Dr Thomas Smithyman Podcast

Thomas Smithyman PhD
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I'm Thomas, a PhD clinical psychologist and author helping you optimize your social and psychological health. New episodes go live every two weeks on Spotify and https://www.youtube.com/@DrThomasSmithyman

Episodes

  1. 3D AGO

    4 Steps to Stop Overthinking Social Interactions

    After years of working on overthinking--called "post-event rumination" to us psychologists--I've come up with a 4 step process that has been pretty successful for me. I lay that out for you in this episode. You can get more info on all these idea in my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

    11 min

  2. FEB 5

    The Science of a Happy Relationship (5 Questions To Ask)

    For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

    25 min

  3. JAN 29

    What Causes Rejection (According to Psychology)

    For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

    19 min

  4. JAN 22

    The Science of Knowing Yourself (And Why It Matters)

    Discovering who you truly are can transform your life. In this episode, I break down the science of self-concept clarity, a cornerstone of self-awareness, using the psychological research and my experience as a clinical psychologist. You’ll learn why understanding yourself matters, how it leads to greater happiness, purpose, and self-confidence, as well as actionable steps to build deeper self-awareness and self-fidelity. For more on psychology and personal growth, get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

    25 min

  5. JAN 14

    How Society Trained You to Hate Your Own Reflection

    Have you ever stared at your reflection and thought, “If I could just fix this one thing, I’d finally feel confident”? This video aims to help with that. I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA If insecurity has held you back from connecting with others, this book might help: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

    15 min

  6. JAN 2

    How To Be Naturally Charismatic (Even If You're Quiet)

    Ever worry you’re too quiet to be charismatic? This video will help with that. For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA

    15 min

  7. JAN 2

    Mental Fatigue (Why You’re Always Tired, According to Psychology)

    Learn 4 psychology-backed pathways to actually recharge. For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

    16 min

  8. JAN 2

    Avoiding the 5 Traps of Self-Improvement

    For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

    11 min

  9. JAN 2

    AI Stole My Book, But I Wrote The First Review

    I didn’t want to jump to conclusions, so I bought the book and here’s what I found. You can get my dating anxiety book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Or just have AI write one for you... Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

    11 min

  10. JAN 1

    The Science of Flirting

    I read almost 100 science articles on flirtation. Here's what I figured out. There are 3 core principles that guide flirtation. When things go wrong, it's generally because we're breaking one of these unwritten rules of flirting.  I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

    14 min

  11. JAN 1

    The 3 Strangers Rule: Zero Friends to Social Success

    This personal strategy has been a game-changer in social situations. Over the past 20 years, whenever I’ve found myself in a setting where I knew no one, this rule has been my lifeline. I’ll delve into how setting the right level of performance goals, focusing on factors within our control, and relying on fundamental social skills helps us. Plus, I’ll tell you why I believe basic introductions are the best way to meet new people. For more, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

    13 min

  12. JAN 1

    How to Improve Conversation, Boost Social Appeal, and Ease Anxiety

    Ever feel like your conversations could be more engaging or your social life more fulfilling? You might be lacking in a key ingredient: Social Curiosity. Don’t try to be interesting, focus on becoming INTERESTED. For those looking to dig deeper into this topic, check out my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.   📚 What You'll Learn: How curiosity can deepen your conversations and broaden your social horizons. The research-backed appeal of social curiosity and why it captivates people. Why and how social curiosity can help alleviate social anxiety. Practical techniques to cultivate social curiosity and elevate your interactions.

    14 min
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I'm Thomas, a PhD clinical psychologist and author helping you optimize your social and psychological health. New episodes go live every two weeks on Spotify and https://www.youtube.com/@DrThomasSmithyman

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