Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

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This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration for women navigating life after divorce. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast for women dealing with grief, loneliness, anxiety, anxious or avoidant attachment, and identity loss after divorce — especially when quick fixes, positivity, and spiritual fluff no longer work. I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, and homeopath, and this show goes where most divorce advice won’t: into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, your buried rage, and the parts of you that shut down just to survive. Through honest conversation, somatic tools, EMDR- and IFS-informed work, and nervous-system support, each episode helps you feel instead of perform healing — and rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust from the inside out. You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate conversations with experts who don’t just talk about healing — they embody it. If you’re tired of being told to “move on” while your body is still bracing, this podcast is your place to land. Your nervous system already knows the truth — it just needs a space that can hold it.

  1. 1d ago ·  Bonus

    Ep. 352. Divorce Recovery Isn't Just Healing or Understanding. It's Learning to Surrender.

    You've done the therapy. Listened to the podcasts. Read the books. So why are you still hurting? In this special episode, Dawn shares why understanding alone isn't always enough to create change—and why true healing sometimes asks us to lift our gaze beyond ourselves. As someone with a history of religious trauma, Dawn never expected prayer to become part of this podcast. But after years of healing, she discovered that there are moments when insight, effort, and self-awareness reach their limits. Sometimes healing requires surrender. Not giving up. Not checking out. Trusting that you don't have to carry everything alone. Whether you call it God, Creator, Love, Source, or something else entirely, this episode offers a simple prayer for the woman who is tired, overwhelmed, and ready to receive support. Take a breath. Lift your gaze. And remember: I trust that I am not walking alone. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    3 min

  2. 3d ago

    351. Why Did I Text Him Back? Divorce, Self-Abandonment & The Pain I Couldn't Sit With

    You told yourself you weren't going to text him. You meant it. Then your phone buzzed... or the loneliness got louder... or the pressure inside became impossible to ignore. And before you knew it, you hit send. In this episode, Dawn, Coach Tiffini, and Joy explore one of the most frustrating post-divorce patterns women experience: reaching for false connection when what they're actually craving is relief. Because the truth is, texting him back usually isn't about him. It's about the discomfort you're trying to escape. Together, they unpack the deeper forces underneath the urge to reach out—including attachment wounds, loneliness, validation-seeking, nervous system dysregulation, productivity addiction, and self-abandonment. They discuss:  Why the urge to text your ex feels so overwhelming  What is actually happening in your nervous system before you hit send  The surprising ways loneliness causes women to betray their own values  Why validation can become addictive after divorce  How old attachment patterns follow us into new relationships  The difference between temporary relief and genuine healing  Why community matters when you're trying to break painful cycles  Practical tools for interrupting the urge to reach out Most importantly, this conversation offers compassion. Because if you've ever found yourself asking, "Why do I keep doing this?" the answer is probably much bigger than a text message. The text is just the fruit. This episode helps you understand the tree. Mentioned In This Episode  Attachment wounds and nervous system healing  Self-abandonment vs. self-trust  IFS (Internal Family Systems)  The role of loneliness in divorce recovery  Why healing requires more than willpower Ready to heal with women who understand? Join us inside Cocoon, our free community for women navigating divorce, rebuilding self-trust, and creating lives that feel grounded, secure, and fully their own. We'd love to meet you there.  Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    44 min

  3. Jun 4 ·  Bonus

    Ep. 350 - I Know the Divorce Was Necessary... So Why Do I Still Feel Guilty? | Guided Meditation

    Divorce guilt has a way of showing up long after the paperwork is signed. Maybe you feel guilty about ending the marriage. Maybe you feel guilty for staying too long. Maybe you feel guilty for being angry, setting boundaries, disappointing people, or wanting more for your life. And sometimes the hardest part is that guilt can feel like proof that you're still a good person. In this guided healing meditation, Coach Tiffini helps you gently explore the deeper purpose guilt may be serving inside your nervous system. Through compassionate self-inquiry and parts-based reflection, you'll be invited to connect with the part of you carrying guilt and discover what it has been trying to protect all along. This isn't about forcing forgiveness. It's not about pretending everything is okay. And it's definitely not about toxic positivity. It's about creating enough safety to ask a different question: Is this guilt showing me that I've violated my values—or is it simply reacting to discomfort, grief, change, or old programming? If you've been carrying the weight of divorce guilt, self-blame, people-pleasing, or emotional responsibility for everyone around you, this meditation offers a gentle space to set some of that weight down. Put on your headphones. Find somewhere quiet. And give yourself permission to receive the compassion you so freely offer everyone else.  💛 Cocoon VIP is where we have the conversations we can’t always have on the public feed. Join us for:  – weekly Thursday VIP healing episodes  – monthly live workshops with Coach Tiffini  – deeper conversations inside our private community  – the kind of support that helps you stop doing divorce healing alone Join Cocoon VIP A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    2 min

