The Healing Trauma Podcast

Monique Koven
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Everyone deserves to be seen, soothed, and understood. This podcast is here to light your path on the healing journey, offering empathy and hope along the way. Through conversations with trauma experts, we'll share insights and practical support to help you heal and move forward. Disclaimer: This podcast is for information purposes only and should not be considered as legal advice.This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical and mental health advice. Guest view's do not necessarily reflect that of the host or podcast. As an amazon affiliate, when you make a purchase, I receive a tiny amount.

  1. 6d ago

    Moving Toward the Parts That Hurt Using IFS With Jenna Riemersma

    In this replay episode, Monique speaks with therapist and author Jenna Riemersma about Internal Family Systems, or IFS, and a compassionate way to work with the wounded parts of ourselves. Jenna explains why healing often starts by moving toward what we usually want to avoid, and how that shift can reduce shame, increase self-understanding, and create real internal change.They also discuss the difference between burdened parts and core self, how protective “wall” parts operate, and why healthy boundaries come from self rather than reactivity. Jenna shares a simple three-step practice called move toward: notice, know, and need. Jenna explains how IFS views people as fundamentally good, with a core self that remains intact even after traumaThe conversation centers on the idea that parts of us are not bad, but burdened by traumatic experiences and stuck in protective rolesMonique and Jenna discuss how shame, rage, numbness, addiction, and dissociation can all be understood as parts trying to helpJenna uses the sun and clouds metaphor to explain why core self can feel inaccessible when protective parts take overA practical framework is introduced: move toward, which includes three steps - notice, know, and needJenna gives a personal example involving canceled plans and how an abandoned, rejected part was triggered by present-day stressThe episode explores why even one step of compassionate noticing can be deeply transformativeMonique asks about wall parts, and Jenna explains how protective shutdown can feel like boundaries but usually functions as isolationHealthy boundaries are framed as something that can only come from core self, not from angry, fearful, or manipulative partsJenna explains why “what’s in the way is the way” and how every part can become a doorway to healing Jenna's books: Altogether You: Experiencing personal and spiritual transformation with Internal Family Systems therapy https://amzn.to/4y7KLsv Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of You https://amzn.to/45yy9OQ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Moving Toward the Parts That Hurt Using IFS With Jenna Riemersma

  2. Jul 24

    Mother Trauma

    In this mini episode, host Monique Koven explores the profound impact of attachment trauma, especially from caregivers who are frightening or unreliable. She discusses how these early experiences shape our nervous system, influence our relationships, and how understanding these patterns can foster self-compassion and healing. Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Mother Trauma

  3. Jun 12

    Becoming The Mother You Never Had With Dr. Lindsay Gibson

    All New Episode With Dr. Lindsay Gibson You Can Be The Mother You Needed : In this brand new episode, Dr. Lindsay Gibson shares her groundbreaking approach to parenting, emphasizing the importance of understanding emotional maturity in children and how to foster it. Monique and Lindsay explore the dynamics of emotional immaturity, how past traumas affect parenting styles, and practical mindsets that nurture resilient, emotionally aware kids. About our guest: Dr. Lindsay Gibson is a clinical psychologist and bestselling author of a number of books, including Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and her new book, How to Raise an Emotionally Mature Child. What you'll discover in this conversation: The core differences between emotionally mature and immature parents childhood trauma and early attachment influence parenting The concept of emotional needs: contact, soothing, proximity The significance of seeing children as real inside with their own inner worlds The importance of protective parenting and setting a safe emotional foundation The seven mindsets that underpin emotionally intelligent parenting Strategies to help children develop internal representations of their world How to respond to children's behavior as a form of communication The role of empathy and sensitivity in emotional development Practical ways to show children they are understood, safe, and valued Order Lindsay Gibson's new book "How to Raise an Emotionally Mature Child ; https://amzn.to/3SBLySE Watch The Full Episode https://youtu.be/c0iuE9szrJA?si=F8uuxa5B6lw-RdRL Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Becoming The Mother You Never Had With Dr. Lindsay Gibson

  4. Jun 4

    How Childhood Trauma Shows Up Now With Dr. Janina Fisher

    In this replay conversation, my guest renowned trauma expert Dr. Janina Fisher discusses her model TIST (Trauma Informed Stabilization Treatment) and the concept of the living legacy of trauma, emphasizing how trauma's effects persist in the body and mind beyond past events. She explores dissociation, fragmentation, and practical approaches to healing trauma by addressing these living legacies.Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation Janina's Books Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation https://amzn.to/4uyDtMy Transforming The Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists https://amzn.to/4dbcHCC Embracing Our Fragmented Selves: A Workbook for Trauma Survivors and Therapists https://amzn.to/4cWI4Ci https://janinafisher.com/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    How Childhood Trauma Shows Up Now With Dr. Janina Fisher

