a better relationship with your mother. It’s about having a better relationship with yourself. We talk about:• Setting boundaries when you’re still in contact with your mother• Creating safety for your inner little girl• Why healing can feel lonely when old relationships begin to fall away• People pleasing, overgiving and learning when enough is enough• Protecting your story when people judge your relationship with your mother• Repairing relationships with your children after recognizing your own patterns• Building confidence through evidence and experience• Learning how to connect without overinvesting in relationships Healing changes how you relate to your mother, but it also changes how you relate to yourself and everybody around you. Keep the conversation going on Instagram @JenniferArnise or @BlackMotherWound. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  5. Sep 22

    The Grief of What Was Lost and the Promise of What’s to Come

    Do I ever regret the time you lost because of your mother wound?   I do.   When you start healing, you can look back and see just how much your relationship with your mother shaped your choices, relationships, confidence and the life you built. And there can be real grief in realizing what might have been different.   In this episode, I’m talking about what we do with that regret without getting stuck in resentment. Because grieving what you didn’t get doesn’t mean your life is over. Sometimes allowing yourself to finally feel that loss is exactly what makes room for joy, possibility and the parts of yourself you thought you lost.   I also share what healing has looked like for me lately, including returning to my creativity and finally writing the novel I’ve wanted to write since I was a teenager.   We talk about: Regretting choices you made from an unhealed place Grieving the life you thought you could have had Why resentment can keep an emotional debt open that no one is going to repay Learning to give yourself what your mother couldn’t give you Returning to dreams and desires you abandoned years ago How healing can give you a second chance at your own life   Your joy did not die because of your relationship with your mother. Your possibilities didn’t either.   So ask yourself: What is something you wanted earlier in your life that you can reach back for now?   Keep the conversation going on Instagram @JenniferArnise or @BlackMotherWound.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  6. Sep 15

    Choosing Your Inner Little Girl

    In this episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast, Jennifer answers a listener question about what happens when you ignore healing your mother wound and how to become more consistent in healing your inner little girl. Jennifer breaks down a truth that sits at the center of this work: the mother wound is not just about the relationship you have with your mother. It is about the relationship you have with yourself. More specifically, it is about the relationship you have with your inner little girl. This episode is a firm and loving call back to self. Jennifer explains how ignoring your healing causes you to repeat the same abandonment, rejection, dismissal, and lack of care that hurt you in the first place. When you ignore your needs, silence your body, chase approval, over give, people please, or abandon yourself to be seen as good, your inner little girl experiences that as another betrayal. Jennifer challenges listeners to stop making healing conditional. You cannot only care for your inner little girl because you want a better relationship, a marriage, more money, peace, or a different outcome. She deserves care because she is yours. Period. This conversation is for the Black woman who keeps showing up for everybody else but still struggles to show up for herself. It is for the woman who says she is tired of healing, but has not realized that taking a break from healing can sometimes mean leaving her inner little girl alone again. Jennifer reminds us that this work is not a trend, not a 30 day challenge, and not something you pick up only when life falls apart. It is a lifelong commitment. Key Takeaways The mother wound is not only about what your mother did. It is about what you now do to yourself because of what happened. If you are abandoning, rejecting, dismissing, or withholding care from yourself, your inner little girl is still living inside the wound. Approval addiction will have you sacrificing your inner little girl just so other people can see you as good. Healing cannot be conditional. Your inner little girl does not need to perform, improve, or help you get something before she deserves care. Your body is always giving you information. The tightness, fear, anxiety, anger, resentment, and numbness are not random. They are messages. You may have been waiting for your mother to apologize, but you also owe your inner little girl an apology. Consistency does not mean you never mess up. It means you keep coming back, repairing, listening, and choosing her again. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  7. Sep 8

    How to Recognize and Receive Love After a Lifetime of Not Having It

    How do you recognize danger when danger was normal growing up? How do you receive love when the love you knew was conditional? And how do you know when you're making a decision from healing versus guilt and people pleasing? These questions all come back to the same place: your relationship with yourself. In this episode, I’m talking about what it really takes to rebuild trust with yourself after the mother wound taught you to ignore your feelings, abandon your needs and trade pieces of yourself for love, connection and approval. Because healing your mother wound isn't really about your mother. At some point, we have to deal with how we've learned to treat ourselves. We’re also getting into something I’m realizing in my own healing right now: real healing requires infrastructure. It’s not enough to understand your trauma. You have to build a life that can actually support the woman you're becoming. In this episode: Why safety and love can be difficult to recognize after growing up with conditional love• Learning what different emotions actually feel like in your body• Why you have to become safe and trustworthy to yourself first• How people pleasing can become another form of self-abandonment• The difference between knowing about healing and actually building your life around it• Why new experiences, community, support and self-soothing matter• Taking accountability for the ways you continue to abandon yourself• Building an internal structure strong enough to support who you're becoming You can't keep asking other people to give you the safety, love and validation that you refuse to give yourself. At some point, you have to decide: I'm going to take care of me before I sacrifice me to keep everybody else comfortable. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  8. Sep 1

    When the Inner Work Isn’t Working

    What happens when you’ve done all the inner work, but your actual life still isn’t changing? You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You’ve journaled, meditated, said the affirmations and worked on your mother wound. But you’re still struggling with money, stability, your career, or simply taking care of yourself. At some point, the inner work has to become outer work. In this episode, I’m answering a listener question about how we take everything we’ve learned about ourselves and actually use it to change our lives. For me, one of the biggest realizations was that I couldn’t think, study, meditate or heal my way out of being afraid. I had to start doing shit while I was still afraid. Apply for the job. Go to the networking event alone. Ask for help. Make the money however you need to make it. Stop letting shame and what you think other people might think make decisions about your real life. Because sometimes what looks like a money problem is also a safety problem, a self-trust problem and a mother wound problem. In this episode:• Why inner work without outer action keeps us stuck• How the mother wound can affect money and financial stability• Why you may struggle to see yourself beyond what your mother modeled for you• The connection between shame, fear and missed opportunities• Why exposure to new people and possibilities matters• Learning to take care of yourself even when it doesn’t look impressive• Why consistency and commitment to yourself have to become part of your healing You do not need another book before you make a move. At some point, you have to take everything you’ve learned about yourself and go do the f*****g thing. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Welcome to The Black Mother Wound, a podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl. In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love.Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.  

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    The Black Effect Podcast Network and iHeartPodcasts
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    118
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    Explicit
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