Becoming Whole

Regeneration Ministries

Relationships and sexuality are areas of life that can be beautiful or confusing, life-giving, or painful. Becoming Whole is a conversational podcast for men, women, and families seeking to draw nearer to Jesus as they navigate topics like sexual integrity, relational healing, spiritual health, and so much more.

  1. 2D AGO

    Church Culture and Sexuality

    Send a text In this episode, our hosts share what they hear most from clients who love their local church yet feel stuck. Either sex is never addressed; it shows up as a quick “thou shalt not” list, or the tone implies “if you struggle, you’re bad.” We also explore the website dilemma: when clarity is loving, when vagueness backfires, and how a perceived bait-and-switch can retraumatize people who already fear rejection. If you’re a pastor, a small group leader, or a church member who wants to help, listen and then share this with someone you trust. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what would it look like for your church to become a safer place to grow sexually whole? Show Notes BWP: There’s no such thing as heterosexuality Luke 5:1-11 describes the miraculous catch of fish, followed by Peter’s plea, “Depart from me, Lord, for I am a sinful man,” and Jesus’ invitational response, “Follow me, and I will make you a fisher of men.”Brief synopsis of Side A, B, X, and Y beliefs:Side A - God made people LGBT+ and affirms LGBT+ sexual identities, desires, behaviors, and social structures. Side B - God forbids same-sex sexual expression, so LGBT+ people should abstain from LGBT+ sexual behavior. However, there are a variety of reasons that it is good for those who experience non-heteronormative feelings to embrace LGBT+ identities. Side X - LGBT+ feelings and attractions are a result of childhood wounds and/or underdeveloped masculinity or femininity, so these inclinations can be changed with appropriate interventions. LGBT+ feelings and attractions should not serve as an identity marker for Christians. Side Y - LGBT+ feelings and attractions may or may not be a result of wounds; they may or may not change, but they should not serve as an identity marker for Christians. Like all Christians, those with same-sex attractions are called either to faithfulness in heterosexual marriage or abstinence in singleness. Regeneration’s view (which we believe more accurately aligns with orthodox Christianity through the ages):  God’s sexual design for humanity is both biological and theological: Biologically, men and women’s bodies are oriented toward the other in design—each with one sexual organ procreatively designed through sexual union with the other sex. Theologically, men's and women’s bodies are designed to image God. One distinct part of this design is that the marital sexual union is meant to point to the ultimate spiritual union between Christ and his bride, the Church. Whether single or married, all Christians are called to Christlikeness, which requ 🗓️ Upcoming: You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole: 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    41 min
  2. MAR 10

    There’s No Such Thing As Heterosexuality

    Send a text What if the way we talk about sexuality is the very thing keeping us stuck? We trace the surprising origins of “heterosexual” and “homosexual,” unpack why those categories took hold, and explore how turning desires into identity reshaped culture, conscience, and the church. We draw from Michael Hannon’s “Against Heterosexuality” and Michel Foucault’s history of sexuality to show how an invented binary promised clarity but delivered confusion, shame, and pride. We share why language isn’t neutral—names create lenses—and how the orientation frame quietly shifted moral questions from action and virtue to inner self-analysis. For those who experience same-sex desire, we acknowledge the weight of being told a label is who you are. For those who consider themselves “straight,” we challenge the complacency that excuses lust as normal and forgets that chastity is for everyone. Together, we re-center three layers: desires that need formation, behaviors that shape us, and an identity received from the One who made us male and female with purpose. If this resonates, share it with a friend, subscribe for more episodes, and leave a review with the one question you still want us to tackle. Resources from this episode: Article reference: Against Heterosexuality - First Things by Michael W. Hannon 🗓️ Upcoming: You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole: 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    47 min
  3. MAR 3

    Navigating Romance & Fantasy

    Send a text What if your imagination isn’t a liability but a lifeline? We open a candid conversation about fantasy, romance, and the deep longings that quietly direct our relationships with ourselves, others, and God. Rather than treating desire like a problem to fix, we treat it like a compass—one that often points to unmet needs for being seen, soothed, safe, and secure. Join us, get curious, and take the next brave step. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review. Also, we want to hear from you. What is your longing pointing you toward? Resources from this episode: Unwanted Intensive Stuck in unwanted sexual behaviors and wondering, “How did I get here—and how do I get out?” Regeneration is launching our next Men’s Small Group Intensive, based on Unwanted, designed for men ready to go deeper in recovery. Over 8 weeks, you’ll: Engage your story with curiosity and compassionIdentify patterns that keep you stuckShift from a “freedom from” mindset to a “freedom for” lifeExperience deeper healing, connection, and wholeness🗓 April 7 – May 26 🕐 Tuesdays | 1–3 pm ET (Zoom)  👥 Limited to 6 men | High-support, high-accountability Led by Aaron Tagert, Certified Unwanted Guide 👉Sign-up for Unwanted Intensive Healing Through Story Discover how your story has shaped your life and how it connects to your unwanted sexual behavior.This is an 8-week course to help you learn the structure of your story, how to share your story, and, in turn, learn the power of your story.  🗓 April 20 – June 22 🕐 Mondays | 7–8:30 pm 👉Sign-up for Healing Through Story 🗓️ Upcoming: You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole: 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    58 min
  4. FEB 24

