Bare Marriage

Sheila Gregoire

Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with Bare Marriage--the blog!

  1. Episode 322: Why Is Every Man's Battle So Creepy? A Harrowing Example

    1D AGO

    Episode 322: Why Is Every Man's Battle So Creepy? A Harrowing Example

    Send us Fan Mail A close look at how Every Man’s Battle ignores the impact of predation on women and girls–and is just plain creepy! Plus a new study on hostile/benevolent sexism when it comes to tradwife content. It’s our podcast and Friday RoundUp in one! Our podcast we wanted to air this week just wasn’t ready in time–so we decided to record our Friday RoundUp a day early, and run it as this week’s podcast. So if you’re used to listening to our podcast, remember that on YouTube every week we also have a 20 minute unfiltered, unscripted Friday Roundup! TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  Our post on the two Every Man’s Battle excerptsThe Facebook post people were commenting onThe article on the new tradwife studyOur download on the problems with Every Man’s BattleOur download on the problems with Every Young Man’s BattleSubscribe to our YouTube channel so you don't miss all the regular Friday roundups! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    26 min
  2. Episode 321: New Research into Modesty Messaging, Sexual Harassment in Church, Plus We Answer Your Questions!

    MAR 26

    Episode 321: New Research into Modesty Messaging, Sexual Harassment in Church, Plus We Answer Your Questions!

    Send us Fan Mail Keith and Rebecca are taking over the podcast this week and are answering your questions — from how to find a healthy church community to whether complementarianism is a dealbreaker. They're refreshingly honest and a little funny about it. Then Joanna joins to dig into a brand-new peer-reviewed paper on how internalized modesty messaging affects girls' self-esteem and their risk of being sexually harassed in church as minors. What they found is both unsurprising and deeply sobering: environments that emphasize modesty messaging don't just harm girls, they actually groom boys into predatory behavior. It's research that needs to get out of their little corner of the internet and into the broader conversation, and your support made it possible. TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  Love & Respect DocuseriesBook suggestions from Rebecca: Mistborn Series by Brandon SandersonProject Hail Mary - Andy WeirShattered Sea Trilogy - Joe AbercrombieFarseer Trilogy - Robin Hobb(Join The Patreon for our great book club for more!)Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    57 min
  3. Episode 320: Let’s Talk Adult ADHD and GENDER ROLES!

    MAR 19

    Episode 320: Let’s Talk Adult ADHD and GENDER ROLES!

    Send us Fan Mail What does it mean to have realistic expectations of a spouse with ADHD? How does gender play into how ADHD impacts a relationship? And what do accommodations actually look like—versus what do they not look like in a healthy marriage? This week Rebecca talks about her own diagnosis of ADHD with her father Keith (a pediatrician) and good friend Daniel Forsythe (a licensed psychotherapist who works with neurodiverse marriages frequently) to dig down to discuss what the evidence actually says is possible, the risk of “caregiver burnout”, and more as Rebecca picks the brains of the actual professionals so we can all land in an evidence-based place! THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR: To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized! TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  Study regarding impact of ADHD on women versus men in adulthoodWrite-up on how we falsely believe that ADHD is easier on womenStudy on how a messy home impacts women versus men’s social standing and who we intrinsically believe is “responsible” for cleaningThe Marriage You Want bookIs It You, Me, or Adult ADHD? A more therapeutic book about counselling practices for marriages working with ADHD: Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    1h 19m
  4. Episode 319: Did Purity Culture Cause Developmental Trauma--and Kill Libido?

    MAR 12

    Episode 319: Did Purity Culture Cause Developmental Trauma--and Kill Libido?

    Send us Fan Mail What if the reason so many women struggle with desire, arousal, and orgasm has nothing to do with their bodies—and everything to do with what they were taught before they even wanted to be sexual? In this episode, Rebecca and I pull together research and real-life stories to trace a thread that runs from how we raise our daughters, to what happens on the wedding night, to why so many women are secretly faking it. THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR: To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized! TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  Our Orgasm Course and Boost Your Libido CourseLove and Respect Docu-SeriesResearch Paper: "Sexual Passion in Adolescence: Examining Its Transmission Through Mothers"Research Paper: "Do Women Withhold Honest Sexual Communication When They Believe Their Partner's Manhood Is Threatened?"Instagram Thread by Ally Jolie (somatic psychologist, UK)Podcast episode on men projecting sexual attention-seeking onto girls Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    1h 6m
  5. Episode 318: You're Allowed to Want Stuff! Talking Desire with Jay Stringer

