The Living Truth Podcast - Freedom From Unwanted Sexual Behavior, Hope & Healing For the Betrayed

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The Living Truth Podcast explores the deeper issues beneath porn addiction, sex addiction, & the devastating impact of sexual betrayal. Find freedom & healing beyond what you think is even possible. New episodes release every 2 weeks! Find additional resources at Living-truth.org.

  1. 3d ago

    Come Closer, Go Away: Attachment and Self-Protection After Sexual Betrayal with Michael & Kristin Cary- Part 1

    You want him close. Then you can't stand to have him near you. You want to fix it. You reach for her — and she disappears. Same day. Sometimes the same hour. That's not confusion or immaturity. It's two nervous systems trying to find safety in a marriage that no longer feels safe — and it's one of the most common, least talked-about dynamics after sexual betrayal. Betrayal doesn't just wound the relationship. It activates attachment patterns and self-protection that trace back long before the marriage began — in both of you. In this episode, we share our personal experience and professional insight into: Why a betrayed partner can want closeness one moment and need distance the next — and why that isn't inconsistency, it's a nervous system doing exactly what nervous systems do What happens inside the betrayer when his spouse pulls away — and why the instinct to push harder or shut down entirely can make things worse How childhood wounds and old self-protective patterns shape both partners' reactions to conflict and distance The difference between coming to your spouse with a genuine, vulnerable need and coming with a demand — and how to tell which one you're doing Why forcing closeness after betrayal can make a betrayed partner feel less safe, not more This conversation is for both of you — the betrayed partner still learning the language of her own attachment, and the betraying partner working to understand what his self-protection is trying to do and why it keeps getting in the way.   Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org   The Living Truth Podcast: Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal.   #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth

  2. Jul 13

    Move Toward: Why Compassion — Not Control — Unlocks Healing After Betrayal & Unwanted Sexual Behavior with Jenna Riemersma

    Whether you're a betrayed partner trying to make sense of the chaos inside you, or a man who can't seem to stop behavior he hates — this episode is for you.   Kristin sits down with Jenna Riemersma, LPC - certified IFS therapist, CSAT supervisor, and bestselling author of Altogether You and her newest book Move Toward — to explore what happens when we stop fighting the parts of ourselves we don't like and start moving toward them instead.   Jenna unpacks: Why IFS (Internal Family Systems) is deeply rooted in scripture — and why the image of God inside you is the key to transformation without shame What it actually means to have "parts" — and why feeling torn, contradictory, or out of control doesn't mean something is wrong with you The three-step tool (Notice, Know, Need) you can use in your most triggered moments — no therapist required Why compassion unlocks what control never could, for both the betrayed partner and the person with unwanted sexual behavior How to speak for your parts instead of from them — and why that changes everything in conflict and in healing   This is not a shortcut. It's a different road entirely. Move Toward is available now wherever books are sold. Free resources, guided videos, and downloadable worksheets are available at movetoward.com.   Learn more about our programs:   The Living Truth Podcast: Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth #IFS

  3. Jun 29

    You're Not Crazy, You're Traumatized: What Every Protective Parent Needs to Know Before Entering Family Court with Sarah McDugal

    You thought leaving would be the hard part. You didn't know the hard part was what comes after.   In part two of her conversation with Sarah McDugal, Kristin goes deeper into what happens when a woman decides to end a destructive marriage — and the patterns she's been living with follow her directly into family court. What she thought would be a place of vindication often becomes one more arena where the truth doesn't land the way she expects.   Sarah and Kristin cover: Why family court is not designed for justice — and what it actually is designed to do The single most dangerous misconception conservative Christian women bring into the courtroom Why the betrayed parent often looks like the less stable parent — and what to do about it What "high conflict" really means in court, and why courts misread it almost every time The three-role team every high-risk custody case needs (and why your lawyer and therapist alone aren't enough) The High Conflict Court Case Risk Index — how to assess your risk level before you start Why how you begin the process can save or cost you tens of thousands of dollars A compassionate word about the fear of leaving your children part of the time — and data that may surprise you   This is hard, important, necessary listening. Both Kristin and Sarah have lived this story. You are not alone in it.   If you're a man who caused this harm and she is now leaving: this episode will show you what she is up against. That matters.   For pastors, counselors, and coaches: This episode includes a segment specifically for people helpers who work with women when reconciliation is no longer possible. Sarah's provider toolkit is linked in the show notes.   Be gentle with yourself as you listen. Pause when you need to. Take a walk.   Learn more about our programs: Living-truthLiving Truth, Women in the Battle, Men in the Battle | sex addiction The Living Truth Podcast: Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth     Sarah McDugal Resources: 🔗 Freedom Navigator / Wilderness to Wild 🔗 Exposing the Playbook eBook to discover: The three biggest myths that can sabotage your case before it even starts. The 3-step strategy to anticipate their next move before they even make it. The exact tactics abusers use to manipulate the system—and how to fight back. Insider tips to protect your sanity and self-care while navigating family court. 🔗 High-Conflict Court Case Risk Index 🔗 Emotional Armor for Court and Co-parenting 🔗 Provider/Helper Toolkit — for pastors, coaches, and clinicians working with women when reconciliation is no longer possible 🔗 Free 15-min case consult for any protective parent - Click on services, then scroll down to book your call 🔗 Family Court Compass — Ultimate Strategy Guide 🔗 Finding a Lawyer Who Fights eBook 🔗 The Binder — Complete Evidence Organization System 🔗 Inside the Custody Evaluator's Playbook Workshop 🔗 Instant Stress Reset — Body-to-Brain Solution 🔗 Empower Your Child Workshop

