The Autism Mom Coach

Lisa Candera
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Do you sometimes feel like your life has been hijacked by Autism? If so, this is the podcast for you. The Autism Mom Coach is a podcast for moms who feel overwhelmed, afraid, and sometimes powerless as they raise their child with Autism. Join your host, Lisa Candera, Certified Life Coach, lawyer, and (more importantly) full-time single mom to a teenage boy with Autism as she shares cognitive-based tools and trauma-informed strategies you can use to feel better now and transform your relationship with Autism and special needs parenting. The truth is, Autism is not in charge of your life, YOU are, and you have more power than you think. Visit theautismmomcoach.com for more information

  1. 5d ago

    Autism Meltdown or Manipulation? 3 Ways to Tell the Difference (Ep 207)

    Is your autistic child having a meltdown or manipulating you to get what they want? The difference between an autism meltdown and manipulation is rarely as clear as parents are led to believe, especially when the behavior involves yelling, refusing, demanding, aggression, or a complete loss of control. In this episode, I share three ways to evaluate whether your child is melting down or manipulating you and explain why your response matters more than choosing the perfect label. In this episode, you’ll learn: What happens after your child gets the item or outcome they were demanding.How to tell whether your child is still in control of their behavior.Why the absence of a possible payoff may signal genuine distress. You may never know exactly where manipulation ends and an autistic meltdown begins. The more useful question is whether your response helps your child regain control or adds more pressure to an already difficult situation. When you manage your own reaction first, you are better able to respond with focus, consistency, and effectiveness.

    19 min

  2. Jun 30

    Will My Child With Autism Outgrow Meltdowns? The Answer is in the Question

    Whether you have a three-year-old and you're hoping to nip it in the bud or a teenager you assume should know better by now, the same question keeps surfacing: will my child outgrow meltdowns? In this episode Lisa answers it head-on by separating tantrums, which children do outgrow, from autism meltdowns, which are neurological and don't simply disappear with age. In this episode, you'll learn:Why tantrums, which are behavioral and goal-driven, are outgrown as kids mature, while meltdowns, a neurological response to overwhelm, are not.Why the expectation that a child "should" have outgrown meltdowns sets parents up to feel like failures, and how to hold acceptance and skill-building at the same time.How meltdowns evolve rather than vanish, sometimes turning inward as anxiety or withdrawal and sometimes increasing as the demands of age rise. Resources mentioned:Free Training: Reduce Meltdowns by 50% This WeekSchedule a consultation with LisaThe Autism Mom Coach Related episodes:Autism Meltdowns: The #1 Mistake Parents Make (Ep #200) Autism Tantrums vs. Meltdowns

    16 min
  3. Ep. 205 Meltdown Hangover: 10 Ways to Recover After an Autism Meltdown

    Jun 18

    Ep. 205 Meltdown Hangover: 10 Ways to Recover After an Autism Meltdown

    Last week Lisa named the meltdown hangover. This week she gets practical. In this episode of The Autism Mom Coach, the second of a two-part series, Lisa shares ten specific, science-backed things you can do to avoid, interrupt, or shorten the emotional and physical fallout that lingers after a meltdown. From creating space and getting outside to cold water, movement, hydration, and the way you talk to yourself, these are concrete tools to help your own nervous system reset, because staying calm as an autism mom is real work, not a personal failing. In this episode, you'll learn:Practical, body-based ways to interrupt your stress response after a meltdown, including stepping away without a dramatic exit, getting outside, cold water on your face or wrists, movement, hydration, and a protein snack.Why sensory reduction and comfort measures matter as much for you as they do for your child, since your nervous system as an autism mom is under regular strain and deserves the same care you give your kid.How thought redirection and constructive self-talk keep you from spiraling back into the stress response, including the "I'm having the thought that" technique and growing a kinder inner voice. Resources mentioned:Free Training: Reduce Meltdowns by 50% This WeekSchedule a consultation with LisaThe Autism Mom CoachDr. Kristin Neff Related episodes:The Meltdown Hangover, Part One (Ep #204)The #1 Meltdown Mistake Autism Parents Make (And How to Stop) (Ep #200)The Autism Behavior Barometer: A Better Way to Understand Meltdowns (Ep #130)

