The Uplifters

Aransas Savas

The Uplifters Podcast features inspiring conversations with midlife women making big, brave moves in the second half of their lives. Each episode includes brain science and research on how to work with (not against) your midlife brain, body, and resources + tips and tools for designing your boldest second half of life! www.theuplifterspodcast.com

  1. Finding Love After 40 — And the Fourth Date Rule

    2D AGO

    Finding Love After 40 — And the Fourth Date Rule

    Alyssa Dineen: Midlife Dating Coach — Finding Love Online After 40 What does it actually take to find love in midlife — especially when you're starting over after a long marriage, navigating menopause, and swiping on apps you never imagined you'd need? For women over 40 returning to dating, the modern landscape can feel like a foreign country. Dating coach and author Alyssa Dineen found herself there too, leaving an 18-year marriage in her early forties and figuring out online dating in real time. Now she helps midlife women navigate the apps with confidence, strategy, and a lot less heartbreak. In this episode, you'll learn what actually works — from building an authentic profile that attracts the right match to her signature "four-date minimum" rule that has helped countless women find love they nearly walked away from. Alyssa brings both personal experience and professional wisdom to what it means to date with intention during this second act. Alyssa's own midlife reinvention took her from a difficult marriage to a coaching practice she built from scratch, helping online daters feel more empowered as they navigate connection in the second half of life. Her transformation is proof that it's never too late — including the 84-year-old client who met the love of her life and got married. What You'll Learn: How to find love online after 40 — Alyssa's proven strategy for online dating success in midlife, including which apps actually work for women over 40 Why the "four-date minimum" changes everything — what science and experience both tell us about chemistry, attraction, and why we give up too soon Midlife reinvention through dating — how getting back out there after divorce can become a profound act of self-discovery for women over 40 Building confidence after 40 as a female founder — how Alyssa turned her own second-act experience into a thriving coaching business How to create an authentic dating profile — why repelling the wrong matches is a strategy, not a failure, for women seeking meaningful connection Starting over during midlife transition — what to do when modern dating technology feels completely overwhelming Perimenopause and romantic connection — understanding how our nervous systems can mistake anxiety for attraction, and how to rewire toward healthier love Key Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction & Join the Tribe sponsor 1:30 - Welcome to the Love Series finale 2:00 - Statistics on dating after 50 3:00 - Introducing Alyssa Dineen 4:30 - Alyssa's 18-year marriage and the decision to leave 6:45 - Rediscovering herself through dating in her early forties 8:15 - Meeting her partner on Tinder and how Style My Profile was born 11:00 - The parallel between career reinvention and dating reinvention 12:45 - Authenticity in dating profiles and why we hide ourselves 16:30 - The four-date minimum explained 17:00 - Looking back at Alyssa's own four dates with her partner 21:00 - When to keep going vs. call it done 23:00 - The science of neural pathways and old relationship patterns 26:00 - Why we chase the wrong kind of "exciting" 30:15 - Navigating dating app technology in midlife 33:00 - Why you need a strategy (not just an app) to find love 36:00 - The most important thing midlife women should know about finding love 38:00 - Curiosity as the single most powerful dating tool 39:15 - Alyssa's new podcast: The Dating Lab 40:00 - Self-care and the radical practice of napping 42:00 - How to find and support Alyssa Key Takeaways: For midlife women returning to dating: The "four-date minimum" isn't about settling — it's about giving real connection time to develop past the walls we've built from years of lived experience For women over 40 seeking purpose and love: Your dating journey can become a second-act reinvention story; the same curiosity and openness that helps you find love helps you find yourself For perimenopause entrepreneurs and career changers: Alyssa's path from difficult marriage to thriving business owner is a masterclass in turning personal pain into professional purpose For anyone who thinks it's too late: A client found love and got married at 84. The data on midlife online dating is actually quite good — 72% of singles aged 43-58 report their online dating efforts led to a real romantic relationship Featured Quote: "It is not too late. I hear this from women who are 40, 45, 50, 60 — everybody thinks they've waited too long. It is not too late." — Alyssa Dineen Resources & Links: Alyssa's website: stylemyprofilenyc.com Instagram: @stylemyprofilenyc Personal Instagram: @alyssadineen TikTok: @stylemyprofile Alyssa's podcast: The Dating Lab (available on all major platforms) Join the Tribe: jointhetribe.com — use code UPLIFTER20 for 20% off your first order About Alyssa Dineen: Alyssa Dineen is a published author, dating coach, and founder of Style My Profile NYC — a transformative coaching practice helping online daters feel more confident and empowered as they navigate modern dating. After leaving an 18-year marriage in her early forties, Alyssa rebuilt her life and found love through the same process she now teaches. A true midlife reinvention story, Alyssa's work helps women over 40 approach dating with strategy, authenticity, and hope. About Your Host: Aransas Savas is a wellbeing and leadership coach specializing in helping women over 40 navigate midlife transitions, career changes, and second-act reinvention. With 20+ years of behavioral research experience partnering with companies like Disney, Weight Watchers, and Best Buy, she hosts The Uplifters Podcast, featuring women doing transformative work in the second half of their lives. Aransas brings both research rigor and personal experience to conversations about courage capital, midlife transformation, and building meaningful second acts. Connect with Aransas: Instagram: @aransas_savas Podcast Instagram: @the_uplifters_podcast TikTok: @theuplifterspodcast Facebook: Aransas Savas Website: theuplifterspodcast.com YouTube: @theuplifterspodcast LinkedIn: Aransas Savas Keywords: perimenopause career change, women over 40, midlife reinvention, menopause second act, starting over at 40, women changing careers 40s, midlife transition women, second half of life, courage capital, midlife transformation, women entrepreneurs over 40, female founders midlife, perimenopause motivation, finding love after 40, online dating over 40, dating in midlife, midlife dating women, second act love story, women 40s dating apps, dating after divorce over 40, midlife dating coach, love after 50, building confidence after 40, midlife dreams women, perimenopause fresh start, dating app strategy women over 40, finding partner in second half of life Get full access to The Uplifters at www.theuplifterspodcast.com/subscribe

