Resiliently Rising Podcast

Carrie Holladay
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Join husband and wife as they share their betrayal trauma healing journey using a somatic-based approach. This podcast explores nervous system regulation, self-trust, and practical tools for restoring relationships with yourself and others. Whether you're navigating betrayal or seeking deeper emotional healing, you'll find insights, support, and expert guidance to help you move from survival to safety. Carrie Holladay is a Trauma-Trained Somatic Practitioner, APSATS Certified Partner Coach Candidate, and founder of Resiliently Rising, where she helps individuals heal from betrayal trauma through body-based, nervous-system-informed approaches. After years of living in survival mode following both childhood and marital betrayal, Carrie discovered the power of somatic healing—learning that true recovery begins not just in the mind, but in the body. She’s trained in Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Attachment Therapy, the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Treating Trauma and Affairs, Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness, and Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy. Today, Carrie support survivors around the world in reconnecting with their body’s wisdom, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in safety, honesty, and connection. Her work blends professional training with lived experience, offering a grounded and compassionate approach to trauma recovery that helps people move from surviving to thriving. *This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.*

  1. 2d ago

    Ep 48. Moving Through Grief After Betrayal with Claire Bidwell Smith

    In this episode, Carrie sits down with grief expert and author Claire Bidwell Smith to explore the grief that so often follows betrayal but is rarely named. Together, they discuss the loss of trust, identity, safety, and the relationship you thought you had, as well as the complicated experience of grieving someone who may still be present in your life. Claire shares how self-compassion, supportive relationships, body-based expression, and giving yourself permission to feel what is there can help grief move through rather than remain buried. This conversation offers validation, practical support, and a reminder that grief does not follow a simple or linear timeline. Connect with Claire: 🛜 https://clairebidwellsmith.com/ Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

    Ep 48. Moving Through Grief After Betrayal with Claire Bidwell Smith

  2. Jul 7

    Ep 47. Separation After Betrayal: Creating Space That Supports Safety and Clarity

    Separation after betrayal can feel terrifying, confusing, and loaded with meaning. For many couples, the word “separation” feels like the beginning of the end. But separation is not automatically a step toward divorce, and it is not automatically a step toward reconciliation.  In this episode, Carrie and David talk about what separation after betrayal trauma can look like, including in-home separation, separate living arrangements, communication boundaries, check-ins, timelines, and how to decide when or if it feels safe enough to come back together.  This conversation is for anyone navigating betrayal trauma, relationship repair, boundaries, nervous system safety, or the painful uncertainty of what happens next.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle ✨Coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal  🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course 💊 PalmVitaResearch Supplements 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

    Ep 47. Separation After Betrayal: Creating Space That Supports Safety and Clarity

  3. Jun 30

    BONUS: Healing After Betrayal: A Conversation on the Body, Safety, and Trust with Jan Winhall

    This bonus episode is a powerful conversation between Jan Winhall and Carrie Holladay on the Embodied Dialogues Podcast. Together they explore betrayal trauma through a Felt Sense Polyvagal lens. Together, they discuss how betrayal impacts the nervous system, disrupts a person's sense of safety, and often leads to protective responses like hypervigilance, shutdown, and disconnection. Rather than focusing solely on understanding the story of what happened, they explain why healing requires restoring a felt sense of safety in the body. The conversation offers a compassionate, non-pathologizing approach to rebuilding trust, highlighting the roles of neuroception, co-regulation, embodied awareness, and ventral vagal connection in creating lasting healing after betrayal. Connect with Jan: https://www.fspminstitute.com/ Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

    BONUS: Healing After Betrayal: A Conversation on the Body, Safety, and Trust with Jan Winhall

  4. Jun 23

    Ep 46. Somatic Safety Session: Soothing the Spike After a Trigger

    Ever felt a sudden rush of panic that takes over your body? You're not alone. Let's talk about what to do next. Triggers can hit us out of nowhere, sending our bodies into a frenzy. Your heart races, muscles tense, and suddenly, you’re not in the present anymore. But it's important to remember: this reaction doesn't mean you're broken. It’s just your body trying to protect you from past trauma. Today, we’ll explore gentle practices to help your nervous system find calm again. It’s all about allowing yourself to feel and respond with compassion   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

    Ep 46. Somatic Safety Session: Soothing the Spike After a Trigger

  5. Jun 16

    Ep 45. WYW: How Do I Make the Anxiety Stop?

