The Selfish Woman

Valerie Jones
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A podcast for women in their power - building brands, shaping culture, and holding a vision bigger than themselves. Hosted by Valerie Jones, author of The Selfish Year and founder of The Queen Code, this show explores what it takes. to rise without losing your center. These are conversations about legacy, luxury, boundaries, and the interior systems that support sustainable leadership. You'll hear strategy, identity shifts, mythic frameworks, and magnetic storytelling - designed to serve the woman who knows she's just getting started. Ranked #23 in Feedspot's Top 80 Badass Female Podcasts of 2026

  1. 4D AGO

    From Netflix's 'Sex, Love & goop' to Erotic Wholeness: Darshana Avila on Asking For What You Want

    Darshana Avila left her corporate career and her marriage, and stepped into a life of erotic wholeness.  Now she's a Certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Sexological Bodyworker featured on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop with Gwyneth Paltrow - and she's here to talk about what most of us are too afraid to ask for.  In this episode, we talk about:  Knowing what you want (in sex and in life) and actually asking for it: Why high-achieving women can run companies but can't speak their desires in bed.  The identity crisis that led to liberation: How Darshana walked away from everything that wasn't aligned - and what happened next.  Her experience on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop: Working with a lesbian couple to help them understand what they want, need, and hw to speak it out loud.  Erotic wholeness as a path to power: How reclaiing pleasure is an act of rebellion (and sovereignty)  People-pleasing in the bedroom (and eveywhere else): Why saying yes when you mean no kills intimacy, and how to stop.  This conversation is raw, real and permission-giving. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, your desires, or your power, this one's for you.  Connect with Darshana:  Website Want more? Subscribe to The Selfish Woman Podcast (ranked top 3% globally) for weekly conversations about identity, power and building empires on your terms.  New episodes every Monday. Named Feedspots #23 in the Top 80 Best Badass Female Podcasts of 2026  Take the Reveal Your Mask Quiz  Please leave a review! It help more women find us.

    52 min

  2. FEB 9

    From Selfish to Sovereign

    In this episode I reveal the next level of your journey - from midlife reinvention to full-blown feminine sovereignty. If you're a woman ready to rise into your power, lead with vision, and claim a life that reflects your true worth, this is for you.  I unpack the Queen Code (my brand new methodology), share the mythic framework behind the Sovereign Woman, and invite you inside the symbolic castle that holds it all.  Consider this your rite of passage.  Join The Phoenix  Subscribe to my YouTube channel  Get my book, The Selfish Year  Follow me on Instagram  Subscribe, share and leave a review!

    26 min

  3. FEB 2

    The Cost of Quiet with Colette Jane Fehr

    You've been swallowing your truth, avoiding conflict, and hoping things will change if you're just patient enough.  But your silence isn't safety....it's a slow death.  This week, I'm talking with Colette Jane Fehr, author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love, about why we stay silent, and what it costs us.  In this episode:  Why it's so hard to speak up (even when you know you should)  What to do when you get the same response every time you speak up  The curse of the good girl (and how it keeps you quiet)  How to get out of the Cave of Resentment  Self-connected communication: the framework that changes everything  The only way to build confidence (it's not what you think)  Your communication report card (we all have one!)  How conflict is the doorway to intimacy, not the end of it  Colette is giving us the tools to stop performing and start speaking.  Because the cost of quiet? It's your life.  Pre-order The Cost of Quiet here Follow Collete on Instagram  My Substack article, and free quiz: Reveal Your Mask

    50 min

  4. JAN 26

    Selfish is the Strategy: A New Era Begins

    Welcome to Season Five - and to 2026!  In this powerful kickoff episode, Valerie pulls back the curtain on what it really means to be selfish in a world that has taught women to disappear. This isn't just a refresher course. It's a full-on reintroduction to the philosophy, fire, and unapologetic truth at the core of The Selfish Woman movement.  You'll hear:  Why 'selfish' is still the most radical word a woman can claim  What the old Good Girl contract cost you, and how to burn it for good  Why every powerful woman you admire had to get selfish  How to give from overflow, not obligation  What's coming in 2026: bold new tools, mythic framewords, and sacred strategies no on else is teaching  If you're ready to make 2026 the year you come home to yourself, start here.  Get The Selfish Year  Subscribe to the YouTube series  Follow on Instagram  Get my blog, The Selfish Gospel  Go forth and be selfish.

    19 min

  5. 12/16/2025

    Why Your 'Word for the Year' Fails: And How to Choose One That Changes Everything

    Most people choose a word for the year based on what they want to achieve, acquire, or accomplish. But that's not how transformation works.  In this episode, I'm sharing why your word of the year should be about who you're becoming, not what you want to get. It's a practice in identity, not goals. A call toward the woman you're evolving into. not a to-do list disguised as intention-setting.  I'll walk you through:  Why choosing a word based on outcomes keep you stuck in the same patterns  The difference between a word that motivates and a word that transforms  My own experience choosing 'selfish' as my word in 2020 - what it taught me, how it challenged me, and why it was exactly what I needed  How to choose a word that serves your evolution (not just your ambition)  This isn't about New Year's resolutions or vision boards. It's about claiming who you're becoming and letting that guide everything else.  WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBE:  I'm now posting full video episodes on YouTube! If you prefer to warch rather than listen, head over to my channel and subscribe so you don't miss future episodes.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  The Selfish Year - available everywhere books are sold, or click here  CONNECT WITH ME:  Substack: The Selfish Gospel weekly essays  Book: The Selfish Year  Instagram  LET'S TALK:  What's your word for 2026? Drop me a message on Instagram or YouTube.  SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:  If you loved this episode, please subscribe and leave a review, on Spotify or Apple. It helps others find the show.  Thanks for listening. Now go choose your word, and let it choose you back.

