Breakup to Blessing

Sylvia Suwan
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Welcome to 'Breakup to Blessing,' the podcast where Sylvia, a breakup and relationship therapist, guides you through the intricate journey of heartbreak and relationships with empathy and expertise. Join her as she explores practical tips, insightful advice, and proven strategies to not only cope with the challenges of heartbreak, but also to discover the path towards healing, personal growth, and building healthy relationships. Tune in for a transformative experience, turning heartbreak into a powerful catalyst for positive change.

  1. 2D AGO

    Why Letting Go Feels Impossible — How Attachment Keeps You Stuck After a Breakup

    Why does letting go feel impossible — even when you know the relationship is over? In this episode, I explain why breakups can feel like life or death, and why logic alone isn't enough to move on. If you feel stuck in a push–pull after a breakup — knowing you need to let go, but feeling like you can't survive if you do — this episode will help you understand why. We explore how attachment and nervous system safety shape the way you experience heartbreak, why longing isn't the same as love, and why being alone can feel unsafe after a relationship ends. I also share how attachment patterns form in childhood and how they show up in adult relationships, especially during breakups. This episode is for anyone who keeps asking, Why can't I let go? — and wants to stop blaming themselves and start understanding what's actually happening inside them. Showlinks: Register for the Webinar Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

    14 min

  2. FEB 1

    Will My Ex Come Back? The Truth About Getting Back Together

    One of the most common questions after a breakup is: Will my ex change come back? In this episode, I unpack why that question keeps you stuck — and what actually needs to happen if there's ever going to be a different outcome, whether that's with your ex or someone new. I talk about: Why hoping your ex will "realise they made a mistake" often keeps you emotionally trapped The difference between breakups that involve impulsivity and those where someone has already emotionally checked out Why getting back together sometimes works — and why it usually doesn't What really has to change for a relationship to work the second time around I also share my personal story — how my husband and I first met, why we broke up, what that breakup forced me to confront in myself, and why things were different when we came back together. We explore: How unprocessed emotional pain shows up as triggers, reactivity, and confusion in relationships Why saying "things will be different" is just lip service without real internal change The difference between genuine growth and performative change meant to win someone back Why becoming more emotionally stable, independent, and grounded is actually more attractive — not less This episode isn't about convincing your ex to come back. It's about becoming someone who no longer needs to. Because real change doesn't get wasted. It either creates the possibility of a healthier relationship with your ex — or it prepares you for a healthier relationship with someone else. Either way, you win. Register for the How to Move on from Heartbreak Masterclass here 11th Feb 2026 7pm Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

    18 min

  3. JAN 25

    Rebuilding Self-Worth After a Breakup (When It's Always Come From Others)

    After a breakup, it's common to hear advice telling you to "reconnect with yourself" and "build your self-worth." But knowing what to do and knowing how to do it — or whether it's actually helping — are very different things. In this episode, I explore why so many people feel stuck after a breakup, even when they're doing everything they're told should help. We look at what happens when self-worth has historically come from external validation, why breakups can feel like a loss of identity, and how the nervous system seeks reassurance when emotional safety is suddenly removed. I talk about why healing doesn't always feel better straight away, how to recognise whether your efforts are genuinely supporting you, and how to tell the difference between discomfort that's part of growth and patterns that may be keeping you stuck. This episode also explores how self-worth is rebuilt through self-trust, emotional self-containment, and learning to stay with yourself during difficult emotions — rather than outsourcing them. This conversation is for anyone who feels lost after a breakup, questions whether they're healing "correctly," or wants a deeper understanding of what rebuilding self-worth actually looks like in real life. Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation Work with Sylvia and Book a 10x session package: https://sylviasuwan.com

