Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men

Alisa Stoddard
  • 5.0 (3)
  • Self-Improvement
  • Updated Weekly

Struggling to fix the distance in your marriage - even though you’ve tried everything? You’re not alone. This podcast is for high-achieving men who want more intimacy, better communication, and a stronger emotional connection with their wives. I’m Alisa, a certified relationship coach for men. I help husbands stop chasing sex and start creating real connection. Each week, you’ll get straight-talking, practical advice to help you feel more respected, appreciated, and connected at home. Whether you’re dealing with emotional disconnection, constant tension, or feeling unwanted - this podcast will help. You don’t need to walk on eggshells. You need a better way forward. And I’ll show you how.

  1. 6d ago

    Living in the Gap | Ep 68

    Why Do You Need Her to Notice You've Changed? You've been doing the work. Staying calm when it used to wreck you. Catching the old reaction before it takes over. And she still looks at you like she's waiting to see if it's real. This episode is about the hardest part of that process, the stretch where you keep showing up differently and nothing outside of you confirms it. We'll cover: Why real change often gets no visible reaction, and why that doesn't mean it isn't working Why so many men need their wife to confirm their growth, and what that request actually asks of her A specific, practical shift for knowing you did the work, without needing her to tell you What happens to men who never learn to source this for themselves If that's where you are, join me live August 20th, 11am PT / noon MT / 1pm CT / 2pm ET, for a free webinar. Save your seat at alisastoddard.com.  Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration I'd love to have you there. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    Living in the Gap | Ep 68

  2. Aug 7

    Why She Still Doesn't Trust the New You | Ep 67

    You've been showing up differently, calmer, more consistent, more present. And instead of trust, you're getting watched like she's waiting for the old you to show back up. In this episode, we'll cover why trust doesn't arrive the moment you decide to change, and why she's testing you instead of believing you right away. You'll hear about the small, easy-to-miss moments that function as tests, why getting frustrated with her doubt often confirms it instead of resolving it, and what actually rebuilds trust after it's been damaged. We'll cover: Why her testing isn't evidence the change isn't working The quiet, everyday moments that are actually her gathering evidence Why defensiveness resets the clock she's keeping What real trust-building looks like over time How to recover when you slip, without losing the progress you've made If that's where you are, join me live August 20th, 11am PT / noon MT / 1pm CT / 2pm ET, for a free webinar. Save your seat at alisastoddard.com.  Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registrationI'd love to have you there. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    Why She Still Doesn't Trust the New You | Ep 67

  3. Jul 31

    You Changed to Keep Her. That's the Problem | Ep 66

    You've changed. So why doesn't she want you more? In this episode, we'll cover why change driven by fear of losing her often backfires, and why eager, anxious effort can feel like pressure instead of progress. You'll hear why needing her to notice and confirm your growth quietly puts her in a role that kills desire, and what it actually takes to change in a way that doesn't depend on her approval. Why “changing to keep her” creates resentment over time The difference between proving and becoming Why vigilance and desire can't coexist What self-trust actually requires I'm hosting a free webinar on Aug 4th where I'll walk through exactly what she needs to see from you after a mistake, and how to give her that without losing yourself in the process. It's at 2:00pm PT, 3:00pm MT, 4:00pm CT, and 5:00pm ET. Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration I'd love to have you there. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    You Changed to Keep Her. That's the Problem | Ep 66

  4. Jul 24

    Why Sorry Isn't the Finish Line You Think It Is | Ep 65

    You apologized. You meant it. And it's still sitting between you weeks later. In this episode, we'll cover why an apology feels like a finish line to most men and rarely feels that way to her, why old hurt resurfaces during arguments that seem completely unrelated, and what your defensiveness unintentionally confirms to her when she brings it up again. We'll also talk about what's different when the mistake was an affair or a pattern of porn use, and what actually needs to happen for her to start believing real change has taken hold. You'll hear: Why an apology answers "what did you do" but not the question she's actually asking What it means to let her see the internal work you've been doing, instead of assuming she already can Why withdrawal and outbursts are often the same fear showing up differently What consistent, repeated presence actually does that a single apology can't I'm hosting a free webinar on Aug 4th where I'll walk through exactly what she needs to see from you after a mistake, and how to give her that without losing yourself in the process. It's at 2:00pm PT, 3:00pm MT, 4:00pm CT, and 5:00pm ET. Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration I'd love to have you there. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    Why Sorry Isn't the Finish Line You Think It Is | Ep 65

