Men’s Sexual Mastery

Benjamin Timby and Ian Hawks
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Men’s Sexual Mastery is a men’s holistic sexual education community dedicated to awakening, aligning, and empowering every brother into his fullest sexual potential. Our training programs are designed to reprogram the limited conditioning of sexuality we received as young men through porn and virtually nonexistent sexual education.

  1. 6d ago

    The Art of Cultivating Sexual Intimacy | Men's Sexual Mastery Ep. 68

    If the intimacy in your marriage or long-term relationship has faded, you've probably been told that's just what happens. Kids, schedules, years together, and the sex life quietly dies. It's one of the most damaging lies men have been handed, and it only survives because nobody taught us how to cultivate intimacy over time. Think of your intimacy as a garden. Your presence is the sun, and without it nothing else works. Intentional time together with zero pressure on her is the water. The small, unrepaired breaks in trust are the weeds, and left alone long enough they'll convince you the problem is her libido when it's really a garden nobody's tended. One of the most powerful things you can do for polarity costs nothing. Stop talking, slow your breath, and hold her gaze like you're already inside her. It works because it's the exact opposite of the pattern that kills most long-term relationships, where the man stops leading, she starts mothering him, and every conversation turns into logistics. You're not stuck with a dying sex life. You're an untrained gardener, and the man who learns to tend this gets a relationship that grows more alive the longer it lasts. Ready to dive deeper? Join the brotherhood at menssexualmastery.com/apply. #mensexualmastery #sexualmastery #sexualhealth #menshealthpodcast #intimacy #polarity #masculinity #sexualleadership #marriedmen #menswork #masculinedevelopment #sexualconfidence #sexualenergy #breathwork #personaldevelopment

  2. Sep 21

    Brotherhood: The Secret Ingredient to Unlocking Mastery in the Bedroom and Beyond | Men's Sexual Mastery Ep. 67

    Erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and compulsive porn use aren't random malfunctions. They're what happens when a man's nervous system is holding shame it's never had anywhere else to go, and it shows up as constriction, reduced blood flow, and a pelvic floor that stays clenched instead of open. In this episode we break down the actual physiological link between unprocessed shame and sexual performance, and why almost every man trying to fix this alone is missing the piece that would move it fastest. We just got back from running a workshop at Unison Fest with Mark Cunningham, a sex therapist based in Fort Collins, where we put men into small groups and asked the questions most guys never get asked outside of a therapist's office. What we watched happen in ninety minutes is the entire argument for why brotherhood isn't optional if you're serious about sexual mastery. We also get into why your partner can't be your only accountability partner without it eroding the polarity in your relationship, what "iron sharpens iron" actually looks like in practice, and the research on testosterone and time spent with other men that backs up what most guys already feel but can't explain. If you've been trying to white-knuckle your way out of a compulsive pattern by yourself, this episode names exactly why that approach keeps failing and what actually works instead. Ready to join the brotherhood? Join us at www.menssexualmastery.com #erectiledysfunction #sexualhealth #menshealthpodcast #sexualmastery #mensexualmastery #performanceanxiety #pornaddiction #prematureejaculation #nervoussystemregulation #polarity #masculinity #sexualleadership #menswork #intimacy #masculinedevelopment

  3. Sep 14

    Building a Sexual Container by Integrating Energetic Leaks | Men's Sexual Mastery Ep. 66

    Most men trying to build sexual energy through semen retention or nervous system regulation hit a wall they can't explain. They're doing the practice and still feel drained. The missing piece is almost never the practice itself. It's the energetic leaks running underneath it, quietly canceling out every ounce of progress. In this episode we break down nine specific leaks across three categories: the physical ones tied directly to jing and sexual energy, the relational patterns that drain you through other people, and the subtle habits like fidgeting and over talking that most men never connect to their energy at all. We also lay out the age-based framework for harmonious ejaculation cadence, why sexual energy acts as an accelerant that amplifies whatever's already happening in your nervous system, and why patching a leak often brings buried shame or anxiety to the surface instead of just handing you more energy for free. This is foundational work. It's why we teach it in the first module of our training, and it's worth revisiting no matter how long you've been at this. Want to go deeper? Join our free community at skool.com/menssexualmastery, access resources, discussion threads, and connect with brothers doing this work. #sexualmastery #mensexualmastery #menshealthpodcast #pornaddiction #nofap #breathwork #nervoussystemregulation #sexualenergy #semenretention #sexualconfidence #masculinedevelopment #menswork #personaldevelopment #polarity #dopaminedetox