    17 min

  4. JAN 18

    Starting Over Doesn't Mean You've Failed

    Starting over can feel like failure — especially after a breakup, divorce, or major life change. We tell ourselves we've wasted time, that we're behind, or that we should have tried harder to make it work. In this episode, I'm reframing the idea of starting over and exploring why it feels so heavy — and how it can actually become one of the most liberating and clarifying seasons of your life. We talk about the sunk cost fallacy, why staying just because you've already invested so much keeps people stuck, and how the meaning you attach to "starting again" shapes your future far more than the circumstance itself. This episode is for anyone who feels ashamed about having to begin again, feels rushed by comparison, or is struggling to let go of a past they thought would last forever. In this episode, we explore: Why starting over feels like failure — and why it isn't How the sunk cost fallacy keeps people stuck in relationships that no longer serve them The difference between learning from the past and ruminating on it How lessons can turn into wisdom — or emotional weight Why the belief that you're "behind" creates panic and poor decisions Letting go of timelines, comparison, and external pressure How starting over can actually be a sign of self-trust and alignment Practical ways to approach a new chapter without rushing or settling Key takeaways: Starting over doesn't mean you failed. It means you're listening. It means you're integrating what you've learned instead of repeating it. And it means you're choosing to move forward with more awareness, clarity, and self-respect than before. If you're in a season of rebuilding — after a breakup, divorce, or identity shift — this episode will help you reframe where you are and reconnect with the power of the present moment. Work with Sylvia: Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

    13 min

  5. JAN 11

    "Finding Yourself" again after Heartbreak

    After a breakup, everyone tells you to "find yourself" — but what does that actually mean? And more importantly, is it even the right question to ask? In this episode, I'm breaking down why the whole concept of "finding yourself" after a relationship ends might be setting you up for frustration, and what you should focus on instead. In this episode, we cover: Why "finding yourself" is the wrong framework (and what to ask instead) The neuroscience of heartbreak — why breakups feel like physical pain and why separation is so difficult How relationships create neural coupling and nervous system co-regulation (and what happens when that suddenly stops) The difference between losing yourself and becoming enmeshed — and why women are particularly vulnerable to this pattern Why the standard advice (yoga, journaling, solo travel) often becomes performative rather than transformative Values archaeology: Whose values have you actually been living? How to trace back what's truly yours vs what you inherited Desire mapping: How to relearn what you actually want when you've spent years accommodating others Boundary experimentation: Small steps to reclaim your space without isolating yourself Integration work: What becomes possible now that wasn't before? How to take everything you've learned and consciously choose what to keep The Emily in Paris example: How exposure to new experiences reveals parts of yourself that were always there but never had room to exist Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation If you are ready to work with Sylvia book a 10 session package: https://www.sylviasuwan.com/work-with-me

    13 min

  6. JAN 4

    How to Set Goals After a Breakup: 9 Steps to Transform Your Life in 2026

    Starting the new year without your ex? Feeling that mix of hope and loneliness as you try to move forward? In this episode, I'm giving you the exact framework I wish I had during my first New Year after a breakup. This isn't about setting vague intentions that fizzle out by February. This is about creating real, sustainable change in your life using a proven 9-step goal attainment framework designed specifically for breakup recovery. In This Episode, You'll Learn: The 9 Steps to Transform Your Life After a Breakup: Get Crystal Clear on What You Actually Want - Move beyond "I want to be happy" and define what your life actually looks like when you've moved forward Identify Your Deep Why - Discover the real reason this goal matters to you (not just surface-level motivation) Make a Concrete Plan - Break down your goal into specific, actionable behaviors you can schedule and commit to Celebrate Small Wins and Build Belief - Learn why daily wins are more powerful than waiting for big transformations Track and Monitor Your Progress - Use the "engine momentum" approach to keep yourself moving forward Manage Your Emotions - Regulate your feelings so they don't derail your progress (emotions are signals, not signs to quit) Stay Flexible and Keep Learning - Adapt your plan as you discover more about what you want and need Surround Yourself with Mentorship - Choose your environment wisely and consume content from people who have the results you want Align Your Environment - Set up your space and routines to support your goals, not sabotage them Key Takeaway: You don't need to have it all figured out. You just need to take the next step, and then the next one. That's how you build momentum. That's how you transform this heartbreak into your breakthrough. Resources Mentioned: Atomic Habits by James Clear Action Step: Pick ONE goal this week. Get specific, write down your why, identify three actionable steps, schedule them in your calendar, and track your small wins daily. Connect with Sylvia: Instagram: @sylviasuwan Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