    45 min
  2. Staying Human in the Age of AI

    FEB 26

    Staying Human in the Age of AI

    Susan Ruth: Filmmaker and Podcaster on Human Connection — Staying Fully Human at Midlife and Beyond What does it mean to stay human — really, vulnerably human — when AI, algorithms, and an endless scroll are designed to do our connecting for us? Episode 150 of The Uplifters features Susan Ruth, a filmmaker, songwriter, painter, and host of the nearly 500-episode Hey Human Podcast, in a conversation about the most courageous thing women over 40 can do right now: choose presence. For women navigating midlife reinvention, menopause life changes, and the kind of perimenopause-era identity shifts that make you question everything, Susan's story is a powerful reminder that human-to-human sameness is still our most radical resource. In this episode, you'll learn why starting over at 40 or 50 often begins not with a plan but with a single act of connection — and how midlife women are uniquely positioned to lead that charge. Susan's journey from despair in a grocery store parking lot to nearly 500 conversations about what makes us human is a masterclass in turning pain into purpose, staying brave when it would be easier to go numb, and building a second act that refuses to look away. What You'll Learn: How to stay connected in midlife Why perimenopause and midlife reinvention are uniquely vulnerable to digital sedation — and how to resist it How women over 40 can build courage capital through creative expression and community rather than isolation The midlife mindset shift from consuming to making — and why it changes everything Why starting over at 40+ often begins with one small human moment, not a master plan How women in their second half of life can use proximity and presence as antidotes to despair — and fuel for meaningful change Key Timestamps: 0:00 — Introduction and 150-episode celebration ~3:00 — The grocery store moment that launched Hey Human Podcast ~8:30 — On seeing sameness before difference: "Evening, sister" ~13:30 — Nearly 500 episodes and what they've taught her about humans ~16:45 — On knowing who you are and why it protects you from the machine ~18:30 — The TikTok spiral: recognizing the sedative for what it is ~20:30 — Midlife fatalism vs. radical presence ~23:00 — Art as defiance: making things when the world gets heavy ~26:00 — Starting in your own backyard ~32:30 — Nominating Julia Crico Key Takeaways: For women over 40 navigating loneliness: Human connection is still your most renewable resource — and it often starts with showing up for one person close to home. For midlife women in perimenopause or transition: When everything feels out of control, making something — anything — is an act of agency and defiance. For second-act career changers and midlife entrepreneurs: You don't need expertise to start. Susan knew nothing about podcasting. She just knew she couldn't stop asking her question. Nearly 500 episodes later, she's glad she began. "Joy is a form of rebellion. Do not be afraid of your own happiness. Be joyful — that's the gift you give to the world." — Susan Ruth Resources & Links: Susan Ruth on all platforms: @susanruthism (Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, YouTube) Susan's music: Search "Susan Ruth" on Apple Music and all major streaming platforms Hey Human Podcast: Available wherever you get podcasts Related episodes: Susan McPherson (Ep. 85) | Mara Richards Bim (Ep. 31) About Susan Ruth: Susan Ruth is a filmmaker, songwriter, visual artist, and podcaster based in Los Angeles. She is the creator and host of Hey Human Podcast, a nearly 500-episode exploration of what makes us human — and what keeps us from fully becoming so. A fierce advocate for independent art and live performance, Susan has spent her career making work that insists on human connection as an act of both courage and rebellion. Find her @susanruthism across all platforms. About Your Host: Aransas Savas is a wellbeing and leadership coach specializing in helping women over 40 navigate midlife transitions, career changes, and second-act reinvention. With 20+ years of behavioral research experience partnering with companies like Disney, Weight Watchers, and Best Buy, she hosts The Uplifters Podcast, featuring women doing transformative work in the second half of their lives. Aransas brings both research rigor and personal experience to conversations about courage capital, midlife transformation, and building meaningful second acts. Connect with Aransas: Instagram: @aransas_savas | @the_uplifters_podcast TikTok: @theuplifterspodcast Website: theuplifterspodcast.com YouTube: @theuplifterspodcast LinkedIn: Aransas Savas Facebook: Aransas Savas | Substack: theuplifterspodcast.com Keywords: perimenopause career change, women over 40, midlife reinvention, menopause second act, starting over at 40, women changing careers 40s, midlife transition women, second half of life, courage capital, midlife transformation, women entrepreneurs over 40, perimenopause motivation, midlife purpose women, second act career women, midlife dreams women, perimenopause fresh start, human connection midlife, midlife loneliness women, women over 40 success stories, midlife glow up, 40+ women entrepreneurs, midlife awakening women, inspiring women over 40, growth mindset women over 40, AI and human connection, staying human midlife Get full access to The Uplifters at www.theuplifterspodcast.com/subscribe

