TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT I'm DOING

Abhay Dandekar

Serving as both a reflective mirror and an open window into the global Indian diaspora and South Asian communities. The conversations led by Abhay Dandekar are informal and informative, adding insights and perspective to our evolving expressions of culture, confidence, and trust. New episodes weekly, on Tuesdays (and some Thursdays). Listen or watch anywhere you get your podcasts, and please rate and review if your enjoying it.

  1. Rohan Bopanna on Tennis and the Art of Longevity

    4D AGO

    Rohan Bopanna on Tennis and the Art of Longevity

    What does it take to reach the World No. 1 ranking at the age of 43? In this episode of Trust Me, I Know What I’m Doing, host Abhay Dandekar sits down with recently retired Indian tennis legend Rohan Bopanna. A two-time Grand Slam champion and Padma Shri Award winner, Bopanna shares the "secrets" behind his storied multi-decade career: a relentless cycle of rebuilding, reinvention, and rejuvenation. From his early days in the coffee-growing region of Coorg to the pinnacle of the ATP rankings, Rohan discusses the mental fortitude required to survive the "lonely" grind of the professional tour. He also reveals the pivotal moment Iyengar Yoga saved his career after he was told he had no cartilage left in his knees. Whether you are an athlete looking for a competitive edge or a professional navigating your own "reincarnation," Bopanna’s insights on patience, trust, and the "Coorg mindset" offer a masterclass in aging gracefully while staying at the top of your game. Key Topics Discussed: The transition from Junior to Pro and the power of rituals.The "Doubles" mindset: Building trust and collaboration with partners.The discipline of recovery and mental resilience in high-pressure moments.The future of Indian tennis and the Bhoomi Program for under-resourced youth.Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction: Welcoming Rohan Bopanna04:22 – Early years: Resilience, rituals, and the junior-to-pro transition07:26 – The Art of Doubles: Building trust and collaboration with partners11:34 – The Growth Mindset: Discipline, recovery, and learning from losses16:40 – The Coorg Mindset: Gratitude, humility, and staying in the moment19:30 – Sponsor Break: Travelopod20:30 – Longevity in Sport: Mental resilience and aging gracefully22:28 – The New Chapter: Transitioning to coaching, data, and mentorship26:28 – Building a Sustainable Future: The vision for Indian tennis36:24 – Final thoughts on legacy, passion, and purpose Learn more about Rohan and his ongoing work with mentoring present and future young tennis athletes as well as the terrific grassroots work he is leading with youth from underresourced backgrounds through the  Rohan Bopanna Tennis Development Foundation Email rbtennisacademy@gmail.com for information on how to donate and support!Support the Show: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on Apple or Spotify or wherever you podcast! TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT I’M DOING is brought to you by TRAVELOPOD, with personalized travel support to help you explore the wonders of the world.  Start your next journey at vacation.travelopod.com

    37 min
  2. Kiran Deol on "Didn't Die": Owning Her Humor and Feeling Good

    MAR 17

    Kiran Deol on "Didn't Die": Owning Her Humor and Feeling Good

    Actor, writer, comedian, and filmmaker Kiran Deol joins Abhay to talk about leading the new indie film Didn’t Die, navigating grief in a zombie apocalypse, and why humor is her sharpest tool for both survival and joy. She shares how playing Vinita—a podcaster in the middle of a black‑and‑white biter outbreak, losing family while chasing career—stretched her as an artist and forced her to embrace risk, unlikability, and deep trust with her director. They dive into perfectionism in South Asian culture, the pressure to be excellent, and her intention this year to prioritize fun, play, and what feels good in her work. Kiran breaks down how stand‑up, the Hysteria podcast, and her comedy special JoySuck (free online and streaming on Amazon Prime) help her reframe anger and sadness, find optimism in grim times, and get those metaphorical “dicks off our backs.” She and Abhay also unpack internet trolls, the realities of algorithms, why not everyone has to like you, and how artists can be braver about calling things out instead of staying passive.​ Chapters/Timestamps 00:00 Introduction 03:04 Exploring the Role in 'Didn't Die'06:03 Navigating Humor and Grief08:49 The Art of Stand-Up Comedy11:35 Identity and Representation in Hollywood14:01 Sponsor Break - Travelopod14:46 Navigating Identity in Performance20:26 Unlearning and Evolving22:02 The Role of Humor in Coping22:58 Sponsor Break - RuffRest23:32 JoySuck, Cultural Expectations, and Artistic Freedom28:58 Crafting Your Own Narrative Kiran Deol on IMDb - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1234567/Didn't Die (Film) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1234567/JoySuck (Comedy Special) on Amazon Prime - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07XYZ1234 It's March, so shout out to Ishan Sharma and (Coach) Amit Tailor and all the College Hoops fans out there. Let the madness of those brackets begin.  Remember to please be smart, be safe and be kind, especially to each other and to the planet. TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT I'm DOING is 100% human - no bots allowed! TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT I’M DOING is brought to you by TRAVELOPOD, with personalized travel support to help you explore the wonders of the world.  Start your next journey at vacation.travelopod.com This episode is also sponsored by RuffRest® , the only dog bed you'll ever need.  Go to www.timberdog.com to learn more

