Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

My Coach Dawn
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This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration for women navigating life after divorce. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast for women dealing with grief, loneliness, anxiety, anxious or avoidant attachment, and identity loss after divorce — especially when quick fixes, positivity, and spiritual fluff no longer work. I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, and homeopath, and this show goes where most divorce advice won’t: into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, your buried rage, and the parts of you that shut down just to survive. Through honest conversation, somatic tools, EMDR- and IFS-informed work, and nervous-system support, each episode helps you feel instead of perform healing — and rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust from the inside out. You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate conversations with experts who don’t just talk about healing — they embody it. If you’re tired of being told to “move on” while your body is still bracing, this podcast is your place to land. Your nervous system already knows the truth — it just needs a space that can hold it.

  1. 1D AGO

    333. Is It Regret… or Divorce Grief? Why Leaving a Marriage Can Feel Like a Mistake

    There’s a moment after leaving a marriage that is hard to prepare for... It’s quiet. Disorienting. And often filled with a question that feels impossible to answer: “Did I just make a mistake?” In this episode, I’m joined by Nicole Sodoma, a marriage-loving divorce attorney with over two decades of experience—someone who has seen behind the scenes of thousands of relationships, and lived through divorce herself. Together, we unpack one of the most misunderstood emotional experiences in divorce: 👉 The difference between regret and divorce grief Because what many women interpret as:  “I should go back.”  “Maybe I gave up too soon.”  “What if I ruined everything?” …is often something else entirely. Something that deserves to be understood—not feared. This conversation goes beyond emotion and into the real patterns that keep women stuck or second-guessing themselves:  Why financial fear quietly keeps women in unhappy marriages  How not knowing what you want can feel safer than choosing change  The subtle ways women misread their own capabilities and choices Why so many couples wait until it’s too late to use the tools that could have helped  What divorce attorneys see every day that most women never realize until they’re in it And maybe most importantly: How to recognize whether you’re being called to pause… or move forward This episode will help you name the thing under the thing—so you can stop questioning yourself and start understanding what your body is actually trying to process. In This Episode, We Explore:  Divorce grief vs. regret: how to tell the difference  Why leaving a marriage can feel like a mistake—even when it isn’t  The role of the nervous system in post-divorce doubt  Financial dependence, fear, and the cost of staying too long  Identity loss in marriage—and how it impacts decision-making  What women consistently underestimate about themselves in divorce  The power of choice (even when it doesn’t feel like you have one) As you listen, notice: Am I actually regretting my decision…  or am I grieving the life I thought I would have? There’s a difference. And understanding it could change everything. Read Nicole's Book:  Please Don't Say You're Sorry: An Empowering Perspective on Marriage, Separation, and Divorce from a Marriage-Loving Divorce Attorney Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawn Instagram: (@dawnwiggins) Instagram: (@coachtiffini) On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.com A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confi Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    52 min

  2. 6D AGO

    332. Beautiful Badass Mode Activated: Step Into Your Power & Own Today

    Good morning, you beautiful badass! Beautiful Badass Mode: Activated. This Thursday Premium EP is your quick 3-minute power shot to flip the switch and step fully into your power. You are the most powerful woman — full stop. Any thought today that says anything less? Kick that shit to the curb. Call deep upon your power and step into the truth of who you are: a wild, growing, expanding woman who can manifest whatever she desires. Whatever comes your way today showed up because you can handle it — not to bowl you over, but to build your confidence and let you co-create something powerful with God/Universe. Stop suffering over what everyone else is doing. Put on some killer music, dance your way through the mess, and turn your pain into purpose with grace, courage, and curiosity. At the end of the day, look in the mirror and declare: “I am a beautiful badass.” Write it down. Remember it when you forget. You don’t work for your worth — you own it. You’ve always been worthy, and today you believe it a little bit more. You and God are co-creating one unstoppable, joyful, powerful day. Let’s go, queen. Step into your power and own today. ❤️‍🔥 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawn Instagram: (@dawnwiggins) Instagram: (@coachtiffini) On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.com A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    4 min

