The Finding Peace Podcast

Troy L Love/ Finding Peace Consulting, llc
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It isn’t the bad things that happened to us that is the problem... It’s what we end up believing about ourselves.

  1. 2D AGO

    When 'Yes' Hurts: Rewriting the Martyr's Story

    Troy L. Love uses a personal wisdom-teeth story to expose the ‘martyr’ voice that drives overgiving and self-sacrifice. He explains trauma-informed boundaries as nervous-system–aware limits that protect connection without abandoning yourself.   This short episode offers practical reframes and simple phrases to challenge beliefs like “rest must be earned,” helping you set limits that honor your capacity, worth, and relationships.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

    19 min

  2. FEB 23

    Beware the BRPEs: How Connection Restores Calm

    Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools to help when emotions run high and relationships feel heavy. Hosted by Troy L. Love, this episode explains why arguments often aren’t about the issue at hand but about nervous system survival. Using the metaphor of relationship "BRPEx"—Blame, Rescue, Protest, Escape—Troy shows how fight-or-flight responses shut down thinking and why logic doesn’t land when safety is gone. He teaches simple steps to pause, name emotions, empathize, and regulate so connection can restore clarity. Choose connection first, slow the spiral, and learn how safety brings the thinking brain back online.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

    16 min

  3. FEB 16

    When ‘Laziness’ Is Survival: The Hidden Power of Freezing

    Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools to help when emotions run high and motivation fades. Troy L. Love explains how chronic procrastination and emotional flatness can be nervous-system protection—called freezing—not laziness, and invites listeners to reframe self-judgment into curiosity about what needs are being protected. Learn simple steps to honor stillness, tend attachment wounds, and create safety so you can move forward with more peace and connection.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

    10 min

  4. FEB 9

    When Safety Feels Uncertain: Understanding Hypervigilance

    Host Troy L. Love explores how growing up with unpredictable anger trains the nervous system to stay on guard, and why hypervigilance is an adaptive response rather than a flaw. He offers a simple, trauma-informed grounding exercise (5-4-3-2-1) and compassionate reframing to help the body learn to relax safely and find more peace, joy, and connection.     https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

    13 min

  5. FEB 1

    Survival, Not Shame: Reframing Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn

    Host Troy L. Love shares a personal teenage story to explain how our nervous system uses fight, flight, freeze, or fawn to survive. He reframes these reactions as learned survival strategies—not identities—and shows how shame loses power when we listen to our body with curiosity. This short episode offers simple, trauma-informed tools—breathing, grounding, and self-compassion—to help you respond differently in moments of activation and move toward more peace, connection, and belonging.   pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

    14 min

  6. JAN 26

    Don't Tell Me to Calm Down: Why Calm Isn't a Command

    Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers short, trauma-informed tools to help you when emotions run high and your nervous system needs support. In this episode, Troy L. Love explains why “calm down” often backfires, how shame and threat escalate activation, and invites a simple replacement: ask, “What would help my system feel 5% safer right now?” Learn practical, relational strategies—breath, grounding, naming feelings, reaching out—that invite safety, connection, and the eventual emergence of calm.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

    12 min

  7. JAN 19

    Inside Your Window of Tolerance: Choose Calm, Not Control

    Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools you can use in everyday life—short episodes to support you when emotions run high, relationships feel heavy, or your nervous system needs grounding. Host Troy L. Love guides listeners toward more peace, joy, and connection, one moment at a time. In this episode we explore the "window of tolerance": the zone where the nervous system can handle life without becoming overwhelmed. Learn how to notice signs of going above (anxiety, panic, reactivity) or below (numbness, shutdown), why the body is always asking "Am I safe?", and how simple curiosity and awareness can widen your window, build capacity, and help you return to connection with kindness.

    9 min

  8. JAN 12

    When Stress Isn't Just Stress: Spotting Trauma and Shame

    Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers short, trauma-informed tools for everyday life. In this episode, Troy L. Love explains how stress, trauma, and shame differ, using a real-life story to show how mislabeling feelings can keep our nervous system stuck. Learn how to recognize the "judge" of shame, ask what wound is being triggered, and use simple practices—naming shame and refusing to honor it—to begin healing and reclaim a sense of safety, worth, and belonging.

    10 min
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It isn’t the bad things that happened to us that is the problem... It’s what we end up believing about ourselves.

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  • Creator
    Troy L Love/ Finding Peace Consulting, llc
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    105
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Finding Peace Consulting Copyright 2022 All rights reserved.
  • Show Website
    The Finding Peace Podcast

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