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Help Me Be Me is an emotional toolkit for creating positive change in yourself. I like to think of it as self-help for people who hate self-help. I'm Sarah May, coach/author/all-around happy person, and these are the tools that work for me in my life. For all of my offerings you can check out YayWithMe.com What I share on this show is my personal opinion. It's not a diagnosis for treatment or a substitute for professional help. If you're suffering, please reach out to your local emergency services or call 9-1-1. Music theme created by www.BookerHillMusic.com

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Help Me Be Me is an emotional toolkit for creating positive change in yourself. I like to think of it as self-help for people who hate self-help. I'm Sarah May, coach/author/all-around happy person, and these are the tools that work for me in my life. For all of my offerings you can check out YayWithMe.com What I share on this show is my personal opinion. It's not a diagnosis for treatment or a substitute for professional help. If you're suffering, please reach out to your local emergency services or call 9-1-1. Music theme created by www.BookerHillMusic.com

    Ep 177: Couples Counseling – when to do it + the ways it can help

    Ep 177: Couples Counseling – when to do it + the ways it can help

    This is for anyone considering attending couples counseling and you are unsure of what to look for or perhaps you are hesitant about going because you don’t know if it will be effective.

    This is also for if you are in fight loops and your conflicts are not being solved and things are being heightened. If you find that you are both throwing out intense ultimatums and yet both staying in the relationship, it’s definitely worth trying – and also shopping for the right person who brings out the deeper emotional truths in both of you. If you haven’t done it before – this is my opinion as a married person: Why you’re doing it as well as what happens while you’re there.
     
    I also think a lot of people believe, “I’m doing everything right and my partner is doing everything wrong.” And they go to couples counseling not knowing what the goal is or expecting the counselor to tell their partner, “You are wrong and you should listen to everything your partner is saying.” And so I wanted to give you my two cents on how to approach couples counseling in the hopes that it will allow you to get something better out of it. So this may help you identify a goal for yourself in therapy – with your partner, so you can curate that result.
     
    I think of a couples counselor as a translator in many ways. They are also containers for the deeper feelings to be revealed so that both can shift behavior toward love and or decisions that are loving. Take what helps and leave the rest! Sending love.
     
    For more of my work you can head to YayWithMe.com xo!
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    • 55 min
    Ep 176: The Power of Openness– An interview with author Pam Grout

    Ep 176: The Power of Openness– An interview with author Pam Grout

    This is my (fan-girl) interview with Pam Grout – author, amazing human being & teacher of love and positivity. She has written 20 books including E-Squared, E-Cubed, Thank & Grow Rich and her latest, The Course in Miracles Experiment: A Starter Kit for Rewiring Your Mind. One of the topics we discuss is disengaging from expectations! A lot of people struggle with unconsciousness. By that I mean getting lost in thoughts. In busyness. In mental commentating. In future expectations. We don’t realize how powerful expectations are as well as judgment of neutral facts–in creating our reality. When we can be open to seeing the alternate version of that same reality everything changes. Including the future we create for ourselves.
     
    If you want to find Pam definitely read her blog and subscribe to get them via email: 
    https://pamgrout.com/
    Here's her new book - The Course in Miracles Experiment:
    https://amzn.to/3RGGQyp
    And if you want to make a donation to the 222 Foundation, you can head here:
    https://www.dccfoundation.org/fund/Taz-Grouts-222-Fund

    If you want to check out more of my work or to make a donation, head to YayWithMe.com or Patreon.com/SarahMayB
     
    Xo!
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    • 55 min
    Ep 175: Non-Stop Seeking – For feeling empty, never enough and unfulfilled

    Ep 175: Non-Stop Seeking – For feeling empty, never enough and unfulfilled

    A meditation on the feeling of non-stop seeking and grasping toward things that exist on the outside – versus asking from the inside, how can my life become more meaningful.

    I think a lot of people look outward for a source of success and fulfillment: in what others say, in what we have, in all the proof points of “I am enough.” And that is reinforced by the systems in place: social media, devices, content, entertainment…

    This is an episode that invites you to consider: Maybe there’s nothing to fix, but the problem lies in our grasping and avoiding of discomfort. This episode also invites you to scan back on your life and look at what truer values are for your happiness – the things you don’t necessarily see reflected back to you on a phone. What are the moments that only you appreciate and how can you bring out more of them in your life? It starts with becoming aware of this habit loop in the first place.
     