    37 min
  3. Saying Yes to Yourself in Midlife

    FEB 19

    Saying Yes to Yourself in Midlife

    Dina Aronson and Dina Alvarez: Creating Midlife Private Parts - An Anthology for Women over 40 What happens when two women meet in their fifties and decide that the stories being told about midlife women are incomplete? Dina Aronson, a former attorney turned pro-age advocate and writer, and Dina Alvarez, a freelance writer and co-founder of SomosPadres, created Midlife Private Parts: Revealing Essays That Will Change The Way You Think About Age—an anthology that's reshaping how we talk about midlife transformation, menopause, aging, and what's possible after 40. These two powerhouse editors met through a serendipitous "midlife blind date" and built a creative partnership that's now giving voice to diverse women's experiences of stepping into the 40+ zone and reimagining what comes next. In this episode, we explore how they transformed a cultural need into a community, what it takes to build something meaningful during midlife reinvention, the courage required to pursue big dreams despite feeling unprepared, and why midlife friendships become the foundation for our most important work. If you've ever wondered whether it's too late to start something new, or felt unseen by the narratives being told about your age, this conversation is for you. This is a story about women over 40 reclaiming their narratives, building courage capital together, and refusing to settle for the limited stories culture offers them. What You'll Learn The power of midlife friendships and creative collaboration — Understand why these years are uniquely positioned for deep partnership and meaningful work alongside other women How midlife women are leading cultural conversations about aging — Discover what it takes to publish an anthology that centers diverse women's voices and challenges narrow narratives about the second half of life Menopause, mortality, and the stories we're not telling — Explore taboo midlife topics (menopause, death, sexuality, aging) and why representation matters for women navigating these transitions Building courage capital through community — Learn why readiness is not an individual practice but a community effort, and how to identify your allies and amplifiers in midlife Starting a meaningful project when you don't feel qualified — Understand how decades of lived experience qualify you to do bold creative work, even without traditional credentials What midlife women uniquely offer the world — Recognize the pattern recognition, wisdom, and crystallized intelligence that make midlife the ideal time for innovation and creative endeavors Key Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction and Aransas's connection to Midlife Private Parts3:45 - Meeting Dina Aronson and Dina Alvarez, editors of the anthology5:15 - How the book came to life and what makes it special7:00 - The themes within the anthology: vulnerability, community, and sisterhood10:30 - What topics feel most taboo? Death, menopause, and pleasure14:30 - Why representation and seeing ourselves matters16:45 - The serendipitous "midlife blind date" that started it all18:00 - How two women met post-50 and built a creative partnership20:30 - Adult friendship in midlife and why it matters for mental and physical health23:00 - Overcoming the "am I ready?" question and imposter syndrome29:30 - Dina Aronson's journey from attorney to writer (saying "I am a writer")32:45 - Dina Alvarez on readiness and community: building your support system first35:00 - What resources you've built throughout your life that are ready to use36:45 - Priority practices for body, mind, and spirit at midlife38:15 - What's next? Dina Alvarez embracing public speaking and interviews39:30 - Dina Aronson's dream: turning essays into a Hulu anthology series41:00 - Nominations: Susan Koff (Uncommon Threads) and Jessica Fine (Breathtaking)44:30 - Where to find Dina Aronson and Dina Alvarez and the book Key Takeaways For midlife women seeking career reinvention: Identity precedes action. You don't need perfect credentials or previous experience to pursue something new in midlife. Decades of lived experience and pattern recognition are qualifications in themselves. Say "I am" before you feel completely ready. For women over 40 navigating major life transitions: Readiness is not an individual practice—it's a community effort. Build your support system first, then take the leap with people who believe in you. Your friends become your collaborators, and your collaborators become your deepest friendships. For women seeking representation and visibility: The stories we tell shape what feels possible. When culture stops telling our stories, we lose evidence of what's achievable. Create the representation you need to see. Share your story so other women know they're not alone and understand what's possible for them. For anyone feeling like they don't belong: Every major accomplishment in your life started with saying yes despite doubt. Short-term awkwardness is always worth enduring to avoid long-term regret. The worst thing that happens is you learn something and move forward. "There's really no such thing as a midlife beginner, because you do bring all of those sort of layers of experience like becoming like this jumping off platform so that you're never starting from zero or scratch." — Dina Aronson Resources & Links Midlife Private Parts: Revealing Essays That Will Change The Way You Think About Age — MidlifePrivateParts.com Dina Aronson's Patina Newsletter — Patina with Dina Aronson on Substack Dina Aronson on Instagram — @patina_life Dina Aronson on LinkedIn — Dina Aronson Dina Alvarez's A Few Good Things — Substack The Uplifters Podcast — theuplifterspodcast.com About Dina Aronson Dina Aronson is a writer, editor, and pro-age advocate passionate about reframing how culture talks about aging and midlife women. A former attorney who spent years in legal practice and law firm management, she pivoted careers at 51 to pursue writing and advocacy work. She founded the Patina blog, now a popular Substack newsletter, where she explores aging through an honest, curious midlife lens. As co-editor of Midlife Private Parts: Revealing Essays That Will Change The Way You Think About Age, Dina is leading important conversations about what it means to age authentically in a youth-obsessed culture. She serves on the Governing Board of America Needs You and the Influencer Council of Uncommon Threads. She lives between New York City and Miami with her husband. About Dina Alvarez Dina Alvarez is a writer, editor, and community builder who has spent her career amplifying underrepresented voices. She began as a freelance writer covering education and lifestyle topics for publications like Big Apple Parents, then co-founded SomosPadres, the first bilingual parenting publication for Hispanic families in New York City. Her transition into micro-blogging about midlife women led her to co-create Midlife Private Parts, an anthology that gives voice to diverse stories about stepping into the 40+ zone and navigating midlife transformation. Dina is dedicated to connecting women across generations and creating opportunities for midlife women to share their stories and build community. She is the mother of two adult sons and lives in New York City with her husband. About Your Host Aransas Savas is a wellbeing and leadership coach specializing in helping women over 40 navigate midlife transitions, career changes, and second-act reinvention. With 20+ years of behavioral research experience partnering with companies like Disney, Weight Watchers, and Best Buy, she hosts The Uplifters Podcast, featuring women doing transformative work in the second half of their lives. Aransas brings both research rigor and personal experience to conversations about courage capital, midlife transformation, and building meaningful second acts. Connect with Aransas: Instagram: @aransas_savas Podcast Instagram: @the_uplifters_podcast TikTok: @theuplifterspodcast Facebook: Aransas Savas Website: theuplifterspodcast.com YouTube: @theuplifterspodcast LinkedIn: Aransas Savas Keywords perimenopause career change, women over 40, midlife reinvention, menopause second act, starting over at 40, women changing careers 40s, midlife transition women, second half of life, courage capital, midlife transformation, women entrepreneurs over 40, midlife women aging, female creativity midlife, women 40s new career Get full access to The Uplifters at www.theuplifterspodcast.com/subscribe

