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Money, sex, identity, mental health, relationships, culture and more -- nothing is off-limits in “Don’t Hold Back”, the award-winning video podcast hosted by Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba. Imagine if there were a place where everyone could speak honestly about the things we often keep quiet. That’s what Don’t Hold Back is all about! South Africans under 35 talk about everything from navigating identity, social pressures, and mental health, to dealing with toxic relationships, finances and family expectations. Life feels lighter when you can listen and learn from other people’s stories. Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba is a South African content creator, bestselling author and HIV activist. Join her as she chats — and shares a snack — with a different guest in each episode. Don’t Hold Back has received international and local recognition, including: - Bronze Winner – 2023 Anthem Awards (Education, Art & Culture / Podcast or Audio) - Finalist – 2023 New York Festivals Radio Awards - Shortlisted – 2023 Publisher Podcast Awards (Best Health & Wellbeing Podcast) - Finalist – 2023 AIB Awards (Presenter of the Year: Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba) - Spotlight of the Year (Podcast) – 2023 African Podcast and Voice Awards - Gold Winner – 2024 South African Podcasting Awards (Wellness & Relationships) This podcast is a collaboration between DW, Jacaranda FM and East Coast Radio.

  1. Marriage unfiltered: The truth behind the 'perfect' social media life

    11/05/2025

    Marriage unfiltered: The truth behind the 'perfect' social media life

    nstagram shows us flowers, holidays, and perfect couple selfies. But what’s really happening behind those posts? In this season finale of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba sits down with her husband, Skhu Mayaba, for a real, funny, and honest conversation about what love looks like when no one’s watching. They unpack the truth behind curated couple content and explore how real relationships require growth, patience, and quiet acts of love. If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship measures up, this one is for you. Production credits: A DW Africa vodcast created in collaboration with Jacaranda FM and East Coast Radio. Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba – Host Wanjiku Mwaura – Lead Producer (DW) Silja Fröhlich – Lead Producer (DW) Asumpta Lattus – Executive Producer (DW) Diane Macpherson – Executive Producer (Kagiso Media Radio) Ntsikelelo Khanyile – Production Assistant (Kagiso Media Radio) Wandile Langeni – Production Assistant (Kagiso Media Radio) Thandiwe Nkoana – Lead Videographer and Editor Ronnie Nkoana – Assistant Videographer #DontHoldBackPodcast | #LoveUnfiltered | #MarriageInRealLife | #CoupleConversations | #NoFilterRelationships | #SkhuAndNozi | #SayItLoud Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)

    34 min
  2. The pain we never name: Healing the mother wound

    10/22/2025

    The pain we never name: Healing the mother wound

    What happens when your first heartbreak is your mother? In this deeply personal episode, author and coach Moshitadi Lehlomela joins Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba to talk about the quiet pain many people carry --the mother wound. Moshitadi shares how she first recognised her own wound at university, when anxiety and depression began to surface. “I realised that I had a mother wound in varsity,” she says. “I felt alone. I felt defective.” Nozi opens up with empathy and honesty, creating a safe space for a conversation about pain, forgiveness, and self-discovery. Together, they unpack how childhood wounds resurface in adulthood, how to unlearn toxic patterns, and what it means to mother yourself with compassion. “You’ve already done great work so far,” Moshitadi reminds listeners. “Maybe the coping mechanisms you developed are not healthy, but you’ve been doing your best trying to protect yourself.” This conversation is about healing, identity, and finding peace -- even when the love that shaped you also left a scar. More about Moshitadi Lehlomela Moshitadi Lehlomela is a writer, coach, and entrepreneur who helps people heal from the mother wound — the deep emotional scars left by maternal pain. She’s the author of The Girl Who Survived Her Mother and Healing the Mother Wound, and through her work she guides others toward self-love, emotional freedom, and breaking generational patterns. Core production team: Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba – Host Wanjiku Mwaura – Lead Producer (DW) Silja Fröhlich – Lead Producer (DW) Asumpta Lattus – Executive Producer (DW) Diane Macpherson – Executive Producer (Kagiso Media Radio) Ntsikelelo Khanyile – Production Assistant (Kagiso Media Radio) Wandile Langeni – Production Assistant (Kagiso Media Radio) Thandiwe Nkoana – Lead Videographer & Editor Ronnie Nkoana – Assistant Videographer #DontHoldBack #HealingTheMotherWound #MoshitadiLehlomela #SelfLoveJourney #NozibeleQamnganaMayaba Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)