    The book I mention in this episode is here:
    https://amzn.to/3IluA22
     
    For more of my work and to make a donation, you can head to Yaywithme.com xo!
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    • 45 min
    Ep 174: Relationship Ambivalence: Stuck in fight loops + wanting change

    Ep 174: Relationship Ambivalence: Stuck in fight loops + wanting change

    For anyone who perhaps is negotiating standing up for yourself and also accommodating your relationship to make it peaceful and loving, and unsure of how to balance those two things. You might find that your fight loops are repeating and you are unhappy because of that. You both are likely seeking love and closeness but also wanting change. This is targeted at those in relationships that are well established. For example, when the novelty has worn off and any imbalances have had time to set in. You might be asking - do I want to be with this person or is this relationship hopeless? What do I want? What’s happening in my relationship? Is this at all fixable? We both used to be happy but now I am flipping between love and hate, pretty often. OR you might be asking– why can’t my partner see me? Why can’t they meet my needs when they are so small? What the hell happened… things were great and as soon as I brought up my needs, this turned into something so much worse. Am I crazy?
     
    This is a topic that obviously has a lot of variables – but this will at least give you something to reflect on if this sounds like your situation. And every solution will be different and based on you and your partner – so don’t force anything that doesn’t feel right for you.
     
    There are 3 parts to this episode– the what, why, and how–the tools, and we will hear from our sponsors right before the tools section. For more of my work and to make a donation, you can head to YayWithMe.com ! xo
     
    The book on love languages is this one:
    https://amzn.to/3bdC7mW
    And here is a love language quiz to take:
    https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
     
    If you don’t feel safe in your relationship, this is for you:
    National Domestic Violence Hotline
    https://www.thehotline.org/
    800-799-7233
    Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service 
     
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    • 51 min
    Ep 173: Owning Yourself - Being fully embodied and unapologetically yourself

    Ep 173: Owning Yourself - Being fully embodied and unapologetically yourself

    What does it take to own yourself? To be fully confident in your voice and unapologetically yourself in all situations. I think it takes being deeply rooted in our skin. I feel like a lot of us are robbed of parts of ourselves throughout our life – whether that’s during adolescence when you’re trying to fit in, or as an adult in a relationship where you are not confident in your beliefs and the other person talks you out of your feelings. As we grow up and grow stronger – we may reclaim parts of ourselves. Our values shift, and we may gather the pieces of past broken selves and put them back together – as a true part of us. And I LOVE LOVE LOVE this process. So this is an episode in service of that – being unapologetically yourself, fully embodied, and validated just by your own opinions.
    As I mentioned if you are a person who is in a relationship where you don’t feel safe and you know you want to exit it, this is a resource to start with:
    https://www.thehotline.org/
    Internet usage can be monitored and is impossible to erase completely. If you’re concerned your internet usage might be monitored, call the domestic violence hotline at 800.799.SAFE (7233).
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    • 44 min
    Ep 172: Reflecting on Your Relationship: When Things Require Some Work

    Ep 172: Reflecting on Your Relationship: When Things Require Some Work

    This is an episode for anyone who is at the cusp of counseling or is negotiating a power struggle in their relationship. I think for a lot of people it can be hard to know if you are happy or if you want to stay, or if you are actually ready to leave a relationship. It’s one of those things that requires a lot of talk and reflection, and it gets even more complicated because of how interwoven it is with everything in your life as an individual.
    Relationships are hard, and if you want them to work long-term they take a lot of maintenance, work and also introspection. A lot of the time keeping them healthy means voicing your issues and being strong enough to walk away if it requires that.
    This is an episode that is mostly tools. I wrote it for anyone who is in a difficult relationship situation. Maybe you are thinking of getting counseling or you are currently in a power struggle. And it’s tailored to codependents and those of us who get stuck in the swallowing our needs, feeling if we just try hard enough EVENTUALLY we will get the love and respect we crave.
    If you are in a dangerous relationship and need help to exit in a way that is safe for you head to this resource:
    https://www.thehotline.org/
    Internet usage can be monitored and is impossible to erase completely. If you’re concerned your internet usage might be monitored, call us at 800.799.SAFE (7233).
    For more of my work head to YayWithMe.com and to become a Patreon head to Patreon.com/SarahMayB
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Self help for people who hate self help :)

Haha! I saw this podcast in my recommended list and was instantly drawn to the title. Who doesn’t want to be more themselves, especially if they’re like me with full blown imposter syndrome. There is a lot of cringe self help on the internet but Sarah May’s comes at it with a very grounded approach. Super appreciative of this!

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My favorite self help podcast so far 🖤

I’ve never found so many episodes that speak to me like the way this podcast does. It’s like chatting with a friend after spilling all my feelings out to them. I don’t feel so lonely knowing there’s others out there who feel similarly to me. Sarah’s voice is so calming and she has a great sense of humor too. I’m really enjoying it so far. Thank you for starting this podcast🥰

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