    51 min
  4. Midlife Private Parts: A Love Note to Female Friendship in Our 50s

    FEB 12

    Midlife Private Parts: A Love Note to Female Friendship in Our 50s

    Dina Aronson and Dina Alvarez: Creating Midlife Private Parts - An Anthology for Women over 40 What happens when two women meet in their fifties and decide that the stories being told about midlife women are incomplete? Dina Aronson, a former attorney turned pro-age advocate and writer, and Dina Alvarez, a freelance writer and co-founder of SomosPadres, created Midlife Private Parts: Revealing Essays That Will Change The Way You Think About Age—an anthology that's reshaping how we talk about midlife transformation, menopause, aging, and what's possible after 40. These two powerhouse editors met through a serendipitous "midlife blind date" and built a creative partnership that's now giving voice to diverse women's experiences of stepping into the 40+ zone and reimagining what comes next. In this episode, we explore how they transformed a cultural need into a community, what it takes to build something meaningful during midlife reinvention, the courage required to pursue big dreams despite feeling unprepared, and why midlife friendships become the foundation for our most important work. If you've ever wondered whether it's too late to start something new, or felt unseen by the narratives being told about your age, this conversation is for you. This is a story about women over 40 reclaiming their narratives, building courage capital together, and refusing to settle for the limited stories culture offers them. What You'll Learn The power of midlife friendships and creative collaboration — Understand why these years are uniquely positioned for deep partnership and meaningful work alongside other women How midlife women are leading cultural conversations about aging — Discover what it takes to publish an anthology that centers diverse women's voices and challenges narrow narratives about the second half of life Menopause, mortality, and the stories we're not telling — Explore taboo midlife topics (menopause, death, sexuality, aging) and why representation matters for women navigating these transitions Building courage capital through community — Learn why readiness is not an individual practice but a community effort, and how to identify your allies and amplifiers in midlife Starting a meaningful project when you don't feel qualified — Understand how decades of lived experience qualify you to do bold creative work, even without traditional credentials What midlife women uniquely offer the world — Recognize the pattern recognition, wisdom, and crystallized intelligence that make midlife the ideal time for innovation and creative endeavors Key Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction and Aransas's connection to Midlife Private Parts3:45 - Meeting Dina Aronson and Dina Alvarez, editors of the anthology5:15 - How the book came to life and what makes it special7:00 - The themes within the anthology: vulnerability, community, and sisterhood10:30 - What topics feel most taboo? Death, menopause, and pleasure14:30 - Why representation and seeing ourselves matters16:45 - The serendipitous "midlife blind date" that started it all18:00 - How two women met post-50 and built a creative partnership20:30 - Adult friendship in midlife and why it matters for mental and physical health23:00 - Overcoming the "am I ready?" question and imposter syndrome29:30 - Dina Aronson's journey from attorney to writer (saying "I am a writer")32:45 - Dina Alvarez on readiness and community: building your support system first35:00 - What resources you've built throughout your life that are ready to use36:45 - Priority practices for body, mind, and spirit at midlife38:15 - What's next? Dina Alvarez embracing public speaking and interviews39:30 - Dina Aronson's dream: turning essays into a Hulu anthology series41:00 - Nominations: Susan Koff (Uncommon Threads) and Jessica Fine (Breathtaking)44:30 - Where to find Dina Aronson and Dina Alvarez and the book Key Takeaways For midlife women seeking career reinvention: Identity precedes action. You don't need perfect credentials or previous experience to pursue something new in midlife. Decades of lived experience and pattern recognition are qualifications in themselves. Say "I am" before you feel completely ready. For women over 40 navigating major life transitions: Readiness is not an individual practice—it's a community effort. Build your support system first, then take the leap with people who believe in you. Your friends become your collaborators, and your collaborators become your deepest friendships. For women seeking representation and visibility: The stories we tell shape what feels possible. When culture stops telling our stories, we lose evidence of what's achievable. Create the representation you need to see. Share your story so other women know they're not alone and understand what's possible for them. For anyone feeling like they don't belong: Every major accomplishment in your life started with saying yes despite doubt. Short-term awkwardness is always worth enduring to avoid long-term regret. The worst thing that happens is you learn something and move forward. "There's really no such thing as a midlife beginner, because you do bring all of those sort of layers of experience like becoming like this jumping off platform so that you're never starting from zero or scratch." — Dina Aronson Resources & Links Midlife Private Parts: Revealing Essays That Will Change The Way You Think About Age — MidlifePrivateParts.com Dina Aronson's Patina Newsletter — Patina with Dina Aronson on Substack Dina Aronson on Instagram — @patina_life Dina Aronson on LinkedIn — Dina Aronson Dina Alvarez's A Few Good Things — Substack The Uplifters Podcast — theuplifterspodcast.com About Dina Aronson Dina Aronson is a writer, editor, and pro-age advocate passionate about reframing how culture talks about aging and midlife women. A former attorney who spent years in legal practice and law firm management, she pivoted careers at 51 to pursue writing and advocacy work. She founded the Patina blog, now a popular Substack newsletter, where she explores aging through an honest, curious midlife lens. As co-editor of Midlife Private Parts: Revealing Essays That Will Change The Way You Think About Age, Dina is leading important conversations about what it means to age authentically in a youth-obsessed culture. She serves on the Governing Board of America Needs You and the Influencer Council of Uncommon Threads. She lives between New York City and Miami with her husband. About Dina Alvarez Dina Alvarez is a writer, editor, and community builder who has spent her career amplifying underrepresented voices. She began as a freelance writer covering education and lifestyle topics for publications like Big Apple Parents, then co-founded SomosPadres, the first bilingual parenting publication for Hispanic families in New York City. Her transition into micro-blogging about midlife women led her to co-create Midlife Private Parts, an anthology that gives voice to diverse stories about stepping into the 40+ zone and navigating midlife transformation. Dina is dedicated to connecting women across generations and creating opportunities for midlife women to share their stories and build community. She is the mother of two adult sons and lives in New York City with her husband. About Your Host Aransas Savas is a wellbeing and leadership coach specializing in helping women over 40 navigate midlife transitions, career changes, and second-act reinvention. With 20+ years of behavioral research experience partnering with companies like Disney, Weight Watchers, and Best Buy, she hosts The Uplifters Podcast, featuring women doing transformative work in the second half of their lives. Aransas brings both research rigor and personal experience to conversations about courage capital, midlife transformation, and building meaningful second acts. Connect with Aransas: Instagram: @aransas_savas Podcast Instagram: @the_uplifters_podcast TikTok: @theuplifterspodcast Facebook: Aransas Savas Website: theuplifterspodcast.com YouTube: @theuplifterspodcast LinkedIn: Aransas Savas Keywords perimenopause career change, women over 40, midlife reinvention, menopause second act, starting over at 40, women changing careers 40s, midlife transition women, second half of life, courage capital, midlife transformation, women entrepreneurs over 40, midlife women aging, female creativity midlife, women 40s new career Get full access to The Uplifters at www.theuplifterspodcast.com/subscribe

