Living Beyond ADHD

DrB
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After a three-year hiatus due to health challenges, DrB returns to Living Beyond ADHD with a message that hasn't changed — and a conviction that's stronger than ever. In this comeback episode, DrB lays out the truth about adults with ADHD: you are bright, gifted, and capable of extraordinary things. What's holding you back isn't a disorder — it's missing pre-skills and executive function skills that were never taught to you. And the most radical idea of all? Those skills can be learned. Welcome back.

  1. 5d ago

    The Supermarket of the Mind: What's in Your Basket? - 141

    Your mind is a supermarket, and the shelves are packed with thoughts, feelings, behaviors, values, and beliefs — both the motivating and the deflating. In this episode, DrB asks the question: what's in your basket? She shares three learnable skills — notice what's in the basket, read the labels, and swap rather than purge — so you can stop shopping on autopilot. Not a flaw. A skill you can practice. Key Points Covered The supermarket metaphor: thoughts, feelings, behaviors, mindsets, values, and beliefs all sit on the shelves, and we choose what goes in the basketWhy most of what is in our basket was handed to us or grabbed out of habit — and why "just think positive" is not help for an ADHD brainSkill 1 — Notice what is in the basket with a one-minute daily inventory, without judgmentSkill 2 — Read the label: where did this thought come from, is it true, and is it useful?Skill 3 — Swap, do not purge: replace one item or add one nourishing thought instead of overhauling your whole mindWhy what you feed yourself most of the time matters more than any single bad day, and how sleep, food, and rest keep you from shopping hungry Links Mentioned drbarbaracohen.com — All episodes + show resourcesIt Was Never You:   Why Capable, Successful Adults Keep Hitting the Same Wall November date to be determined as of yet.  Page will be updated soon.  Currently has Oct. information and that is over.  https://itwasneveryoumasterclass.com/  Get Sh*t Done (GSD) Program Information – 9-month program https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/gsdprogram Grant assistance page for help with funding for GSD program: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/financial-assistance The Transformation Club (TTC) – if time or money commitments have been holding you back - the affordable membership program for Executive Function skills development: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram Free PDF - 13 Signs Weak Executive Functioning Is Holding You Back: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/Executive-Function Follow me on DrB Facebook Page and enjoy live videos and moreFollow me on Instagram and enjoy relevant resourcesJoin me in the FREE group on Skool (instead of the Facebook group).  Here's the link to request to join:  https://www.skool.com/giftedadultslivingbeyondadhd/about To Help The Show: Subscribe at your favorite listening spot, and my podcast player has social media links (icons) in the episode player so you can share episodes you love with others! Please rate the show and leave a thoughtful review on iTunes so I know you're benefiting from the episodes. The greater the number of reviews, the higher the ranking, and the easier it will be for others to find the show; people who also need this information.  Let's put an end to the worldwide needless suffering together! We can do this!

  2. Oct 17

    The 13 Executive Function Skills: Why the Order Matters - 140

    That long list of struggles isn't one flaw. It's thirteen skills, and every one of them can be developed. In this episode, DrB separates ADHD symptoms from executive function skills, walks through all thirteen in plain language, and explains why the order they're built in matters. You'll also get a simple prediction exercise to start practicing metacognition today. There's nothing broken here. Some skills just haven't been taught yet. Key Points Covered The difference between the three ADHD symptoms and the executive function skills, in DrB's experience, and why attention alone doesn't build the rest.Why planners and to-do advice fall off: they tell you what to do without teaching the skill.A plain-language tour of all 13 skills, from metacognition and inhibiting to working memory and maintaining achievements.Why metacognition comes first: you can see without acting, and every skill gives you choice.Emotional control as thinking control: we are the meaning makers.Why the order matters, and a metacognition exercise: predict a movie, then predict your day. Links Mentioned drbarbaracohen.com — All episodes + show resources It Was Never You:   Why Capable, Successful Adults Keep Hitting the Same Wall October 20, 2026, 10 am – 2 pm pacific time + VIP hour:  https://itwasneveryoumasterclass.com/   Get Sh*t Done (GSD) Program Information – 9-month program https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/gsdprogram  Grant assistance page for help with funding for GSD program: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/financial-assistance  The Transformation Club (TTC) – if time or money commitments have been holding you back - the affordable membership program for Executive Function skills development: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram  Free PDF - 13 Signs Weak Executive Functioning Is Holding You Back: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/Executive-Function  Follow me on DrB Facebook Page and enjoy live videos and more Follow me on Instagram and enjoy relevant resources Join me on the free group on Skool (instead of the Facebook group).  Here's the link to request to join:  https://www.skool.com/giftedadultslivingbeyondadhd/about To Help The Show: Subscribe at your favorite listening spot, and my podcast player has social media links (icons) in the episode player so you can share episodes you love with others! Please rate the show and leave a thoughtful review on iTunes so I know you're benefiting from the episodes. The greater the number of reviews, the higher the ranking, and the easier it will be for others to find the show; people who also need this information.  Let's put an end to the worldwide needless suffering together! We can do this!

