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Relationships and sexuality are areas of life that can be beautiful or confusing, life-giving, or painful. Becoming Whole is a conversational podcast for men, women, and families seeking to draw nearer to Jesus as they navigate topics like sexual integrity, relational healing, spiritual health, and so much more.

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Relationships and sexuality are areas of life that can be beautiful or confusing, life-giving, or painful. Becoming Whole is a conversational podcast for men, women, and families seeking to draw nearer to Jesus as they navigate topics like sexual integrity, relational healing, spiritual health, and so much more.

    Jesus Wants to Wash Our Feet

    Jesus Wants to Wash Our Feet

    We all long to be known, to be seen, and to be loved for who we are. Jesus aches for this very thing, and this is why Jesus Wants to Wash Our Feet.
    Are you willing to be cleansed by Jesus? For him to stoop down and to wash your dirty feet? For him to come near to the parts of you that perhaps even you don't want to look at yourself? This week Josh humbly speaks about Pride Month, LGBTQ+ loved ones, about pride in general, and about the humility of Jesus. He speaks deeply about the longing that Jesus has to cleanse us all of our dirt, our past, our hurts, our pride. He wants to enter into our pain and sin, and wash us clean.
    Let us put aside everything that keeps us from allowing Jesus to cleanse us and let us wash the feet of others just as Jesus does. Are you ready to Become more Whole?
    Highlights:
    ...want to just honor the the reality that every single one of us, every single one of us longs to be known longs to belong, longs to be accepted longs to be affirmed, as the people we are...
    So my question for you today, and one of the reason I think this comes up in my prayer last week, is one of the reasons that we would say no to Jesus washing us.
    He actually desires to cleanse us from those things.
    Resources:
    Read more about this topic at Jesus Will Wash Your Feet If…
    Read Josh's new book  Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents

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    7 Mistakes Parents Make When They Learn Their Kid is Watching Porn

    7 Mistakes Parents Make When They Learn Their Kid is Watching Porn

    Discovering your young son or daughter has been exposed to pornography is upsetting.  You can’t make your children un-see what they saw, but you can help turn a bad thing into an opportunity for good conversation and a deeper connection with you around a very important topic.

    This week Josh jumps into 7 very important things not to do when you as a Parent find out your son or daughter has been looking at porn.
    Let us equip ourselves and one another as we continue towards “Becoming Whole.”
    Highlights:
    So many of us when we find out a son or daughter's been viewing porn, we feel paralyzed, we feel concerned we don't know what to do, we feel inadequate, we don't feel prepared for this. Temptation is a normal human experience for men and women living in a fallen world, including saved men and women, Christian men, and women who have a new identity in Christ.
    ...if your son or daughter has been exposed to pornography, they've been exposed to something that has troubled the waters of their soul, that it is disruptive stuff that they've seen.
    Don't ignore those things in your heart, this is actually an opportunity for you to grow closer to Jesus.
    7 Things Not to do:
    Don’t freak outDon’t shame your kidsDon’t do nothingDon’t let your own failures disqualify youDon’t lectureDon’t go it aloneDon’t make your children your godH
    Resources:
    Read more about this topic at 7 Things Not to Do When Your Child’s Exposed to Porn
    Read Josh's new book  Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents
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    Temptation's One-Two Punch

    Temptation's One-Two Punch

    Temptation and Accusation are some of the strongest and most used tools of the devil(s) in making us feel like we are not worth it, we are weak, we will never heal and so many other lies he whispers to us. Temptation's One-Two Punch hurts!
    In this episode, we’re diving into the whys of temptation and the ways in which this deceiving intruder tries to get at us.
    A left jab gets us on our heels, and the right cross comes in fast and knocks us off our feet. This is right where the devil wants us.
    The truth is, that God is in the ring with us. He is beside us as we continue to fight and even when we fall against this sneaky enemy we have. When it comes to sexuality and the lies we believe, we must equip ourselves with truth.
    Let us equip ourselves and one another as our next step to “Becoming Whole.”
    Highlights:
    Temptation is a normal human experience for men and women living in a fallen world, including saved men and women, Christian men, and women who have a new identity in Christ.
    ...the real power of the accusation is when we when you bite on it when you start agreeing with the accuser and saying, you know what, you're right. You're right.
    Freedom does not necessarily mean that you are free from the feeling of temptation. Freedom means you have the power to say no to that temptation.
    Homework:
    Questions for Reflection:
    Where is he attacking you?What are you believing about yourself because of what he whispers?Where do you feel shame? (Identify it and maybe seek Healing or Listening Prayer for it)You can read even more about this from Josh at Is This One-Two Punch From the Enemy Taking You Out?
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    Examine the Roots