    21 min

  4. Jun 10

    Meltdown Hangovers: Why Autism Moms Feel So Burnt Out After a Meltdown (Ep. #204)

    The meltdown ends, but for autism moms, the aftermath lingers. In this episode of The Autism Mom Coach, the first of a two-part series, Lisa names what she calls the meltdown hangover: the emotional, mental, and physical fallout that can outlast the meltdown itself by hours, days, or even weeks. Drawing on her own experience with homework meltdowns and her son's perfectionism, she walks through the telltale signs (exhaustion, shame and guilt, rumination, anxiety, and grief) and explains why, unlike a regular hangover, this one runs on your own thoughts and can stretch on as long as you let it. The goal this week is simple awareness, the necessary first step before next week's strategies for recovery. In this episode, you'll learn:What a "meltdown hangover" is and its five common signs (exhaustion, shame and guilt, rumination, anxiety, and grief), drawn from Lisa's own life and her coaching clients.Why meltdown hangovers can last far longer than a regular hangover, since the symptoms are largely your own thoughts, and how staying stuck in them can keep you chronically depleted between meltdowns.A set of reflective questions to help you identify your personal hangover symptoms, from your energy and emotions right afterward to how kind or scolding your inner voice is. Resources mentioned:Free Training: Reduce Meltdowns by 50% This WeekSchedule a consultation with LisaThe Autism Mom Coach

    12 min

  5. May 27

    Ep. 203: How to Handle Autism Meltdowns Like a Pro | Before, During, and After Autism Meltdown Strategy

    Autism meltdowns can take over your home, your schedule, and your confidence as a parent. In this episode of The Autism Mom Coach Podcast, Lisa Candera shares the exact Before, During, and After process she developed through years of parenting her autistic son and coaching autism moms through meltdowns. Most parents get stuck in the same cycle: trying to prevent every meltdown and then scrambling to shut one down as quickly as possible once it starts. The problem is that urgency often adds fuel to the fire. In this episode, Lisa explains how preparation, a clear plan, and post-meltdown reflection can completely change the way you handle autism meltdowns. If you have ever felt exhausted, reactive, or like you are walking on eggshells waiting for the next meltdown, this episode gives you practical strategies you can use immediately. In this episode, you'll learn: ✔ Why meltdown preparation starts before behaviors begin ✔ How your own triggers affect your responses ✔ What to do during an autism meltdown to reduce escalation ✔ Why urgency and panic often make meltdowns worse ✔ How to recover after a meltdown without carrying guilt for days ✔ Lisa’s Before, During, and After meltdown framework About Lisa Candera: Lisa Candera is founder of The Autism Mom Coach, mother to an 18-year-old son with autism, and has coached over 100 autism moms. She teaches emotional regulation, practical meltdown support strategies, and tools that help parents stay steady during some of autism parenting’s hardest moments.

    14 min

  6. May 20

    Ep. 202: Sneaky Ways You May Be Escalating Your Autistic Child's Meltdowns

    Are you accidentally making your autistic child’s meltdowns worse without realizing it? In this episode of The Autism Mom Coach Podcast, Lisa Candera shares common parenting responses that can unintentionally escalate or prolong autism meltdowns. During meltdowns, parents often react from stress, urgency, and survival mode. Talking too much, making threats, changing tone, using sarcasm, or reacting emotionally can add more fuel to an already overwhelmed nervous system. Lisa breaks down the subtle ways parents contribute to escalation and shares practical shifts that support co-regulation and emotional steadiness. If you are parenting an autistic child and feel exhausted, reactive, or unsure during meltdowns, this episode provides actionable strategies you can start using immediately. In this episode, you'll learn: ✔ Why talking too much during a meltdown increases overwhelm ✔ How threats and consequences can intensify escalation ✔ Why your tone and nervous system matter more than your words ✔ How sarcasm and frustration affect autistic children ✔ The role of emotional reactions during meltdowns ✔ Practical ways to support regulation during autism meltdowns About Lisa Candera: Lisa Candera is founder of The Autism Mom Coach, mom to an 18-year-old son with autism, and has coached over 100 autism moms. She teaches emotional regulation, practical meltdown strategies, and support for moms navigating the realities of autism parenting.

