Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

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This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration for women navigating life after divorce. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast for women dealing with grief, loneliness, anxiety, anxious or avoidant attachment, and identity loss after divorce — especially when quick fixes, positivity, and spiritual fluff no longer work. I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, and homeopath, and this show goes where most divorce advice won’t: into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, your buried rage, and the parts of you that shut down just to survive. Through honest conversation, somatic tools, EMDR- and IFS-informed work, and nervous-system support, each episode helps you feel instead of perform healing — and rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust from the inside out. You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate conversations with experts who don’t just talk about healing — they embody it. If you’re tired of being told to “move on” while your body is still bracing, this podcast is your place to land. Your nervous system already knows the truth — it just needs a space that can hold it.

  1. 22H AGO ·  BONUS

    EP. 346 - Marriage Taught You to Ignore Your Needs | What Self-Care Actually Looks Like After Divorce

    “Self-care” sounds cute… until life gets hard. Because what does self-care actually look like when: your child needs you, your nervous system is fried, the house is a mess, grief is still grief-ing, your to-do list is breathing down your neck, and everyone still seems to need something from you? In this deeply honest Thursday Cocoon VIP conversation, Dawn, Joy, and Tiffini pull back the curtain on what self-care actually looks like after divorce—not the Instagram version. Not the bubble bath version. The real version. The version where self-care sometimes looks like:  – asking for help  – finally prioritizing sleep  – taking a walk without your AirPods  – saying “that hurt my feelings” instead of overthinking it for 24 hours  – choosing rest over productivity  – letting something stay undone because your capacity is finite  – learning to stop abandoning yourself every time life gets hard Because if marriage taught you to ignore your needs… divorce doesn’t automatically teach you how to honor them. And for many women, self-care after divorce isn’t about adding more to the list. It’s about unlearning the belief that everyone else comes first. Inside this episode: ✨ what self-care actually looks like when life is messy and real ✨ the nervous system cost of chronic over-functioning ✨ why asking for what you need can feel wildly uncomfortable ✨ motherhood, burnout, guilt, and capacity collapse ✨ the subtle ways high-functioning women abandon themselves ✨ what happens when you stop pushing through depletion ✨ the tiny rituals that genuinely help us regulate and reconnect If you’ve ever told yourself:  “I’ll rest when everything is done…” This episode is your reminder: Everything may never be done.  And you still matter. 💛 Cocoon VIP is where we have the conversations we can’t always have on the public feed. Join us for:  – weekly Thursday VIP healing episodes  – monthly live workshops with Coach Tiffini  – deeper conversations inside our private community  – the kind of support that helps you stop doing divorce healing alone Join Cocoon VIP Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    2 min

  2. 2D AGO

    345. The Divorced Woman’s Guide to Questioning Everything | Divorce, Healing & the Systems We Were Taught to Trust

    Divorce has a way of cracking open more than just your relationship. It can make you question everything. The marriage you believed in. The coping strategies that used to work. The advice you’ve been given. Even the healing systems you were taught to trust. Because sometimes what’s most disorienting after divorce isn’t just heartbreak. It’s realizing the old answers don’t seem to work anymore. In this deeply personal and thought-provoking conversation, Dawn, Coach Tiffini, and Producer Joy explore one of the most misunderstood tools in their healing world: homeopathy—and why it has become such a meaningful part of the divorce recovery journey for so many women. This episode isn’t about rejecting conventional medicine. It’s about asking better questions. About recognizing when burnout, trauma, nervous system overload, dissociation, grief, hormonal chaos, autoimmune flares, anxiety, insomnia, and emotional flooding may need a more complete healing conversation. Inside this episode:  – Why divorce can leave women feeling physically, emotionally, and energetically depleted  – The hidden connection between trauma, suppression, burnout, and symptoms that get labeled “just hormonal”  – Why some women feel stuck even after therapy, medication, or traditional support  – What homeopathy actually is (without the weird internet explanation)  – The fascinating history of homeopathy—and why it used to be mainstream medicine  – How energetic healing fits alongside therapy, EMDR, IFS, nervous system work, and integrative care  – Real personal stories of emotional and physical healing from Dawn, Coach Tiffini, and Producer Joy  – Why healing sometimes means becoming willing to question the old script If divorce has left you feeling like the systems you trusted no longer make sense… If you’ve done “all the right things” but still don’t feel like yourself… If part of your healing has been learning to think differently… This conversation is for you. Because sometimes healing doesn’t begin when you find the perfect answer. Sometimes it begins when you realize you’re finally asking better questions. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    44 min