    MAR 5

    Episode 318: You're Allowed to Want Stuff! Talking Desire with Jay Stringer

    Send a text Jay Stringer, licensed therapist and author of Unwanted, is back to talk about his brand new book Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow. Together, we unpack why so many of us — especially those from church backgrounds — were taught to fear and suppress our desires rather than develop them. We dig into enmeshment, the "provisional self," why differentiation is actually the secret to intimacy and a healthy sex life, and why low libido is never just a libido problem. If you've ever felt broken, empty, or like you don't even know what you want anymore, this conversation is for you. TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  Get Jay Stringer's book DesireGet Jay's book UnwantedFollow Jay on InstagramSheila's book The Marriage You Want, and the video curriculum that goes with itSupport the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    1h 8m
  6. Episode 317: Famished--How Purity Culture Taught Women to Shrink with Anna Rollins

    FEB 26

    Episode 317: Famished--How Purity Culture Taught Women to Shrink with Anna Rollins

    Send a text Anna Rollins grew up as the kind of girl who took her faith seriously — and that's exactly why it hurt her so much. In this conversation, Anna and I dig into her memoir Famished: On Food, Sex, and Growing Up as a Good Girl, where she traces how purity culture's messages about desire, self-denial, and the body quietly fueled decades of disordered eating, compulsive exercise, and sexual pain. What strikes me most is that Anna's parents were loving, her church wasn't overtly abusive — and yet the cumulative message she absorbed was shrink yourself.  I think this conversation is going to resonate deeply with so many of you. THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR: To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized! https://amzn.to/4rSYkZu TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  Get Anna Rollins' book FamishedFollow Anna on SubstackWatch our Love & Respect Docuseries The Portuguese version of The Great Sex RescueThe Chinese version of The Great Sex RescueThe Spanish version of The Good Girl's Guide to Great SexSupport the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    56 min
  7. Episode 316: What Still Surprised Us Making the Love & Respect Docuseries

    FEB 19

    Episode 316: What Still Surprised Us Making the Love & Respect Docuseries

    Send a text Rebecca, Joanna, and I are pulling back the curtain on what went into making the Love & Respect docuseries — including the things that didn't make the final cut. From the bizarre Nazi torture illustration Emerson used to keep women in bad marriages, to the genuinely heartbreaking story of a little boy watching his father abuse his mother, this episode gets raw and honest about why we've been fighting this battle for seven years. We also share the stunning survey results from a church in Florida that show exactly what happens when love-and-respect-style teaching takes root in a community. And we end with a word of real hope: healthy churches exist, better books are being written, and the tide is turning. THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR: To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized! https://amzn.to/4rSYkZu TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  Watch the Love & Respect Docuseries! Episode 1, Episode 2, and Episode 3Our Love & Respect hub (links to all Love & Respect articles 7 resources at bottom)The Substack from the Florida womanSubscribe to Good Fruit Faith on YouTubeSupport the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    1h 11m
  8. Bad Stats, Editing the Bible, and Recycling 1970s Ideas: A Love & Respect Deep Dive Part 2

    FEB 12

    Bad Stats, Editing the Bible, and Recycling 1970s Ideas: A Love & Respect Deep Dive Part 2

    Send a text Part two of a three-part docuseries deep dive into the best-selling evangelical marriage book Love & Respect. LOVE & RESPECT DOCUSERIES: Watch the video version of thisHere's episode 1. To see episode 3 next week, subscribe to the Good Fruit Faith ChannelThis podcast delves into what Love & Respect is based on--recycled ideas from a 1970s best-seller; faulty stats; misrepresented research--and editing the Bible. BONUS CONTENT Gain bonus content, full videos of the interviews and MORE if you become a patron! https://patreon.com/baremarriage Support Good Fruit Faith, that paved the way for this project LINKS:  Op-ed on the history of ordination of women and the SBCShaunti Feldhahn's original surveyDouble-barrelled questionsStudy on shoulder-to-shoulder communicationThe Authoritarians book  Breakdown of Eggerichs misunderstanding marital rape and saying you can't tell if a woman is arousedPodcast about the mystery of a woman being "turned on"Dr. Shauna Springer's original PsychologyToday article EXPERT INTERVIEWEES INFORMATION:  Dr. Chuck DeGroat Dr. Shauna Springer Dr. Andrew Bauman Dr. Beth Felkner Jones and her Substack Jay Stringer and his book Desire Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    1h 16m
4.6
out of 5
1,250 Ratings

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Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with Bare Marriage--the blog!

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