Confident Sober Women Shelby

I am not a writer, and I published a book. This doesn’t make any sense right? I still can’t believe I published a memoir but I blame the fog and chaos of the year 2020.Many people over the past few years have asked me how I did it?Today, on the Confident Sober Women podcast, I decided to share more about what possessed me to share the deepest and most personal stories of my life, with the world.Getting and staying sober at the time was the hardest thing I had done in my life and cr...

Did you feel isolated when you got sober? Christina shared her feelings of social isolation due to her sobriety and COVID. It was actually helpful that things were shut down in the beginning for her but when the world opened bac up she found she didn’t know how to socialize.Through her own lived experience of sobriety and not having a community, she decided to create one. She was a military spouse in a heavy drinking culture and she lost all her friends when she got sober. She wanted to go ou...

Do you desire MORE now that you have been sober for longer?Alysse got sober before all the “sober luxuries” that are available now just weren’t available and she was still very young and her social and professional life revolved around drinks. Thankfully immediately she enjoyed some of the benefits of not drinking however she was still making a lot of the same bad decisions in dating and managing life. After a few years of not drinking she knew she didn’t want to go back to substan...

Have you ever heard of the "power dead-even rule"?Pat Heim of the Heim Group coined this phrase in her book Hardball For Women: Winning At The Game Of Business.She says for a woman to have a healthy realationship with another woman the self-esteem and power of one must be of the same weight as the other in the eyes of each woman.I share more about this on todays episode, and much more!One way to have opportunities for women to support each other is to create events for women that also celebra...

Chrissy found drinking to be problematic in her 30s. She shared how sometimes things would go ok and that prevented her from understanding her problem with alcohol.Chrissy’s mission is to teach people how to understand their intuition and listen to their bodies. She shares how this is critical in understanding not only the thoughts and feelings we have but why are we having them. She didn’t use a specific recovery program but did layer on a lot of support and resources related to sobriety aft...

Kristin followed more of a social curiosity path and doesn’t live completely alcohol-free but has taken a hard look at her drinking and made changes. Kristen had a week of a lot of events and drank a lot more than she usually would and noticed how it truly affected her and she didn’t like it. This was her aha moment.Kristen realized she didn’t really love the alcoholic drinks she was consuming and then asked herself ‘If I don’t really love them then why am I drinking? She also read This Naked...