  5. May 21

    Trauma-Related Dissociation With Kathy Steele

    In this replay interview, trauma expert Kathy Steele explores the complex world of dissociation, trauma, and mental health. She discusses different types of dissociation, the development of self, and practical strategies for healing and integration. Books: Treating Trauma-Related Dissociation: A Practical, Integrative Approach (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) https://amzn.to/4f0KPUA Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) https://amzn.to/49JG7XC Trauma-Related Dissociation Two-Book Set https://amzn.to/4tSvCsq Kathy's website: https://www.kathy-steele.com/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Trauma-Related Dissociation With Kathy Steele

  6. May 7

    Mother's Day With An Emotionally Immature Mother With Dr. Lindsay Gibson

    In this replay episode, Dr. Lindsay Gibson is back just in time for Mother's Day. About our Guest: Dr. Lindsay Gibson is a clinical psychologist and the author of the Emotional Immaturity series of books, including her bestseller Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. In this conversation, Monique and Lindsay discuss the complexities of navigating Mother's Day emotions, particularly for those with emotionally immature parents. They explore the conflicting feelings of grief and obligation, the importance of self-validation, and practical tips for managing relationships during this challenging time. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-care and reconnecting with one's true self to foster personal growth and healing. Takeaways Mother's Day can evoke mixed emotions, including grief and obligation.It's important to honour your own feelings during this holiday.Emotional immaturity in parents can complicate relationships.Self-validation is crucial for emotional well-being.Finding a balance between honouring a parent and honouring oneself is key.It's okay to choose how to engage with emotionally immature parents.Reconnecting with oneself is essential for personal growth.Practicing self-care can help manage emotional turmoil.Taking a pause to reflect on feelings can lead to better self-understanding.Find Lindsay's books here:Adult children of Emotionally Immature Parents https://amzn.to/4kpLu1l Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy  https://amzn.to/42YKdHg Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence https://amzn.to/3RTG6XX Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents https://amzn.to/44qhHRo Connect with Monique on IG https://www.instagram.com/thehealingtraumapodcast/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Mother's Day With An Emotionally Immature Mother With Dr. Lindsay Gibson

  7. Apr 23

    Betrayed By Your Partner With Michelle Mays

    In this replay conversation, host Monique Koven is chatting with trauma therapist and author Michelle Mays. They discuss the concept of betrayal trauma, its connection to attachment theory, and how childhood trauma influences adult relationships. Michelle explains the importance of understanding betrayal trauma as a relational issue and outlines the three trauma traps that betrayed partners often face: fear of loss, shame, and powerlessness. She also introduces her six phases of healing, emphasizing that healing is a complex, non-linear process that requires individuals to confront their fears and engage in deep emotional work. Michelle's Books & Resources: The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst https://amzn.to/3Z6P8Ve The Aftermath of Betrayal https://amzn.to/4qOveKR When It All Breaks Bad: 10 Things To Do (And Not Do) After Betrayal https://amzn.to/3ZDwBQi Michelle's Website: https://michellemays.com/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Betrayed By Your Partner With Michelle Mays

  8. Apr 9

    How To Talk To Your Partner About Trauma With Elizabeth Earnshaw

    In this replay conversation, therapist and author Elizabeth Earnshaw discusses the challenges faced by trauma survivors in relationships, particularly the need for understanding and effective communication with partners. She emphasizes the importance of empathy, active listening, and creating a safe space for sharing experiences. She also provides strategies for expressing needs to partners and navigating situations where partners may struggle to understand or respond appropriately. The conversation highlights the significance of persistence in communication and the potential for healing through supportive relationships. takeaways Many trauma survivors feel isolated and misunderstood by their partners.It's essential for partners to listen and hold space for trauma survivors.Survivors need to clarify what understanding looks like for them.Empathy and compassion are crucial in supporting a loved one with trauma.Effective communication requires choosing the right time and approach.Expressing positive needs can reduce defensiveness in conversations.Partners should be responsive and curious about their loved one's experiences.It's important to gauge a partner's ability to listen and support.Persistence in communication can help partners improve their understanding.Safe relationships allow for ongoing discussions about needs and feelings. Liz's book: Til Stress Do Us Part: How to Heal the #1 Issue in Our Relationships https://amzn.to/4bvmjY3 Website:https://elizabethearnshaw.com/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    How To Talk To Your Partner About Trauma With Elizabeth Earnshaw
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Everyone deserves to be seen, soothed, and understood. This podcast is here to light your path on the healing journey, offering empathy and hope along the way. Through conversations with trauma experts, we'll share insights and practical support to help you heal and move forward. Disclaimer: This podcast is for information purposes only and should not be considered as legal advice.This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical and mental health advice. Guest view's do not necessarily reflect that of the host or podcast. As an amazon affiliate, when you make a purchase, I receive a tiny amount.

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  • Creator
    Monique Koven
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    114
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2024 The Healing Trauma Podcast
  • Show Website
    The Healing Trauma Podcast

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