    14 min

  7. May 13

    Ep. 201: The Most Important Autism Meltdown Strategy

    In this episode, Lisa Candera breaks down the single most important skill autism moms need during meltdowns: learning how to regulate themselves first. After years of trying to prevent every autism meltdowns, Lisa shares the shift that changed everything for her parenting and coaching: moving from control and prevention to preparation and co-regulation. Lisa explains the concept of the “Solid Object,” a framework that helped her navigate severe dysregulation, aggression, and self-harm during her son’s teen years. In This Episode, You’ll LearnWhy focusing only on meltdown prevention puts unrealistic pressure on autism momsHow your nervous system impacts your child during dysregulationWhat it means to become the “Solid Object” during a meltdownWhy staying perfectly calm is not the goalHow co-regulation can reduce meltdown intensity and duration over timeWhy autism moms need support focused on themselves, not just behavior strategiesThe difference between controlling behavior and influencing behavior through grounded leadership Lisa’s TakeawayFor years, I believed the answer was finding the perfect strategy to prevent every meltdown. What actually changed my life was learning how to regulate myself while my son was dysregulated. That shift helped me stop escalating situations and start parenting from a grounded place instead of fear and urgency. Links MentionedThe Autism Mom Coach Website: https://theautismmomcoach.com Schedule a Consultation with Lisa Candera: https://talkwiththeautismmomcoach.as.me/ Free Training: Reduce Autism Meltdowns By 50% This Week Get it here:https://linktr.ee/TheAutismMomCoach

    12 min

  8. May 6

    Ep. 200: The #1 Meltdown Mistake You Are Making and How to Stop It

    In episode 200 of Autism Mom Coach, Lisa Candera shares the biggest mistake many autism parents make: putting all their energy into preventing meltdowns instead of preparing for them. She explains that meltdowns are a form of nervous system dysregulation, often driven by autism-related challenges like sensory overload, communication difficulties, low frustration tolerance, impulsivity, and executive functioning struggles. Because of this, meltdowns can still happen—even when you’ve done “all the right things.” Lisa breaks down the difference between meltdowns and tantrums, emphasizing that meltdowns are not something kids can simply turn on and off. She also shares a relatable example of a child melting down over a peanut butter substitution after a day filled with unexpected changes—highlighting how small moments are often the tipping point, not the root cause. Her key shift: let go of the belief that meltdowns shouldn’t happen. Instead, focus on being prepared to handle them, using the mindset: “I can handle this, even if I don’t want to.” Timestamps: 00:00 – Episode 200 Intro 00:23 – Lisa’s Story 01:53 – Why Meltdowns Are Misread 03:23 – Meltdown vs. Tantrum 03:40 – Autism and Dysregulation 04:43 – Why Prevention Fails 05:35 – Peanut Butter Case Study 07:43 – The Real Mistake 08:52 – Shift to Preparation 09:54 – Mindset and Recovery 11:34 – Free Training Offer 12:20 – Wrap Up

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Do you sometimes feel like your life has been hijacked by Autism? If so, this is the podcast for you. The Autism Mom Coach is a podcast for moms who feel overwhelmed, afraid, and sometimes powerless as they raise their child with Autism. Join your host, Lisa Candera, Certified Life Coach, lawyer, and (more importantly) full-time single mom to a teenage boy with Autism as she shares cognitive-based tools and trauma-informed strategies you can use to feel better now and transform your relationship with Autism and special needs parenting. The truth is, Autism is not in charge of your life, YOU are, and you have more power than you think. Visit theautismmomcoach.com for more information

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  • Creator
    Lisa Candera
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    209
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Lisa Candera
  • Show Website
    The Autism Mom Coach

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