Ambition Without Compromise

Monique R. Shields

Ambition Without Compromise is the space where powerhouse women of color — with a special heart for Black mothers and future mothers — come to redefine success on their own terms. Hosted by Monique R. Shields, executive coach, entrepreneur, and mentor to women at the highest levels of leadership, this podcast dives into the real challenges women face when juggling bold professional pursuits with the responsibilities of being present partners, mothers, and whole, healthy individuals. Through honest conversations and powerful stories, you’ll gain insights on: Balancing ambition and freedom without burnoutCrafting sustainable work-life integrationProtecting your mental and emotional well-beingBuilding intentional communities and seeking mentorship for growthWhether you're scaling your business, stepping into a higher leadership role, or simply seeking clarity about what success means now, this show offers the tools and stories to help you thrive without compromise. Follow Monique wherever you listen to podcasts and step into a world where ambition and joy can coexist.

  1. 4D AGO

    67 | More Than Getting By: How I Resourced Myself and Reclaimed My Career

    Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! In this week's episode, join Monique as she shares her inspiring journey from side hustler to executive coach.   Monique takes us on a journey through her recent conversation with Nicaila Matthews Okome on the Side Hustle Pro podcast. Together, they dive into Monique's career trajectory, from her time at Spelman College to her evolution as an executive coach, and the lessons learned along the way. Tune in to gain insights into the significance of resourcing oneself, the power of community, and the necessity of setting high standards for personal and professional growth. GUEST INFO Nicaila Matthews Okome, host of Side Hustle Pro Podcast |  Website | Instagram | YouTube MENTIONED 59 | You Don’t Need More Time — You Need a New Identity GEMS DROPPED “ When ​we ​feel ​connected ​with ​the ​truth ​of ​who ​we ​are ​and ​how ​we ​actually ​feel, ​and ​then ​we ​get ​to ​know ​what ​we ​actually ​think ​and ​what ​our ​imaginations ​can ​bring ​us ​to, ​we ​get ​to ​dream ​forward.” - Monique R. Shields “Corporate ​spaces ​are ​not ​designed ​for ​anybody ​to ​be ​their ​full ​authentic ​selves. ​You ​have ​to ​decide ​what ​pieces ​of ​you ​are ​safe ​here, ​what ​pieces ​of ​you ​are ​advantageous ​to ​share ​here. ​You have ​to ​kind ​of ​design ​yourself ​a ​certain ​way. ​It's ​just ​what ​it ​is.” - Monique R. Shields “Instead ​of ​shaming ​ourselves ​for ​decisions ​we ​have ​made ​or ​are ​about ​to ​make, ​remember ​a ​lot ​of ​these ​decisions ​are ​rooted ​in ​survival. ​And ​you ​need ​to ​do ​what ​you ​need ​to ​do ​​in ​that ​moment ​or ​in ​this ​moment ​to ​put ​your ​survival ​first. ​Right. However, when ​you ​do ​have ​space ​and ​time ​to ​be ​able ​to ​think ​beyond ​surviving ​to ​thriving, ​ ​this ​is ​the ​conversation…”- Nicaila Matthews Okome “If ​you're ​still ​feeling ​on ​the ​fence ​about ​things,  ​I ​think it's ​good ​to ​listen ​to ​that ​survival ​instinct ​in ​you, ​that ​gut ​check and remember ​that just ​because ​something's ​high ​ticket ​doesn't ​mean ​it's ​going ​to ​be ​valuable. You must vet ​the business and ​make ​sure ​it's ​what's ​really ​going ​to ​help ​you ​to ​move ​the ​needle ​in ​your ​business. ​Emphasis ​on ​your.”- Nicaila Matthews Okome “A ​lot ​of ​us ​​actually ​need ​to ​start ​to  ​dismantle ​some ​of ​the ​identities ​we've ​taken ​on ​​unknowingly.” - Nicaila Matthews Okome “We’re walking ​around ​with ​a ​lot ​of ​invisible ​I ​ams ​and ​I'm ​nots​ and ​it's ​about ​doing ​the ​work ​to ​make ​those ​things ​a ​lot ​more ​visible ​to ​you ​so ​that ​you ​can see the one's ​holding you ​back or ​the ​one's keeping  you  ​stuck.” -Monique R. Shields  “Whatever ​it ​is ​that ​you're ​facing ​down ​next, ​whatever ​challenge ​it ​is ​that ​you're ​trying ​to ​take ​on ​or ​figure ​out, you ​don't ​need ​more. ​You're ​not ​deficient ​in ​anything. ​There's ​no ​deficit ​within ​you. ​You ​don't ​need ​to ​take ​on ​anything ​new. ​Tack ​on ​anything ​new. ​Build ​yourself ​up ​more. ​Usually ​you ​need ​to ​release, ​so ​focus ​on ​what ​you ​need ​to ​let ​go and ​let ​that ​be ​your ​energy. ​Let ​yourself ​be released.” -Monique R. Shields   STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an