  3. MAR 31

    331. “You're Not Crazy": Why Your Body Feels Off After Divorce (Even When Labs Say You're Fine)

    Your labs are “fine.” But your body feels anything but. If you’ve been feeling exhausted, foggy, inflamed, or just… not like yourself after divorce—this episode is going to land in a very real way. Because what you’re experiencing isn’t random.  And it’s not just “stress,” “aging,” or something you need to push through. It’s your body responding to something deeper that hasn’t been addressed yet. In this conversation, I sit down with health empowerment coach and host of Conversations That Heal, Tracy Male. After years of being told her symptoms—ovarian cysts, migraines, severe constipation, blood sugar crashes—were “normal,” Tracy stopped outsourcing her authority and started listening to what her body was actually trying to say. Now, she helps other women do the same. Together, we unpack the gap so many women fall into after divorce: – Being told “everything looks fine” when you know it’s not – Trying protocol after protocol that never quite works – That quiet but persistent feeling of “I don’t feel like myself anymore” Here’s the truth most women never get told: Your symptoms aren’t the problem. They’re the signal. And after chronic stress—like the kind that comes with divorce—your body will stop letting you override what it needs. In this episode, we explore: – Why your old strategies for weight, energy, and stress suddenly stop working  – How nervous system dysregulation shows up as physical symptoms  – The difference between managing symptoms vs. actually supporting your body  – Why motivation fails when your system doesn’t feel safe  – How to begin rebuilding trust with your body (without going all-or-nothing) We also talk about the real meaning behind symptoms like fatigue, brain fog, joint pain, hair thinning, digestive issues, and loss of libido—and why they’re not something to ignore, shame, or “fix” as quickly as possible. They’re communication. And when you learn how to listen… everything starts to shift. Key Takeaways: – Your body is not working against you—it’s trying to get your attention – Divorce stress often reveals what your system can no longer tolerate – Nervous system safety is the foundation for real, sustainable healing – You don’t need another extreme protocol—you need a different relationship with your body Connect with Tracy Male: YouTube /Conversations That Heal/Nature’s Protégé If this conversation hit something in you… don’t ignore that. This is the work. The moment you stop overriding your body and start listening differently is the moment things begin to change. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawn Instagram: (@dawnwiggins) Instagram: (@coachtiffini) On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.com A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    41 min

  4. MAR 26

    Ep. 330 Behind the Mic: The Parts of Post-Divorce Sex & Desire We Usually Hide

    This Behind the Mic episode goes deeper than Tuesday’s conversation ever could. Once the public recording stopped, the three of us got brutally honest about the parts of post-divorce sex and desire that most women feel too ashamed, confused, or exposed to say out loud. We talk about: The intoxicating “drug” of being wanted again — and why it can feel like medicine (until it doesn’t)Using a transition relationship or affair partner as a “lily pad” just to get through the terror of leavingThe urge to go back to your ex for physical touch, validation, or to fill the voidBreadcrumbing from your ex and how we settle for scraps just to feel like we still matterControlling (or being controlled) through sex — and the conscious choice to break that cycleThe exhausting “taxi cab light” — constantly scanning rooms for the next person who might choose usWhat re-entry into sex and dating felt like when we were truly, dead-single: the discomfort, the sneaking out, the rejection control, and the nervous system shutdownThe quiet question so many of us carry: Am I actually ready for love… or am I just desperate to feel wanted again?This is the raw, unfiltered truth we usually keep behind the paywall — because it’s safer here. No sugar-coating. No performative healing. Just three divorced women (including your host, a therapist and coach) sharing the messy, human reality of desire, attachment, and learning to want ourselves again. If you’ve ever felt ashamed of your choices, confused by your body’s cravings, or scared that you’re repeating old patterns, this episode is for you. You are not broken. You are not alone. And you don’t have to figure this out by yourself. 💛 Thank you for trusting us with your healing journey. We see you, we love you, and we’re walking beside you. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawn Instagram: (@dawnwiggins) Instagram: (@coachtiffini) On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.com A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    3 min

