More Human. More Kind. | Parenting LGBTQ Kids, Unlearning Fear, Becoming More Human

Heather Hester | Advocate for Parents of LGBTQ Teens
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"Mom, I think I might be_____." Whether that sentence ended in gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, or something they're still figuring out — you are in the right place. Maybe you're scared. Maybe you're grieving something you can't quite name yet. Maybe you're desperate to get this right and terrified that you've already gotten it wrong. This show is for you, exactly where you are right now. More Human. More Kind. is hosted by Heather Hester, author of Parenting with Pride and a fierce advocate for LGBTQ kids, their parents, and the people who love them. Each week Heather brings lived experience, practical guidance, and the kind of honest conversation that helps you move from fear and confusion to grounded, loving action. Whether you're a parent in the early days of your child coming out, an ally deepening your understanding, or someone unlearning old beliefs to show up better for the people you love, this is your place. Every episode gives you something real: tools for navigating the hard moments, having difficult conversations, guidance on loving boundaries, and the steady reminder that you don't have to figure this out alone. New episodes every Tuesday and Friday. Start with fan-favorite Episode 3: Embrace the Messiness of Supporting Your LGBTQ Teen, an honest conversation that will help you exhale, reflect, and show up more fully for the people you love. Three-time Women in Podcasting Award winner for Best LGBTQ+ Podcast, 2024 through 2026. Top 1.5% of podcasts globally.

  1. 1d ago

    "You Won’t Lose Your Phone for Telling Me" What to Say to Your LGBTQ Child About Online Hate

    What if one kind comment could do for your child what one cruel comment does against them? This is the butterfly effect episode for Tuesday’s episode on online hate. Heather turns that conversation into four small actions you can start right now. She also reads this week’s listener review and shares why the mob mentality can work in both directions. In this episode you’ll learn how to: Hold onto one word that reframes the antidote to online crueltyAsk your child to show you one funny thing from their feed, with no lesson attachedResist the urge to pile on in your own comment sections this election seasonSay one sentence that tells your child they can always come back to you, and won’t lose their phone for it Press play for four small ways to help your LGBTQ child feel seen online and at home. Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Feeling uncertain or overwhelmed? Stay informed - visit my website Join the Conversation on Substack Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Support the Show - Learn more here! Watch on YouTube Listen * Share * Review *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! This is a place to feel messy while you're figuring it out. At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heartwarming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re on this journey with me.

    "You Won’t Lose Your Phone for Telling Me" What to Say to Your LGBTQ Child About Online Hate

  2. 4d ago

    Six Ways to Protect Your LGBTQ Teen From Online Hate Without Taking Their Phone

    Give yourself the gift of empowerment What do you do when you can’t stop your LGBTQ child from seeing online hate, and you shouldn’t try? Online cruelty and dehumanization get louder in the weeks before an election, and our kids are in the middle of it. Heather explains what’s driving the harshness in their feeds, including who is paying for some of it. She walks through six ways to build resilience without surveillance or confiscating phones. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: Understand why your child’s feed is likely to get harsher before the election and what’s behind itHave real, age appropriate conversations about what they’re seeing without resorting to surveillance or taking their phoneHelp your child find at least one safe online space, and where to start looking Press play to learn six practical ways to help your LGBTQ child take care of themselves online. If you or your child needs support right now, the Trevor Project is available at 1-866-488-7386 or by texting START to 678-678. The TrevorSpace Allsides.com Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Feeling uncertain or overwhelmed? Stay informed - visit my website Join the Conversation on Substack Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Support the Show - Learn more here! Watch on YouTube Listen * Share * Review *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! This is a place to feel messy while you're figuring it out. At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heartwarming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re on this journey with me.

