The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast

Kindall D.
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Welcome to The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast— hosted by mindset + intuitive coach, author, and “SOFT Love” enthusiast Kindall D. This is your safe space to heal from toxic relationship patterns and find healthy love, starting within. No shame, no pressure—just real talk, inner work, and heart-centered support. I believe in “soft love,” not “tough love”—because you’ve already been through enough. This is about helping you reconnect with your power in a way that feels nurturing, not punishing. You’re safe here, seen here, and you’re not alone.💜 Books + coaching: linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net

  1. 11h ago

    134. The Grief That Comes With Choosing Yourself

    Everyone tells you to choose yourself. Set the boundary. Say no. Put yourself first. Protect your peace. But no one talks about what happens after. In this episode of The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast, we’re having an honest conversation about the emotional cost of choosing yourself. The loneliness, grief, guilt, identity shifts, and growing pains that often come with becoming the person you were always meant to be. If you’ve ever felt like healing has been harder than you expected, or wondered why choosing yourself can feel so painful, this episode is for you. We’ll talk about: * Why choosing yourself can feel lonely * The grief of outgrowing old versions of yourself * Why people may resist your growth * The guilt that comes with setting boundaries * What it means to stop abandoning yourself * How to navigate the discomfort of becoming who you truly are If this conversation resonates with you, I’d love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs the reminder that growth isn’t always comfortable—but it’s worth it. 🤍 Follow for more conversations on healing, self-worth, emotional growth, and becoming the woman you deserve to be. ✨ Let’s connect: 💜1:1 coaching & BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl 💜books, coaching and more: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net Authors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld 💜MY SOCIALS: YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6Vr Instagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Facebook: (9.9k followers) https://www.facebook.com/share/1NPUp2wNMQ/?mibextid=wwXIfr TikTok: (50.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1 Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Business Inquiries: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net (Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

  2. Jul 16

    133. You Were Never Meant to Earn Love by Overgiving | What Being Loved Well Really Means

    Many women have been taught that love is something they earn by giving more of themselves. In this episode, we’re unlearning that belief together. We’re talking about what it actually means to be loved well, why healthy love protects you from overextending yourself, and why someone who truly loves you pays attention to what your giving is costing you. Because the healthiest love you’ll ever experience won’t ask you to disappear—it will make more room for you to exist. ✨ Let’s connect: 💜1:1 coaching & BONUS podcast episodes  https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl 💜books, coaching and more: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net Authors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld 💜MY SOCIALS: YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6Vr Instagram: (154K followers)  https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Facebook: (9.9k followers) https://www.facebook.com/share/1NPUp2wNMQ/?mibextid=wwXIfr TikTok: (50.7K Followers)  https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1 Threads: (35K followers)  https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Business Inquiries: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net (Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

  3. Jul 9

    132. You Can Leave Based On How He Makes You Feel—That’s ENOUGH

    If you’ve been going back and forth in your head trying to figure out if what you’re feeling is valid — this video is for you. You don’t need receipts. You don’t need a list of things he did wrong. You don’t need to be able to explain it to your friends or make it make sense to him. A feeling is data. And it is enough. In this video we’re talking about why so many women intellectualize their way through relationships that are hurting them — overanalyzing his behavior, researching his attachment style, giving grace where grace isn’t being earned — instead of simply honoring what their body and heart have been trying to say the whole time. You are allowed to leave because something feels off. You are allowed to leave because you don’t feel safe. You are allowed to leave because you feel small, or unseen, or like you’re slowly disappearing inside of this relationship. You don’t have to build a case. You don’t have to prove it. You just have to trust yourself. ✨ Let’s connect: 💜1:1 coaching & BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl 💜books, coaching and more: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net Authors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld 💜MY SOCIALS: YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6Vr Instagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Facebook: (9.9k followers) https://www.facebook.com/share/1NPUp2wNMQ/?mibextid=wwXIfr TikTok: (50.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1 Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Business Inquiries: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net (Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

  4. Jun 25

    131. Decentering Men is What Gets You the Man

    If you want to stop chasing men and start attracting healthier love, this episode is for you. In today’s episode, we’re talking about why making men the center of your life often keeps you stuck in unhealthy dating patterns—and why the women who seem to attract healthy, committed relationships usually have one thing in common: their lives don’t revolve around being chosen. We’ll discuss why centering men makes you ignore red flags, overinvest too quickly, and lose yourself in the process. More importantly, you’ll learn how shifting your focus back to your own life, purpose, and peace naturally changes the way you date—and the kinds of men you attract. This isn’t about playing hard to get or pretending you don’t care. It’s about becoming a woman who chooses wisely instead of desperately hoping to be chosen. ✨ If this episode helped you, don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share it with another woman who needs to hear this. ✨ Let’s connect: 💜1:1 coaching & BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl 💜books, coaching and more: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net Authors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld 💜MY SOCIALS: YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6Vr Instagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1 Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Business Inquiries: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net (Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

