Social Anxiety Solutions - your journey to social confidence!

Sebastiaan van der Schrier
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My name is Seb. I used to struggle with severe social anxiety. Since 2009, I've helped people work through social anxiety in a way that is structured, practical, and gentle. No forced exposure. No pressure to perform. No "just push yourself" advice. Social anxiety is not a defect. It's a protective nervous system response that can be gradually retrained. My work combines psychology with EFT tapping to update the emotional learning that drives social anxiety. Progress is not dramatic. It's gradual. Intensity decreases. Duration shortens. Confidence builds quietly. If you're looking for a calm, realistic path forward, you're in the right place. — Start Here: The Social Confidence Blueprint www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/social-confidence-blueprint/ — If you're interested in deeper 1:1 support: VIP Coaching www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/social-anxiety-coach/

  1. 05/01/2015

    How to overcome shame

    Emma is an ex-social anxiety sufferer, and a therapist with decades of experience. She's dealt with shame extensively both personally (a blushing problem) and professionally as she specialises working with highly sensitive areas such as trauma and sexual abuse. Emma is an EFT Master and Master Trainer, Clinical Hypnotherapist and NLP Master Practitioner.  We address shame in detail, and share how to overcome it. Emma is the co-founder of Integrated Energy Techniques (IET), which brings together Energy Psychology and the very best ways of working with Ericksonian Hypnosis, NLP, Coaching, Psycho-spiritual approaches and Cognitive Psychotherapy. QUOTE: "Don't waste time thinking you're stuck, thanks to this you can now take control of your life and change it faster than you might think" Emma's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier   Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens  • why forcing exposure often backfires  • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms  • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away: Fast Social Anxiety Relief https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/ -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure. No pressure to perform.  No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/  https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full

  2. 05/01/2015

    Why this podcast and my story

    This show is for you when you're suffering from social anxiety and the standard tips don't work. You're frustrated, and worried you'll have to live with your social anxiety for the rest of your life. This podcast is for you. You'll hear from the super stars of the therapy and psychology world who have been originally trained psychologists or psychotherapists who have incorporated energy psychology into their practice. They share their most effective techniques, empowering solutions, and unbelievably inspiring stories of transformation and perspectives that help shortcut your journey to social confidence massively.  Each show we discuss a social anxiety related topic (shame, self acceptance, sensitivity, bullying, fear of rejection, connection, loneliness, etc) and you'll get specific action steps to move forward each episode.  In this intro podcast I share my story from social anxiety to social confidence. What worked for me and what didn't. And what you can do to make progress today. Thank you for listening.  My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier   Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens  • why forcing exposure often backfires  • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms  • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away: Fast Social Anxiety Relief https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/ -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure. No pressure to perform.  No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/  https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full

  3. 05/07/2015

    Bullying - how to overcome its negative effects

    Tania suffered from social anxiety for the longest time and has completely resolved it.  She's an NLP Trainer, EFT founding Master and Trainer, TAT Professional Trainer, Hypnotherapy Trainer and Practitioner. She's featured on the BBC TV show Inside Out, as well as on a Swedish TV Show where she helped someone overcome a binge eating disorder. She has extensive experience working one on one with clients clearing fear and nerves in public speaking, including those who experience panic attacks, blushing and social phobia. We go into depth on bullying, share out own personal experiences, and give simple and effective techniques to eliminate (yes, not ease, not manage, eliminate!) the negative effects of bullying. QUOTE: "To me it's not about "managing it" (the social anxiety), you really want to go for the full deal; it absolutely can be shifted" Tani's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens  • why forcing exposure often backfires  • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms  • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away: Fast Social Anxiety Relief https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/ -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure. No pressure to perform.  No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/  https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full

  4. 05/14/2015

    Loving your sensitivity and feeling safe being vulnerable

    This may forever shift your perspective on sensitivity and vulnerability and place it in a perspective that empowers and inspires you.
 Tom's my close buddy and is an ex-professional MMA fighter. He practices a combination of Energy Psychology and intuitive physical therapy to facilitate deep levels of acceptance. 

 He's been on (and still is) a long journey of intense self-exploration, has lived in the jungle for 6 months, has done a 10 meditation retreat, and is the ideal man to speak to when it comes to owning your sensitivity and feeling safe enough to be vulnerable.  We talk about the necessity of owning your sensitivity and getting yourself to a place where it becomes safe to be vulnerable. Tom grew up in the UK and sensitivity was seen as weak and pathetic. Same for where I'm from. This has set us both on a journey to exploring our sensitivity.  
QUOTE: Being sensitive and being vulnerable is really a huge part of being able to connect with people. The more vulnerable and sensitive you allow yourself to be the more connected you feel with people.  Tom's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier   Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens  • why forcing exposure often backfires  • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms  • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away: Fast Social Anxiety Relief https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/ -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure. No pressure to perform.  No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/  https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full