  3. MAY 14 ·  BONUS

    Ep. 344. Divorce & Kids: The Nervous System Toolkit We Wish We Had Sooner

    Divorce doesn’t just break hearts. It impacts nervous systems. And when your child is struggling after separation or divorce… most parents are left asking: What do I actually DO? In this Cocoon VIP episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn, Joy, and Coach Tiffini walk you through the exact body, mind, spirit, and nervous system tools they wish they’d had sooner while helping their own children navigate divorce, grief, emotional dysregulation, attachment wounds, and anxiety.  This isn’t theory. It’s the real-world toolkit they’ve actually used with their own kids. Inside this episode: – How to help your child identify negative thoughts and emotional patterns – Why some kids dissociate instead of “acting upset” – Tools for helping children get out of their heads and back into their bodies – When boredom is actually healthy for your child’s nervous system – Homeopathic and flower essence tools the team has personally used – How divorce trauma can show up as anxiety, clinginess, shutdown, grief, or emotional overwhelm – Signs your child may need deeper support beyond DIY tools – Why your own nervous system regulation matters more than you think  One of the hardest truths in divorce recovery? Your child doesn’t need a perfect parent. They need a present and connected one. And sometimes the most powerful healing tool in your child’s life is a mother willing to do her own work first. If your child is struggling after divorce and you’ve been wondering where to start… this episode gives you practical places to begin. Want access to all Thursday healing episodes like this one? Join Cocoon VIP for guided healing tools, deeper support, and monthly live workshops. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    3 min

  4. MAY 12

    343. The Divorce Parenting Mistakes Even Loving Moms Make… And What Kids Actually Need

    Divorce can make moms do some wild things in the name of love. Overprotect. Overcompensate. Buy more. Say yes when we mean no. Try to fix every feeling. Avoid our child’s pain because it activates our own guilt. But what if the thing your child needs most after divorce… isn’t more protection? In this deeply honest episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn, Producer Joy, and Coach Tiffini unpack the parenting mistakes even the most loving moms make after divorce—and what children actually need instead. Because kids don’t just “get through” divorce. They carry it in their bodies. From anxiety, tummy aches, eczema, nightmares, shutdown, nail biting, emotional flatness, hygiene changes, and “I don’t know” responses… this episode explores how divorce stress shows up in children’s nervous systems—and why so many moms miss what’s really happening. Inside this episode:  The most common ways moms overcompensate after divorce  Why buying more stuff, saying yes, or overprotecting can backfire  How guilt and shame shape parenting decisions after separation  Signs your child may be dysregulated (even if they say they’re fine)  How children dissociate, adapt, or abandon parts of themselves between two homes  Why your child may not need fixing—they may need emotional safety  What it means to help your child build a real emotional toolbox after divorce If you’ve ever wondered:  “Did I mess my kids up?” or “How do I actually help them heal?” Start here. ✨ Thursday inside Cocoon VIP: We share the exact tools we wish we’d had earlier—the nervous system supports, emotional regulation tools, and practical resources we’d put in every divorced mom’s parenting toolkit. Join Cocoon VIP Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    43 min

  5. MAY 7 ·  BONUS

    Ep. 342 - I Keep Abandoning Myself When I Hurt | A Sleep Meditation for Divorce Anxiety & Heartbreak

    If you’ve been trying to hold it all together while quietly falling apart inside… this episode is for you. Because sometimes after divorce, the hardest part isn’t the heartbreak itself. It’s realizing how quickly you leave yourself when the pain gets too big. You disconnect. Overthink. Obsess over your ex. Numb out. Push through. Care for everyone else while abandoning the parts of you that are hurting the most. And eventually, your nervous system starts living in survival mode. This Cocoon VIP episode is a guided sleep meditation designed to help you gently come back home to yourself. To stay. To breathe. To stop emotionally disappearing every time grief, loneliness, rejection, anxiety, or heartbreak rises to the surface. This is not about “fixing” yourself. It’s about learning how to remain emotionally present with yourself in moments that normally trigger self-abandonment or dissociation. Inside this guided healing track:  – Gentle nervous system regulation for divorce anxiety and emotional overwhelm  – Repetitive subconscious re-patterning affirmations  – Grounding support for dissociation and emotional shutdown  – A sleep-friendly meditation to help calm heartbreak and racing thoughts  – Support for rebuilding emotional safety and self-trust after divorce This is the kind of episode you return to over and over again — especially on the nights when your body feels heavy with grief and your mind won’t stop spinning. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    2 min