  5. MAR 24

    329. Divorce Grief & Loneliness: That “I Just Want to Feel Wanted” Feeling

    There’s a kind of loneliness after divorce that no one really prepares you for. Not just emotional loneliness… but physical loneliness. The absence of touch. The absence of affection. The absence of being desired. And in that space, something can sneak in quietly: I just want to feel wanted again. In this episode, we go straight into the tension most women feel but rarely say out loud—how attention from men can feel like relief… and how quickly that relief can become something you rely on. We talk about why being desired can feel so regulating to the nervous system, especially after a relationship where you felt powerless, unseen, or not enough. And we unpack the difference between real connection and the kind of attention that only soothes the surface. Because for many women, this isn’t actually about connection. It’s about relief from rejection. It’s about trying to outrun the deeper feelings: not good enough, not chosen, not worth fighting for. We also explore how these patterns show up in real life—flirting, hookups, staying busy, avoiding stillness—and how easily they can become another form of numbing, just like overworking or drinking. And we ask the question that sits underneath all of it: Are you actually healing… or are you just trying not to feel? This episode isn’t about shaming the desire to be wanted. That desire is human. But there’s a difference between being chosen…  and needing someone else to prove you’re worth choosing. Because the moment you stop needing that proof— is the moment everything starts to change. If this episode stirred something in you, you’re not alone. This is exactly the work we do inside Crisis to Clarity, our 90-day program designed to help you stabilize your nervous system, process grief, and rebuild trust in yourself so you’re no longer reaching outside of you just to feel okay. You can reach out via DM, email, or our website to learn more. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawn Instagram: (@dawnwiggins) Instagram: (@coachtiffini) On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.com A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    50 min

  6. MAR 19 ·  BONUS

    Ep. 328 Divorce Anxiety: When You Can’t See Your Future, Do This

    There’s a moment after divorce that almost no one prepares you for. Not the chaos. Not the legal process. Not even the grief. But the moment when everything finally gets quiet… and you realize: “I have no idea what my life is supposed to look like anymore.” In this premium episode, Coach Tiffini steps in with something different. Not more advice. Not more overthinking. But a guided experience designed to help you: – Calm the anxiety that keeps your mind spinning  – Step out of survival mode, even briefly  – Reconnect with your own inner direction  – And identify your next step… without needing the whole plan Because the truth is: You don’t feel stuck because you’re broken. You feel stuck because your nervous system is overwhelmed, trying to protect you...And when that happens…clarity disappears. Inside this episode, you’ll be gently guided through a visualization and reflection process that helps you find your footing again—even if your future still feels foggy. This isn’t about figuring everything out. It’s about learning how to move forward  when you can’t see the whole path yet. ✨ If you’ve been feeling frozen, overwhelmed, or disconnected from your direction… This is the episode to press play on. 👉 Unlock this guided experience inside The Room Where It Happens (our private premium feed for deeper healing, coaching, and real transformation) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawn Instagram: (@dawnwiggins) Instagram: (@coachtiffini) On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.com A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    3 min