  4. Sep 7

    The Power of Choosing One Partner | Men's Sexual Mastery Ep. 65

    Most men treat commitment like it's the end of their sex life. This episode makes the opposite case: real sexual mastery, real intimacy, and the deepest fulfillment a man can access are only available on the other side of fully choosing one partner. We break down why keeping your options open isn't freedom, it's stalling, and why the men who go all in with one partner access a kind of erotic novelty that no amount of variety can touch. In this conversation, Ben and Ian cover the difference between horizontal novelty - chasing new partners, and vertical novelty - going deeper with one, and why that vertical plane is functionally infinite once you build the skill for it. We also get into the Lover's Ritual, our own practice for keeping long-term intimacy from going flat, the fire-tending that has to happen outside the bedroom for any of this to work, and a story from a recent Sacred Sons gathering about a man who says his partner has been the best men's work organization he's ever been part of. If you're a man who's been told commitment means less, less sex, less excitement, less freedom, this episode is the reframe you may have been looking for without realizing it. Ready to go all in? Join us at https://www.menssexualmastery.com/apply #intimacy #masculinity #menswork #masculinedevelopment #polarity #sexualleadership #marriedmen #personaldevelopment #sexualmastery #mensexualmastery #sexualenergy #sexualconfidence #highperformancemen #menshealthpodcast #sexualhealth

  5. Aug 31

    Breath, Celibacy, and Agency with Jeff Sorenson | Men's Sexual Mastery Ep. 65

    Today we are joined by Jeff Sorenson. Jeff is the founder of breathARMY and the lightFORCE Collective – Leadership, Breathwork and Cold Exposure Facilitator Training Academy. His mission is to educate, inspire and empower people to live to their true potential. Jeff uses a variety of different tools including breathwork, movement, meditation, cold, heat and psychedelics to help people break through the structures that hold us back from living and expressing our true potential in the world. Jeff has walked through some of the darkest shadows of trauma, addiction and mental illness to emerge with profound wisdom and light which he humbly carries to activate the light and potential in others. He has a unique ability to weave a deep understanding of scientific principles with timeless philosophical and spiritual wisdom in an easy to understand, light, yet incredibly powerful and enjoyable way. Ian spent a year training under Jeff, and in this episode the two of them tie that work directly to sex. Finishing before you want to and reaching for porn are the same event in the body, which is activation climbing past what your nervous system can hold. Jeff explains how ice baths and big breathing practices train you to meet and navigate that activation in predictable conditions, why he treats the cold as a place to feel more instead of something to fight through, and why embodied awareness starts with your five senses and your surroundings before it ever goes inward. Jeff also speaks to his three years of celibacy, why he chose it, what it did for his discernment with women, and why he still believes occasional release is a good thing. Connect with Jeff Sorenson here: https://breatharmy.com/ @breatharmy on IG Join a free breathwork practice from Jeff or one of his accredited facilitators every Sunday morning at 9 am PST! https://breatharmy.com/breathtemple/ Interested in joining the Men's Sexual Mastery brotherhood? Join our free community at skool.com/menssexualmastery — access resources, discussion threads, and connect with brothers doing this work. Or apply for our next Group Training here: https://app.menssexualmastery.com/apply #sexualhealth #menshealthpodcast #sexualmastery #mensexualmastery #performanceanxiety #pornaddiction #breathwork #nervoussystemregulation #dopaminedetox #sexualconfidence #masculinedevelopment #personaldevelopment #menswork