    48 min
  5. Rewriting the Mother Code at 43

    FEB 5

    Rewriting the Mother Code at 43

    Discover how award-winning journalist Ruthie Ackerman challenged every motherhood myth and became a first-time mother at 43 in this powerful episode about midlife reinvention and career change. In this conversation, we explore Ruthie's journey from believing she inherited a "flaw" that made her unsuitable for motherhood to writing the critically acclaimed memoir "The Mother Code." Learn how she navigated perimenopause career change, questioned limiting beliefs, and discovered alternative models of motherhood that allowed her to pursue both creative work and caregiving. If you're a midlife woman wondering whether it's too late to start over during menopause, change careers, or pursue your creative dreams, this episode offers proof that life after 40 can include profound transformation. Ruthie shares practical strategies for building courage capital through writing, scheduling your brave work, and learning to receive support—essential wisdom for any woman pursuing midlife dreams. What You'll Learn: How to change careers after 40 with authenticity — Ruthie's path from journalism to memoir writing and book coaching Starting over during menopause with creative courage — Becoming a first-time mother at 43 and pursuing writing simultaneously Building confidence after 40 as a creative professional — Practical strategies for scheduling your brave work Perimenopause motivation for women writers — Turning down the volume on your inner critic while creating Women over 40 rewriting their stories — Questioning inherited beliefs and family narratives Midlife transformation through authentic storytelling — How memoir writing became Ruthie's path to courage Second act career success stories — From published journalist to acclaimed memoirist and book coach Key Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction4:00 - The family narrative that shaped Ruthie's entire life9:00 - Discovering alternative models of "outlaw motherhood"17:00 - The courage to write when your inner critic screams24:30 - Over-functioning and learning to receive support31:00 - Her first book deal fell through, then Random House said yes (after 37 rejections)37:00 - Uplifting other uplifters: Sloane Davidson nomination Key Takeaways: For midlife career changers: Success isn't about being fearless—it's about doing the work scared and showing up consistently with a calendar block that says your work matters For women over 40 seeking purpose: Question the stories you've inherited. Sometimes our most limiting beliefs are just narratives waiting to be investigated with a journalist's curiosity For perimenopause creatives: You don't need to silence your inner critic, just actively choose not to listen while you create your most authentic work Featured Quote: "The only thing I could think is that continuing to write is the most worthy, courageous thing that I could do." — Ruthie Ackerman Resources & Links: Ruthie's memoir: "The Mother Code: My Story of Love, Loss, and the Myths That Shape Us" Instagram: @ruackerman LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ruthieackerman The Ignite Writers Collective (Ruthie's book coaching practice) Ruthie's Substack: "The Spark" (monthly recommendations, craft lessons, and writer spotlights) About Ruthie Ackerman: Award-winning author Ruthie Ackerman's writing has appeared in Vogue, Glamour, O Magazine, The New York Times, The Atlantic, and more. Her Modern Love essay for the New York Times became the launching point for her memoir, "The Mother Code: My Story of Love, Loss, and the Myths That Shape Us." Ruthie launched The Ignite Writers Collective in 2019 and has since become an in-demand book coach and developmental editor helping women over 40 tell their most authentic stories. A Peabody Award-winning former producer for The Colbert Report and Columbia Journalism School alumna, she became a first-time mother at 43, proving it's never too late for a second act career transformation. She lives in Brooklyn with her family. About Your Host: Aransas Savas is a wellbeing and leadership coach specializing in helping women over 40 navigate midlife transitions, career changes, and second-act reinvention. With 20+ years of behavioral research experience partnering with companies like Disney, Weight Watchers, and Best Buy, she hosts The Uplifters Podcast, featuring women doing transformative work in the second half of their lives. Aransas brings both research rigor and personal experience to conversations about courage capital, midlife transformation, and building meaningful second acts. Connect with Aransas: Instagram: @aransas_savas Podcast Instagram: @the_uplifters_podcast TikTok: @theuplifterspodcast Facebook: Aransas Savas Website: theuplifterspodcast.com YouTube: @theuplifterspodcast LinkedIn: Aransas Savas Keywords: perimenopause career change, women over 40, midlife reinvention, menopause second act, starting over at 40, women changing careers 40s, midlife transition women, second half of life, courage capital, midlife transformation, women writers over 40, creative careers midlife, perimenopause motivation, writing during midlife, midlife purpose women, second act career women, women 40s new career, building confidence after 40, midlife motherhood, perimenopause fresh start, memoir writing midlife, challenging limiting beliefs, alternative motherhood models, late bloomer success stories Get full access to The Uplifters at www.theuplifterspodcast.com/subscribe

    43 min
  6. Is It Burnout, Postpartum, or Perimenopause?