    Isolation

    Send a text Shame, Isolation, and Why Community Is the Opposite of Addiction  Join us in today’s episode as I (James Craig) sit down with Regen coach Aaron Tagert to talk about what keeps people stuck in addictive cycles—especially around porn and unwanted sexual behaviors. Aaron shares three major drivers he’ll cover in an upcoming men’s webinar: shame, isolation, and the uncomfortable truth that there can be something about porn that part of us “likes.”  We focus mainly on isolation, pulling from Marcus Warner’s "Slaying the Monster" and the idea that the opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety—it’s community.  We unpack how isolation turns suffering into trauma, how many wounds happen in relationships, yet healing also comes through relationships, and why belonging matters more than accountability.  We also get practical with four simple ways to start building community—smile, validate, help, and share—, and we invite men to Regeneration's live webinar on March 5th. If this helps you, share it with someone who feels alone in the struggle. Resources from this episode: BATTLE podcast Slaying the Monster bookTED talk on addiction 🗓️ Upcoming: You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole: 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    46 min
  5. FEB 17

    From Shame To Realignment

    Send a text Repentance doesn’t have to sound like a finger wag. We explore a better way: turning as realignment with God’s character and kingdom. Especially for those worn out by “just stop it” advice or guilt-heavy apologies that never seem to change anything. Drawing on the idea of metanoia—the turning of the mind—we share how repentance becomes a process shaped by what we feed our attention, who we walk with, and how we pray with our bodies when desire runs hot, and feelings run cold. If repentance as realignment sounds like good news you could live with, press play. Then share this episode with a friend who needs hope, subscribe for more, and leave a review to help others find their way into freedom. Resources from this episode: 7 Hebrew Words For Praise.pdf 🗓️ Upcoming: You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole: 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    47 min
  6. FEB 10

    Sexual Integrity Requires Confidence

    Send a text What if the missing piece in recovery and marriage isn’t more discipline, but deeper confidence? Not swagger. Not self-worship. A grounded assurance that you’re God’s workmanship, made very good, and called to show up with your whole self for the good of others.  We unpack how this kind of confidence breaks the cycle of lust and fantasy by replacing shortcuts with purpose and presence, and why it’s the difference between real love and people-pleasing. If this resonates, share it with a friend who needs courage today, subscribe for more conversations like this, and leave a review with one belief about yourself you’re ready to replace. Resources from this episode: Good Will Hunting (🚨 language warning)Genesis 1:31, Ephesians 2:10, 1 Corinthians 12Created for Greatness: The Power of Magnanimity by Alexandre Havard 🗓️ Upcoming: You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole: 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    35 min
  7. FEB 3

    I know why I’m triggered & what my fantasy is about, now what?

    Send a text Temptation rarely arrives out of nowhere—it rides in on pain, pressure, and old stories that never got the care they needed. In this episode, Josh checks in with coaches Aaron Tagert and James Craig to explore a kinder, braver way to face unwanted sexual behavior: trade shame for curiosity, isolation for relationship, and quick fixes for deep repair. We start by reframing triggers as signals of emotional or physical discomfort, then show why “why” is the wrong starting question. Instead, we lean into who, what, when, where, and how—questions that ground you in your body, invite empathy, and open space for God’s presence. From there, we walk through practical tools: story work you write and read aloud to a safe person, grief work that honors losses across the years, and healing prayer that invites Jesus into the memory where the wound began. These practices create integration and reduce the power of secrecy. If you’re tired of white-knuckle rules and want a path that blends neuroscience, spiritual formation, and practical steps, this conversation offers clarity and hope. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review telling us which question you’ll practice this week. Resources in this episode: 7 Desires of Every Heart.pdfAnatomy of the Soul by Curt ThompsonUnwanted by Jay Stringer Email us questions!  info@regenerationministries.org 🗓️ Upcoming: You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole: 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    53 min
  8. JAN 27

    Given for You: Having Sex vs. Loving Your Spouse Sexually

    Send a text The way we talk about sex shapes what we see—and too often, we’ve learned to see in parts. Today, we take a jackhammer to the pavement of cultural scripts and rebuild a vision where sex isn’t “a thing” to get, but a way to love a whole person. We explore how lust reduces and love restores, why the body speaks of a person’s worth, and how honoring freedom, story, and dignity transforms intimacy. If you’ve felt trapped in the loop of demand, disappointment, and dull desire, this conversation offers a way out: strengthen the will, slow down to see, and practice love that gives rather than takes. We also address consent beyond the checkbox, the quiet pressures that bend a person’s yes, and why a richer view of union and procreation can deepen trust and joy. Listen, reflect, and share with someone who’s ready to see more. If this resonates, follow the show, leave a review, and tell us: which lens will you practice first? 🗓️ Upcoming: You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole: 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    47 min
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Relationships and sexuality are areas of life that can be beautiful or confusing, life-giving, or painful. Becoming Whole is a conversational podcast for men, women, and families seeking to draw nearer to Jesus as they navigate topics like sexual integrity, relational healing, spiritual health, and so much more.

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