  5. 05/21/2015

    Self acceptance - a key to social comfort

    Steve Wells is a psychologist. He has trained to the highest level in provocative therapy, has extensive training and experience in brief strategic therapy, and has been training counsellors and therapists for over 20 years. Together with Dr David Lake he also conducts personal development seminars and professional training workshops in Advanced EFT and Provocative Energy Techniques.  He and Dr Lake developed Simple Energy Techniques (SET) and the unique advanced Energy-based approach Provocative Energy Techniques (PET). Steve shares his 30 day self acceptance journey, and let's you know how overcoming your social anxiety has to start with acceptance because non-self acceptance is a guaranteed way to keep your negative cycle of social anxiety happening.  And paradoxically accepting yourself (starting with accepting where you are) is the beginning point of recovery. QUOTE: A lot of people are doing exposure therapy, feel the fear and do it anyway, and that's good, but you know what, for some people that's really harrowing, it's really tough, and what techniques like tapping do is at the very least they take the edge off at the beginning so that it becomes a little bit easier. And over time, it becomes a lot easier.  Steve's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier   Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens  • why forcing exposure often backfires  • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms  • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away: Fast Social Anxiety Relief https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/ -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure. No pressure to perform.  No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/  https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full

  6. 05/28/2015

    Overcoming Fear of Rejection and expanding your comfort zone

    Rick Wilkes is an Emotional Freedom Coach who has been guiding people for over 23 years using energy healing and EFT Tapping and has worked with thousands of individuals. He blends a unique combination of body-centered and energetic approaches to activate authentic self-expression, personal power, calm confidence, and a warm sense of self-love in his clients. We discuss the fear of rejection, how to overcome it and expand your comfort zone. Rather than push yourself harshly, we speak of how to gently expand it, and listen to your body's YES and NO's.  Rick shares "We coach around helping people build enough resilience so they can be out in the world with real people, but also have healthy boundaries that say "ow, you didn't like what I said? Ow I wasn't saying it for you". QUOTE: Many people that have gone through this kind of process (tapping) become much more confident than your average person because you're building up your resilience. Rick's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier   Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens  • why forcing exposure often backfires  • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms  • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away: Fast Social Anxiety Relief https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/ -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure. No pressure to perform.  No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/  https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full

  7. 06/04/2015

    Do this and you can beat your SA don't do it and suffer forever

    The most important thing to understand to beat your social anxiety is what we discuss today: "overcoming subconscious resistance". When you don't overcome this resistance, you cannot become anxiety-free. Ever. Lindsay Kenny, one of the only 29 EFT Founding Masters, a Life Coach, and EFT AAMET Trainer of Trainers is the expert on subconscious resistance and shares her wisdom on the podcast.  She says "If you haven't been able to overcome your problem you have a subconscious resistance to change." Consciously you want to change, but your subconscious (which is much bigger than your conscious mind) says: "We're not changing because if I go out into a social situation, I'm gonna get hurt, remember what happened last time?!" She also guides you through an exercise to overcome this subconscious resistance easily and quickly. This is a MUST-listen. QUOTE: Conventional psychology says "let's desensitise you from that fear by forcing you to face it, little steps at a time where you grid your teeth and bite your finger nails, have your heart pounding and your knuckles white, and you're just miserable doing it… And all the time your subconscious is yelling NO don't make me do this!! Sometimes this (forcefully facing your fears) does work, but it's so hard to do this. The simple thing is to just neutralise the subconscious resistance to changing. Lindsay's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier   Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens  • why forcing exposure often backfires  • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms  • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away: Fast Social Anxiety Relief https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/ -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure. No pressure to perform.  No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/  https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full

  8. 06/11/2015

    How to deal with severe social anxiety

    "There is hope for everyone" says Sophia Cayer, one of the only 29 EFT founding Masters who has been devoted to a full-time EFT practice and has been teaching EFT since 2000. Sophia has had more than 12 000 client sessions and is known for finding core issues and working with tough challenges. We go into depth on the things that prevent people from letting go their social anxiety. We go into why some people stay stuck, and what can be done to get unstuck.  She says: It takes courage to do the work but you will find it worthwhile. And what is great about EFT is the fact that you don't necessarily have to tell your story and get into detail. There are so many subtle ways to get to the situation, so if there's a concern to talk about things or reveal things that are uncomfortable, know there are gentle and subtle ways to get to these things and clear them. The process does not have to be horrifying or incredibly painful. Not saying their can't be or won't be moments where there will be intense emotion, but for the most part there things can be worked through in a gentle way and you really likely will be amazingly surprised with the process. And with EFT you can work on yourself in between sessions to help you find more calm resolve in daily situations.  We discuss the process of working with a practitioner, and dispel some of the myths and share what to expect.  QUOTE: I absolutely believe there is hope for everyone. I've seen people turn things around they thought were impossible. Whatever is causing the social anxiety, those things can be worked through. There are gentle and subtle ways to get to these things and clear them. The process does not have to be horrifying or incredibly painful. And you can find yourself amazingly surprised with the shifts that can happen.  Sophia's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier   Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens  • why forcing exposure often backfires  • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms  • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away: Fast Social Anxiety Relief https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/ -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure. No pressure to perform.  No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/  https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full

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My name is Seb. I used to struggle with severe social anxiety. Since 2009, I've helped people work through social anxiety in a way that is structured, practical, and gentle. No forced exposure. No pressure to perform. No "just push yourself" advice. Social anxiety is not a defect. It's a protective nervous system response that can be gradually retrained. My work combines psychology with EFT tapping to update the emotional learning that drives social anxiety. Progress is not dramatic. It's gradual. Intensity decreases. Duration shortens. Confidence builds quietly. If you're looking for a calm, realistic path forward, you're in the right place. — Start Here: The Social Confidence Blueprint www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/social-confidence-blueprint/ — If you're interested in deeper 1:1 support: VIP Coaching www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/social-anxiety-coach/

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