  5. Jul 17

    What Traction Actually Looks Like | Ep 64

    You've been doing the work. Staying present instead of shutting down. Catching the old reaction before it takes over. And some part of you is still waiting for proof that it's actually working. This episode closes out a series on the difference between performing change and actually becoming different. You'll hear: Why real change rarely confirms itself the moment it happens The difference between complying with what a marriage needs and actually participating in it What she's genuinely watching for, and why it's rarely the big gestures What it looks like when traction finally becomes visible Why this isn't a finish line, and what the real test looks like once change starts to hold Join me for a free webinar on July 21st to go deeper into this. Register Here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    What Traction Actually Looks Like | Ep 64

  6. Jul 10

    She's Changing. Do You Still Fit? | Ep 63

    Why Is Your Wife Suddenly Pulling Away or Changing in Midlife? If your wife has started saying no to things she used to just do, spending time in the other room, or making plans that don't run through you first, something real has shifted. This episode is about understanding what that shift actually means. We'll cover: Why midlife brings real change for a lot of women, and why it usually has little to do with the marriage Why her independence can feel like rejection even when it isn't The quiet fear many men carry about being left behind, and why it isn't proof of anything What it actually looks like to meet the woman she's becoming instead of holding onto who she used to be 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    She's Changing. Do You Still Fit? | Ep 63

  7. Jul 3

    Why Her Feedback Shuts You Down | Ep 62

    Most men handle hard feedback at work without much trouble. But when their wife says something critical, a wall goes up almost instantly. This episode is about why that happens, what it costs, and what it quietly communicates to her over time. We cover: Why her feedback feels like an attack even when it isn't What she is actually saying underneath the surface complaint How the defensive reflex trains her to stop being honest The difference between being a partner and being a soft place to land What it actually looks like to receive feedback without shutting down If you have ever walked away from a hard conversation feeling unfairly criticized while she walked away feeling more alone, this episode is for you. Join me for “What She Stopped Saying” - a free 30-minute webinar on July 8th.Register at Live Webinar | Open Call Registration 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    Why Her Feedback Shuts You Down | Ep 62

  8. Jun 26

    Why Trying to Listen Harder Isn't Working | Ep 61

    You've tried to listen better. You wait longer, stay calmer, stop interrupting. And she still says she doesn't feel heard. This episode names what's actually happening in that gap. Most men were taught that listening is about behavior. But behavior isn't what creates the experience of being heard. Until you understand the difference, you can keep improving your technique and still leave her feeling alone in the conversation. This isn't a how-to episode. No active listening steps. No reflective language techniques. Just an honest look at why the effort isn't landing, what's getting in the way, and why the gap between you has less to do with skill than with what stopped feeling safe a long time ago. In this episode: Why listening harder and actually hearing her aren't the same thing What she means when she says she doesn't feel heard How problem-solving and self-protection interrupt real presence Why men who've felt dismissed themselves often can't stay open enough to hear her What changes when the experience of being heard finally shifts Join me for “What She Stopped Saying” - a free 30-minute webinar on July 8th.Register at Live Webinar | Open Call Registration 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    Why Trying to Listen Harder Isn't Working | Ep 61
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Struggling to fix the distance in your marriage - even though you’ve tried everything? You’re not alone. This podcast is for high-achieving men who want more intimacy, better communication, and a stronger emotional connection with their wives. I’m Alisa, a certified relationship coach for men. I help husbands stop chasing sex and start creating real connection. Each week, you’ll get straight-talking, practical advice to help you feel more respected, appreciated, and connected at home. Whether you’re dealing with emotional disconnection, constant tension, or feeling unwanted - this podcast will help. You don’t need to walk on eggshells. You need a better way forward. And I’ll show you how.

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