    JAN 29

    Is It Burnout, Postpartum, or Perimenopause?

    After two decades climbing the corporate ladder in finance, Karissa Pfeffer hit what she thought was burnout. As a working mom navigating the pandemic, she blamed her exhaustion, anxiety, and brain fog on postpartum recovery and work stress. But at 41, she discovered the real culprit: perimenopause. This revelation transformed her understanding of what women over 40 experience in the workplace—and why 13% of women leave their careers due to unmanaged menopause symptoms. In this episode, Karissa shares her journey from high-achieving corporate executive to certified health coach and founder of Perimenopause Power. She reveals why midlife career changes often happen when women are struggling with undiagnosed hormonal shifts, how nervous system regulation is the missing piece in perimenopause management, and what companies must do to stop losing their most experienced female employees. If you're a woman over 40 wondering why you feel "off," or if you're an employer watching talented women walk away, this conversation will change everything you thought you knew about midlife transition and workplace wellbeing. What You'll Learn: How to recognize perimenopause symptoms in women over 40 — Why fatigue, anxiety, and brain fog aren't "just stress" and can start as early as 35 Why nervous system regulation matters more than diet for perimenopause — The cortisol connection between stress, hormones, and that stubborn midlife weight gain How women over 40 can reclaim energy during perimenopause — Simple daily practices that actually move the needle without adding more to your plate Why 13% of women leave careers due to menopause symptoms — The shocking workplace cost of unaddressed perimenopause (and how to prevent it) What companies should do to support women in perimenopause — Practical policies that save money while keeping talented employees thriving How to make midlife career transitions with hormonal shifts — Why understanding your body changes everything about navigating work and life after 40 Starting over at 40 as an entrepreneur with perimenopause — How Karissa built a thriving business while managing symptoms and redefining success Key Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction3:30 - The moment Karissa realized it wasn't burnout—it was perimenopause8:00 - Why symptoms can start at 35 and last for years before diagnosis13:00 - The breaking point: taking a company buyout at 4118:30 - Why nervous system regulation matters more than most people realize24:00 - The cortisol-perimenopause connection and midlife weight gain29:00 - Five-minute practices that actually reduce symptoms35:00 - Why 13% of women leave careers due to perimenopause40:00 - What companies must do to support women in this transition45:00 - Setting boundaries in your 40s and saying no without guilt50:00 - Redefining success: making less money but being happier Key Takeaways: For women over 40 experiencing unexplained symptoms: Perimenopause can start as early as 35. If you're exhausted, anxious, or dealing with brain fog that you're attributing to "just stress," get your hormones checked—and remember that nervous system regulation is just as important as diet and exercise. For midlife women considering career changes: Before you assume you're burnt out or failing, rule out perimenopause. Understanding what's happening in your body changes everything about how you manage your energy and make career decisions. For employers of women over 40: The cost of losing experienced female employees to unmanaged perimenopause is astronomical—$650K to $1.2 million for even small companies. Simple accommodations like flexible work policies, education, and support can save money while keeping top talent. Featured Quote: "I'm not crazy. My hormones are." — Karissa Pfeffer Resources & Links: Karissa's Coaching Collective: Affordable group coaching for women navigating perimenopause www.perimenopause-power.com/collective Connect with Karissa: Instagram: @perimenopause-power; https://www.linkedin.com/in/karissa-pfeffer/ Related Uplifters Episodes: Shannon Russell: Second Act Career Success Melanie Cohen: Design Your Healthy Life Strategy Lisa Crozier: Sobriety and Purpose After 40 Jennifer Maanavi: Building Physique 57 in Midlife About Karissa Pfeffer: Karissa Pfeffer is a certified health coach and founder of Perimenopause Power, dedicated to helping women over 40 understand what's happening in their bodies during perimenopause so they don't have to leave their careers. After spending over a decade in corporate finance and data analytics, Karissa experienced firsthand the devastating impact of undiagnosed perimenopause—the exhaustion, anxiety, and brain fog that she initially attributed to postpartum recovery and work stress. At 41, she took a company buyout hoping for relief, only to discover her symptoms were hormonal. Now, Karissa works with individual women through coaching and with corporations to provide education and policy changes that keep talented midlife women thriving in the workplace. Her mission is rooted in a powerful statistic: 13% of women leave their careers because of unaddressed menopause symptoms. Through Perimenopause Power, she's determined to change that number by empowering women with knowledge, practical tools, and community support. Her approach emphasizes nervous system regulation, sustainable habits, and self-compassion—helping women reclaim their energy, confidence, and careers during this often-misunderstood life transition. About Your Host: Aransas Savas is a wellbeing and leadership coach specializing in helping women over 40 navigate midlife transitions, career changes, and second-act reinvention. With 20+ years of behavioral research experience partnering with companies like Disney, Weight Watchers, and Best Buy, she hosts The Uplifters Podcast, featuring women doing transformative work in the second half of their lives. Aransas brings both research rigor and personal experience to conversations about courage capital, midlife transformation, and building meaningful second acts. She understands the unique challenges of perimenopause and career, having navigated her own midlife reinvention while supporting thousands of women through theirs. Connect with Aransas: Instagram: @aransas_savas Podcast Instagram: @the_uplifters_podcast TikTok: @theuplifterspodcast Facebook: Aransas Savas Website: theuplifterspodcast.com YouTube: @theuplifterspodcast LinkedIn: Aransas Savas Keywords: perimenopause career change, women over 40, midlife reinvention, menopause second act, starting over at 40, women changing careers 40s, midlife transition women, second half of life, courage capital, midlife transformation, perimenopause symptoms women, menopause workplace support, perimenopause burnout, hormones and career, nervous system regulation perimenopause, cortisol midlife women, perimenopause weight gain, women 40s health, midlife health women, perimenopause entrepreneur, starting business during menopause, midlife career pivot, corporate women perimenopause, workplace menopause policy, women leaving careers menopause, perimenopause anxiety relief, midlife energy women, hormone balance over 40, perimenopause motivation Get full access to The Uplifters at www.theuplifterspodcast.com/subscribe

    50 min
  7. Starting a Nonprofit After 40

    JAN 22

    Starting a Nonprofit After 40

    If you’ve ever wondered, “Is it too late for me to...” the answer’s NO and The Uplifters are about to show you why. This space is for purpose-driven women who want to do big, brave things in the second half of their lives. I’m your host, Aransas Savas, and I’ve spent the last 20 years at the intersection of behavior change research and coaching. This month for the new year, we're exploring new beginnings with award-winning author Sahar Delijani, perimenopause expert Karissa Pfeffer, comedian-filmmaker Mandy Fabian, and today, Dawn Veselka, who co-founded Cards2Warriors. Welcome to the Uplifters! Listen to this episode if... * You’ve been wanting to start something meaningful but have no idea where to begin * You’re navigating chronic illness (yours or a loved one’s) and feeling invisible * You’ve been telling yourself you need all the answers before you can take the first step * You’re a caregiver who never gets asked “how are YOU doing?” * You’re wondering if it’s too late to build something new in midlife Is there any better feeling than receiving hand-written love notes in the mail? Today’s guest, Dawn Veselka, built an entire movement around this moment. For 15 years, she’s watched her daughter Sadie navigate chronic illness and rare disease. Somewhere in that long journey of appointments and advocacy, Dawn discovered that most patients, families, and caregivers don’t only need a medical breakthrough, they also need to know someone sees them. Dawn’s Story Dawn didn’t set out to build a nonprofit. She was a radiation therapist treating cancer patients, raising a daughter with complex medical needs, living a full life that already demanded a lot from her. But being the parent of a child with chronic illness, taught her things about isolation that most people never have to understand. Sadie’s diagnosis took years to piece together. Even now, Dawn describes her daughter as having a “mix of diseases” that doesn’t fit neatly into any single category. That’s the reality for so many people living with rare diseases (there are 7,000 of them, and 95% have zero treatment options). These patients and families are navigating without a map, often without a community, frequently without anyone who truly understands. Dawn spent decades in healthcare, but starting Cards2Warriors required an entirely different skill set. She grew up in the generation where typing class was the closest thing to technology training. Now she needed to build databases, manage logistics, create tech systems secure enough to protect patient information. “When you need $30,000 to build your tech to send cards, it doesn’t compute,” she laughs. “But we finally got everything in place.” Like so many of us in midlife, who are translating our experiences into new impactful chapters, Dawn had to own not knowing. No tech background. No nonprofit experience. No clue how to fundraise at scale. Just a clear vision that people battling chronic illness deserved to feel seen, and the willingness to figure out the rest as she went. And recent neuroscientific research teaches us that our midlife brains are uniquely positioned for this kind of work. After decades of pattern recognition and problem-solving across multiple domains (career, caregiving, navigating complex systems), we’re extraordinarily well-equipped to see connections others miss and build solutions that actually work. The challenge isn’t capability. It’s overcoming the belief that major career shifts or new ventures require starting from scratch when, in fact, we’re bringing irreplaceable expertise to the table. Today, Cards2Warriors operates with a simple but powerful model: anyone can sign up to receive cards, anyone can join their card crew to write them, and they don’t require proof of diagnosis or limit support to specific diseases. They’ve built a community of warriors supporting warriors, high school students learning how to talk to people with chronic illness, and volunteers creating tangible reminders of hope. Dawn’s goal is to send 100,000 cards, and she’s well over halfway. The stories that fuel her work are profoundly moving, so grab your tissues for this episode. Her Courage Practice Tethering to Purpose Through Story Dawn’s courage practice isn’t a morning routine or meditation ritual. It’s tethering herself to the pain, both her own and the pain of the people they serve. When the tech fails or the funding falls through or she’s staring at another problem she doesn’t know how to solve, she goes back to the stories. She thinks about the patients. She thinks about caregivers who burst into tears because someone finally acknowledged their invisible work. She thinks about her own daughter Sadie, and all those years of navigating illness without a roadmap. This isn’t about toxic positivity. It’s about remembering why the work matters when everything in her wants to give up. As the stories keep multiplying, her sense of commitment does too. So when Dawn needs courage, she doesn’t have to manufacture it from thin air. She just remembers the last person who wrote to say “that card saved me today,” and she keeps going. Lift Her Up Support Cards2Warriors by donating $5 to sponsor two cards at cards2warriors.org, or via Venmo at @Cards-to-Warriors or Zelle at hi@cards2warriors.org. If you loved this story... Explore our conversations with other women who turned personal challenges into community solutions:Angela Wilson’s episode about sending her own version of “happy mail” to honor her late mother, Amy Cohen’s episode about co-founding Families for Safe Streets after losing her son, Janelle Hill’s episode about founding Refuge Mental Health Services as a sexual abuse survivor, and Rebecca Soffer’s episode about creating Modern Loss after losing both parents early in life. Let’s chat about it What is the most meaningful piece of handwritten mail that you’ve received? Share in the comments. Get full access to The Uplifters at www.theuplifterspodcast.com/subscribe

    39 min
  8. #144: Creative Courage at Any Age

    JAN 15

    #144: Creative Courage at Any Age

    If you’ve ever wondered, “Is it too late for me to...” the answer’s NO and The Uplifters are about to show you why. This space is for purpose-driven women who want to do big, brave things in the second half of their lives. I’m your host, Aransas Savas, and I’ve spent the last 20 years at the intersection of behavior change research and coaching. This month for the new year, we're exploring new beginnings with award-winning author Sahar Delijani, Dawn Veselka who co-founded Cards2Warriors (sending over 48,000 cards of hope to people battling chronic illness), perimenopause expert Karissa Pfeffer, and today, comedian-filmmaker Mandy Fabian. Welcome to the Uplifters! Listen to this episode if... * You’ve been putting off a creative project because you don’t feel ready yet * You’re expanding into something new and feeling simultaneously excited and terrified * You need permission to acknowledge your fears without letting them stop you * You’re tired of feeling like you should have it all figured out before you begin * You want to understand how successful creators avoid self-doubt (spoiler: they don’t) Carla Zanoni sent me this illustration 👆 from Mari Andrew just as I was sitting down to tell you about my conversation with Mandy Fabian on The Uplifters Podcast. I always thought (hoped) the Giant Iceberg of Creative Fear would get smaller over time. Turns out that’s not the case. If anything, it gets bigger. Because the more we create, the more we know what can go wrong. The more we put ourselves out there, the more aware we become of all the ways we might fail. The more we risk, the more we have to lose. It’s like Mandy says in today’s conversation: “When you start to expand, it can feel like you’re smaller because the space around you gets bigger to make space for everything that you’ve got to give.” Now, if I could draw like Mari, I’d sketch a picture of myself in a disorientingly large room wearing a bear skin with my legs and arms stretched wide, opening my mouth wide and filling it with my great big voice. (No, I haven’t become a furry. Yes, it’ll make sense when you hear the episode.) Mandy has been making the choice to step into the bigger space over and over again throughout her creative life. As a comedian, filmmaker, and singer-songwriter, she’s built a career on saying yes to projects that scare her, projects where she’s not entirely sure she knows what she’s doing. Her latest film, Just Plus None (streaming now on Apple TV and Amazon Prime), is a romantic comedy with a twist: the protagonist doesn’t end up with anyone. Instead, she ends up with herself. It’s a film about a woman who’s messy and flawed and doesn’t know how to be a maid of honor, who has loud, unashamed sexual desires, who makes mistakes and learns to love herself where she is. It’s the kind of film that challenges what we think women in rom-coms should be like (and what we think our own journeys toward self-acceptance should look like). Creating it required Mandy to wrestle with the same noisy fears we all do, but courage alone doesn't write the script, find the funding, or push through the three weeks of intense therapy required at the start of the project. So in this episode, we talk about her actual practices for managing fear, the specific ways she processes doubt, and how she's learned to hear limiting beliefs differently (not as truth, but as challenges that prove she needs to be in the room). Her Courage Practice Mandy has developed what might be my favorite courage practice I’ve heard on this show: the therapeutic tantrum. Here’s how it works: When fear and doubt and anxiety are overwhelming, she doesn’t try to positive-think her way through it. Instead, she gives herself permission to throw a full-blown tantrum, either on a friend’s voicemail (with permission to delete without listening) or in her journal or just out loud to herself. She lets herself be “the most scaredy cat, petty, mean-spirited towards myself and anybody else.” She argues for all her limitations. She whines and stomps her feet and declares how unfair everything is and how nobody ever helps her and how she’s going to fail and everyone will laugh. And then she lets it pass. “I let that do for as long as I have to, so that it has its moment,” she explains. “And usually then I go, okay, that’s that. Now let’s work on the other part of it.” What Mandy understands is something most of us resist: those feelings need to be expressed, not suppressed. When we try to bypass them or pretend they don’t exist, they don’t go away. They just turn into a toxic filter that colors everything we see. But when we give them a neutral space to exist, acknowledge them fully, and let them run their course, they lose their power. It’s like she’s created a wind phone for her fears ((H/T Lia Buffa De Feo ), a safe place to release them so they don’t poison her creative process. And then, once the tantrum has run its course, she can ask a different question: “Okay, fun. Would you like to have a word? What would you like to see happen today?” Editor’s note: Sahar Delijani described a very similar practice on last week’s episode, in case you need more evidence in order to let those cranky, negative feelings rip. 3 More Ways Mandy Fabian Shows Us How to Build Our Courage Capital: * She moves forward before she feels ready — Mandy admits she often starts projects because she’s “too stupid to believe it could ever go wrong,” driven by dreams rather than detailed plans. But once reality sets in and fear shows up, she doesn’t quit. She just acknowledges that bravery now means something different. It means continuing even after you know how hard it’s going to be. (This is the real courage, by the way: not the ignorant bliss of starting, but the clear-eyed determination to keep going.) * She keeps “we could” possibilities alive — When Mandy and her husband realized they could move to Paris (even though they weren’t going to), it reminded her that she was free to choose her path, and that those little desires probably held clues to what she was craving in her current reality. * She anchors in present-moment acceptance — “The point is to have you right here accepting what is,” Mandy says about why she practices presence. “That’s where you’re at your best self.” Rather than ruminating on past mistakes or catastrophizing about future failures, she brings herself back to now: What can I do today? What small step can I take? What would make this moment easier? It’s a practice that cuts through the overwhelm and reconnects her to her power. Lift Her Up Watch Mandy’s film Just Plus None on Amazon Prime and Apple TV. If it resonates with you (and I think it will), take two minutes to rate and review it. This is how films by independent female creators find their audiences. Your review could be exactly what another viewer needs to discover this gem. If you loved this story... Start with Kara Cutruzzula’s episode about building a multifaceted creative career, then explore conversations with other women who’ve chosen creative courage: Caroline Scruggs on leaving the music industry to create freedom, Cleyvis Natera on leaving corporate to write full-time, and Julie Hartigan on pivoting from engineering to becoming a chef. Let’s chat about this episode! What creative dream have you been treating like it needs perfect conditions before you can begin? Share in the comments what your next brave creative step might be. Get full access to The Uplifters at www.theuplifterspodcast.com/subscribe

    46 min
4.9
out of 5
67 Ratings

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The Uplifters Podcast features inspiring conversations with midlife women making big, brave moves in the second half of their lives. Each episode includes brain science and research on how to work with (not against) your midlife brain, body, and resources + tips and tools for designing your boldest second half of life! www.theuplifterspodcast.com

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