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  2. AUG 13

    66 | Why Ambitious Women Are So Lonely — with Danielle Bayard Jackson

    Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! In this week's episode, Monique welcomes Danielle Bayard Jackson, a relational health educator, to discuss the complexities of female friendships, particularly for ambitious women of color.  Throughout the conversation, they unpack the three affinities that strengthen female friendships: symmetry, support, and secrecy. Danielle emphasizes the importance of reciprocity and vulnerability, encouraging listeners to embrace their needs and foster deeper connections. Monique and Danielle also address the impact of competition within friendships and how it can create barriers to intimacy. If you are an ambitious woman feeling isolated in your friendships, press play to discover how to cultivate deeper connections and break the cycle of loneliness. GUEST INFO Danielle Bayard Jackson, Women’s Relational Health Educator and Director of the Women’s Relational Health Institute |  Website | Book | Podcast | TikTok | Instagram GEMS DROPPED “​I ​think ​a ​lot ​of ​people ​would ​be ​surprised ​to ​know ​that ​most ​of ​the ​women ​I ​work ​with ​are ​high ​achieving ​women. ​They're ​not ​women ​who ​don't ​have ​social ​skills ​or ​don't ​know ​how ​to ​have ​a ​conversation. ​These ​are ​women ​who ​are ​charismatic, ​​who ​are ​extroverted. ​They ​have ​no ​shortage ​of ​social ​connections, ​but ​it's ​just ​that ​they ​feel ​so ​deeply ​unsatisfied ​with ​the ​connections ​they ​have. ​And ​of ​course, ​this ​is ​something ​that ​they ​are ​harboring ​secretly ​because ​to ​publicly ​announce ​that ​you ​are ​having ​challenges ​with ​what ​other ​people ​think ​should ​come ​so ​naturally ​bring ​some ​sort ​of ​shame. ​And ​it ​also ​detracts ​from ​this ​image ​of ​self-​sufficiency ​that ​an ​ambitious ​woman ​would ​like ​to ​project.” -  Danielle Bayard Jackson “On ​one ​hand, you ​feel ​the ​weight ​of the ​expectations ​that ​we ​place ​on ​each ​other. ​But ​on ​the ​other ​hand, ​it's ​like, ​yes. ​And ​it's ​partially ​for ​really ​good ​reason, ​because ​there's ​so ​much ​available ​when ​we ​can ​reach ​that ​depth ​with ​one ​another ​and ​then ​navigate ​the ​times ​where ​inevitably ​conflict ​strikes.“ - Monique R. Shields “There ​are ​so ​many ​things ​I ​think ​we ​overlook ​when ​it ​comes ​to ​building ​close ​relationships. ​I ​think ​we ​think ​of sharing ​secrets ​and ​being ​vulnerable. ​And ​that's ​all ​true, ​but ​it's ​other ​surprising ​things, ​like navigating ​healthy ​conflicts or ​receiving ​help. ​The ​research ​finds ​that ​that's ​a ​prerequisite ​to ​platonic ​intimacy.” -  Danielle Bayard Jackson “You ​do ​have ​to ​shift ​your ​beliefs ​to ​shift ​your ​behaviors. ​And ​if ​you ​can ​get ​yourself ​into ​this ​practice ​of ​checking ​in ​on your ​values. ​We ​can ​all ​recall ​a ​time ​where ​​we ​had ​the ​good ​feels ​for ​being ​able ​to ​show ​up ​for ​somebody ​else, ​and ​it ​is ​robbing your friends ​of ​that ​experience. ​It's ​a ​gift ​to ​let ​somebody ​give ​to ​you.” - Monique R. Shields STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.