  4. Jun 15

    Fearless, Free, and Uncontrollable: What Healthy Actually Looks Like — and How to Know When It's Missing with Sarah McDugal

    You didn't go into your marriage looking for this conversation. But if you're here, something brought you. Maybe it's a feeling you can't quite name. Maybe it's a pattern you've been explaining away. Maybe you already know — and you just need someone to say it clearly.   In this episode, Kristin sits down with Sarah McDugal — clarity coach, founder of Freedom Navigator and Wilderness to Wild, and a woman who has lived this story herself — to talk about what healthy actually looks like in a marriage, and how to recognize when what you're living in falls short of that.   Sarah and Kristin cover: The three markers of a healthy relationship — being fearless, free, and uncontrollable — and what it means when those are missing A clear, workable definition of abuse that avoids both over-defining and under-defining it Why "is it bad enough?" is the wrong question — and what to ask instead How entrenched patterns of behavior become visible when you zoom out from the individual moments What it looks like to move from survival mode toward a more grounded, strategic approach A word for the men listening — why doing your own work (not controlling her response) is the only thing that transforms a marriage This episode is part one of a two-part conversation. Part two covers navigating family court when reconciliation is no longer possible.   If you're a pastor, counselor, coach, or people helper: Sarah also has a provider toolkit with resources for the gap no one talks about — what to do when reconciliation is off the table. Link in the show notes.   Take care of your nervous system as you listen. This is heavy. Walking while you listen is a good idea.   Sarah McDugal Resources: 🔗 Freedom Navigator / Wilderness to Wild   🔗 Exposing the Playbook eBook to discover: The three biggest myths that can sabotage your case before it even starts. The 3-step strategy to anticipate their next move before they even make it. The exact tactics abusers use to manipulate the system—and how to fight back. Insider tips to protect your sanity and self-care while navigating family court. 🔗 High-Conflict Court Case Risk Index 🔗 Emotional Armor for Court and Co-parenting 🔗 Provider/Helper Toolkit — for pastors, coaches, and clinicians working with women when reconciliation is no longer possible 🔗 Co-Parent Behavior Profile Wizard 🔗 Free 15-min case consult for any protective parent - Click on services, then scroll down to book your call 🔗 Red Flags Videos     Learn more about our programs: Living-truthLiving Truth, Women in the Battle, Men in the Battle | sex addiction   The Living Truth Podcast: Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth

  5. Jun 1

    Sacred Attachment with Michael Cusick

    What if your relationship with God doesn’t have to feel like a performance review? In this rich conversation, Michael Cary sits down with author and counselor Michael John Cusick — author of Surfing for God and his newest book Sacred Attachment — to explore one of the most liberating ideas in spiritual life: that your connection to God is unbreakable, and you don’t have to earn it. We explore: • What “sacred attachment” actually means and why it changes everything about how we relate to God • How attachment theory (seen, soothed, safe, secure) shapes not just our human relationships but our relationship with God • Why “trust and obey” and “know more, do better” Christianity leaves so many of us exhausted and stuck • The root connection between early attachment wounds and addiction • Michael Cusick’s powerful “Five W’s” framework: wretchedness, weakness, woundedness, warfare, and wiring • The “delta” — the gap between what we know to be true (no condemnation!) and what we actually feel — and why information alone doesn’t close it • What freedom actually is: not the absence of sin, but the presence of your deepest desire • Why transformation doesn’t happen through information — and what actually moves the needle You’ll walk away with: A fresh, grace-soaked understanding of who God is toward you — even on your worst days. Whether you’re in recovery or just weary from trying harder, this episode will help you exhale and come home. Sacred Attachment is not just for people in addiction recovery — it’s for anyone who has ever felt like they’re failing at the Christian life. You can find more resources from Michael Cusick at: https://restoringthesoul.com https://michaeljohncusick.com   Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org   The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth

  6. May 18

    What to Do If He Relapses: Creating a Relapse Safety Plan for Clarity and Stability with Lyschel Burkett

    What would you do if a relapse happened? For many partners walking through betrayal, that question feels overwhelming—or even terrifying. But avoiding it doesn’t create safety. Preparation does.   In this episode of The Living Truth Podcast, Kristin sits down with betrayal trauma coach Lachelle Burkett to talk about how creating a relapse safety plan can move you from panic to clarity—so you’re not left scrambling in the moment.   You’ll learn: Why a relapse safety plan actually reduces anxiety (instead of increasing it) The difference between a “slip” and a “relapse”—and why it matters How to make decisions ahead of time so you can trust yourself in crisis The 6 key areas every plan should include (emotional, physical, financial, relational, spiritual, and more) How this process restores your God-given agency, wisdom, and stability This conversation is not about expecting the worst, it’s about equipping you with calm, grounded clarity if the unexpected happens.   Because even in the midst of betrayal…you still have choices. You still have a voice. And you are not without support. If you’ve ever felt afraid of “what if,” this episode will help you take a steady, empowered step forward. Click Here for a free PDF of Lyschel's Relapse Safety Plan   Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth

  7. May 4

    Growing Up Emotionally: Why Sexual Sobriety is Not Enough

    If the behavior has stopped… why does the relationship still feel disconnected, fragile, or stuck? In this episode of The Living Truth Podcast, Kristin Cary and Michael Cary explore the often-overlooked gap between sexual sobriety and emotional maturity—and why stopping the behavior is not the same as rebuilding trust, safety, and connection. You’ll gain clarity on: Why sobriety alone doesn’t restore trust or relational safety What emotional immaturity can look like in everyday interactions How unresolved wounds and “younger parts” continue to shape adult patterns The difference between defensiveness, shutdown, and true emotional growth Why betrayed partners need safety and stabilization first—not pressure to “move on” or “work on themselves” How couples can begin moving toward genuine intimacy, not just coexistence This conversation is especially relevant for: Women who feel confused or discouraged that things still don’t feel “better” after sobriety Men who have stopped unwanted behaviors but sense there is still more growth needed Couples who long for deeper connection but find themselves repeating the same patterns Sobriety may remove destructive behaviors— but emotional maturity is what allows a relationship to be rebuilt. Growth in this area takes time, humility, and a willingness to stay present in the process. There is no shame in feeling stuck. There is an invitation into something deeper.   The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal.   #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth #SurrenderedSexuality #JulieSlattery #AuthenticIntimacy #ChristianHealing #BetrayalTrauma #SexualIntegrity #CovenantLove #FaithAndSexuality #TraumaInformedFaith #IdentityInChrist #ChristianWomen #MenInRecovery

  8. Apr 20

    Autonomy & Faith: Reclaiming Your Voice Without Rebellion | Part 2 with Anna Seiple

    What happens when blind, unquestioning obedience is expected — and silence is spiritualized? How does a lack of healthy developmental autonomy impact marriages, families, churches, and women navigating betrayal?   Drawing from developmental psychology and research on spiritual trauma, Kristin and licensed counselor AC Seiple unpack:   How shame forms when autonomy is not nurtured in childhood How spiritual systems can unintentionally cause harm when power is misused Sexual autonomy inside marriage after betrayal The cost of fearing relational rupture when we use our voice in marriage, ministry, and faith communities How humility and healing can restore autonomy in Christ   This conversation is especially meaningful for women navigating betrayal trauma, pastor’s wives, and anyone wrestling with how to exercise their God-given voice without labeling themselves as "rebellious."   Autonomy is not the enemy of faith. What if it is actually one of the ways we love God — and others — most fully?   This episode explores autonomy, shame, spiritual trauma, and sexual betrayal recovery through a trauma-informed Christian lens.   🔗 Connect with Anna Christine Seiple: https://www.acseiple.com/   📖 Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org   The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal.   #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth #ChristianHealing #BetrayalTraumaRecovery #SpiritualTrauma #FaithAndAutonomy #WomenInMinistry #PastorsWife #SexualBetrayalRecovery #TraumaInformedFaith #HealingInChrist #ChristianCounseling #EmbodiedFaith

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