    37 min
  3. Let's talk about sex, AGAIN

    10/08/2025

    Let's talk about sex, AGAIN

    * Content warning: This episode contains adult themes and is intended for listeners aged 18 and older.* You wanted more candid conversations about sex, so here it is: Nozibele reconnects with gynaecologist and sexologist Dr Nompumelelo "Mpume" Zenda, aka Dr Gynae, for an open, no-holds-barred talk on everything from libido and Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) to first-time sex experiences. They debunk myths, explore female pleasure, and discuss why honest conversations around sexuality are essential to health and happiness. This episode explores topics many shy away from: celebrating body confidence, understanding hormonal health challenges like PCOS, and affirming that your sexual journey is valid at every stage of life. Whether you're curious, confused, or ready to break free from silence, this episode offers insight, support, and truth without judgment or taboo. In this episode: 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:14 Guest Introduction and Popular Demand 01:00 Diving into Sex and Sexuality 02:46 First Time Sex: Expectations vs. Reality 06:10 Understanding Vaginal Tightness 08:44 Self-Pleasure and Masturbation 15:30 Contraceptives and Libido 17:22 The Importance of Lube 18:17 Postpartum Sex Drive 19:45 Intimacy and Communication 20:08 Debunking Myths About Women's Sex Drive 21:32 The Role of Romance 22:08 Initiating Intimacy 26:15 Maintaining Sexual Chemistry 30:39 Stimulating the Senses 32:55 Final Thoughts and Takeaways About Dr Nompumelelo Zenda Dr Nompumelelo Zenda is a Johannesburg-based OB-Gynae and medical sexologist, renowned for advancing sexual and reproductive health in South Africa. Founder of the innovative wellness consultancy We See You, and a Fellow of the European Committee of Sexual Medicine, Dr Zenda blends medical expertise with cultural awareness. Through her media work, advocacy, and teaching, she empowers young South Africans to take confident control over their bodies, health, and relationships. Don't forget to Like, Subscribe, and Share to keep breaking the silence. This show is a collaboration between DW and leading South African radio stations, Jacaranda FM and East Coast Radio. Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)

    35 min
  4. Gcina Mhlophe on embracing culture and tradition

    09/24/2025

    Gcina Mhlophe on embracing culture and tradition

    In the latest episode, legendary storyteller, poet and author Dr. Gcina Mhlophe reflects on what it means to preserve culture in a fast-changing world. Dr. Mhlophe shares her journey from a childhood “house of song and prayer” to becoming one of South Africa’s most respected custodians of heritage. She explains why storytelling remains the heartbeat of cultural identity - and why younger generations must learn to balance tradition with modern life. “Culture starts within,” she says. “It’s about having a sense of belonging, of respect, and of knowing who you are, even as the world changes.” The episode explores practical ways families can pass on rituals, the importance of African languages, and the risks of letting global influences dilute local traditions. Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)

    30 min
  5. Five simple habits to a healthier you

    09/10/2025

    Five simple habits to a healthier you

    What does “healthy” really mean? In this episode of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba talks to fitness coach Kopano Mokhele, who deliberately gained 25 kilos — and is now losing it again — to better understand what his clients face. Kopano shares honest lessons about food cravings, mental health, and why BMI doesn’t always apply to African body types. He also reveals five simple steps anyone can take to start a healthier lifestyle - from moving in ways you enjoy, to making one food change, to tracking progress and staying motivated. Authentic, funny, and packed with practical advice, this is your reminder that health is a journey, not a deadline. Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)

    31 min
  6. 5 Things You Need to Know Before You Turn 35

    08/27/2025

    5 Things You Need to Know Before You Turn 35

    When Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba revealed on the podcast that she’s turning 35 later this year, she admitted she was struggling with questions many women ask themselves: Have I achieved enough? Am I where I should be at this age? It was the perfect moment to bring in a mentor figure. Sitting across from her was Elana Afrika-Bredenkamp – a household name on radio and TV, an author, leadership coach, and mother – who knows about navigating milestones and expectations. Elana’s message? Stop panicking. Whether you’re in your twenties, thirties, or beyond, this episode is packed with practical wisdom and empowering reminders that it’s never too late to reset, grow, and thrive. This show is a collaboration between DW and leading South African radio stations, Jacaranda FM and East Coast Radio. Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)