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  3. JUL 30

    65 | Reimagining Success from the Inside Out: Personal Style, Presence, and Possibility — with Pamela Shepard

    Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! How do you dress for the life and legacy you actually want? In this powerful and personal episode, Monique is joined by costume designer, educator, and style visionary Pamela Shepherd, as they unpack what it really means to show up in your full presence. From dressing bodies to shaping identities, Pamela reveals how style becomes a strategy for visibility, authority, and self-reinvention, especially for Black women in leadership. Tune in to hear how Pamela navigated her leap from tech to fashion, what it takes to embrace your own definition of “executive presence,” and why asking for help is the real flex. Together, they explore fashion as liberation, style as storytelling, and the magic of taking up space without apology. If you’ve ever questioned your image, doubted your voice, or wrestled with how to be both authentic and visible, this episode is your call to reimagine what success looks like from the inside out. GUEST INFO Pamela Shepard, Costume ​Designer ​and ​Stylist |  Website | Instagram | FlowWood Costumes (Launching soon!) GEMS DROPPED “For ​those ​of ​us ​who ​are ​designing ​our ​ambitions ​and ​creating ​futures ​that ​maybe ​we ​don't ​have ​an ​example ​for ​in ​our ​household. ​ ​Who ​are ​you ​not ​just ​asking? What ​doors ​are ​you ​not  ​just ​knocking ​on?” - Monique R. Shields “Because ​​I ​work so ​collaboratively, ​I'm ​often ​working ​with ​different ​groups ​of ​people. ​And ​because ​the ​work ​requires ​your ​expertise ​and ​your ​expertise ​and your ​experience ​and ​your ​experience ​and ​your ​experience, I ​think ​that ​it further ​helps ​me ​to ​develop ​the ​muscle ​​when ​it ​comes ​to ​leaning ​on ​others ​for ​what I ​don't ​know. It's ​not ​indicative ​of ​weakness ​or ​lack ​of ​ability ​or ​​really ​anything. ​What ​it's ​indicative ​of ​is ​curiosity.” - Pamela Shepard “One ​way ​that ​you ​signal ​to ​yourself and ​to ​the ​world ​that ​you ​take ​yourself ​seriously ​is ​by ​asking ​for ​help, ​​by ​actually ​leveraging ​the ​relationships ​that ​you ​have ​poured ​into. ​And ​it ​doesn't ​take ​that ​many. ​You ​don't ​have ​to ​know ​the ​world. ​You ​start ​with ​who ​you ​know, ​and ​then ​you, again, ​you ​don't ​know ​who ​they ​know and ​who ​those ​people ​know.” - Monique R. Shields “If I were talking to someone about fashion, I ​think ​my ​first ​question would ​be, ​​where ​do ​you ​spend ​most ​of ​your ​time? Is ​it ​in ​an ​office? ​Is ​it ​at ​home? ​Is ​it  ​in ​transit ​and ​traveling? ​Like, ​what ​does ​the ​look ​of ​your ​life ​look ​like? ​Because ​​I ​think ​that ​sometimes ​we ​feel compelled ​to ​have ​all ​the ​things. Our ​lives ​don't ​really ​call ​for ​all ​the ​things.” - Pamela Shepard  “There ​is ​part ​of ​the ​work ​that ​is ​just listening ​to ​people, ​checking ​in ​with ​people, ​seeing ​how ​they're ​doing, and ​listening ​to ​what ​they're ​saying, ​because ​I ​think ​that ​can ​help ​inform, ​the ​decisions ​of ​the ​pieces we're ​choosing ​and ​moving ​forward. And ​so ​​just ​encouraging ​people ​to ​be ​brave ​and ​trying ​to ​put ​on ​the ​things ​that ​embody ​how ​they ​see ​themselves.” - Pamela Shepard  “Your ​clothes ​are ​not ​going ​to ​give ​you ​executive ​presence. ​They ​can ​be ​a ​reflection ​of ​the ​presence ​that ​you ​already ​​carry, ​that ​you ​already ​exude, ​but ​the ​clothes ​can't ​give ​it ​to ​you .” - Monique R. Shields STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an