  5. Jun 18

    130. Make Him Feel What It’s Like to Not Have You

    If you’ve been loving harder, explaining more, forgiving faster, and doing everything you can to keep the relationship together, this episode is for you. So many women believe the answer to feeling appreciated is giving more. But what if the very thing preventing someone from appreciating you is that they’ve never had to experience life without your constant presence? In this episode, we’re talking about why constantly rescuing the relationship can actually protect someone from the consequences of taking you for granted. This isn’t about playing games, ignoring texts, or trying to make someone jealous. It’s about understanding the difference between manipulation and boundaries. We’ll discuss: • Why people often don’t recognize what they have until they’re forced to experience its absence. • How anxious attachment can make you overfunction in relationships. • Why constantly fixing the relationship prevents you from seeing the truth. • The psychology behind why some people only realize your value after you’ve stepped away. • How to stop overextending yourself and start protecting your peace. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do—for yourself and for the relationship—is stop rescuing someone from the natural consequences of their choices. You deserve a relationship where your presence is appreciated, not simply expected. ✨ Let’s connect: 💜1:1 coaching & BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl 💜books, coaching and more: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net Authors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld 💜MY SOCIALS: YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6Vr Instagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1 Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Business Inquiries: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net (Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

  6. Jun 11

    129. How to Stop Losing Yourself in Relationships (The Neuroscience Explanation of Why You Do This)

    In this episode, we’re exploring the neuroscience behind relationship anxiety, attachment wounds, and why so many women lose themselves around men they deeply care about. We’ll talk about: ✨ Why your nervous system mistakes attachment for safety ✨ The hidden fear underneath relationship anxiety ✨ Why rejection feels so painful ✨ How childhood and past relationships shape your attachment patterns ✨ The neuroscience of self-abandonment ✨ How to retrain your brain for healthy love ✨ Why you’re not actually afraid of losing him—you’re afraid of losing what he represents If you’ve ever felt obsessed, anxious, needy, or unlike yourself around someone you cared about, this conversation is for you. Healing isn’t learning how to make someone stay. It’s learning that your safety was never dependent on them in the first place. ✨ Let’s connect: 💜1:1 coaching & BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl 💜books, coaching and more: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net Authors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld 💜MY SOCIALS: YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6Vr I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1 Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Business Inquiries: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net (Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

  7. May 21

    128. Why He Pulled Away When You Loved Him

    Trying to love an unhealed man can slowly make you question your worth, your emotions, and even the way you love. In this video, we’re talking about emotional unavailability, ego, intimacy, self-worth, and the hidden damage women experience when they pour love into men who have not healed emotionally. This conversation is not about blaming women for loving deeply — it’s about helping women understand that someone’s inability to receive healthy love is not proof that they are difficult to love. We’ll discuss: • Signs of an unhealed man • Why emotionally unavailable men struggle with intimacy • How loving the wrong person damages self-worth • Why women shrink themselves in unhealthy relationships • Ego vs emotional accountability • Why your love could not heal him • How to stop internalizing emotional neglect If you’ve ever left a relationship feeling anxious, emotionally drained, insecure, or like you lost yourself trying to love someone, this video is for you. ✨ Let’s connect: 💜1:1 coaching & BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl 💜books, coaching and more: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net Authors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld 💜MY SOCIALS: YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6Vr I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1 Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Business Inquiries: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net (Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

  8. May 14

    127. Make Him Come Correct—or Leave You Alone

    Your attachment made him feel more important than he actually was. In this video, we’re talking about anxious attachment, emotionally unavailable men, boundaries, fear of abandonment, and why healing sometimes means letting go of people who were never aligned with you to begin with. Make him come correct—or leave you alone. 💜1:1 coaching & BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl 💜books, coaching and more: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net Authors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld 💜MY SOCIALS: YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6Vr I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1 Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Business Inquiries: https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net (Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

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Welcome to The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast— hosted by mindset + intuitive coach, author, and “SOFT Love” enthusiast Kindall D. This is your safe space to heal from toxic relationship patterns and find healthy love, starting within. No shame, no pressure—just real talk, inner work, and heart-centered support. I believe in “soft love,” not “tough love”—because you’ve already been through enough. This is about helping you reconnect with your power in a way that feels nurturing, not punishing. You’re safe here, seen here, and you’re not alone.💜 Books + coaching: linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net

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