The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

Danielle Black

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast Hosted by Danielle Black A no-fluff, evidence-based podcast for parents navigating post-separation abuse, family violence, coercive control, and high-conflict separation and divorce - with a relentless focus on protecting children in a system that too often fails them. Hosted by Danielle Black, Australia’s leading specialist in child-focused post-separation parenting, this podcast is not about "amicable co-parenting at all costs", outdated ideologies, or adult notions of fairness. It is about understanding how abuse frequently continues through parenting arrangements after separation - and what genuinely child-centred decision-making looks like when risk, fear, or power imbalance is present. Each episode challenges the myths that place children in harm’s way, including Australia’s dangerous obsession with 50/50 shared care, the misapplication of "friendly parent" ideals, and the expectation that protective parents should endlessly compromise to keep the peace. Drawing on developmental science, research-based evidence, trauma-informed practice, and lived experience, Danielle breaks down: How post-separation abuse actually operatesWhy many standard parenting frameworks fail children in high-conflict casesWhat evidence-based, defensible, child-focused parenting really requiresHow to move from confusion and self-doubt to clarity and confidence This podcast is for parents who are done minimising risk, done being gaslit by systems and professionals, and done prioritising adult comfort over children’s safety and development. Expect direct language, research-backed insight, practical guidance and a few cuss words here and there - not platitudes, false balance, or pressure to accept arrangements that don’t sit right - because children’s wellbeing matters more than adult fairness. Always. To go deeper, explore The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™, Danielle’s flagship program supporting parents to make informed, protective decisions after separation. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au Keywords: post-separation abuse, family violence, coercive control, high-conflict parenting, separation, divorce, family court, Australian family law.

  1. 2D AGO

    93. Divorce coaching, narcissism & high-conflict separation: Choosing the right support

    What does a divorce coach actually do - and how do you know if the support you’re choosing after separation is right for your situation? In this episode of The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast, principal coach Danielle Black unpacks the rapidly growing world of divorce coaching, high-conflict separation support, and post-separation parenting guidance. As more professionals begin using the label “coach,” many separating parents are left wondering who to trust and what kind of support they actually need - particularly when navigating coercive control, high-conflict co-parenting, or the Australian family court system. Danielle explores the difference between coaching, therapy, and legal advice, and explains why titles alone don’t tell you much about the quality or depth of the support being offered. She also addresses the growing online obsession with diagnosing former partners as “narcissists” - and why that framing, while validating for many parents, can distract from the strategies, and inner work, that actually improve outcomes for protective parents and their children. In this episode you’ll learn: • What divorce coaching actually is - and what it isn’t • How chronic stress during separation impacts the brain and decision-making • Why not all support models work in high-conflict or coercive control situations • The hidden risks of getting stuck in the “narcissist” rabbit hole • How protective parents can shift from conflict-avoidant to strategic, child-focused advocacy • Danielle’s Three Steps to Protective Parenting: Knowledge → Capacity → Advocacy Drawing on both professional training and lived experience navigating the family court system, Danielle shares practical insight for parents who want to protect their children and choose support that matches the reality of their separation. If you are navigating high-conflict divorce, post-separation abuse, coercive control, or complex co-parenting dynamics, this episode will help you better understand what kind of support truly builds long-term protection for your children. As always, this episode is not legal advice and not therapy. Explore the supports offered by Danielle Black Coaching The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/the-post-separation-parenting-blueprint-1 AI Danielle - Your 24/7 Digital Coach 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/meet-ai-danielle 1:1 Coaching 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/1-1-coaching About Danielle Black Coaching: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience across education, counselling and coaching - alongside her own lived experience navigating a complex separation and family court journey - she supports parents to think strategically, build capacity, and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing within complex legal and relational systems. Through Danielle Black Coaching, she leads a growing team of specialist coaches and a structured support ecosystem designed to provide professionally held, evidence-informed guidance for parents navigating high-conflict separation and family court processes. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

    35 min

  2. FEB 26

    92. Intrusive thoughts & rumination after separation: When coaching and self-management tools are enough - and when you need therapy