  3. Oct 16

    America Belongs to You: Four Small Actions for Parents of LGBTQ Kids Before November

    How do you stay hopeful and engaged when the news makes everything feel hopeless? What if the answer is smaller than you think? This is the butterfly effect episode for Tuesday’s episode on the load-bearing walls of democracy. Heather offers one word, one 15-minute action, one urge to resist, and one line for the next time someone says they’re just not political. Her reminder is that those walls aren’t made of granite. They’re made of people, and that includes you. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: Use one word to change how you see your place in all of thisPick one race outside your state and do one thing for it from your couchCount the wins alongside the losses when the news feels hopelessRespond to “I’m just not political” with one line that brings the conversation back to the kids Press play for four small ways to stay hopeful and engaged between now and November 3rd. Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Feeling uncertain or overwhelmed? Stay informed - visit my website Join the Conversation on Substack Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Support the Show - Learn more here! Watch on YouTube Listen * Share * Review *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! This is a place to feel messy while you're figuring it out. At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heartwarming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re on this journey with me.

    America Belongs to You: Four Small Actions for Parents of LGBTQ Kids Before November

  4. Oct 13

    What's at Stake This Midterm Cycle? What Parents and Allies of LGBTQ Kids Need to Know

    What does our democracy actually rest on, and which of those supports are being weakened right now? With less than a month to go before the midterms, Heather breaks down four load-bearing walls of American democracy, a decade of wins and losses for LGBTQ families, and where your dollars and time can make the biggest difference this November, wherever you live. In this episode, you'll learn how to: Recognize the specific ways free elections, checks and balances, and the rule of law are being tested right nowTrack the decade of LGBTQ rights rulings from Bostock to this year's sports and conversion therapy decisionsFind the races and tools where your vote, donations, or time will have the most impact, no matter where you live Press play to see exactly what's at stake this November and where to put your energy. Links referenced in this episode: votingrights.orgallsides.comoath.votevotesaveamerica.commovement advancement projectheatherhester.net/starthere Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Feeling uncertain or overwhelmed? Stay informed - visit my website Join the Conversation on Substack Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Support the Show - Learn more here! Watch on YouTube Listen * Share * Review *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! This is a place to feel messy while you're figuring it out. At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heartwarming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re on this journey with me. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers the wisdom of lived experience and practical guidance and education to parents and allies, teaching empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals, through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

    What's at Stake This Midterm Cycle? What Parents and Allies of LGBTQ Kids Need to Know

  5. Oct 9

    What to Say When Your Kid Asks How You're Voting: Four Small Actions This Week

    What do you actually say when your kid asks how you're voting? This is the Friday companion to Tuesday's episode on political approval-seeking. Heather makes that thought experiment small enough to carry through the week: one word, one two-minute action, one urge to resist at the table, and one line to say to your kid that could change how safe they feel. In this episode, you'll learn how to: Reframe "hovering" as motion, not failure to decideCheck your voter registration and claim your vote out loudResist the urge to lecture or correct at the table, even when you're rightSay the one line that tells your kid questions won't cost them your love Press play for four small ways to carry Tuesday's question through the week ahead. Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Feeling uncertain or overwhelmed? Stay informed - visit my website Join the Conversation on Substack Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Support the Show - Learn more here! Watch on YouTube Listen * Share * Review *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! This is a place to feel messy while you're figuring it out. At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heartwarming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re on this journey with me. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers the wisdom of lived experience and practical guidance and education to parents and allies, teaching empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals, through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

    What to Say When Your Kid Asks How You're Voting: Four Small Actions This Week

  6. Oct 6

    Are Your Politics More Important Than Your Child? One Question to Ask Before You Vote

    Find the right level of support for you! Is your vote reflecting your own values, or someone else's approval? This is the first episode in a month-long series leading up to the midterms. Heather shares the moment her daughter, in tears, asked her not to vote for Trump again, and what that moment forced her to confront about whose approval her politics had actually been seeking. She offers a thought experiment built around three questions to sit with privately this week. In this episode, you'll learn how to: Ask whether your vote reflects your values or someone else's approvalName what it would cost you to change your mind, and who you'd be afraid of disappointingRecognize whether your child feels safe bringing you their hardest political and personal questions Press play for three questions worth sitting with before you vote this midterm. Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Feeling uncertain or overwhelmed? Stay informed - visit my website Join the Conversation on Substack Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Support the Show - Learn more here! Watch on YouTube Listen * Share * Review *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! This is a place to feel messy while you're figuring it out. At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heartwarming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re on this journey with me. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers the wisdom of lived experience and practical guidance and education to parents and allies, teaching empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals, through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