  3. Oct 13

    Before the Skills: The Three Pre-Skills Nobody Taught You - 139

    Ever followed the directions perfectly and still not gotten the result? In this episode, DrB explains pre-skills: the skills you need before you can build the skills you want. She walks through the three that matter most: managing yourself in time, banishing procrastination, and making decisions with a values-based strategy. If it hasn't worked, it was never you. It was a missing skill, and skills can be learned. Key Points Covered What a pre-skill is, with the two-wheeler and balance example, and why so many how-to books skip them.Pre-skill 1: manage yourself in time, not time itself. Build settling time into your schedule and put tasks on a calendar, not a to-do list.Covey's jar: put your rocks (your 4 to 6 most important things) in first, or they will never fit.Pre-skill 2: procrastination is a symptom, not a flaw. It shows up where you run out of knowing how to begin, continue, or finish. Includes the three saboteurs: negative thinking, fear of failure, and fear of success.Pre-skill 3: decision-making. Understand decision fatigue, decide in bulk, and filter options through your values and criteria.Why beliefs and identity come first, pre-skills second, and executive function skills third. Links Mentioned drbarbaracohen.com — All episodes + show resources It Was Never You:   Why Capable, Successful Adults Keep Hitting the Same Wall October 20, 2026, 10 am – 2 pm pacific time + VIP hour  https://itwasneveryoumasterclass.com/   (free masterclass)  Get Sh*t Done (GSD) Program Information – 9-month program https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/gsdprogram Grant assistance page for help with funding for GSD program: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/financial-assistance The Transformation Club (TTC) – if time or money commitments have been holding you back - the affordable membership program for Executive Function skills development: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram Free PDF - 13 Signs Weak Executive Functioning Is Holding You Back: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/Executive-Function Follow me on DrB Facebook Page and enjoy live videos and more Follow me on Instagram and enjoy relevant resources To Help The Show: Subscribe at your favorite listening spot, and my podcast player has social media links (icons) in the episode player so you can share episodes you love with others! Please rate the show and leave a thoughtful review on iTunes so I know you're benefiting from the episodes. The greater the number of reviews, the higher the ranking, and the easier it will be for others to find the show; people who also need this information.  Let's put an end to the worldwide needless suffering together! We can do this!

  4. Oct 6

    It Was Never You: The Beliefs and Identities Standing Between You and Your Skills - 138

    You know what to do, so why can't you do it? In this extended episode, DrB explains why limiting beliefs and outdated identities get in the way of every skill you try to build, and why they come before pre-skills and executive function skills. You'll learn how to put a limiting belief on the witness stand, how to separate "I am" from "I do," and a three-part life work exercise to start this week. Plus an invitation to the free live It Was Never You Masterclass on Tuesday, October 20, 2026, co-hosted with Dr. Tuby Akinlosotu. Key Points Covered The big picture: outdated identities and limiting beliefs first, then pre-skills, then executive function skillsThree misconceptions: we know what we need, knowledge is power, and we can skip the processA limiting belief is a belief held as if it were fact; every limiting belief has an exception (Roger Bannister and the four-minute mile)Common limiting beliefs about yourself, relationships, habits and time, organization, and your own brain, and why "I hate my ADHD brain" backfiresIdentity versus behavior: why "I am lazy" is an identity and "I struggle to start tasks" is a skill gapThe three-part life work exercise, plus details for the free live masterclass on October 20, 2026 (10 am to 2 pm Pacific)Links Mentioned drbarbaracohen.com — All episodes + show resources It Was Never You:   Why Capable, Successful Adults Keep Hitting the Same Wall October 20, 2026, 10 am – 2 pm pacific time + VIP hour:  https://itwasneveryoumasterclass.com/   Get Sh*t Done (GSD) Program Information – 9-month program https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/gsdprogram Grant assistance page for help with funding for GSD program: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/financial-assistance   The Transformation Club (TTC) – if time or money commitments have been holding you back - the affordable membership program for Executive Function skills development: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram   Free PDF - 13 Signs Weak Executive Functioning Is Holding You Back: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/Executive-Function Follow me on DrB Facebook Page and enjoy live videos and more Follow me on Instagram and enjoy relevant resources To Help The Show: Subscribe at your favorite listening spot, and my podcast player has social media links (icons) in the episode player so you can share episodes you love with others! Please rate the show and leave a thoughtful review on iTunes so I know you're benefiting from the episodes. The greater the number of reviews, the higher the ranking, and the easier it will be for others to find the show; people who also need this information.  Let's put an end to the worldwide needless suffering together! We can do this!