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  4. JUL 16

    64 | When the World Hurts, Is It OK to Keep Building?

    Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! Reflecting on her time at the ROI Millionaire Summit, Monique shares the profound inspiration she gained from connecting with like-minded individuals dedicated to closing the wealth gap for marginalized communities. As she transitions from the empowering atmosphere of the summit back to the harsh realities of the world, Monique grapples with feelings of guilt and confusion about her role in the larger scheme of things. Join in as she shares her journey of navigating these conflicting emotions and the grounding moment she had when she observed a trail of ants marching diligently across her  driveway. The ants remind her to stay connected, support others, and remain focused on our collective goals.  Join in as she explores these themes and ways to find encouragement in our shared experiences. GEMS DROPPED “​I ​think ​that's ​the ​thing ​that's so ​compelling ​to ​me ​about ​ants ​is ​that they ​lead ​these ​lives, each ​one ​of ​them ​has ​a ​role. ​There's ​a ​very ​specific,  ​sort ​of ​caste ​system ​within, ​​ant ​colonies ​where ​you ​have ​a ​specific ​role. ​Are ​you ​a soldier,  ​protector, scouts, nurse, worker, forager? ​They ​play ​these ​very ​specific ​roles ​and ​it's ​like, ​play ​your ​role. ​It's ​like ​they ​know ​what ​lane ​they're ​in. ​They ​know ​what ​their ​mission ​is. ​They ​know ​what ​their ​purpose ​is. ​Like, ​I ​exist ​to ​do ​this, ​therefore ​I ​do ​it.” “I ​hope ​that ​that's ​encouragement ​to ​anyone ​else ​who ​is ​feeling ​in ​any ​way ​destabilized ​emotionally, ​or ​otherwise ​by ​what ​is ​going ​on ​around ​us…​to ​remind ​yourself ​in ​those ​moments ​that ​they ​are ​moments, ​they ​are ​fears, ​and ​they ​can ​come, ​they ​can ​pass ​through, but ​that ​doesn't ​mean ​you're ​confused ​about ​who ​you ​are. ​​That ​does ​not ​mean ​you're ​confused ​about ​what ​you're ​here ​​to ​do, ​what ​your ​purpose ​is, ​what ​you ​were ​literally ​built ​for. If ​you ​stop ​playing ​your ​role, ​then ​the ​colony ​fails, ​the ​community ​fails, ​the ​family ​fails.”  “It's ​such ​an ​illusion ​to ​believe ​that ​you ​are ​playing ​every ​role ​that ​you ​play, ​every ​position ​on ​whatever ​field ​you're ​trying ​to ​play, ​as ​we're ​out ​here ​building ​and, ​trying ​to ​advance ​ourselves ​in ​our ​communities, ​that ​you're ​ever ​supposed ​to ​do ​it ​alone ​and ​that ​you ​ever ​have ​it ​all ​covered. ​You ​don't, ​you ​don't. And ​that's ​a ​reason ​why ​​our ​bodies ​start ​to ​suffer, ​our ​psyches ​start ​to ​suffer, ​because ​you ​were ​never ​meant ​to ​be ​everything, ​every ​person, ​​playing ​every ​role ​for ​everyone. ​We ​were ​not ​actually ​built ​to ​do ​this.” “I ​find ​so ​much ​peace ​and ​encouragement ​by ​observing nature ​​when ​I ​feel ​lost ​in ​human ​nonsense…By observing ​these ​creatures, ​these ​animals ​who ​are ​still ​doing ​​the ​same ​behavior, ​still ​exhibiting ​the ​same ​behaviors ​and ​instincts ​that ​their ​ancient ​ancestors ​were, because ​they're ​just ​being ​what ​they're ​supposed ​to ​be. ​​And ​that ​helps ​me ​to ​be ​guided ​by ​an ​inner ​wiring, in ​a ​collective ​rhythm.” “All ​this ​surrounds ​identity ​and ​who ​it ​is ​that ​every ​day ​we ​have ​to ​examine ​and ​decide ​who ​we are? ​Who ​are ​we ​being in every ​conversation ​and ​every ​time ​we ​show ​up ​and ​knowing ​that ​we're ​never ​going ​to ​get ​it “right”. ​We're ​never ​going ​to ​get ​it ​perfectly, ​but ​to ​stay ​in ​it. ​To ​stay ​in ​the examination ​of ​it. ​To ​stay ​in ​the ​curiosity around ​it ​and ​to ​do ​our ​damn ​best, ​y' ​all.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedba

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  5. JUL 2

    63 | Healing the Hustle: Finding Freedom in Feminine Wisdom with Dené Logan

    Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! Tune in as Dené Logan joins Monique to explore the dynamics of feminine and masculine energy and how they impact our relationships and personal growth. They explore how these dynamics shape our identities, relationships, and ambitions in a world that often demands we suppress our true selves.  As high-achieving women, we often find ourselves caught between the demands of our professional lives and the yearning for personal fulfillment. Monique and  Dené tackle the realities of motherhood, the pressure to conform to societal expectations, and the challenges of maintaining intimacy in relationships. They discuss the significance of vulnerability and the power of asking for help, emphasizing that true strength lies in embracing our feminine essence. Don’t miss out on this enlightening conversation that encourages us all to reclaim our joy, creativity, and connection to one another. GUEST INFO Dené Logan Marriage and Family Therapist, a group facilitator, and an author of Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within | Website | Instagram GEMS DROPPED “All ​the ​things ​like ​wounded, ​masculine ​energetic ​quality, ​afraid ​of ​fear…all ​of ​those ​are ​human ​qualities. ​They're ​not ​necessarily ​bad, but ​when ​they ​become ​the ​paradigm from where ​we ​are ​operating ​from ​as ​a ​baseline, ​which ​I ​would ​say ​our ​culture ​really ​does ​value ​things ​that ​are ​sort ​of ​wounded ​masculine ​qualities ​or ​ways ​of ​being,​ ​then ​they ​become ​distortions. ​They ​really ​are ​us ​operating ​with ​our ​wounds ​​versus ​in ​that ​conscious ​space ​of ​’how ​do ​I ​want ​to ​respond ​based ​on what ​is ​coming ​up ​for ​me’ ​and ​’what ​is ​the ​truth ​of ​how ​I ​want ​to ​show ​up ​in ​this ​moment?’ ” -  Dené Logan “As ​grateful ​as ​we ​all ​are ​for ​the ​modern ​feminist ​movement, ​I ​think ​there's ​a ​way ​that ​what ​we ​were ​really ​taught ​to ​embrace ​​was ​a ​lot ​of ​wounded ​masculine ​energy. That, ​we ​can ​do ​everything ​that ​men ​can ​do. ​We ​can ​show ​up ​and ​work ​like ​men ​and ​make ​ourselves ​sick. ​Productivity ​at ​all ​costs. ​All ​these ​things ​that ​if ​we ​really ​think ​about ​them ​aren't ​necessarily ​healthy ​qualities ​for ​anyone. ​​But ​in ​order ​for ​us ​to ​sort ​of ​be ​competitive ​in ​the ​workplace ​and ​feel ​like ​we ​have ​a ​seat ​at ​the ​table, ​​so ​many ​of ​us ​were ​conditioned ​to ​reject ​what ​would ​be ​​some ​of ​our ​healthy ​feminine ​characteristics ​like ​trust ​in ​life,​ and ​receptivity , ​and ​our ​willingness ​to ​be ​vulnerable. ​So for ​a ​lot ​of ​us, ​those ​things ​can ​be ​really ​hard ​for ​us ​to ​recalibrate ​into ​stepping ​into ​or ​accepting ​within ​ourselves.”  -  Dené Logan “So ​many ​things ​in ​our ​society ​are ​just a ​reaction to ​​this ​fear ​of ​the ​feminine ​essence. The ​feminine ​spirit and ​so much ​of ​what ​we're ​experiencing ​day ​to ​day ​is ​rooted ​in ​that ​fear.​ We're ​just ​so ​terrified ​of it.” - Monique R. Shields “Wounded ​masculinity ​is basically ​a ​kind ​of ​a ​fear ​based ​state, it ​cuts ​you ​off ​from ​creativity ​and ​that's what ​the ​healthy ​feminine ​is ​all ​about- ​creativity ​and ​being ​in ​your ​creative ​mode.” - Monique R. Shields STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.