    38 min
  7. Living Proudly: Black, Gay, HIV-Positive in 2025

    08/13/2025

    Living Proudly: Black, Gay, HIV-Positive in 2025

    How do you live proudly when the world still carries stigma? In this episode of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba sits down with Phenyo Moletsane - a proud Black, gay man living openly with HIV in 2025 - for a powerful conversation that goes beyond labels, fear, and silence. From navigating HIV stigma in South Africa to redefining what it means to love and live openly as a Black queer man, Phenyo shares the realities many never see. He talks about the micro-moments where visibility feels like both liberation and risk, the ongoing mental health journey, and the changing nature of relationships. This episode breaks down misconceptions around HIV, embraces identity with power and pride, and explores the courage it takes to challenge social norms. Phenyo also speaks candidly about the joys and challenges of dating while living openly with HIV, and the vital support LGBTQIA+ youth need beyond the usual “be yourself” message. Whether you’re living with HIV, part of the queer community, or an ally ready to support without shame or saviourism, this conversation is real, raw, and full of heart. In this episode: 00:34 Welcome to Don't Hold Back 00:50 Introducing Today's Guest 01:19 Catching Up After Years 02:07 The Snack Tradition - a Teaser 02:43 Living Positively with HIV 03:10 The Impact of Sharing My Story 05:24 Challenges of Public Disclosure 05:53 Personal Relationships and HIV 07:52 The Journey to Healing 10:03 Advocating for the Next Generation 13:04 Navigating Conversations About Safe Sex 15:35 Coming Out to Family 16:18 Navigating Safe Conversations 17:34 Seeking Help and Counseling 19:11 Finding Love and Disclosure 24:49 Rapid Fire Question Section 25:52 Addressing Stigma and Discrimination 30:04 Message to Young People and Parents 33:11 Final Thoughts and Farewell #DontHoldBackPodcast | #LivingPositively | #PhenyoMoletsane | #HIVAwareness | #LGBTQIAPlusSA | #BreakTheSilence | #DifferentFacesOfHIV Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)

    34 min
  8. Sex and Sexuality: What women wish they’d been taught

    07/30/2025

    Sex and Sexuality: What women wish they’d been taught

    How do you talk about sex when no one ever taught you how? *Content warning: This episode contains adult themes and is intended for listeners aged 18 and older.* In this episode, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba is joined by Johannesburg-based gynaecologist and sexologist Dr Nompumelelo “Mpume” Zenda (AKA Dr Gynae). Together, they unpack how to approach first-time experiences, body confidence, and open conversations in relationships. They also explore the importance of teaching children about sexuality using age-appropriate, honest language. Dr Zenda is the founder of We See You and a respected voice in women’s health and public education. This episode is about breaking the silence, offering clarity, and helping women feel more confident in their own skin. In this episode: 00:00 Introduction to the Taboo of Sex 01:26 Meet the Guest: Dr. Mpume 03:29 The Importance of Early Sex Education 09:08 Personal Experiences and Cultural Norms 11:03 Consequences of Lack of Sex Education 14:36 Diagnosing Sexual Dysfunctions 16:13 Reprogramming Your Mindset 16:31 The Brain: The Biggest Sex Organ 17:06 Understanding and Loving Your Body 19:20 Society's Influence on Body Image 20:56 Rapid Fire Questions 22:20 Sex Education and Parental Guidance 25:02 Communicating with Your Partner 28:02 The Importance of Self-Discovery 33:20 Final Thoughts and Farewell More about Dr Nompumelelo Zenda Dr Nompumelelo Zenda is a Johannesburg-based OB-Gynae and medical sexologist, widely recognised for her work in advancing sexual and reproductive health in South Africa. She is the founder of We See You, a consultancy focused on innovative, inclusive approaches to wellness. As a Fellow of the European Committee of Sexual Medicine, Dr Zenda brings both medical expertise and cultural sensitivity to her work. Through her media presence, published work, and public health advocacy, she helps young South Africans make informed, confident decisions about their bodies, health, and relationships. Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)

    34 min
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Money, sex, identity, mental health, relationships, culture and more -- nothing is off-limits in “Don’t Hold Back”, the award-winning video podcast hosted by Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba. Imagine if there were a place where everyone could speak honestly about the things we often keep quiet. That’s what Don’t Hold Back is all about! South Africans under 35 talk about everything from navigating identity, social pressures, and mental health, to dealing with toxic relationships, finances and family expectations. Life feels lighter when you can listen and learn from other people’s stories. Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba is a South African content creator, bestselling author and HIV activist. Join her as she chats — and shares a snack — with a different guest in each episode. Don’t Hold Back has received international and local recognition, including: - Bronze Winner – 2023 Anthem Awards (Education, Art & Culture / Podcast or Audio) - Finalist – 2023 New York Festivals Radio Awards - Shortlisted – 2023 Publisher Podcast Awards (Best Health & Wellbeing Podcast) - Finalist – 2023 AIB Awards (Presenter of the Year: Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba) - Spotlight of the Year (Podcast) – 2023 African Podcast and Voice Awards - Gold Winner – 2024 South African Podcasting Awards (Wellness & Relationships) This podcast is a collaboration between DW, Jacaranda FM and East Coast Radio.

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