    Intrusive thoughts. Rumination. The relentless "what if" loops that keep you awake at night. If you’re a protective parent navigating separation, family court, or post-separation abuse, you are not broken - your brain is responding to chronic stress and uncertainty. But how do you know when intrusive thoughts are a normal stress response… and when they require professional mental health support? In this episode, Principal Coach Danielle Black unpacks: • The difference between intrusive thoughts and rumination • Why these experiences are common in post-separation parenting • How The STEER Response Framework™ helps you interrupt spirals • How affirmation practices strengthen alternative neural pathways • The spectrum of intrusive thoughts - from manageable to debilitating • Clear red flags that signal you need to see a GP and psychologist/counsellor • When coaching and self-management tools are appropriate (and often more strategic) • How to redirect survival-level mental energy into transformation Danielle also shares practical steps you can implement immediately, including how to assess your own functioning over a 4–6 week period and make informed decisions about where to invest your time, energy, and resources. Resources Mentioned: – Free affirmation recording – Module 16 of the Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ – Lifeline Australia: 13 11 14 – Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 As always, this episode is not legal advice and not therapy. Explore the supports offered by Danielle Black Coaching The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ Evidence-based education to help you understand child development, safety, parenting arrangements, and post-separation dynamics 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/the-post-separation-parenting-blueprint-1 AI Danielle Guided, structured support to help you think, plan, regulate, and reflect between coaching sessions 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/meet-ai-danielle 1:1 Coaching Individualised, relational support when your nervous system, decision-making, or situation needs more than information 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/1-1-coaching Resources Evidence-based tools and resources to help you build knowledge, grow capacity and advocate strategically on your post-separation journey. 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/free-resources About Danielle Black Coaching: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience across education, counselling and coaching - alongside her own lived experience navigating a complex separation and family court journey - she supports parents to think strategically, build capacity, and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing within complex legal and relational systems. Through Danielle Black Coaching, she leads a growing team of specialist coaches and a structured support ecosystem designed to provide professionally held, evidence-informed guidance for parents navigating high-conflict separation and family court processes. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

    1h 9m
  3. 91. Stronger, Braver Together: How safe, professionally held, group spaces change post-separation parenting

    FEB 18

    91. Stronger, Braver Together: How safe, professionally held, group spaces change post-separation parenting

    In this episode, Principal Coach Danielle Black is joined by Senior Coaches Brigid Morgan and Trudie Hargrave to explore what meaningful, professionally held group support actually looks like in post-separation parenting work. Many parents navigating separation want connection - but feel cautious about online forums, unmoderated social media groups, or advice shared without professional understanding of the family law landscape. Following on from last week’s discussion about neuroplasticity and the importance of being discerning about the environments you place yourself in, this conversation explores: • Why not all "support" spaces are neutral • How environment impacts nervous system regulation and decision-making • The difference between peer-based forums and professionally guided group coaching • How structured, child-focused group environments build clarity, capacity, and confidence • The role of containment, moderation, and evidence-based guidance in post-separation recovery Danielle, Brigid and Trudie also speak openly about shared thinking, and regulated presence in supporting parents through complex family law and post-separation dynamics. If you are navigating high-conflict separation, coercive control dynamics, family court processes, or protective parenting decisions, this episode will help you think critically about the support environments you choose - and why they matter more than most people realise. As always, this episode is not legal advice and not therapy. Explore the supports offered by Danielle Black Coaching The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ Evidence-based education to help you understand child development, safety, parenting arrangements, and post-separation dynamics 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/the-post-separation-parenting-blueprint-1 AI Danielle Guided, structured support to help you think, plan, regulate, and reflect between coaching sessions 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/meet-ai-danielle 1:1 Coaching Individualised, relational support when your nervous system, decision-making, or situation needs more than information 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/1-1-coaching Resources Evidence-based tools and resources to help you build knowledge, grow capacity and advocate strategically on your post-separation journey. 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/free-resources About Danielle Black Coaching: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience across education, counselling and coaching - alongside her own lived experience navigating a complex separation and family court journey - she supports parents to think strategically, build capacity, and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing within complex legal and relational systems. Through Danielle Black Coaching, she leads a growing team of specialist coaches and a structured support ecosystem designed to provide professionally held, evidence-informed guidance for parents navigating high-conflict separation and family court processes. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