    16 min

  7. 12/28/2025

    My Biggest Lessons from 2025

    In this deeply personal episode, I'm sharing the most important lessons and reflections from my own growth journey this year. This isn't me speaking from my therapist lens—it's me as a human navigating the messy, uncomfortable, necessary work of growth. What You'll Learn: Learning to Be Okay with the Hard Why resistance makes everything worse, and how accepting discomfort changes everything Growth Requires Increasing Your Capacity Why you can't have different results without becoming a different version of yourself Taking Responsibility for Your Own Happiness How I stopped making my husband responsible for my emotional wellbeing (and why that actually improved our marriage) What Destroys Relationships—With or Without Kids The surprising truth about what makes or breaks relationships, regardless of your circumstances When You're in Growth Periods, Life is Mostly Miserable Why discomfort isn't a sign you're doing it wrong—it's a sign you're doing it right Essentialism and Prioritising Your Values How to stop saying yes to everything and start protecting what actually matters Don't Forget the Basics Why sleep, nutrition, and movement matter more than any productivity hack Why Simple is Best How we overcomplicate everything to avoid doing the simple (but hard) work Life is Too Short to Care What Other People Think Getting clear on your values and living by your own compass, not someone else's script It's Not Happiness We Should Chase—It's Peace and Contentment Why chasing happiness keeps you miserable, and what to cultivate instead 🎯 Ready to make 2026 YOUR breakthrough year? Join my FREE Masterclass: "Let Go of Your Ex and Move On" Register now  to watch live or get the replay Can't make it live? No worries—register anyway and I'll send you the replay 📲 Connect with me: Instagram: @sylviasuwan (DM me for the masterclass link!)

    30 min

  8. 12/22/2025

    Announcement: Free Masterclass - How to Move On and Make 2026 Your Breakthrough Year

    Quick bonus episode with an important announcement! I have a free live masterclass happening next week that I created specifically to help you kickstart your new year and finally move on from your ex. Live Masterclass Details: When: Monday, December 29th at 6pm AEST Where: Register at sylviasuwan.com or check the link in show notes Cost: FREE Replay: Available for all registrants (perfect if you can't make it live due to time zones) What This Masterclass Will Cover: Why you feel like your feelings are outside of your control and how that keeps you paralyzed Why it's not your fault (and nothing to be ashamed of) that you still want to be with your ex The real reason most people resist moving forward and what they make "letting go" mean Why some people seem to "handle" breakups better and move on faster (spoiler: nothing is wrong with you) What actually works to get you out of hopelessness and failure—and what doesn't The tangible things you need to do right now to get on with your life Who This Is For: This masterclass is for you if you've tried everything you're told you should do but still want to be with your ex or don't know how to be without them. It's for the person who is truly suffering and struggling to understand why. Why This Is Different: I've seen what works and what doesn't work in breakup recovery. This masterclass addresses exactly why healing works for some people and not others—and I'm sharing strategies you won't have heard before. Register Now Visit sylviasuwan.com or click the link above. Even if you can't make it live, register to get access to the replay.

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Welcome to 'Breakup to Blessing,' the podcast where Sylvia, a breakup and relationship therapist, guides you through the intricate journey of heartbreak and relationships with empathy and expertise. Join her as she explores practical tips, insightful advice, and proven strategies to not only cope with the challenges of heartbreak, but also to discover the path towards healing, personal growth, and building healthy relationships. Tune in for a transformative experience, turning heartbreak into a powerful catalyst for positive change.

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  • Creator
    Sylvia Suwan
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    166
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Sylvia Suwan 2023
  • Show Website
    Breakup to Blessing

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