    27 min

  6. 12/11/2025

    The Year of the Snake: What You Need to Shed Before 2026

    2025 is the Year of the Snake. 2026? The Year of the Fire Horse.  If you're familiar about Chinese zodiac symbolism, you know what that means: the Snake sheds what no longer fits. The Fire Horse charges forward with unstoppable momentum.  But here's the thing: you can't ride the Fire Horse into 2026 while still carrying 2025's dead weight.  This episode is about what needs to be shed now, before the year turns.  IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE:  The symbolism of Snake and Fire Horse years: and what they're asking of us right now.  What a death cycle actually looks like (from someone living it): why you can't 'positive mindset' your way through and what to do instead.  The difference between shedding and suppressing: one creates space for growth, the other just buries what will resurface later.  A December ritual for intentional release: specific steps you can take this month to shed what's keeping you small, stuck, or performing.  Why 'not enough', shame, and old survival strategies have to go: and what becomes possible when you finally release them.  The gift of radical permission: why The Selfish Year is the book to give yourself (or someone you love) this holiday season.  What's coming in 2026: a hint at something I'm creating for women ready to make next year their Selfish Year  IF YOU'RE FEELING:  The tightness of an old identity that doesn't fit anymore  Exhausted by maintaining 'impressive'  Ready to stop carrying what's dead  Curious about what 2026 could look like if you actually chose yourself  ....this episode is for you.  RESOURCES MENTIONED:  Read the full essay: What a Death Cycle Actually Looks Like (from someone living it)  Get the book: The Selfish Year - perfect for gifting yourself and your friends permission this Christmas  Choose your 2026 word: Are you claiming SELFISH as your guiding intention for next year? Let me know!  SOMETHING'S COMING:  I'm gathering women who are ready to make 2026 their Selfish Year. A community....a container...a place where choosing yourself isn't rebellion, it's a homecoming.  I can't share all the details yet, but if you're feeling the pull toward radical selfishness - stay close.  CONNECT WITH VALERIE:  Instagram  Newsletter Work with Valerie  YOUR DECEMBER PRACTICE:  This month, ask yourself every morning:  What am I carrying that's already dead?  What old skin am I ready to shed?  What wants to emerge in 2026?  Then do one small thing - sage, movement, journaling, walking - to physically release it.  SHARE THIS EPISODE:  Know someone who needs permission to shed what's no longer serving them? Send them this episode. Sometimes the most generous thing we can do is name what's true.  RATE & REVIEW:  If this episode resonated please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. It helps other women find The Selfish Woman podcast when they need it most.

    26 min

  7. 11/10/2025

    The 'Holy Sh*t' Moment: When You Start Toppling Your Sacred Cows

    This is a personal episode for me, one that I feel led to share with you, because I know it's going to resonate.  There's a moment in every woman's life when she look at what she's been worshipping - success, motherhood, marriage, being 'nice' - and realizes none of it was built for her freedom. That's the holy sh*t moment. The one where you finally stop trying to earn gold stars for suffering and start knocking over every sacred cow that's been keeping you in a cage.  This is aboout burning down the old rules, setting yourself free from everyone else's opinion of you, reclaiming your wild self, and realizing that sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do...is commit a little heresy.  Take the Reveal Your Mask quiz  Get your copy of The Selfish Year  Inquire about working with me as a private client  Read The Selfish Gospel on Substack  Watch on YouTube

    30 min

  8. 10/27/2025

    Hype Women! With Erin Gallagher

    In this episode I'm joined by Erin Gallagher, author of Hype Women: Breaking Free From Mean Girls, Patriarchy and Systems Silencing You.  Buckle up for a fiery conversation about what it really means to trust yourself after a lifetime of being told you're wrong. We talk about the incredible origin story of her book, and why she's not here to hype all women - especially not the ones still acting as foot soldiers for the patriarchy.  We also go there:  Who are the mean girls in your life?  Why do we keep trying to gather in circles with women who've burned us?  What does it mean to self-source instead of always giving your power away?  This one is bold, vulnerable and unapologetically honest. Press play and get hyped - for yourself.  Erin Gallagher is the CEO and Founder of Hype Women, an inclusive ecosystem hyping women to remember who the f**k they are, author of Hype Women, and host of the Hype Women Podcast.  Her book is an electrifying and extraordinary approach to life for ambitious women everywhere.  Connect with Erin  Buy your copy of Hype Women now!  The Phoenix private community  The Selfish Year

    44 min
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A podcast for women in their power - building brands, shaping culture, and holding a vision bigger than themselves. Hosted by Valerie Jones, author of The Selfish Year and founder of The Queen Code, this show explores what it takes. to rise without losing your center. These are conversations about legacy, luxury, boundaries, and the interior systems that support sustainable leadership. You'll hear strategy, identity shifts, mythic frameworks, and magnetic storytelling - designed to serve the woman who knows she's just getting started. Ranked #23 in Feedspot's Top 80 Badass Female Podcasts of 2026

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  • Creator
    Valerie Jones
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    137
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Show Website
    The Selfish Woman

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