  6. Aug 24

    Female Fertility: A Deep Dive with Emily Moujamoon | Men's Sexual Mastery Ep. 64

    Ready to expand your knowledge of your female partners rhythms, cycles, and fertility? In this episode, Emily from Moujamoon gives us a comprehensive overview on everything you need to know for conscious contraception, cycle tracking, and taking your understanding of female fertility, hormones, and arousal to the next level. Emily is a passionate guide empowering women and the people who care about them through cycle literacy. A former school teacher and yoga instructor, now turned experienced Fertility Awareness Educator, Emily teaches highly effective natural contraception through biomarker tracking and sensual practices, so women can have a deeper relationship with their body, and their partners can better support pleasure and relational ease. You'll learn the same information Emily teaches women in her fertility awareness method program, adapted so the men in their lives can actually participate instead of standing outside the conversation. We also get into what changes about foreplay and desire across the follicular and luteal phases, why the woman who was ready in five minutes two weeks ago might need forty-five minutes of engagement today, and how to show up differently depending on where she is hormonally. This is one of the most practical, most requested conversations we've had on the show. Connect with Emily: https://www.moujamoon.com/ https://www.instagram.com/moujamoon/ Interested in joining the Men's Sexual Mastery Training? Join our free community at skool.com/menssexualmastery — access resources, discussion threads, and connect with brothers doing this work. #mensexualmastery #sexualmastery #menshealthpodcast #intimacy #polarity #sexualleadership #masculinedevelopment #menswork #marriedmen #sexualenergy #personaldevelopment #sexualconfidence #nervoussystemregulation #masculinity #semenretention

  7. Aug 18

    The Desire You're Hiding Is the Fire Your Relationship Needs | Men's Sexual Mastery Ep. 63

    Most men think their issue is porn use, performance anxiety, or a sex life that's gone flat with their wife. Underneath nearly every one of those, there's an unprocessed sexual shadow, the parts of your erotic self you learned early on were unacceptable to want or even admit to yourself. In this episode, Ben and Hawks break down how many men unconsciously repress their sexual desires from a young age and how that can impact our relationship to sexuality. They dive deeper in exploring the difference between guilt and shame, why shame is the mechanism that keeps compulsive patterns running in a loop, and how self-love means owning a desire without needing to act on it. They also get specific about bringing shadow work into a relationship: the difference between disclosure and dumping, why the honeymoon phase actually dies in most marriages, and how withheld desire quietly kills intimacy long before either partner can name why. Want to go deeper? Join our free community at skool.com/menssexualmastery. Access resources, discussion threads, and connect with brothers doing this work. #sexualmastery #mensexualmastery #menshealthpodcast #pornaddiction #performanceanxiety #lowlibido #polarity #masculinity #sexualconfidence #sexualleadership #intimacy #marriedmen #menswork #masculinedevelopment #sexualenergy

  8. Aug 10

    The Big Draw: A Practice to Separate Orgasm and Ejaculation | Men's Sexual Mastery Ep. 62

    For most men, ejaculation isn't a decision. It's an involuntary muscle spasm that runs on autopilot, no different than a sneeze. This episode breaks down the Big Draw, a Taoist practice that's one of the most direct tools for building real ejaculatory control, moving sexual energy up the spine instead of letting it spill out through release, and opening the door to non-ejaculatory orgasm. We walk through exactly how it works, the muscular contractions, the breath sequence, the eye and chin positioning, and where in your arousal curve to actually bring it in. We also cover the part most guides skip: what can go wrong, why this practice amplifies whatever emotional state you're already carrying, and how to keep the energy moving instead of getting stuck in your head. This isn't theory. It's a mechanism you can feel working the first time you try it, in solo cultivation or with a partner, and it's one of the clearest entry points into semen retention work for a man who's never touched anything like this before. Want to go deeper? Join the brotherhood at www.menssexualmastery.com/apply #semenretention #nofap #breathwork #nervoussystemregulation #sexualenergy #sexualmastery #mensexualmastery #sexualconfidence #polarity #masculinedevelopment #menswork #intimacy #prematureejaculation #dopaminedetox #sexualleadership

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Men’s Sexual Mastery is a men’s holistic sexual education community dedicated to awakening, aligning, and empowering every brother into his fullest sexual potential. Our training programs are designed to reprogram the limited conditioning of sexuality we received as young men through porn and virtually nonexistent sexual education.

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  • Creator
    Benjamin Timby and Ian Hawks
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    70
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Benjamin Timby and Ian Hawks
  • Show Website
    Men’s Sexual Mastery

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