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  6. JUN 18

    62 | Why We're Sabotaging Our Future Selves

    Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! What if the key to unlocking your future self lies in how you treat her today?  In this inspiring episode, Monique introduces the transformative concept of embodying your future self right now. Drawing from a powerful talk by Hal Hirschfeld, she explores the importance of developing a relationship with your future self and how this connection can guide your actions today. Monique challenges the common notion of 'winning tomorrow tonight' and instead encourages you to cultivate a mindset that prioritizes being held, healthy, and whole. Join Monique on this journey and learn how to make choices today that honor the vibrant, successful version of yourself you aspire to be. Tune in now! MENTIONED 55 | When You Do The Most But Expect The Least: Letting Go Of Shrinking Yourself GEMS DROPPED “Making ​​tomorrow ​better ​today ​requires ​a ​commitment ​to ​certain ​rituals, ​certain ​behaviors ​​and ​it's ​in ​service of an ​investment ​in ​the ​version ​of ​you ​that ​will ​exist ​tomorrow ​because ​you've ​set ​her up ​for ​success. ​And ​those ​things ​are ​important.” “We ​are ​struggling ​to ​occupy ​our ​future ​state ​of ​ourselves because ​we ​have ​no ​relationship ​with ​her. It’s like ​why ​would ​I ​sacrifice ​for ​you? ​I ​don't ​know ​you, ​girl. ​I ​don't ​know ​you.” “There's ​different ​levels ​to ​when ​we ​talk ​about ​feeling ​embodied. ​I ​think ​it's ​like ​past, ​present ​and ​future ​self ​embodiment. ​There's ​something ​here ​that ​is ​moving ​across ​the ​dimensions ​of ​our ​life, ​not ​just ​today, ​that's ​really ​important.” “Sacrifices ​are ​the ​hard-charging ​things ​that ​we ​do–the ​ways ​that ​we ​push ​ourselves ​harder ​to ​create ​a ​better ​future ​tomorrow. ​Sometimes ​the ​push, ​the ​really ​hard ​push ​is ​actually ​a ​deep ​​releasing ​of ​an ​attachment ​that ​we ​have ​today, ​or ​a ​belief ​that ​is ​actually ​holding ​our ​future ​self ​back.  ​Sometimes ​the ​sacrifice ​is ​a ​gift.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.

