Dimming The Gaslight: Our Healing Journey From Narcissistic Abuse

Dimming The Gaslight
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Welcome to Dimming The Gaslight! I'm Mac—a male survivor of Narcissistic Abuse. I’m documenting my real-time war divorcing a female narcissist, fighting for my kids, and surviving the U.S. family court system. I am joined by my best friend and co-host, Phil. As the former host of the "Surviving The Covert Narcissist" podcast, Phil brings a veteran perspective and much-needed levity to the darkness. We break down the legal battles and the healing journey week by week. But this platform is for you, too. To share your story as a guest, email us -DimmingTheGaslight@gmail.com to be on the show!

  1. FEB 15

    Episode 179: The Coma, The Cover-Up, & The Missing Toxicology Report (Inverview with Eva Levina)

    Eva Lavina survived 25 years of narcissistic abuse, but she almost didn't survive the final discard. In this gripping interview, the author of "Death Is No Reason To Stop Living" joins us to tell a story that sounds like a movie script. After a mysterious incident left her in a coma with complete amnesia, Eva woke up to a nightmare: her husband wasn't trying to help her recover—he was trying to have her committed to a psychiatric ward. In this episode: The Poisoning Suspicion: Eva opens up about why she believes she was poisoned and the "missing" toxicology report that could have proved it.The Frame-Job: How her ex used her hospitalization to paint her as "suicidal" and "dangerous" to doctors.The Savior: The incredible moment her couple's therapist intervened and saved her from being locked away. JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠⁠⁠ Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon! For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠ ⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

    1h 47m

  2. FEB 8

    Episode 178:The "Mommy Makeover" Nightmare: K-Pop, Korea, and a Hidden iCloud Folder (Interview With Tyler)

    It started with an obsession with K-Dramas. It ended with a month-long solo trip to Korea for "plastic surgery" that was actually a cover for something much darker. Our guest Tyler shares one of the most insane discovery stories we have ever heard. After his wife left him home with their three kids for a month, Tyler heard a literal voice in his head say three words: "Check the iCloud." What he found wasn't recovery photos. It was a hidden folder containing over 1,000 pieces of evidence that shattered his reality. From the ultimate gaslight ("I cheated because you didn't love me enough") to living with the enemy for a year during the divorce, this is a story of survival you have to hear to believe. JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠⁠ Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon! For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠ ⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

    1h 9m

  3. FEB 1

    Episode 177: The CEO, The Alcoholic, and The Exit Strategy (Interview with Sean From Australia)

    Sean survived the 2002 Bali Bombings and a car crash that shattered his pelvis—but nothing prepared him for the war inside his own home. A high-powered Tech CEO by day, Sean was living a nightmare by night with a wife who averaged 55 drinks a week and terrified their children. When his 16-year-old daughter whispered, "Mom is drunk-driving, she nearly killed me," Sean knew he had to act. He treated his divorce like a military operation: reading The Art of War, secretly moving documents to a storage unit, and spending $12,000 on a "fake" final holiday just to keep the peace before the extraction. The Aftermath: It wasn't just a breakup. It was a scorched-earth legal battle involving false allegations of sexual abuse that destroyed his reputation across two major cities. JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠ Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon! For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠ ⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

    1h 38m

  4. JAN 18

    Episode 176: Understanding the Discard with Psycologist Dr. Josh Smith

    “It felt like the total package. The chemistry, the deep conversations, the shared future—and then, overnight, it was gone. No reason. No explanation. Just a cold exit.” In this episode of Dimming the Gaslight, Phil and I sit down with psychologist @drj.smith to deconstruct the “Discard Phase.” We dive deep into why high-character “Givers” are targeted by “Empty Vessels” and the psychological blueprint of a relationship that has a pre-determined shelf life. In this episode, we discuss: *The Mirroring Phase: How they project your own best qualities back at you to create a “soulmate” illusion. *The Lack of Closure: Why searching for a “reason” from an empty shell is a trap. *The Recovery Blueprint: How to sit with the “maddening” discomfort and reclaim your worth through discipline and truth. *Humanism vs. The Mask: Recognizing the difference between someone who is beautiful on the outside and someone who is truly loving on the inside. You aren’t “broken” because they left; you are being liberated from a fake version of reality. It’s time to see your victory. JOIN US ON DISCORD! Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon! For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠ ⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

    1h 54m

  5. JAN 11

    Episode 175: The "Real-Time Escape" (interview with Phil's friend John)

    This is unlike any episode we have ever recorded. Our guest, John, isn’t looking back on abuse from years ago—he is actively escaping it right now. Recorded just 24 hours after fleeing a house where he was held prisoner, John joins Mac and Phil to tell a story of survival that sounds like a horror movie.From 24/7 camera surveillance and starvation tactics that left him emaciated, to financial devastation and a literal plot to hide his body in a crawlspace, John breaks down how he went from a successful father to a “prisoner of war” in his own relationship. Phil isn’t just a co-host on this one; he was the extraction team. This is a raw, unpolished, and terrifying look at coercive control and the fight for freedom. Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon! For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠ ⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

    1h 37m

  6. JAN 4

    Episode 174: I Fell For Another Con Artist/Narc

    So I thought about it. And then thought about it, and thought about it, and thought about it some more. And then I got a case of the f**k-its. Why should I stay quiet? If it’s the truth, then let the truth be told. I’m putting this one-time Patreon episode out on the public podcast. This episode is a marathon. It's a 2.5-hour purge of the demons from a relationship I thought was real. Unfortunately, I fell for another narcissist. I'm breaking down every detail: the red flags I painted yellow, the warning signs I missed, and the cold reality of the discard. Am I crazy? Was none of it real? Or am I back to recovering from narcissistic abuse? You be the judge. Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon! For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠ ⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

    2h 45m

  7. 12/28/2025

    Episode 173: Holiday Horror Stories Are Back!

    🎄👻 Holiday Horror Stories is here.From ice that somehow caused a meltdown, to a pie that turned into a full-blown nightmare, to one person quietly planning their escape while the lights are still up…If your ex ever ruined the holidays, this episode is for you.Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon! For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠ ⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

    51 min

  8. 12/07/2025

    Episode 172: Erica Has the "Monster in Law" From Hell (interview with @lets_talk_about_narcissism on IG)

    @lets_talk_about_narcissism hosts the “The Narc Mother In Law” podcast. She is an old friend and I’ve been trying to have her on the pod for a long, long time! Erica’s ex-mother-in-law is a nightmare, and she didn’t get much help from her ex-husband either. Her MIL constantly badgered her about her weight, invited her husband’s ex-girlfriend to Christmas, and even made statements that led Erica to believe her life was in danger! You gotta hear this one! Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon! For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠ ⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

    1h 22m
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Welcome to Dimming The Gaslight! I'm Mac—a male survivor of Narcissistic Abuse. I’m documenting my real-time war divorcing a female narcissist, fighting for my kids, and surviving the U.S. family court system. I am joined by my best friend and co-host, Phil. As the former host of the "Surviving The Covert Narcissist" podcast, Phil brings a veteran perspective and much-needed levity to the darkness. We break down the legal battles and the healing journey week by week. But this platform is for you, too. To share your story as a guest, email us -DimmingTheGaslight@gmail.com to be on the show!

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