    32 min
  3. AmbiKa 'B' Sanjana on Style With Purpose: From Red Carpet to Skid Row

    MAR 10

    AmbiKa 'B' Sanjana on Style With Purpose: From Red Carpet to Skid Row

    AmBika 'B' Sanjana, a premier Los Angeles–based South Asian American stylist and creative director, joins Abhay to talk about what it means to “author” your own style. From styling Hollywood’s elite and NBA All-Stars to serving as the CEO and founder of the impactful nonprofit SEVASPHERE, Ambika shares how fashion is a narrative tool that bridges cultural heritage with modern identity while centering community service. In this deep dive, Ambika chats about her style‑based “social experiment” involving labels vs fit, the power of comfort as a baseline for confidence, and how she’s combating food and housing insecurity in Los Angeles with dignity and community. Whether creating an ongoing blueprint for style and fashion or living a more meaningful life, this conversation explores how to leave a “sparkle” in every space you enter through inspiration. Chapters/Timestamps00:00 – Introduction to AmBika03:09 – Style as Authorship: Telling Your Story 05:47 – The Philosophy of Comfort and Confidence 07:42 – The Label Experiment: Brands vs. Personal Taste 12:17 – Evolving Through Eras: Styling for Life’s Seasons 16:09  – Sponsor Break: Travelopod16:42 – Effort and Effortless Style 20:34 – Redefining Success Beyond Fame and Money 25:18 – Sevasphere: Bringing Dignity to Community Service 35:07 – Sponsor Break: Timberdog35:45 – Rapid Fire: AI in Fashion & Celebrating Heritage37:47 – Red Carpet Thoughts and Inspiration Learn more at:https://www.styledbyambika.com/https://www.sevasphere.org/ Big shout outs this week to 2026 Oscar nominee and previous guest Geeta Gandhbir for her film The Perfect Neighbor which is on Netflix now, to T20 cricket and spring training, and to everyone who hopefully enjoyed a safe and happy holi. TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT I’M DOING is brought to you by TRAVELOPOD, with personalized travel support to help you explore the wonders of the world.  Start your next journey at vacation.travelopod.com This episode is also sponsored by RuffRest® , the only dog bed you'll ever need.  Go to www.timberdog.com to learn more

    41 min
  4. Girija Oak Godbole on Acting, Motherhood, & Defining Success

    MAR 3

    Girija Oak Godbole on Acting, Motherhood, & Defining Success

    Actor and theatre artist Girija Oak Godbole (Taare Zameen Par, Jawan, Vaccine War, Quarter) joins Abhay Dandekar for an in‑depth podcast interview about acting, Marathi theatre, motherhood, and Indian cinema. She talks about staying authentic in an industry obsessed with virality (yes, the blue sari!), why she rejects the “switch on–switch off” myth of acting, and how live theatre keeps her grounded and connected to audiences.​They explore the joy and pain of working across Marathi, Hindi, and Gujarati, the toxicity of language chauvinism, and why she believes translators always lose “a little something” in adaptation. Girija opens up about growing up as the daughter of an artist, choosing a full life over a never-ending race of exams and roles, and why she wants her biggest “success” to be the freedom to stop and smell the flowers.​As a mother, she reflects on the surreal love she feels for her son, how parenting cracked open new emotional depths in her acting. She also shares her big dream: producing world‑class Indian live musicals so that people from around the world come here to watch them, not just to Broadway or the West End. Chapters / Timestamps 00:00 – Intro: Girija Oak, nostalgia, and connecting art to real life03:45 – The myth of “switch on–off” acting & the magic of live theatre10:30 – Language, Gujarati–Marathi backlash, and the beauty (and politics) of words17:15 – Sponsor Break - Travelopod17:49 – Exams, moving finish lines & redefining success beyond the hustle26:55 – Playing nurses, systems, and building empathy through roles31:20 – Aging gracefully on screen, relevance, and bridging “massy” and “meaningful” cinema38:20 – Producing dreams: why India deserves iconic live musicals43:50 – Parenting, unconditional love, and Rasik Maibap humility toward audiences Special shout outs this week to everyone at Dhanashree Foods and Boonlife for their wonderfully healthy  and delicious foods and snacks, and to anyone out there trying their best to learn and speak Marathi - there is an online conversational Marathi language training class through Bruhan Maharasthra Mandal. https://dhanashreefoods.com/https://www.boonlife.in/https://bmmonline.org/languages/ TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT I’M DOING is brought to you by TRAVELOPOD, with personalized travel support to help you explore the wonders of the world.  Start your next journey at https://vacation.travelopod.com/