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  7. JUN 4

    61 | Unpacking Uncertainty And Taking Risks

    Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! In this week's episode, Monique tackles the complex relationship between risk and ambition, especially for women of color. Through compelling stories she illustrates the emotional turmoil that can accompany the pursuit of dreams and the importance of acknowledging and processing those feelings. She also emphasizes the power of self-awareness and creativity in overcoming fear and finding clarity in uncertain times.  Join in to discover how to redefine your understanding of risk and unlock your true potential.  GEMS DROPPED “We ​will ​use ​the ​past ​to ​try ​to ​predict ​the ​future. ​Right. ​Because ​this ​is ​the ​thing ​with ​the ​women ​that ​I ​work ​with, ​they're ​not ​just ​saying, ‘​well, ​I'm ​scared ​of ​taking ​risks, ​so ​I ​don't ​even ​consider ​it’. You ​keep ​approaching ​the ​idea ​of ​taking ​those ​risks, ​but ​it's ​kind ​of ​torturing ​you ​because ​you ​keep ​approaching ​it, ​and ​then ​you ​keep ​hitting ​a ​wall. ​Everything ​feels ​too ​scary and ​so ​you're ​like, ​well, ​let ​me ​kind ​of ​think ​through my ​past–right? ​So ​there's ​this ​formula, ​and ​it ​feels ​like ​an ​airtight ​formula, ​and ​that's ​where ​we ​kind ​of ​get ​trapped, because if one or ​two ​of ​those ​variables ​feel ​off, you’re like ‘​ooh, ​the ​risk ​of ​failure ​is ​now ​high’. That ​automatically ​shuts ​us ​down.” “Where ​do ​you ​have ​space ​to ​actually ​stop ​and ​feel? ​​You ​typically ​don't. And ​things ​are ​often ​happening ​fast. ​So ​you're ​trying ​to ​react, ​you're ​trying ​to ​think. ​You ​haven't ​gotten ​yourself ​any ​space, ​any ​room ​to ​feel ​what ​you're ​actually ​feeling. ​And ​that ​is ​what's ​keeping ​you ​trapped ​in ​that ​merry ​go ​round. ​There's ​no ​creativity ​available ​to ​you ​in that ​space because ​you're ​just ​trapped ​in ​cyclical, ​fear ​based ​thinking.” “​I ​challenge ​you, if ​you're ​sitting ​with ​this ​kind ​of ​indecision, ​this ​fear ​around ​risk ​and ​this ​story, ​ ​to ​take ​a ​moment ​and ​see ​if ​you ​can, ​​which ​I ​know ​you ​can, ​​embrace ​the ​belief ​that ​I ​am ​someone ​who ​takes ​incredible ​risk ​​and ​finds ​success. ​I ​am ​the ​great ​I ​am. ​I ​am ​someone ​​who ​takes ​incredible ​risks ​and ​finds ​great ​success. ​ ​What ​would ​it ​be ​like ​to ​embrace ​that? ​​What ​are ​your ​earliest ​memories ​where ​that ​is ​true?” “You ​cannot ​access creativity ​if ​the conditions ​that ​you ​have ​created ​for ​yourself ​to ​be ​creative ​have ​not ​been ​set.” “Sometimes ​the ​way ​that ​we ​protect ​our ​imaginations is with our ​creativity, ​right? ​That's ​where ​it ​all ​flows ​from ​by ​allowing ​what ​is ​​arising ​in ​us that ​is ​keeping ​us ​stuck…​allowing ​it ​to ​flow ​through ​us ​and ​to ​inform ​us ​about ​any ​limitations ​that ​we're ​placing ​on ​ourselves, ​​any ​lies ​that ​we're ​telling ​ourselves, ​any ​old ​stories ​that ​are ​coming ​up ​and ​distorting how ​we ​believe, ​how ​we ​believe ​we ​can ​exist ​and ​what ​we ​believe ​that ​we ​can ​have. ​That's ​another ​way ​of ​protecting ​our ​imaginations.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.

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  8. MAY 21

    60 | Too Busy to Dream: When the Work That Made You Successful Starts Holding You Back

    Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! What if the version of leadership that got you here is the very thing keeping you stuck? It’s time to grow and expand—not so you can carry more, but so you can finally live out your dream without the weight that’s been holding you back. Join Monique as she speaks directly to high-achieving women like you—navigating the tension between your professional obligations and your personal ambitions. This isn’t about finding another tactic or quick fix. It’s about shifting your identity, cultivating an abundant mindset, and setting boundaries that protect your time and energy. When you do that, you’ll start to reclaim your vision and attract the kind of opportunities that truly align with who you are becoming. Monique’s insights and strategies are here to help you break free from what’s no longer working and step boldly into the future you know is waiting for you. GEMS DROPPED “You've ​always ​known ​that ​where ​you're ​at ​right ​now ​is ​a ​stepping ​stone ​place. ​And ​​it ​may ​have ​given ​you ​really ​specific important ​things, but it's ​not ​meant ​to ​be your ​forever ​place, ​and ​you ​know ​that.” “Because ​you're ​on ​this ​hamster ​wheel ​every ​day, it diminishes ​your vision, and ​it ​shrinks ​your ​capacity ​to ​exist ​as ​bigger.” “Growing ​your ​skills ​to ​the ​point ​where ​you ​can ​now ​possess ​the ​dream. ​That's ​not ​actually ​how ​it ​works. ​You ​have ​to ​grow, ​expand ​yourself ​so ​that ​you ​begin ​to ​live ​out ​the ​dream. ​You ​begin ​to ​attract ​the ​dream.​ It ​begins ​to ​build ​within ​you ​and ​around ​you ​because ​you're ​operating ​that ​way.” “I ​honestly ​don't ​​care ​who ​it ​is ​that ​is ​listening ​to ​my ​voice ​right ​now. ​If ​you're ​my ​girl and ​you're ​considering ​becoming ​better and expanding ​in ​your ​leadership, ​delegation ​is ​going ​to ​be ​a ​thing ​for ​you. ​Because ​we, ​as ​women, are ​actually ​socialized ​against ​delegation. ​We ​are ​socialized ​to ​show ​up ​for ​everybody ​in ​every ​way, ​for ​everything and ​so ​becoming ​better ​at delegating ​is ​absolutely ​something ​that ​we ​need ​to ​do. ​But ​here's ​the ​problem, getting ​better ​at ​delegating ​or ​delegate ​more ​is ​not ​the ​advice ​you ​need. ​What ​you ​need ​is ​the ​space ​to ​occupy a ​more ​abundant boss ​mindset.” “This ​being ​too ​busy ​to ​connect ​with ​our ​dreams-the ​solving ​for ​the ​busyness, ​it ​does ​have ​to ​happen ​first. ​Like, ​you ​cannot, ​​you're ​not ​going ​to ​connect ​with ​an ​authentic ​dream ​from ​a ​place ​that ​feels rushed ​and ​constrained ​and ​overwhelmed ​and ​tight. ​Like, ​that's ​not ​the ​place ​that ​you ​want ​to ​be ​dreaming ​from. ​So ​we ​do ​have ​to ​solve ​for ​this ​first. But ​what ​I'm ​trying ​to ​say ​is ​that ​the ​solve ​starts ​at ​the ​identity ​level. ​The ​solve ​does ​not ​start ​at ​the ​tactics ​and ​the ​tricks.” “​This ​is ​not ​about ​becoming ​better ​at ​carrying ​all ​these ​things ​that ​are ​just ​too ​much. ​It's ​about ​showing ​up ​in ​a ​way ​that ​protects ​you ​from more ​and ​more ​of ​the ​nonsense, ​and ​shifts ​you ​into ​a ​being ​that ​attracts ​the ​dream.” EPISODES MENTIONED Ep 15: Learning To Dream First Ep 3: What Are You Playing For? STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.  CLA

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Ambition Without Compromise is the space where powerhouse women of color — with a special heart for Black mothers and future mothers — come to redefine success on their own terms. Hosted by Monique R. Shields, executive coach, entrepreneur, and mentor to women at the highest levels of leadership, this podcast dives into the real challenges women face when juggling bold professional pursuits with the responsibilities of being present partners, mothers, and whole, healthy individuals. Through honest conversations and powerful stories, you’ll gain insights on: Balancing ambition and freedom without burnoutCrafting sustainable work-life integrationProtecting your mental and emotional well-beingBuilding intentional communities and seeking mentorship for growthWhether you're scaling your business, stepping into a higher leadership role, or simply seeking clarity about what success means now, this show offers the tools and stories to help you thrive without compromise. Follow Monique wherever you listen to podcasts and step into a world where ambition and joy can coexist.

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