    29 min

  4. FEB 12

    90. Put on your own cape: Rewiring survival patterns, reclaiming worthiness & STEERing your future after separation

    If you’ve experienced high-conflict separation, coercive control, other forms of family violence or post-separation abuse, your brain has adapted to help you survive. But survival wiring can make advocacy, decision-making, and communication inside legal and family systems feel overwhelming. In this episode, Danielle Black explains the science of neuroplasticity and how protective parents can intentionally rebuild capacity, confidence, and internal stability - even when external outcomes feel uncertain. You’ll learn: How trauma and chronic stress shape threat-based brain wiringWhy survival patterns can impact communication, advocacy, and decision-makingHow neuroplasticity allows you to intentionally reshape thought patternsHow the STEER Response Framework™ helps you influence the link between situations, thoughts, emotions, nervous system responses, and outcomesWhy worthiness is the foundation of sustainable recovery and advocacyHow affirmations support intentional brain rewiring (without toxic positivity)This episode is an invitation to stop waiting to be rescued - and instead step into the version of you who leads your own recovery, advocacy, and future direction. Recovery after separation isn’t just about legal outcomes. It’s about identity. Agency. Capacity. And building a life you choose - on purpose. Includes: • Practical STEER examples • Trauma-informed affirmation guidance • Capacity-building insights for protective parents 💝 Valentine’s Gift Includes: • Limited-time Blueprint discount • Free affirmation recording (no email required) • Free AI Danielle access for Blueprint members (offer timeframe applies) As always, this episode is not legal advice and not therapy. Explore the supports offered by Danielle Black Coaching The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ Evidence-based education to help you understand child development, safety, parenting arrangements, and post-separation dynamics 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/the-post-separation-parenting-blueprint-1 AI Danielle Guided, structured support to help you think, plan, regulate, and reflect between coaching sessions 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/meet-ai-danielle 1:1 Coaching Individualised, relational support when your nervous system, decision-making, or situation needs more than information 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/1-1-coaching Free Resources About Danielle Black Coaching: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience across education, counselling and coaching - alongside her own lived experience navigating a complex separation and family court journey - she supports parents to think strategically, build capacity, and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing within complex legal and relational systems. Through Danielle Black Coaching, she leads a growing team of specialist coaches and a structured support ecosystem designed to provide professionally held, evidence-informed guidance for parents navigating high-conflict separation and family court processes. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

    37 min
  5. 89. Meet Senior Coach Brigid Morgan: Protective parenting and post-separation empowerment in Australia

    FEB 4

    89. Meet Senior Coach Brigid Morgan: Protective parenting and post-separation empowerment in Australia

    In this episode, Danielle is joined by Senior Coach Brigid Morgan for a warm, honest conversation about post-separation recovery, protective parenting, and why evidence-based, child-focused support matters. We start with a light-hearted chat (morning person or night owl? coffee or tea? beach or mountains?) before moving into deeper conversation about Brigid’s personal post-separation journey, what led her into coaching, and why she is passionate about helping parents step into their role as the expert on their own child. Brigid shares: • Why spending large amounts on legal processes doesn’t always guarantee child-focused outcomes • How coaching supported her to fully embody her protective-parent role • Her first impressions of the Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ - including why Australian-specific, evidence-based resources are so rare and so needed • Why the Blueprint is designed to support parents across the journey - not as a course to “consume,” but as a resource to return to when needed As always, this episode is not legal advice and not therapy. If you’re navigating separation, family court, or post-separation parenting challenges, this conversation offers insight, reassurance, and practical perspective. Explore the supports offered by Danielle Black Coaching The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ Evidence-based education to help you understand child development, safety, parenting arrangements, and post-separation dynamics 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/the-post-separation-parenting-blueprint-1 AI Danielle Guided, structured support to help you think, plan, regulate, and reflect between coaching sessions 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/meet-ai-danielle Small Group Experiences (2026) Facilitated, topic-specific groups offering education, perspective, and shared learning — without court-specific advice 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/group-events 1:1 Coaching with Danielle, Trudie, or Brigid Individualised, relational support when your nervous system, decision-making, or situation needs more than information 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/1-1-coaching About Danielle Black Coaching: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience across education, counselling and coaching - alongside her own lived experience navigating a complex separation and family court journey - she supports parents to think strategically, build capacity, and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing within complex legal and relational systems. Through Danielle Black Coaching, she leads a growing team of specialist coaches and a structured support ecosystem designed to provide professionally held, evidence-informed guidance for parents navigating high-conflict separation and family court processes. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

    35 min

  6. JAN 30

    88. Considering separation? Let’s talk about the choice you’re already making

    Considering Separation in 2026? Let’s Talk About the Decision You’re Already Making If you’re listening to this episode, chances are the question isn’t “Should I leave?” It’s “Why am I still here - and what is this costing me and my children?” In this episode, I speak directly to parents who are contemplating separation in 2026 - especially those who have been living in chronic high-conflict, coercive, or emotionally unsafe relationships and are quietly carrying the weight of indecision. We unpack a hard but important truth: not choosing is still a choice - and time itself becomes a decision with consequences. This is not a conversation about rushing separation, issuing ultimatums, or “just leaving.” It is a grounded, child-focused discussion about: The difference between fear-based staying and values-aligned decision-makingHow to begin thinking strategically (not emotionally) about separation as a process, not a momentWhat preparation, capacity-building, and evidence-based planning can look like before any formal step is takenI also speak to the internal conflict many protective parents experience - wanting to minimise disruption for their children while simultaneously knowing that the current environment is already harming them. If this episode resonates and you’re not ready for 1:1 coaching - or you’re simply not ready to decide yet - my small-group experience Separation Curious is designed for exactly this stage. It’s a structured, child-focused space to slow the process down, build clarity and capacity, understand the real implications of different pathways, and think strategically about what comes next - without pressure to separate. As always, this episode is not legal advice and not therapy. It is an educational coaching-based, research-informed conversation designed to help you zoom out, regulate, and think clearly about the path you’re already on - and whether it aligns with the parent you want to be in 2026 and beyond. If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or quietly preparing in your own mind, this episode is for you. Explore the supports mentioned in this episode: The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ Evidence-based education to help you understand child development, safety, parenting arrangements, and post-separation dynamics 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/the-post-separation-parenting-blueprint-1 AI Danielle Guided, structured support to help you think, plan, regulate, and reflect between coaching sessions 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/m About Danielle Black Coaching: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience across education, counselling and coaching - alongside her own lived experience navigating a complex separation and family court journey - she supports parents to think strategically, build capacity, and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing within complex legal and relational systems. Through Danielle Black Coaching, she leads a growing team of specialist coaches and a structured support ecosystem designed to provide professionally held, evidence-informed guidance for parents navigating high-conflict separation and family court processes. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

    15 min

  7. JAN 23

    87. Welcome to 2026: What protective parents need to know (and utilise) this year

    2025 was a big year - for families navigating separation, and for the work we do here at Danielle Black Coaching. In this episode, I’m welcoming you into 2026 by reflecting on what we learned in 2025, what’s coming next, and - most importantly - how to use support wisely as a post-separation parent. I share: Key reflections from 2025 and what they revealed about what parents actually need after separationWhat’s planned for 2026 across coaching, education, and small-group supportFeedback from parents using the Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ and AI Danielle Why tools like the Blueprint and AI Danielle are powerful for education, insight, and capacity-building - but are not replacements for 1:1 or group coaching, particularly when it comes to co-regulation, nervous-system support, and relational repairHow to think clearly about which type of support is right for you at different stages of your post-separation journeyI also introduce the newest addition to the Danielle Black Coaching team -Senior Coach Brigid Morgan, who specialises in supporting parents who are co-parenting without formal court orders and want to remain child-centred, developmentally informed, and grounded while navigating uncertainty, pressure, and ongoing communication challenges. This episode is about clarity. About discernment. And about moving into 2026 with steadier expectations, better tools, and the right kind of support - rather than doing more, harder, or alone. Explore the supports mentioned in this episode: The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ Evidence-based education to help you understand child development, safety, parenting arrangements, and post-separation dynamics 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/the-post-separation-parenting-blueprint-1 AI Danielle Guided, structured support to help you think, plan, regulate, and reflect between coaching sessions 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/meet-ai-danielle Small Group Experiences (2026) Facilitated, topic-specific groups offering education, perspective, and shared learning — without court-specific advice 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/group-events 1:1 Coaching with Danielle, Trudie, or Brigid Individualised, relational support when your nervous system, decision-making, or situation needs more than information 👉 https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/1-1-coaching About Danielle Black Coaching: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience across education, counselling and coaching - alongside her own lived experience navigating a complex separation and family court journey - she supports parents to think strategically, build capacity, and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing within complex legal and relational systems. Through Danielle Black Coaching, she leads a growing team of specialist coaches and a structured support ecosystem designed to provide professionally held, evidence-informed guidance for parents navigating high-conflict separation and family court processes. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

    34 min

  8. 12/11/2025

    86. Information vs Integration - Why consuming content isn’t the same as becoming strategic

    It’s easy to listen to podcasts, read posts on socials, and consume information… but none of that automatically turns you into the credible, strategic, protective parent you need to be in a post-separation, coercive-control landscape. In this episode, Danielle explores the critical difference between knowing and doing, and why true protective capacity comes from integration, practice, documentation, and nervous system leadership - not passive consuming. If you’ve ever felt informed but still overwhelmed, this episode will help you understand why - and show you the pathway toward real transformation. You’ll learn: • Why awareness is not the same as capacity • Why your nervous system leads under pressure, not your knowledge • What integration looks like in day-to-day parenting • Why YOU must become the expert in your own case Mentioned in this episode: The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ - $300 off for Black Friday at the time of recording - our biggest discount of the year. Join before December 12  2025 to also receive: Complimentary access to AI Danielle until May 2026. AI Danielle supports you step-by-step with pattern analysis, communication scripts, documentation guidance, and nervous system tools - helping you integrate the Blueprint in real time. This AI access will not be publicly available until mid-2026. Visit danielleblackcoaching.com.au About Danielle Black Coaching: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience across education, counselling and coaching - alongside her own lived experience navigating a complex separation and family court journey - she supports parents to think strategically, build capacity, and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing within complex legal and relational systems. Through Danielle Black Coaching, she leads a growing team of specialist coaches and a structured support ecosystem designed to provide professionally held, evidence-informed guidance for parents navigating high-conflict separation and family court processes. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

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The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast Hosted by Danielle Black A no-fluff, evidence-based podcast for parents navigating post-separation abuse, family violence, coercive control, and high-conflict separation and divorce - with a relentless focus on protecting children in a system that too often fails them. Hosted by Danielle Black, Australia’s leading specialist in child-focused post-separation parenting, this podcast is not about "amicable co-parenting at all costs", outdated ideologies, or adult notions of fairness. It is about understanding how abuse frequently continues through parenting arrangements after separation - and what genuinely child-centred decision-making looks like when risk, fear, or power imbalance is present. Each episode challenges the myths that place children in harm’s way, including Australia’s dangerous obsession with 50/50 shared care, the misapplication of "friendly parent" ideals, and the expectation that protective parents should endlessly compromise to keep the peace. Drawing on developmental science, research-based evidence, trauma-informed practice, and lived experience, Danielle breaks down: How post-separation abuse actually operatesWhy many standard parenting frameworks fail children in high-conflict casesWhat evidence-based, defensible, child-focused parenting really requiresHow to move from confusion and self-doubt to clarity and confidence This podcast is for parents who are done minimising risk, done being gaslit by systems and professionals, and done prioritising adult comfort over children’s safety and development. Expect direct language, research-backed insight, practical guidance and a few cuss words here and there - not platitudes, false balance, or pressure to accept arrangements that don’t sit right - because children’s wellbeing matters more than adult fairness. Always. To go deeper, explore The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™, Danielle’s flagship program supporting parents to make informed, protective decisions after separation. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au Keywords: post-separation abuse, family violence, coercive control, high-conflict parenting, separation, divorce, family court, Australian family law.

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  • Creator
    Danielle Black
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    95
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    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast
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