  4. Jun 2

    349. Why You've Done So Much Healing... But Still Feel Stuck in the Same Divorce Patterns

    You've read the books. You've listened to the podcasts. You've been to therapy. You know your attachment style, your triggers, your patterns, and exactly why you do what you do. So why do you still find yourself reacting the same way? Why do you still answer the text? Why do you still overthink the conversation? Why do you still tolerate things you know aren't good for you? In this episode, Dawn, Joy, and Tiffini explore one of the most frustrating parts of divorce recovery: the gap between understanding yourself and actually changing your life. Together, they unpack:  Why insight alone doesn't create lasting change  The difference between consuming healing and practicing healing  How self-awareness can become another form of avoidance  Why knowing your patterns isn't the same as changing them  The role vulnerability, action, and community play in true healing  What keeps women standing on the sidelines of their own lives  Why healing often requires more than information  The hidden difference between feeling better and living differently If you've ever found yourself thinking: "I've done so much work... so why am I still struggling with this?" This episode is for you. Because healing isn't measured by how much you know. It's measured by what you're finally willing to do differently. Resources & Links 💜 Join Cocoon — our free community for women navigating divorce recovery, healing, confidence, and life after divorce. A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    37 min

  5. May 28 ·  Bonus

    Ep. 348. The Loneliness Divorce Creates | A Guided Healing Meditation

    Divorce loneliness is different. It’s not just missing a person. It’s missing the rhythm your body got used to. The future you thought you were building. The version of you that existed before survival mode took over. And sometimes the hardest part? Your nervous system still feels abandoned long after your mind has decided the relationship needed to end. In this special guided healing meditation, Dawn shares a deeply restorative quantum healing experience by Kate Mayor designed to help soothe emotional isolation, calm the nervous system, reconnect you to yourself, and gently shift the emotional heaviness loneliness can leave behind. This is not about forcing yourself to “move on.” It’s about creating enough safety in the body for healing to begin naturally. Through guided visualization, nervous system relaxation, subconscious connection, and energetic healing, this meditation invites your body out of hypervigilance and back into softness, presence, and possibility. Whether you’re in the thick of grief, struggling with emotional exhaustion, or simply craving a moment to feel held instead of holding everything together… this episode is for you. Put your headphones on. Find somewhere quiet. And let yourself receive for the next 15 minutes. A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    3 min

  6. May 26

    347. - Why Do Smart Divorced Women Keep Doing Things That Make Them Feel Worse?

    You know what would help. The walk. The boundary. Going to bed earlier. Not texting him back. Turning off the phone. Booking the therapy session. Saying no. Asking for support. So why does it still feel so hard to choose those things in the moments that matter most? If you’ve ever found yourself doom scrolling instead of sleeping, people pleasing instead of speaking up, reaching for the wine, texting your ex, or choosing temporary relief over what you know would actually help… this episode is for you. Because the truth is: Smart women do self-defeating things after divorce all the time. Not because they’re lazy. Not because they’re broken. Not because they “should know better.” But because emotional pain, nervous system overwhelm, loneliness, fear, and familiar coping patterns are powerful. Inside this episode, Dawn unpacks: – Why insight alone doesn’t create behavior change – Why short-term soothing often wins over long-term healing – The nervous system’s attachment to familiar pain – How childhood conditioning can make healthy choices feel threatening – Why texting your ex, scrolling, numbing, or staying quiet often make emotional sense in the moment – The hidden role support and accountability play in actual transformation – A practical exercise to help you interrupt painful patterns in real time If you’ve been asking: “Why do I keep doing this?” Start here. A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    18 min

  7. May 21 ·  Bonus

    EP. 346 - Marriage Taught You to Ignore Your Needs | What Self-Care Actually Looks Like After Divorce

