Transforming 45

Lisa Boate

Transforming 45 is where midlife gets real. Host Lisa Boate, menopause coach and educator, dives into the truth about perimenopause, menopause, identity shifts, and midlife reinvention. Through candid stories and menopause conversations with men and women, Lisa helps listeners understand their bodies, relationships, and purpose in this powerful chapter. Honest, funny, and empowering. This is your go-to podcast for thriving through midlife transformation.

  1. 5d ago

    You Did Everything Right. Why Does Midlife Feel So Wrong?

    JOIN ME AT THE NATIONAL MENOPAUSE SHOW Come for honest conversations, practical information and a whole lot of midlife connection. When: Oct 17, 2026–Oct 18, 2026 | 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Where: The International Centre, Hall 5, Mississauga, Ontario. I’ll be podcasting from the show floor, including a live conversation with Jessica Holmes on Saturday. Come say hello! Use my code TRANSFORM45 for 15% off your tickets. Tickets: National Menopause Show tickets What happens when you’ve done everything “right”—and still find yourself asking, Who am I now? Around her 50th birthday, Jennifer Arthurton faced divorce, unemployment, an empty nest and illness. The checklist she’d followed no longer offered an answer for what came next. In this episode of Transforming 45, Jennifer and Lisa Boate talk honestly about the grief and anger that can come with a changing identity, the energy it takes to perform a perfect life, and the small questions that can bring you back to yourself. Jennifer shares how writing opened a door to creativity she hadn’t recognised, why stillness was so uncomfortable, and how she learned to ask harder questions without taking responsibility for everyone else’s reaction. You’ll hear about: Letting go of the “good girl” script Finding identity beyond work, marriage and motherhood Listening to your preferences instead of automatically accommodating everyone Practising self-trust through small everyday choices Building community that supports you and challenges you Chapters: 00:00 Who am I now? Introducing Jennifer Arthurton 01:40 The corporate checklist and the “good girl” script 04:37 Divorce, empty nest and the grief behind starting over 08:04 Finding an identity beyond your roles 10:41 Discovering creativity and Old Chicks Know Sh*t 13:56 The energy cost of performing a perfect life 19:15 Learning to stop—and making room for stillness 23:23 Practising self-trust through small choices 25:24 Lisa’s personal experience of stillness and memory 28:25 What do I want? Questions and boundaries 30:44 People-pleasing and asking difficult questions 32:17 Community, collaboration and being fully expressed 38:36 Jennifer’s personal perspective on menopause and purpose 41:11 Trusting yourself in your next chapter About Jennifer Jennifer Arthurton is the founder of Old Chicks Know Sh*t, a platform, podcast and community supporting women navigating midlife and their next chapter. In the conversation, she also discusses her Maven Collective community. CONNECT WITH JENNIFER Instagram: @oldchicksknowshit Facebook: Jennifer on Facebook Website: Old Chicks Know Sh*t Podcast: Old Chicks Know Sh*t Podcast CONNECT WITH LISA Website: Liberated Menopause Consulting & Coaching Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Instagram: @lboate Facebook: Lisa on Facebook Facebook community: Join Lisa’s community Follow Transforming 45 in your listening app so the next conversation is easy to find. If this episode makes you think of someone, send it to her. