Family Disappeared

Lawrence Joss
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Have you lost contact with your child? What about your parent, or grandparent, sibling, or any other family member? You might be experiencing estrangement, alienation, or erasure. All of these terms speak to the trauma and dysfunction that so many families face. A family is a complex living and breathing system. Each member plays a role in the family dynamic. When families carry generational trauma and/or experience new trauma, challenges, or dysfunction, this can result in a break in the family system. These reaction strategies are habitual and very often interwoven into every aspect of how our family interacts. Hi! I´m Lawrence Joss and I’ve learned that I need to cultivate a spiritual, emotional, and physical relationship with myself in order to have healthy relationships with others and everything in my life. It is my mission to help you create and nurture that relationship with yourself first and provide you with tools that might help you heal and strengthen family relationships. This podcast is an opportunity to explore our healing journey together through the complexities of our families.Welcome to the FAMILY DISAPPEARED podcast.For more information, visit:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email- familydisappeared@gmail.comLinktree https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

  1. 2D AGO

    Surviving the Holidays with Parental Alienation, Grief & Healing - Episode 125

    Lawrence Joss discusses the emotional complexities surrounding the holidays, particularly for those experiencing parental alienation and estrangement. He emphasizes the importance of acknowledging feelings of grief, loneliness, and frustration while also highlighting coping strategies such as having a plan, seeking community support, and reframing negative thoughts. Joss encourages listeners to create new traditions and find ways to connect with loved ones, even in their absence, while practicing self-care and compassion during this challenging time. Key Takeaways The holidays can amplify feelings of joy and pain.It's important to acknowledge the struggles of parental alienation.Having a plan for the holidays can help mitigate emotional distress.Resentment can be harmful; finding ways to address it is crucial.Creating new traditions can help in coping with loss.Community support is vital during the holidays.Self-care practices are essential for emotional well-being.Triggers are inevitable; being prepared can help manage them.Reframing negative thoughts can shift your perspective.It's important to remember that the holiday season is temporary.Chapters 0:00 - Welcome And Holiday Theme  1:44 - Memories and Mixed Gratitude  2:44 - How Holidays Amplify Joy and Pain  4:35 - Stages of Alienation and Planning Ahead  7:05 - Service and Hope as an Antiseptic  8:36 - Naming Invisible Loss and Emotions  10:18 - Forgiveness Work and Releasing Resentments  12:05 - Anticipating Triggers and Setting Boundaries  15:10 - Communicating Needs and Seeking Consent  18:08 - Self-Care Planning and Safe People  20:10 - Creating New Rituals and Continuing to Live  22:28 - Reframing Painful Holiday Stories  24:20 - Shame, Self-Forgiveness, and Repair  26:04 - Commemorating Loved Ones From Afar  28:12 - Closing Wishes and Community Reflection If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast: Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

    31 min

  2. DEC 15

    False Allegations & High-Conflict Mediation w/ Matthew Brickman Part 2 - Ep124

    Lawrence Joss continues his conversation with Matthew Brickman, a Supreme Court Certified Mediator in Florida. They delve into the intricacies of mediation, discussing its purpose, the role of mediators, and how to select the right one. Matthew shares insights from his extensive experience, emphasizing the importance of continuous learning and personal growth in the field of mediation. The conversation also touches on the emotional aspects of conflict resolution and the significance of empowering individuals during the mediation process. Key Takeaways Mediation provides a structured environment for conflict resolution.The transition from emotional to business-like relationships is crucial in mediation.Understanding the four Ds of conflict: dismissed, disrespected, disvalued, disenfranchised.Mediation is often mandatory before court proceedings in many states.Choosing the right mediator involves research and personal fit.Continuous education and experience are vital for effective mediation.Mediators should empower clients to navigate their conflicts.High conflict situations often require separate rooms during mediation.Mediation can save time and money compared to court proceedings.Personal growth and emotional intelligence are essential in conflict resolution.Chapters 0:39 - Introducing Matthew Brickman 1:49 - Community and Resources for Parents 2:02 - Owning Mistakes and Elevating Kids 4:24 - What Mediation Is and Isn’t 6:27 - From Romance to Business: Kid Inc 8:50 - The Four D’s of Conflict 10:49 - States, Statutes, and Mandatory Mediation 13:43 - Why Courts Push Mediation 16:05 - With or Without Attorneys 20:03 - Neutrality, Bias, and Trust 22:08 - How to Choose a Mediator 31:16 - Continuous Learning and Fit If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast: Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Connect with Matthew Brickman: https://ichatmediation.com/⁩ Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

    40 min

  3. DEC 8

    False Allegations & High-Conflict Mediation w/ Matthew Brickman Part 1 - EP123

    Lawrence and Matthew delves into the complexities of family dynamics, particularly focusing on the impact of parental relationships on children. It highlights a troubling incident where a mother instructs her child to make false accusations against the father, leading to legal repercussions and involvement from child services. The discussion emphasizes the emotional and psychological toll such situations can have on families. Key Takeaways The influence of parental relationships on children's behavior.False accusations can lead to serious legal consequences.The role of child services in family disputes.The emotional impact of family dynamics on children.Communication breakdowns can escalate conflicts between parents.Support systems are crucial in navigating family issues.Understanding the legal framework surrounding child custody disputes.The importance of maintaining a stable environment for children.The psychological effects of parental conflict on children.The need for open dialogue in co-parenting situations.Chapters 0:00 – Opening: The Healing Journey & Welcome  2:02 – Why Picking The Right Mediator Matters  3:10 – Matthew’s Background In Family Mediation  4:26 – When Amicable Turns Into A Bloodbath  7:06 – False Allegations And DCF At The Door  10:50 – Covert Alienation In Our Body Language  12:42 – First-Time Crisis: What To Do  16:30 – From Shock To Service: Becoming A GAL  20:00 – Therapy As A Safe Conversation Space  23:15 – Kids Surviving By Saying What You Want  26:00 – Shift Focus: Build Children, Not Cases  30:00 – Adult Children, Lingering Impacts & New Norms  37:00 – Winning Peace By Letting Go  40:00 – Mediating Between Ex And Son  43:05 – Reflection, Resources, And Closing If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast: Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Connect with Matthew Brickman: Website: https://ichatmediation.com/⁩ Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

    53 min

  4. DEC 1

    Systemic Parental Alienation, Family Hierarchy & Survival w/ Dr. Azzopardi Part 2 - Episode 122

    The conversation delves into the complexities of relationship problems faced by couples, emphasizing the common issues stemming from parenting and intimacy. It highlights the tendency of couples to seek external advice rather than resolving conflicts directly, and critiques the reliance on legal solutions for emotional and relational problems, advocating for a more psychological approach. Key Takeaways Couples often face problems related to parenting or intimacy.Many couples avoid negotiating their issues directly.External influences complicate conflict resolution.Legal solutions are often misapplied to emotional problems.Emotional and relational issues require psychological approaches.Communication is key in resolving marital conflicts.Seeking help from friends or family can lead to confusion.Understanding the root cause of problems is essential.Negotiation skills are crucial for couples.Legal tools do not address emotional needs.Chapter 1:20 - Systems theory meets family courts  2:44 - Family patterns and learned levers  4:16 - Attachment shifts during pregnancy  5:23 - Limits to self-reflection and change  6:59 - Expanding system: courts and professionals  7:52 - How politics shape couple conflict  11:04 - GDP, school pressure, and home stress  13:07 - Navigating legal systems in divorce  15:04 - Reciprocity and influence in relationships  17:05 - No legal fix for emotional needs  19:10 - Prevention through systemic therapy  21:07 - Challenging constructs and parenting norms  23:05 - Journal and master’s on alienation  25:07 - Closing reflections and resources If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast: Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Connect with Dr Charlie Azzopardi: Website: https://ift-malta.com/⁩ Courses (IFT Malta): https://ift-malta.com/courses-2/ European Journal of Parental Alienation (EJPAP): https://ift-malta.com/elementor-1206/ Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

    32 min

  5. NOV 24

    Systemic Parental Alienation, Family Hierarchy & Survival w/ Dr. Azzopardi Part 1 - Episode 121

    Lawrence Joss explores the deeper systemic roots of parental alienation, revealing how alienation unfolds gradually through subtle family dynamics rather than appearing overnight. He and Dr. Charlie unpack how cultural norms, family structures, and early relational patterns shape the roles parents step into, and how those roles can quietly shift power, boundaries, and attachment inside the family system. Key Takeaways Parental alienation is a gradual process.Negative talk about a parent is common in relationships.Cultural norms influence parenting roles significantly.In some cultures, mothers are primarily caregivers.Fathers often take on structural roles in parenting.Understanding alienation requires a cultural lens.Parental roles can vary widely across different societies.The dynamics of family relationships are complex.Emotional care is often seen as a mother's role.Structural care is typically associated with fathers.Chapters 0:00 – Safety, Survival & Early Alienation Patterns  2:05 – What the Systemic Lens Reveals  5:40 – When Problems Become Relational  9:20 – Cultural & Structural Pressures on Families  11:55 – Alienation as a Gradual Process  14:40 – Boundary Breakdowns & Role Confusion  17:55 – Power Shifts: Children Elevated to Partner Role  21:25 – Why Kids Choose the Unpredictable Parent  25:40 – Subtle Behaviors That Shift Family Hierarchy  28:30 – Parentification & Emotional Oversharing  31:55 – Long-Term Effects on Attachment & Identity  35:50 – Attraction Patterns & the Drama Triangle If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast: Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Connect with Dr Charlie Azzopardi: Website: https://ift-malta.com/⁩ Courses (IFT Malta): https://ift-malta.com/courses-2/ European Journal of Parental Alienation (EJPAP): https://ift-malta.com/elementor-1206/ Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

    37 min

  6. NOV 17

    Shadow Work & Inner Child Co-Regulation w/ Dr. Nima Rahmany Part 2 - Episode 120

    In this highly anticipated Part 2, Lawrence Joss and Dr. Nima Rahmany explore the unconscious dynamics that make relationships feel like a painful dance, especially in the context of family conflict and parental alienation. Dr. Rahmany breaks down the tension between the two core relational fears, abandonment and engulfment, that create the exhausting push-pull pattern in partnerships, and with your children. Key Takeaways Many of us were born into cultures and societies where we had to choose attachment over our authentic truth.We are conditioned to fawn for safety.Fawning is a performative self abandonment that we do to feel safe.The codependent is the one that fawns, abandoning themselves for attachment.Deep down, every time you fawn, there's a little resentment towards the person you're fawning.People pleasing is a response that can lead to losing one's identity.Clients often express that they don't even know who they are anymore due to people pleasing.Cultural conditioning plays a significant role in shaping our behaviors.Self-abandonment can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics.Understanding these patterns is crucial for personal growth.Chapters 0:00 - Abandonment Meets Engulfment: The Cycle 0:25 - Mission, Community, and Parental Alienation Support 3:20 - Living the Pain and Grief of Alienation 5:10 - Defining The Push-Pull Pattern 8:15 - Becoming Trigger-Proof And Repair 10:25 - Enmeshment And Boundary Walls 12:07 - Alienation As A Repeating Pattern 18:05 - Shadow Work and Owning the Parts We Hide 23:35 - Authenticity And Secure Bonds 27:08 - Fawn Response Explained 32:00 - Health Costs Of People-Pleasing 35:02 - Boundaries And Nervous System Safety 38:24 - Breaking Cycles Through Parent Healing 41:28 - The Trigger-Proof Experience Overview If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast: Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Connect with Dr. Nima: https://drnima.com/ Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

    48 min

  7. NOV 10

    Shadow Work & Inner Child Co-Regulation w/ Dr. Nima Rahmany Part 1 - Episode 119

    In this powerful conversation, Dr. Nima Rami joins Lawrence Joss to uncover how the parts of ourselves we try to hide are the very keys to healing. Together, they explore the transformative practice of shadow work, turning triggers into teachers and pain into purpose. They discuss how true self-regulation begins with co-regulating your younger self, and how embracing your “mess” can break lifelong cycles of trauma. This episode offers deep insights for anyone seeking to transform emotional triggers into greater self-awareness, compassion, and authentic connection. Key Takeaways Shadow work is a spiritual practice.Using triggers can lead to personal growth.Self-reflection is key to understanding oneself.Avoiding triggers hinders personal development.Embracing inner challenges fosters growth.The mirror metaphor highlights self-examination.Spirituality involves looking inward.Growth comes from understanding our reactions.Triggers can be seen as opportunities.Shadow work requires courage and honesty.Chapters 0:00 Opening: The Healing Journey 1:02 Welcome And Guest Introduction 2:35 What Shadow Work Really Means 7:35 Projections And The Mirror Of Relationships 11:29 Co‑Regulation With Your Younger Self 15:10 Triggers Explained In Plain Language 20:14 Capacity Over A Triggerless Life 24:24 Curious Not Furious: Integration Or Blame 26:47 Parenting While Triggered 32:20 Divorce Dynamics And Cycle Breaking 37:15 Repairing Bonds Across Generations 42:00 Preparing For Parenthood With Presence If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast: Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Connect with Dr. Nima: https://drnima.com/ Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

    44 min

  8. NOV 3

    Unconscious Alienation: Time is the Enemy in High-Conflict Custody with Lisa Johnson Part 2 - Episode 118

    In this conversation, parental alienation expert Lisa Johnson discusses the complexities of navigating custody battles and the impact of communication on children. She emphasizes the importance of building a support team, understanding the role of time in legal proceedings, and the necessity of setting firm boundaries. Lisa also shares strategies for strengthening parent-child bonds and developing critical thinking skills in children to help them navigate conflicting messages from parents. The discussion highlights the importance of community support and resources available for parents facing these challenges. Key Takeaways Planting poisonous messages can harm children's perception of safety.Complicity in parenting plans can be used against you in court.Setting firm boundaries is essential for healthy parenting.Developing critical thinking skills in children is vital.Children need to feel they have control and agency.Positive memories with children can counteract negative messaging.Community support is invaluable for parents in high-conflict cases.Legal systems can provide tools, but cannot fix relationships.Chapters 00:00 Episode 118 Lisa Johnson Pt 2 29:02 Understanding Parental Alienation 31:49 The Impact of Communication on Children 35:02 The Role of Time in Custody Battles 37:43 Building a Support Team 40:51 Navigating Complicity in Parenting Plans 43:44 Establishing Strong Bonds with Children 46:54 Developing Critical Thinking Skills in Kids 49:44 Resources and Support for Parents 52:57 Final Thoughts and Community Support If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast: Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Connect with Lisa Johnson: https://beentheregotout.com/⁩ Strategies for Running Your High-Conflict Case Like a Business - YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VNL81Gr-Dbg Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

    30 min
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Have you lost contact with your child? What about your parent, or grandparent, sibling, or any other family member? You might be experiencing estrangement, alienation, or erasure. All of these terms speak to the trauma and dysfunction that so many families face. A family is a complex living and breathing system. Each member plays a role in the family dynamic. When families carry generational trauma and/or experience new trauma, challenges, or dysfunction, this can result in a break in the family system. These reaction strategies are habitual and very often interwoven into every aspect of how our family interacts. Hi! I´m Lawrence Joss and I’ve learned that I need to cultivate a spiritual, emotional, and physical relationship with myself in order to have healthy relationships with others and everything in my life. It is my mission to help you create and nurture that relationship with yourself first and provide you with tools that might help you heal and strengthen family relationships. This podcast is an opportunity to explore our healing journey together through the complexities of our families.Welcome to the FAMILY DISAPPEARED podcast.For more information, visit:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email- familydisappeared@gmail.comLinktree https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

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  • Creator
    Lawrence Joss
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2025
  • Episodes
    127
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Family Disappeared
  • Show Website
    Family Disappeared

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