    “Self-care” sounds cute… until life gets hard. Because what does self-care actually look like when: your child needs you, your nervous system is fried, the house is a mess, grief is still grief-ing, your to-do list is breathing down your neck, and everyone still seems to need something from you? In this deeply honest Thursday Cocoon VIP conversation, Dawn, Joy, and Tiffini pull back the curtain on what self-care actually looks like after divorce—not the Instagram version. Not the bubble bath version. The real version. The version where self-care sometimes looks like:  – asking for help  – finally prioritizing sleep  – taking a walk without your AirPods  – saying “that hurt my feelings” instead of overthinking it for 24 hours  – choosing rest over productivity  – letting something stay undone because your capacity is finite  – learning to stop abandoning yourself every time life gets hard Because if marriage taught you to ignore your needs… divorce doesn’t automatically teach you how to honor them. And for many women, self-care after divorce isn’t about adding more to the list. It’s about unlearning the belief that everyone else comes first. Inside this episode: ✨ what self-care actually looks like when life is messy and real ✨ the nervous system cost of chronic over-functioning ✨ why asking for what you need can feel wildly uncomfortable ✨ motherhood, burnout, guilt, and capacity collapse ✨ the subtle ways high-functioning women abandon themselves ✨ what happens when you stop pushing through depletion ✨ the tiny rituals that genuinely help us regulate and reconnect If you’ve ever told yourself:  “I’ll rest when everything is done…” This episode is your reminder: Everything may never be done.  And you still matter. 💛 Cocoon VIP is where we have the conversations we can’t always have on the public feed. Join us for:  – weekly Thursday VIP healing episodes  – monthly live workshops with Coach Tiffini  – deeper conversations inside our private community  – the kind of support that helps you stop doing divorce healing alone Join Cocoon VIP Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    2 min

  8. May 19

    345. The Divorced Woman’s Guide to Questioning Everything | Divorce, Healing & the Systems We Were Taught to Trust

    Divorce has a way of cracking open more than just your relationship. It can make you question everything. The marriage you believed in. The coping strategies that used to work. The advice you’ve been given. Even the healing systems you were taught to trust. Because sometimes what’s most disorienting after divorce isn’t just heartbreak. It’s realizing the old answers don’t seem to work anymore. In this deeply personal and thought-provoking conversation, Dawn, Coach Tiffini, and Producer Joy explore one of the most misunderstood tools in their healing world: homeopathy—and why it has become such a meaningful part of the divorce recovery journey for so many women. This episode isn’t about rejecting conventional medicine. It’s about asking better questions. About recognizing when burnout, trauma, nervous system overload, dissociation, grief, hormonal chaos, autoimmune flares, anxiety, insomnia, and emotional flooding may need a more complete healing conversation. Inside this episode:  – Why divorce can leave women feeling physically, emotionally, and energetically depleted  – The hidden connection between trauma, suppression, burnout, and symptoms that get labeled “just hormonal”  – Why some women feel stuck even after therapy, medication, or traditional support  – What homeopathy actually is (without the weird internet explanation)  – The fascinating history of homeopathy—and why it used to be mainstream medicine  – How energetic healing fits alongside therapy, EMDR, IFS, nervous system work, and integrative care  – Real personal stories of emotional and physical healing from Dawn, Coach Tiffini, and Producer Joy  – Why healing sometimes means becoming willing to question the old script If divorce has left you feeling like the systems you trusted no longer make sense… If you’ve done “all the right things” but still don’t feel like yourself… If part of your healing has been learning to think differently… This conversation is for you. Because sometimes healing doesn’t begin when you find the perfect answer. Sometimes it begins when you realize you’re finally asking better questions. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    44 min
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This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration for women navigating life after divorce. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast for women dealing with grief, loneliness, anxiety, anxious or avoidant attachment, and identity loss after divorce — especially when quick fixes, positivity, and spiritual fluff no longer work. I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, and homeopath, and this show goes where most divorce advice won’t: into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, your buried rage, and the parts of you that shut down just to survive. Through honest conversation, somatic tools, EMDR- and IFS-informed work, and nervous-system support, each episode helps you feel instead of perform healing — and rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust from the inside out. You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate conversations with experts who don’t just talk about healing — they embody it. If you’re tired of being told to “move on” while your body is still bracing, this podcast is your place to land. Your nervous system already knows the truth — it just needs a space that can hold it.

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