Seeing Other People

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Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week. Whether you're swiping, healing, or somewhere in between...this is your show.

  1. Matchmaker for a Serial Rapist (Without Knowing It)

    15h ago

    Matchmaker for a Serial Rapist (Without Knowing It)

    Addie Sellers joins the podcast to share one of the most shocking experiences of her matchmaking career: working with a client who was later convicted and sentenced to 80 years in prison. We talk about the subtle red flags people miss in dating, why trusting your gut matters, how predators can hide behind seemingly perfect reputations, and the lessons Addie learned that changed the way she approaches relationships forever. Plus, we discuss rejection, resilience, and the importance of collecting data—not making excuses—when getting to know someone. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    44 min
  2. Red Flags or Dealbreakers? What We'd Think Now vs. When We Were Single

    1d ago

    Red Flags or Dealbreakers? What We'd Think Now vs. When We Were Single

    Happy Monday! We're recording from Jake's childhood bedroom fresh off a wedding the night before. We talk about why we're obsessed with vows and speeches, what it's like to hear other couples' love stories and reflect on your own relationship, and the text a maid of honor read aloud that had us wanting to dig through our own phones. Then we get into our main segment: a fun game of red flags and deal breakers — but with a twist. For each scenario, we share what single us would have thought versus what married, more seasoned us thinks now. From slow texters to exes on Instagram, financial baggage to crying on the first date, it's equal parts honest, funny, and surprisingly nuanced. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    50 min

  3. 5d ago

    My Dating Mistakes I Understand Differently Now

    This solo episode is all about hindsight, growth, and the dating choices I understand differently now. I’m reacting to listener-submitted scenarios through two lenses: what past me probably would’ve done, and what I’d do now. We’re talking about emotionally unavailable people, confusing anxiety for chemistry, trying to be chosen instead of evaluating compatibility, and the difference between knowing better versus actually being ready to do better. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    48 min
  4. Fertility Anxiety, Egg Freezing & Dating Under Pressure

    Jun 2

    Fertility Anxiety, Egg Freezing & Dating Under Pressure

    Lauren Makler joins the podcast for a conversation about fertility anxiety, egg freezing, dating pressure, and the emotional weight so many women carry around timelines. From AMH testing and IVF to secondary infertility, miscarriages, and dating in your 30s, we talk about the difference between making empowered decisions versus fear-based ones. Lauren also opens up about her own rare disease diagnosis, the experience that led her to start Cofertility, and why she believes knowledge is power when it comes to fertility and relationships. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    42 min
  5. All Our Dates Are at His House — Should I Be Worried?

    Jun 1

    All Our Dates Are at His House — Should I Be Worried?

    Happy anniversary to us — we're recording this one from Miami in the hotel where we took our first trip together five years ago. Jake planned the whole thing, and we almost missed the flight (not our fault!). We get into the debate that started at the airport: are you still on your parents' phone plan in your 30s? Four listener questions this week: the guy who followed you on Instagram two years after you told him you weren't a match, being 25 and single while all your friends pair off, comparing your engagement timeline to an acquaintance who just got engaged after three months, and the guy who says money is tight and all your dates are at his house — hookup or just broke? ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    48 min
  6. Meeting People IRL, App Burnout & Being Comfortable Being Alone

    May 28

    Meeting People IRL, App Burnout & Being Comfortable Being Alone

    Allison Lane joins the podcast for a conversation about dating in your 30s, meeting people in real life, and the pressure women feel to have everything figured out by a certain age. From run clubs and dating apps to confidence, friendships, and navigating New York City single, we talk about what it actually looks like to put yourself out there without romanticizing every interaction. Allison also opens up about being an only child and feeling the pressure around marriage and kids, how running changed her life after a difficult period, and her experience losing weight naturally in the middle of the GLP-1 era. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    40 min
  7. When a Second Chance Is Worth It (And When It’s Self-Sabotage)

    May 26

    When a Second Chance Is Worth It (And When It’s Self-Sabotage)

    Dr. Joy Burkheimer joins the podcast for a conversation about second chances, relationship “redemption arcs,” and whether people can actually change after hurting someone they love. From attachment styles and cheating to avoidant behavior, breakups, and the psychology behind going back to an ex, we talk about the difference between genuine growth and simply saying the right things. Dr. Joy also opens up about how her own divorce led her to become a therapist, why relationships naturally evolve every few years, and what it really means to choose your partner over and over again. We also get into dating anxiety, rebuilding trust, listener questions about reconnecting with exes, and why protecting your peace doesn’t always mean walking away. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    48 min
  8. Is It a Red Flag If You Never Fight With Your Partner?

    May 25

    Is It a Red Flag If You Never Fight With Your Partner?

    We're both sick, we slept until noon, and we have a mystery anniversary trip in two days — Jake planned the whole thing and Ilana has no idea where they're going. We talk froyo orders (gummy bears are a crime), the great do-guys-actually-give-each-other-style-feedback debate, and tease next week's recording from wherever they end up. Two listener questions this week: one from someone whose relationship has been conflict-free for a year and is spiraling because the internet says that's a red flag (spoiler: it's not), and one from someone who knows her ex wasn't right for her but still can't stop hurting seeing him move on. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    41 min
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Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week. Whether you're swiping, healing, or somewhere in between...this is your show.

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