  6. MAY 5

    341. Still Angry at Your Ex? It’s Not About Him Anymore | Divorce & Resentment

    If you’re still angry at your ex… this episode is going to challenge the way you see it. Because what if the resentment you feel isn’t really about him anymore? In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we unpack why anger can feel so intense—and why it often sticks around long after the relationship ends. Through a powerful moment sparked by a viral reel, this conversation opens up something deeper:  how many women continue pouring energy outward—into blame, frustration, and resentment—while quietly abandoning themselves in the process. We explore what’s actually happening underneath the anger, and why it can feel easier to stay there than to face what’s beneath it. Inside this episode:  Why anger at your ex can feel justified… and still keep you stuck  How resentment is often rooted in earlier experiences—not just your marriage  The subtle ways self-abandonment shows up in relationships  Why external validation (friends, kids, social media) can’t regulate your nervous system  What happens when anger hardens into bitterness  The connection between emotional suppression, stress, and physical symptoms  How real healing happens through consistency—not one breakthrough moment This is not about blaming yourself or minimizing what you’ve been through. It’s about understanding what your anger might be protecting—and how to start coming back to yourself. 🎧 And if you’re ready to go deeper, join us inside Cocoon VIP for this week’s guided healing episode, where we help you reconnect with the parts of yourself that have been left behind. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    36 min

  7. APR 30 ·  BONUS

    Ep. 340 Your Ex Moved On… And Your Body Took It Personally | Divorce Triggers & Nervous System Healing

    You see your ex move on. A new relationship. A happy photo. Someone casually mentions they seem “so good.” And suddenly your body reacts. Tight chest. Racing thoughts. Shame. Anger. What familiar spiral of: Why am I still here? Why does this still hurt? Why does it feel like I’m back at day one? It looks like jealousy. But often, it’s your nervous system interpreting their moving on as rejection… all over again. Your body doesn’t care that the divorce papers are signed. It responds to what this moment seems to mean: I wasn’t enough. I was replaceable. They’re happy and I’m still healing. This Thursday premium episode of Dear Divorce Diary is a guided somatic reset for those moments when comparison, grief, and emotional flooding hit hard. Because healing after divorce isn’t about never getting triggered. It’s about knowing what to do when it happens. Inside this episode:  – Why your ex moving on feels so physically overwhelming  – How comparison activates old wounds of rejection and abandonment  – What your nervous system is actually responding to  – A simple somatic “wringing” exercise to discharge emotional intensity  – How to stop spiraling and regulate in real time You do not need to be over it. You just need your body to feel safe enough to move through it. This is the work we do inside Cocoon VIP—real healing, nervous system repair, and the tools to stop old wounds from running your life. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    2 min

  8. APR 28

    339. Why Your Ex Moving On Makes You Question Your Worth | Divorce Healing

    You see the photo. The new relationship. The vacation. The smile that looks a little too easy. And suddenly, your entire body reacts. Not because you want them back. But because it feels like proof. Proof that they’re happier. Proof that they’ve moved on. Proof that somehow… you were the problem. This is one of the deepest wounds in divorce healing: when their next chapter makes you question your worth. In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we unpack why your ex moving on can trigger shame, resentment, comparison, and that quiet spiral of self-doubt that keeps you stuck long after the divorce is over. Because the pain usually isn’t about them. It’s about what their moving on makes you believe about you. We talk about: – Why comparison keeps your nervous system stuck in survival – How resentment is often envy in disguise – The hidden shame underneath “why am I still here?” – What you’re actually afraid of when you spiral – How to come back to self-trust, safety, and emotional peace Healing after divorce isn’t about watching them. It’s about returning to yourself. Because your worth was never determined by who stayed. Join us inside Cocoon, where the real healing happens. Support the show ✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ 🥤Shop Organised - Code: DEARDIVORCEDIARY for 10% off🥤

    18 min
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This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration for women navigating life after divorce. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast for women dealing with grief, loneliness, anxiety, anxious or avoidant attachment, and identity loss after divorce — especially when quick fixes, positivity, and spiritual fluff no longer work. I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, and homeopath, and this show goes where most divorce advice won’t: into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, your buried rage, and the parts of you that shut down just to survive. Through honest conversation, somatic tools, EMDR- and IFS-informed work, and nervous-system support, each episode helps you feel instead of perform healing — and rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust from the inside out. You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate conversations with experts who don’t just talk about healing — they embody it. If you’re tired of being told to “move on” while your body is still bracing, this podcast is your place to land. Your nervous system already knows the truth — it just needs a space that can hold it.

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