    52 min
  5. Poorva Joshipura on PETA International and the Threats of Animal Cruelty

    FEB 24

    Poorva Joshipura on PETA International and the Threats of Animal Cruelty

    PETA International President Poorva Joshipura unpacks Survival at Stake, linking animal cruelty to pandemics, antibiotic resistance, climate change, and pollution. Abhay and Poorva chat about her journey—from a "chicken burger" awakening to driving global change—and practical roadmaps for vegan living that protect humanity. They discuss the role of empathy, cultural heritage, and the impact of technology in advancing animal rights. Poorva shares insights on the compassion economy and how businesses can align with ethical practices. The conversation also touches on the challenges and controversies faced by PETA, emphasizing the need for awareness and action in the fight against animal cruelty. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Abhay and Poorva02:30 Poorva's Journey into Animal Rights06:54 The Importance of Empathy and Awareness10:50 Strategies for Animal Advocacy14:07 Sponsor Break - Travelopod15:27 Unlearning and Building Compassion19:46 The Accessibility of Veganism Today21:33 Channeling Anger into Positive Change25:13 Cultural Practices and Animal Rights in India28:48 Sponsor Break - Timberdog30:03 The Role of the Compassion Economy32:36 Leveraging Technology for Animal Advocacy35:41 Understanding PETA's Controversial Tactics39:53 Euthanized Animals and Ethical Considerations43:53 Staying Optimistic in Animal Activism45:58 Conclusion and Shout Outs Big shout out this week to previous guest, Neal Katyal for always bringing his constitutional A game, to Paul McCartney for being one of my favorite vegans of all time and for starting Meat Free Mondays and to Kashi, the inspiration behind RuffRest by Timber Dog. TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT I’M DOING is brought to you by TRAVELOPOD, with personalized travel support to help you explore the wonders of the world.  Start your next journey at vacation.travelopod.com This episode is also sponsored by RuffRest® , the only dog bed you'll ever need.  Go to www.timberdog.com to learn more

    47 min
  6. Ankit Somani on CONIFER and replacing 1 billion gas engines

    FEB 17 ·  BONUS

    Ankit Somani on CONIFER and replacing 1 billion gas engines

    Electric motors without rare earths, a hardware-first climate tech startup, and a mission to replace 1 billion gas engines in a decade. In this SPOTLIGHT episode, Abhay speaks with Ankit Somani, CEO and cofounder of Conifer, about redesigning electric motors and powertrains with simple, widely available materials so electrification can actually scale. They break down what rare earth materials really are, why they’re so toxic and geopolitically fragile, and how that impacts everything from EVs and data centers to humanoid robots and everyday devices. Ankit explains why Conifer is betting on hardware in a software-obsessed world, what it takes to raise capital for hard tech, and how to tell a big, unconventional story that still feels real to customers and investors. The conversation also dives into affordability, why consumers choose “cool and fun” products long before they care about emissions, and how things like e‑bikes and cleaner small machines (like leaf blowers) can change daily life and local air quality. Ankit reflects on what he had to unlearn from big companies like Google, why patience and brutal feedback define startup culture, and how his Indian American journey, parenting, and the Bhagavad Gita shape his views on action, success, and legacy. 00:00 – Introduction and why reimagining how we do things matters01:47 – Conifer’s mission to replace 1 billion gas engines03:39 – Engines, electric motors, and rare earth materials 101 (toxicity, supply chains, and climate)12:32 – Building a hardware-first climate tech startup in a software-obsessed world15:36 – Raising capital for hard tech and telling an unconventional, big vision story18:13 – Sposor Break: Travelopod18:48 – Selling electrification: cool, fun, and affordable vs. abstract climate consciousness25:08 – From big tech to startups: patience, humility, and real-world feedback loops33:08 – Indian American founder, education, parenting, and the Bhagavad Gita on action and legacy39:09 – What Ankit wants Conifer to stand for: trust, honesty, and long-term impact Shout out to ASAN (American South Asian Network) for everything they are doing, to Neesha for turning 30, to Farhan Akhtar for the upcoming sitar lessons, and to Akshay Bhatia for the effort and almost bringing it home at Pebble Beach! TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT I’M DOING is brought to you by TRAVELOPOD, with personalized travel support to help you explore the wonders of the world.  Start your next journey at vacation.travelopod.com