  5. Sep 29

    The Exhaustion Nobody Sees: ADHD and Burnout - 137

    Slept eight hours and still feel like you're running on empty? ADHD burnout is different from ordinary burnout — it's the cumulative cost of constantly compensating for a brain the world wasn't built around, and "just rest more" doesn't fix it. DrB explains why ADHD burnout hits differently, how it shows up before you even realize you're in it, and the structural skills that actually prevent it. Key Points Covered Why ADHD burnout is different from general workplace burnout — the "ADHD tax" of constant compensationWhy high performers are often the most vulnerable to a sudden, dramatic crashWhy rest alone doesn't fix ADHD burnoutReal-life signs: losing skills temporarily, getting sick after big projects, a vacation that doesn't helpFive skills for prevention: proactive recovery time, personal early-warning signs, unmasked spaces, protected downtime, and requesting accommodations early Links Mentioned drbarbaracohen.com — All episodes + show resources It Was Never You Masterclass – More Than ADHD Coaching, October 20, 2026, 10 am – 2 pm pacific time + VIP hour:  https://itwasneveryoumasterclass.com/  (registration link will be active by Sept. 30th; currently set to previous old date) Get Sh*t Done (GSD) Program Information – 9-month program https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/gsdprogram Grant assistance page for help with funding for GSD program: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/financial-assistance  The Transformation Club (TTC) – if time or money commitments have been holding you back - the affordable membership program for Executive Function skills development: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram  Free PDF - 13 Signs Weak Executive Functioning Is Holding You Back: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/Executive-Function  Follow me on Dr B Facebook Page and enjoy live videos and more Follow me on Instagram and enjoy relevant resources To Help The Show: Subscribe at your favorite listening spot, and my podcast player has social media links (icons) in the episode player so you can share episodes you love with others! Please rate the show and leave a thoughtful review on iTunes so I know you're benefiting from the episodes. The greater the number of reviews, the higher the ranking, and the easier it will be for others to find the show; people who also need this information.  Let's put an end to the worldwide needless suffering together! We can do this!

  6. Sep 18

    Procrastination vs. Perfectionism — Different Beasts, Same Paralysis - 136

    Can't start the task, or can't stop redoing it? Both get called laziness, but they're driven by opposite fears — and treating them the same way is why so many fixes don't stick. DrB breaks down the real difference between ADHD procrastination and ADHD perfectionism, how the two feed each other into one paralyzing loop, and the specific skills that interrupt each one. Key Points Covered Why ADHD procrastination is a task-initiation and emotional avoidance issue, not a time management issueWhy perfectionism in ADHD is often compensatory armor, not high ambitionThe key distinction: procrastination fears starting, perfectionism fears finishingHow the two patterns feed each other into a self-reinforcing loopFour practical skills — shrinking the first step, defining "done" in advance, externalizing the start, and separating drafts from identityLinks Mentioned drbarbaracohen.com — All episodes + show resources It Was Never You Masterclass – More Than ADHD Coaching (FREE), September 22, 2026, 10 am – 2 pm pacific time + VIP hour:  https://itwasneveryoumasterclass.com/  Get Sh*t Done (GSD) Program Information – 9-month program https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/gsdprogram Grant assistance page for help with funding for GSD program: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/financial-assistance  The Transformation Club (TTC) – if time or money commitments have been holding you back - the affordable membership program for Executive Function skills development: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram  Free PDF - 13 Signs Weak Executive Functioning Is Holding You Back: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/Executive-Function  Follow me on Dr B Facebook Page and enjoy live videos and more Follow me on Instagram and enjoy relevant resources  To Help The Show: Subscribe at your favorite listening spot, and my podcast player has social media links (icons) in the episode player so you can share episodes you love with others! Please rate the show and leave a thoughtful review on iTunes so I know you're benefiting from the episodes. The greater the number of reviews, the higher the ranking, and the easier it will be for others to find the show; people who also need this information.  Let's put an end to the worldwide needless suffering together! We can do this!

