Seeing Other People

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Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week. Whether you're swiping, healing, or somewhere in between...this is your show.

8h ago

How to Stop Mistaking Anxiety for Chemistry

Dr. Darcy Sterling, licensed therapist, relationship expert, and host of We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling, joins the podcast to unpack why so many people confuse anxiety with chemistry—and how our relationship patterns often keep us stuck dating the same types of people over and over again. We talk about why healthy love can initially feel unfamiliar, how childhood experiences shape attraction, and why emotional consistency is often mistaken for a lack of spark. Dr. Darcy also explains the importance of learning your relationship patterns, repairing conflict instead of avoiding it, managing anxiety without making it your partner's responsibility, and why authenticity will always attract healthier relationships than playing games. Plus, we answer listener questions about impossible dating standards, feeling disconnected in healthy relationships, and the three questions everyone should ask before getting serious with someone. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
1d ago

I Never Felt Ready to Have a Baby (And That's Okay)

Jake turns 33, we recap his birthday week, and Professor Ilana is two classes in and already never wants it to end. We get into everything we didn't have time for last week: the creative ways we told our friends we were pregnant, what the first trimester is actually like, and the part nobody warns you about: the waiting. Every appointment is a month apart and the anxiety in between is real. We also tackle the question we got the most responses to on Instagram this week: how did Ilana know she was ready to have a baby? The honest answer might surprise you. Plus a listener follow-up from the Christmas party guy...there's been a development. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
5d ago

Why Modern Dating Isn't Working for You

Olivia Atwood, Director of Matchmaking at Lox Club, joins the podcast to share how a joke matchmaking project during COVID turned into a career helping people find love—and what happened when she unexpectedly had to start dating again after the end of her own six-year relationship. We talk about dating in your 30s, the reality of dating apps, why so many people stay stuck chasing their "type," how to rebuild your confidence after heartbreak, and the surprising way Olivia met her current boyfriend. Plus, we discuss matchmaking, crushes, meeting people in real life, dating like an athlete, and why the best relationships often come from taking chances on someone unexpected. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Jul 14

Are Women's Standards Too High?

Dr. Shamara Howard joins the podcast for an eye-opening conversation about how dating is changing—and why that's not necessarily a bad thing. We dive into why more women are choosing to stay single rather than settle, how to tell the difference between healthy standards and unrealistic expectations, and what it really means to protect your peace without closing yourself off to love. We also talk about dating burnout, emotional maturity, building a fulfilling life on your own, the "gender war" happening online, and why the healthiest relationships are the ones that make your nervous system feel safe. Plus, Dr. Howard shares her best advice for long-term relationships, how couples can communicate through change, outdated relationship advice that needs to disappear, and the simple habit that can completely transform your relationship. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Jul 13

We're Having a Baby! And We're Finally Telling You Everything

We're pregnant, we're 15 weeks along, and we've been dying to tell you. This episode is everything: a clip from when we first found out, what the first trimester was actually like (the smell sensitivity, the endless weeks of feeling ill beyond belief, the food aversions, having to leave Carbone mid-dinner in Miami), how we told our families and so much more. We also want to acknowledge that this news isn't easy for everyone to hear, and we understand that. The rest of the podcast stays exactly what it's always been. But Cohosts for Life is where we'll be sharing the journey...and we're so glad you're here for it. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Jul 9

Stop Asking Your Friends These Dating Questions (Ask Yourself These Instead)

After answering more than 10,000 dating questions over the years, I've realized something: most people don't actually need more advice. They need better questions. In this solo episode, I'm sharing the questions I wish everyone would ask themselves before asking their friends what to do. We talk about dating potential versus reality, the difference between evidence and assumptions, why you shouldn't have to earn love, how fear influences our decisions, and why the goal of dating isn't to avoid heartbreak. It's to trust yourself enough to handle whatever happens next. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Jul 7

Stop Chasing Uncertainty in Dating

Linnea Sage joins the podcast to share how losing her voice acting career to AI unexpectedly led her to create The Jewish Dating Game, a live dating show helping singles connect beyond the apps. We talk about why modern dating feels so transactional, how first dates become interviews instead of experiences, why we often choose the wrong "type," and the simple ways to create genuine chemistry and connection. Plus, Linnea shares why creating community is just as important as finding love, and how putting your phone down might be the best dating advice you'll hear all year. Learn more at thejewishdatinggame.com and follow @thejewishdatinggame for upcoming events. The Jewish Dating Game hosts a monthly live show in New York City's Lower East Side and is currently touring across the U.S. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Jul 6

Professor Ilana Era, Barkley Faked a Broken Leg + Q&A

Barkley had us in a full panic leading us to the vet ER and then immediately ran laps around the facility like nothing happened. Ilana's Professor era officially begins this week, and we weigh in on the Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce MSG wedding because of course we do. Plus, listener questions: advice for someone trying to actually talk to people at dating mixers and speed dating events, and how to deal with not liking your close friend's boyfriend — without ruining the friendship. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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This is Seeing Other People

Seeing Other People and host Ilana Dunn are here to help you feel less alone in your dating struggles. Real people, real stories, real life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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07/03/2025

C&C’sGram♥️

and typically listen to dating and relationship podcasts by GenXers (like me) or older. Normally, I’m a little irritated by the youngs 😊However I find this podcast to be pretty universal and relatable for people of all ages. I also learn a lot from the younger voices on here. Really great job.
Disappointed lately

Apr 5

Accidental listener 19874

Guests lately have not had compelling stories and aren't great speakers - just rambling on about their not so exciting dating history.
Love how genuine and fun Ilana is. love this pod

Apr 2

Missamychan

I love this podcast I feel like I’ve grown up with the host Ilana. She’s so wise and kind and is a great interviewer
Awesome podcast

Feb 19

Music-notes

Listen to this on my way to work every week. Enjoy hearing about other people experiences with love.

Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week. Whether you're swiping, healing, or somewhere in between...this is your show.