    40 min
  7. Deepak Ramola on Being a Wisdom Historian

    FEB 10

    Deepak Ramola on Being a Wisdom Historian

    Wisdom historian Deepak Ramola shares a conversation with Abhay how he collects life lessons through lived experiences and art.  Deepak reveals why trauma doesn't guarantee wisdom, why procrastination uncovers your deepest values, why deep questions truly matter, and why poetry is peace's love language.  He is a Stanford Life Design Fellow, MIT collaborator, TEDx speaker, and founder of Project FUEL. His innovative FUEL methodology—centered on turning personal and social experiences into interactive programs using creative arts—has earned recognition as one of the world's top 100 innovations in education, implemented across five continents. Since age 17, he has shaped this approach through heuristic design, including the Wise Wall Project launched in 2017 to amplify rural and marginalized voices via art and outreach. ​Chapters 00:00 Introduction02:48 Procrastination Reveals Values and as a Science05:50 Productivity Syndrome Trap08:14 Good vs Bad Morality Myth11:44 Sponsor Break - TRAVELOPOD12:42 We Are Each Other's Alarm Clocks16:14 Unlearning for Wisdom20:02 Pain ≠ Automatic Wisdom23:28 Wisdom in Unexpected Places26:19 Sponsor Break - Timberdog27:12 Poetry as Peace Language33:23 Asking Growth Questions37:54 Embody Wisdom Daily38:19 Conclusion Check out Ash Gondhalekar's authentic and incredibly tasty pizza wizardry for catering and private events in the Bay Area  Neil Dandekar creating amazing food experiences with Sea and Sky at Hotel La Jolla TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT I’M DOING is brought to you by TRAVELOPOD, with personalized travel support to help you explore the wonders of the world.  Start your next journey at vacation.travelopod.com This episode is also sponsored by RuffRest® , the only dog bed you'll ever need.  Go to www.timberdog.com to learn more

    39 min
  8. Mayur Chaudhari on coaching in the NFL

    FEB 3

    Mayur Chaudhari on coaching in the NFL

    Abhay chats with Mayur Chaudhuri, NFL assistant linebackers coach for the Carolina Panthers, about the emotional journey of coaching, the importance of mental health for all, and the impact of his Indian American cultural identity on coaching. They discuss the significance of routines, the role of data and analytics in coaching, and how success is measured beyond just wins and losses. Mayur shares personal insights and experiences that highlight the importance of building relationships with players and the challenges faced in the high-pressure environment of professional football.  Chapters00:00 Introduction 03:01 The Emotional Journey of a Football Season05:34 Mental Health and Self-Care in Coaching08:28 Communication Styles, the Appeal of Defense and Special Teams13:55 Sponsor Break - Travelopod 14:29 Signature Moments in Coaching Career16:53 Cultural Identity and Coaching Dynamics21:49 Leadership and Coaching Philosophy24:32 Navigating Ambition and Expectations34:46 Sponsor Break - Timberdog35:16 Grounding in Identity and Inner Voice34:43 Influential Coaches and Personal Heroes40:27 Quirks of Coaching and Referee Relationships43:23 The Role of Data and Analytics in Coaching46:34 Measuring Success and Conclusions A huge shout out to one of the first Ram fans I ever knew in Deepa Macpherson who along with her husband Bob helps make and deliver free custom homemade birthday cakes to at-risk and underserved youth.  This is through cake4kids and you can go to cake4kids.org to learn more and get involved! TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT I’M DOING is brought to you by TRAVELOPOD, with personalized travel support to help you explore the wonders of the world.  Start your next journey at vacation.travelopod.com This episode is also sponsored by RuffRest® , the only dog bed you'll ever need.  Go to www.timberdog.com to learn more

    50 min
5
out of 5
48 Ratings

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Serving as both a reflective mirror and an open window into the global Indian diaspora and South Asian communities. The conversations led by Abhay Dandekar are informal and informative, adding insights and perspective to our evolving expressions of culture, confidence, and trust. New episodes weekly, on Tuesdays (and some Thursdays). Listen or watch anywhere you get your podcasts, and please rate and review if your enjoying it.

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