    Are Your Politics More Important Than Your Child? One Question to Ask Before You Vote

  7. Oct 2

    One Simple Action to Support Your LGBTQ Loved One Today

    What's one thing you can do today to support your LGBTQ loved one through coming out? This is the Friday Butterfly Effect episode for Tuesday's Coming Out Action Guide episode. Heather offers one word, one tiny action, one micro rebellion, and one line to steal, all built around a single finding: the biggest factor in a young person's coming out journey isn't having the right words. It's having one steady, accepting adult in their life. In this episode you'll learn how to: Replace a pointed question with one open, reassuring sentence when your loved one starts to pull awayNotice and interrupt the guilt spiral before it starts, instead of searching for what you did wrongUse one simple line to mark the moment their self-love starts to return Press play for one small, steady action you can take today. Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Feeling uncertain or overwhelmed? Stay informed - visit my website Join the Conversation on Substack Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Support the Show - Learn more here! Watch on YouTube Listen * Share * Review *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! This is a place to feel messy while you're figuring it out. At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heartwarming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re on this journey with me. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers the wisdom of lived experience and practical guidance and education to parents and allies, teaching empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals, through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

  8. Sep 29

    What to Actually Do at Every Stage of Coming Out: A Parent's Action Guide

    Find guides, tools, resources, and more! You know the six stages your teen moves through when they come out, and the six stages you move through as their parent. But what do you actually do at each one? This episode was inspired by listener feedback asking for more concrete next steps. Heather walks through a specific action for every single stage on both sides, your teen's process and your own, so you have real moves to make instead of just the ability to name where you are. In this episode you'll learn how to: Take the right action at each of your teen's six stages, from identity confusion through identity synthesisMove through your own six stages, from shock and denial to guilt, expression, decision, and acceptanceAsk the one question that cuts through all of it: what does your child actually want and need from you right now Press play for the specific moves to make at every stage of coming out, for both of you. Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here! Feeling uncertain or overwhelmed? Stay informed - visit my website Join the Conversation on Substack Read my book, Parenting with Pride. Support the Show - Learn more here! Watch on YouTube Listen * Share * Review *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! This is a place to feel messy while you're figuring it out. At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous connection. For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heartwarming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action. Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re on this journey with me. More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers the wisdom of lived experience and practical guidance and education to parents and allies, teaching empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals, through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

    What to Actually Do at Every Stage of Coming Out: A Parent's Action Guide
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"Mom, I think I might be_____." Whether that sentence ended in gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, or something they're still figuring out — you are in the right place. Maybe you're scared. Maybe you're grieving something you can't quite name yet. Maybe you're desperate to get this right and terrified that you've already gotten it wrong. This show is for you, exactly where you are right now. More Human. More Kind. is hosted by Heather Hester, author of Parenting with Pride and a fierce advocate for LGBTQ kids, their parents, and the people who love them. Each week Heather brings lived experience, practical guidance, and the kind of honest conversation that helps you move from fear and confusion to grounded, loving action. Whether you're a parent in the early days of your child coming out, an ally deepening your understanding, or someone unlearning old beliefs to show up better for the people you love, this is your place. Every episode gives you something real: tools for navigating the hard moments, having difficult conversations, guidance on loving boundaries, and the steady reminder that you don't have to figure this out alone. New episodes every Tuesday and Friday. Start with fan-favorite Episode 3: Embrace the Messiness of Supporting Your LGBTQ Teen, an honest conversation that will help you exhale, reflect, and show up more fully for the people you love. Three-time Women in Podcasting Award winner for Best LGBTQ+ Podcast, 2024 through 2026. Top 1.5% of podcasts globally.

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