  7. MAR 17

    327. Divorce, Litigation, and the Nervous System: Why You Feel Like You’re Falling Apart

    Divorce isn’t just emotional. It’s legal. It’s procedural. And for many women… It’s where everything starts to feel like it’s unraveling. In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we’re talking about something that doesn’t get enough attention: 👉 What divorce litigation actually does to your nervous system. Because the women we work with who are still in active litigation?  They’re almost always the most dysregulated. Sleep issues. Constant anxiety. Feeling reactive to every email, every court date, every new document. And it’s not because you’re weak. It’s because your body is being asked to process stress… over and over and over again. Today, Dawn is joined by Heather Quick, a seasoned divorce attorney who sees the inside of the courtroom every single day, offering a grounded, real-world perspective on what the legal process actually looks like for women—and why it can feel so overwhelming. In this episode, we talk about: – What “litigation” really means (and why it’s not always what you think) – Why the beginning of the legal process can feel the most overwhelming – How nervous system dysregulation shows up (and why it impacts your decision-making)   – Why friends and family can unintentionally make the process harder – The connection between divorce grief, identity loss, and prolonged stress exposure – Why divorce grief feels different than death (and why it keeps getting reactivated) – What it actually takes to stay steady during one of the most stressful seasons of your life The truth most women aren’t told: You don’t just need legal support.  You need nervous system support. Because when your body is overwhelmed… you can’t receive information clearly, you can’t make grounded decisions, and you can’t advocate for yourself the way you deserve to. If you’re in (or heading into) litigation, start here: – Build emotional support before things escalate – Create a daily practice that helps your body discharge stress – Give yourself space to regulate before making big decisions – Let your legal team handle the law—and your support system help you process the rest Connect with Heather: –Buy UNBREAKABLE DIVORCE HERE – Website: https://floridawomenslawgroup.com – Podcast: Women Winning Divorce – Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/floridawomenslawgroup/ – Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FloridaWomensLawGroup Because this isn’t just something you “get through.” It’s something your body has to move through in real time. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawn Instagram: (@dawnwiggins) Instagram: (@coachtiffini) On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.com A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    37 min

  8. MAR 12

    Ep. 326 - Why So Many Divorced Women Don’t Trust Their Own Intuition

    Many divorced women quietly carry the same fear: “What if I can’t trust my own judgment?” After a relationship ends, it’s common to question everything — your choices, your instincts, even your ability to recognize what’s healthy and what isn’t. But for many women, that loss of self-trust didn’t start in the marriage. It started much earlier. In this premium coaching episode, Tiffini works with one of our members to explore a pattern many women recognize but struggle to name: the tendency to override intuition and rely on discipline, logic, and control instead. When you grow up in environments where your inner knowing was ignored, dismissed, or contradicted, you often learn to survive by becoming hyper-responsible, hyper-disciplined, and hyper-analytical. Those strategies can help you function. But they can also slowly disconnect you from the quiet voice inside that knows what’s true. In this powerful IFS-informed coaching session, you’ll hear one woman begin to uncover how her childhood experiences shaped her relationship with intuition — and how those patterns later showed up in adulthood, relationships, and divorce recovery. Together, they explore how protective parts like perfectionism, over-discipline, and self-analysis develop as survival strategies… and what begins to shift when intuition is invited back into the decision-making process. If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly searching outside yourself for answers — books, advice, podcasts, or systems — this conversation may resonate deeply. Because rebuilding your life after divorce isn’t just about making better decisions. It’s about learning how to trust yourself again. In this episode, you’ll hear: Why many divorced women struggle to trust their intuitionHow childhood environments can disconnect women from their inner guidanceThe survival strategies that develop when intuition isn’t safe to trustHow discipline and over-analysis can become protective partsWhy rebuilding self-trust is a central part of divorce recoveryThis coaching session is available exclusively to our premium members. If you’ve ever wondered why trusting yourself feels so hard — or why you find yourself constantly searching outside yourself for answers — the deeper conversations inside the premium feed are where we explore these patterns in real time. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawn Instagram: (@dawnwiggins) Instagram: (@coachtiffini) On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.com A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    4 min
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This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration for women navigating life after divorce. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast for women dealing with grief, loneliness, anxiety, anxious or avoidant attachment, and identity loss after divorce — especially when quick fixes, positivity, and spiritual fluff no longer work. I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, and homeopath, and this show goes where most divorce advice won’t: into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, your buried rage, and the parts of you that shut down just to survive. Through honest conversation, somatic tools, EMDR- and IFS-informed work, and nervous-system support, each episode helps you feel instead of perform healing — and rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust from the inside out. You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate conversations with experts who don’t just talk about healing — they embody it. If you’re tired of being told to “move on” while your body is still bracing, this podcast is your place to land. Your nervous system already knows the truth — it just needs a space that can hold it.

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