The Selfish Woman

Valerie Jones

Selfish is the key that unlocks the dungeon. This is feminism for the woman who's been in the trenches of life for decades. The kind that comes from surviving marriages, rebuilds, and decades of following rules that were never heard. The confession booth for women who are done being good. Ranked #23 in Feedspot's Top 80 Badass Female Podcasts of 2026

  1. MAR 23

    Stress Is Not The Problem...This Is: With Dr. Rachel Goldman

    We've all been there: a plan falls apart, a deadline shifts, or a minor inconvenience feels like the end of the world. Or, we spend way too much of our time and energy worrying about 'what if.' We usually blame the situation for how we feel, but today's guest says the 'problem' isn't what's happening - it's how we're wired to react to it.  I'm joined by Dr. Rachel Goldman, a clinical psychologist, NYU professor, and a leading expert in the mind-body connection who has shared her insights alongside icons like Oprah and Mel Robbins.  Ahead of the April launch of her highly anticipated book, "When Life Happens," Dr. Rachel breaks down the science of CBT and explains why we need to stop trying to 'delete' stress and start building a Coping Toolbox.  This episode is a survival guide for anyone who feels overwhelmed by the weight of 'doing it all' and is ready to reclaim their peace of mind.  What We Discuss:  The Stress Reframe: Why stress is inevitable, but our physiological and mental reaction to it is a choice.  The "All or Nothing" Trap: How to break the cycle of perfectionism when things go sideways.  Building Your Coping Toolbox: Specific strategies to regulate your emotions in real time.  Mindset as a Skill: Why resilience isn't a personality trait - it's a strategy you can train.  When Life Happens: A deep dive into the mindset shifts needed to navigate life's messiest moments.  Resources & Links:  Pre-Order the Book  Follow Dr. Rachel  Subscribe to The Selfish Woman Podcast on Spotify  Subscribe to The Selfish Woman Podcast on Apple

    42 min
  2. FEB 15

    From Netflix's 'Sex, Love & goop' to Erotic Wholeness: Darshana Avila on Asking For What You Want

    Darshana Avila left her corporate career and her marriage, and stepped into a life of erotic wholeness.  Now she's a Certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Sexological Bodyworker featured on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop with Gwyneth Paltrow - and she's here to talk about what most of us are too afraid to ask for.  In this episode, we talk about:  Knowing what you want (in sex and in life) and actually asking for it: Why high-achieving women can run companies but can't speak their desires in bed.  The identity crisis that led to liberation: How Darshana walked away from everything that wasn't aligned - and what happened next.  Her experience on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop: Working with a lesbian couple to help them understand what they want, need, and hw to speak it out loud.  Erotic wholeness as a path to power: How reclaiing pleasure is an act of rebellion (and sovereignty)  People-pleasing in the bedroom (and eveywhere else): Why saying yes when you mean no kills intimacy, and how to stop.  This conversation is raw, real and permission-giving. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, your desires, or your power, this one's for you.  Connect with Darshana:  Website Want more? Subscribe to The Selfish Woman Podcast (ranked top 3% globally) for weekly conversations about identity, power and building empires on your terms.  New episodes every Monday. Named Feedspots #23 in the Top 80 Best Badass Female Podcasts of 2026  Take the Reveal Your Mask Quiz  Please leave a review! It help more women find us.

    52 min
4.9
out of 5
29 Ratings

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Selfish is the key that unlocks the dungeon. This is feminism for the woman who's been in the trenches of life for decades. The kind that comes from surviving marriages, rebuilds, and decades of following rules that were never heard. The confession booth for women who are done being good. Ranked #23 in Feedspot's Top 80 Badass Female Podcasts of 2026

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