    Examine the Roots

    Porn, voyeurism, extramarital affairs - We do what we do based on what we believe about ourselves. Let's start examining the roots.
     In this episode, we’re going beyond behaviors to examine roots. 
    Understanding what you believe to be the truth about who you are deep down is key to making real change. And you are worthy. 
    True change is more than a shift in behavior. Examining your deep-down beliefs about yourself determines how you’re growing, or not. Lord, open our hearts and show us what we are believing about ourselves. 
    Give us the courage to examine our roots as our next step to “Becoming Whole.”
    Highlights:
    This is not about a bad habit. This is about an issue with your sense of identity.
    If you’re doing something you feel ashamed about its because you are reinforcing the shame you already feel about yourself.
    Our new identity isn’t meant to be a mask that we wear over our identity, that false identity comes off and we are reborn.
    Homework:
    H.A.L.T.S. These basic needs can become triggers unless we identify them and move in a healthy direction with them.
    H - Hungry
    A- Angry
    L - Lonely
    T - Tired
    S - Stressed
    The next time you feel one of these basic needs: Identify it and Challenge yourself to eat a good snack, reach out to a friend, take a 20-minute nap, take long, deep breaths, etc. THEN make a decision.
    Questions for Reflection:
    Where are you wrestling with habitual sin?What are you believing about yourself that might contribute to that habit?Where do you believe you are shameful in your identity? (Identify it and maybe seek Healing or Listening Prayer for it)You can read even more about this from Josh at One Sign You Don't Believe Who You Really Are
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    Is Lust Okay in Marriage?

    Is Lust Okay in Marriage?

    Is lust okay in marriage? That’s a loaded question.
    Dan Keefer joins the podcast to unpack the answer.
    Stopping to consider lust in your marriage may be new to you. We’ll take the first step to define and understand what lust means. There are so many layers. And this conversation is careful to help you understand them. Picking and choosing parts of your spouse to focus on deconstructs the person you married.
    We’re going to look at your spouse and lust more thoughtfully. We’ll go beyond fantasy so sexual intercourse becomes an expression of connection versus selfish wants. This look at lust points out it’s what we do with it; using phrases like “If Only…Then” can take our good, God-given desire and steer it somewhere it doesn’t belong. 
    So, is lust okay in marriage? Let’s listen and find out.
    Highlights:
    Lust is using another person or using their image for selfish, sexual gratification
    Sexual Intimacy: Something that is born out of the relationship, born out of the connection. out of seeing one another
    Lust: comes from a heart of dissatisfaction, taking an aspect of another person and believing that IF ONLY this were different, THEN I would be in a better spot
    Homework:
    “An act of selflessness has the potential to build desire.” What do selfless acts look like in your marriage day to day? (Setting the coffee machine the night before, doing the dishes, filling up the gas tank, scheduling a date night)Rather than acting with the end goal of having sex; shift to consider what would it look like to build desire in the moment.HOLD HANDS with your spouse: allow yourself to be saturated in the oxytocin that’s released from intertwining your fingers & saturated in the oneness of that intimacy.Transcription:

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    Original music by Shannon Smith. Audio engineering by Gabriel @ DelMar Sound Recording.

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    Postures of Recovery

    Postures of Recovery

    Recovery from unwanted sexual behavior is up to you. And only you can know how much of “you” is going into the work. It's about postures of recovery.
    In this episode, Josh and Kit examine a few postures toward recovery and how to readjust for lasting impact.  
    This important journey is about more than trying to quit a bad habit. True healing hinges on your posture. How vulnerable are you? Who are you doing this for?  
    We are digging deep into these questions with you. We pray you feel brave enough to recognize your motivation, honest enough to acknowledge your true level of commitment, and willing to stretch into a posture for true recovery. 
    God is inviting you to more.
    Highlights:
    Postures of Recovery: If I’m really doing the work of recovery, it means that I am literally walking places, looking at parts of my life, talking about things that I may have never looked at, talked about or walked through before and that takes courage.
    Shallow recovery is like weeding, whereas real recovery is more like excavation
    The reality of recovery is it extends beneath the ground in all sorts of directions and so, in recovery, we’re looking for roots.  It isn’t about going in and plucking a weed.
    Reflection:
    What am I learning that I need to do for my sake to become the whole person that I was meant to become?
    Why are you in recovery, because you don’t want to repeat that behavior anymore? Or are you in recovery to get more out of life?
    EXTRAS
    “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives; vulnerability is the path.” 
    Brené Brown “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead.”
    Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is - His good, pleasing and perfect will.”
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    Original music by Shannon Smith. Audio engineering by Gabriel @ DelMar Sound Recording.

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Customer Reviews

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The Earthquake of Sexual Betrayal

The interview with Dr Steffens was fire.
I found myself wanting to share my notes from the podcast!
Shared it today with too many friends who have experienced sexual betrayal this past year. I feel better equipped as a friend to love my friends who have been through this earthquake, to love them through the “aftershocks” and to help them ask from a professional what they need to move forward.
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Trbenson ,

Truth

Absolutely the best thing I could listen to on my drive to work each morning. So much truth.

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I’ll keep coming back!

I loved the analogy Josh used this week of a piano player being free when they sit down at a piano not in spite of but because of their years of practice and dedication. Each week Josh and Kit give sound wisdom on many different aspects of life and relationships that points to the beauty and goodness of what God has for us. They don’t shy away from tough topics but make space to talk about the complexities. These conversations aren’t driven by fear but spoken with hope and purpose. I’ll keep coming back each week!

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