    Betrayal trauma reshapes your nervous system — and anxiety is often the loudest signal of that change. In this What You're Wondering episode, Carrie and David respond to a listener struggling with constant anxiety after discovering her husband's porn addiction. Carrie explains why anxiety after betrayal isn't a flaw but a survival response, and introduces a powerful reframe: instead of asking how do I make it stop, ask what is my anxiety trying to protect? David speaks honestly about how he mishandled Carrie's anxiety early on — and what actually helped. Practical somatic tools, a section for betrayers on what their partner's anxiety actually needs, and a candid look at what non-linear healing really looks like. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

    Ep 45. WYW: How Do I Make the Anxiety Stop?

  6. Jun 9

    Ep 44. The Secret Sexual Basement: Understanding Betrayal, Lies & Integrity Abuse with Janae Lindsey

    This week on the Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie sits down with therapist and betrayal trauma specialist Jenae Lindsey for a powerful conversation about the hidden damage of deception, secrecy, and integrity abuse in relationships after betrayal. Together, they unpack the concept of the “secret sexual basement,” why the lies and manipulation often hurt more than the behavior itself, and how betrayal impacts the nervous system, self-trust, and reality itself. This episode offers validation, education, and hope for anyone navigating betrayal trauma... whether you’re struggling with hypervigilance, questioning your intuition, trying to rebuild trust, or simply wondering if healing is even possible. Carrie and Jenae explore topics like compartmentalization, betrayal blindness, attachment, self-trust, emotional safety, and why healing requires addressing both the compulsive behaviors and the integrity wounds underneath them. Connect with Janae: 📲 Instagram: @couchtalkers https://www.desertbloomrecovery.org/   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

    Ep 44. The Secret Sexual Basement: Understanding Betrayal, Lies & Integrity Abuse with Janae Lindsey

  7. Jun 2

    Ep 43. Disclosure vs. Discovery: Why the Way Truth Comes Out Matters

    In this episode, Carrie and David explore the powerful difference between disclosure and discovery in betrayal trauma recovery. They unpack why trickle truth, partial disclosures, and ongoing deception can be just as damaging... and sometimes more damaging... than the original betrayal itself.  They discuss how secrecy impacts trust, why the body often knows something is wrong before the mind can explain it, and what happens when a relationship is built on incomplete information. Whether you're the betrayed partner questioning if you have the whole truth or the person who caused harm and is struggling with fear, shame, and honesty, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and hope for what real healing requires.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

    Ep 43. Disclosure vs. Discovery: Why the Way Truth Comes Out Matters

  8. May 26

    Ep 42. Somatic Safety Session: Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does

    In this episode, we slow down and explore that moment where your body knows before your mind catches up. We talk about how your nervous system is constantly reading for safety, how it communicates through sensation and reaction, and why those early signals are often more honest than the story your mind tries to build afterward. You’ll begin to understand how to recognize those subtle cues instead of overriding them or second-guessing them. And most importantly, how to start building trust with your own internal signals again—so you can move through life with more clarity, steadiness, and self-trust, even in moments that feel uncertain or overwhelming.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar    👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay   This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.

    Ep 42. Somatic Safety Session: Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does
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Join husband and wife as they share their betrayal trauma healing journey using a somatic-based approach. This podcast explores nervous system regulation, self-trust, and practical tools for restoring relationships with yourself and others. Whether you're navigating betrayal or seeking deeper emotional healing, you'll find insights, support, and expert guidance to help you move from survival to safety. Carrie Holladay is a Trauma-Trained Somatic Practitioner, APSATS Certified Partner Coach Candidate, and founder of Resiliently Rising, where she helps individuals heal from betrayal trauma through body-based, nervous-system-informed approaches. After years of living in survival mode following both childhood and marital betrayal, Carrie discovered the power of somatic healing—learning that true recovery begins not just in the mind, but in the body. She’s trained in Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Attachment Therapy, the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Treating Trauma and Affairs, Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness, and Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy. Today, Carrie support survivors around the world in reconnecting with their body’s wisdom, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in safety, honesty, and connection. Her work blends professional training with lived experience, offering a grounded and compassionate approach to trauma recovery that helps people move from surviving to thriving. *This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.*

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