  7. Sep 15

    ADHD and Money: Impulsivity, Debt, and the Skills Nobody Taught You - 135

    Impulse buys at midnight. Bills that quietly turn into late fees. A banking app you haven't opened in weeks. If ADHD has ever made money feel like a moral test you keep failing, this episode is for you. DrB breaks down why ADHD brains struggle with money — dopamine, time blindness, working memory — and shares five practical skills for building a system that works with your brain instead of against it. Key Points Covered Why ADHD brains are especially prone to impulsive spending and financial avoidanceHow time blindness and working memory challenges turn into late fees and forgotten bills"Money paralysis" — why avoiding your bank app can feel safer than checking itWhy all-or-nothing budgets fail, and what to build insteadFive practical skills: automation, the purchase pause, making the invisible visible, separating worth from numbers, and sustainable support Links Mentioned drbarbaracohen.com — All episodes + show resources It Was Never You Masterclass – More Than ADHD Coaching, September 22, 2026, 10 am – 2 pm pacific time (FREE) + VIP hour:  https://itwasneveryoumasterclass.com/  Get Sh*t Done (GSD) Program Information – 9-month program https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/gsdprogram Grant assistance page for help with funding for GSD program: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/financial-assistance  The Transformation Club (TTC) – if time or money commitments have been holding you back - the affordable membership program for Executive Function skills development: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram  Free PDF - 13 Signs Weak Executive Functioning Is Holding You Back: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/Executive-Function  Follow me on Dr B Facebook Page and enjoy live videos and more Follow me on Instagram and enjoy relevant resources To Help The Show: Subscribe at your favorite listening spot, and my podcast player has social media links (icons) in the episode player so you can share episodes you love with others! Please rate the show and leave a thoughtful review on iTunes so I know you're benefiting from the episodes. The greater the number of reviews, the higher the ranking, and the easier it will be for others to find the show; people who also need this information.  Let's put an end to the worldwide needless suffering together! We can do this!

  8. Sep 8

    Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria — The ADHD Wound Nobody Names - 134

    Ever replayed a text message for three days over a single missing exclamation point? That's not "being too sensitive" — it might be Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, an intense emotional response to real or perceived rejection that's common in ADHD brains. In this episode, DrB names the wound nobody talks about, explains why it happens, and shares practical skills for putting a pause between the feeling and the reaction. This one's personal, and it's for anyone who's ever shrunk their life to avoid being turned down. Key Points Covered What Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is and why "dysphoria" is the operative wordWhy RSD can be triggered by real or imagined rejection, and why that makes it so disorientingHow RSD quietly shapes decisions — people-pleasing, avoiding risk, staying smallThe "five-second pause" as a first-line skill for interrupting the RSD spiralHow to separate the feeling from the facts of what actually happenedBuilding a kinder internal voice, and why sustainable support (like the GSD 9-Month Program) makes these skills stickLinks Mentioned drbarbaracohen.com — All episodes + show resources It Was Never You Masterclass – More Than ADHD Coaching, September 22, 2026, 10 am – 2 pm pacific time + VIP hour:  https://itwasneveryoumasterclass.com/  (Registration is now open) Get Sh*t Done (GSD) Program Information – 9-month program https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/gsdprogram Grant assistance page for help with funding for GSD program: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/financial-assistance  The Transformation Club (TTC) – if time or money commitments have been holding you back - the affordable membership program for Executive Function skills development: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram  Free PDF - 13 Signs Weak Executive Functioning Is Holding You Back: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/Executive-Function  Follow me on Dr B Facebook Page and enjoy live videos and more Follow me on Instagram and enjoy relevant resources  To Help The Show: Subscribe at your favorite listening spot, and my podcast player has social media links (icons) in the episode player so you can share episodes you love with others! Please rate the show and leave a thoughtful review on iTunes so I know you're benefiting from the episodes. The greater the number of reviews, the higher the ranking, and the easier it will be for others to find the show; people who also need this information.  Let's put an end to the worldwide needless suffering together! We can do this!

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After a three-year hiatus due to health challenges, DrB returns to Living Beyond ADHD with a message that hasn't changed — and a conviction that's stronger than ever. In this comeback episode, DrB lays out the truth about adults with ADHD: you are bright, gifted, and capable of extraordinary things. What's holding you back isn't a disorder — it's missing pre-skills and executive function skills that were never taught to you. And the most radical idea of all? Those skills can be learned. Welcome back.

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  • Creator
    DrB
  • Years Active
    2017 - 2026
  • Episodes
    141
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 @2026 Living Beyond ADHD with DrB
  • Show Website
    Living Beyond ADHD

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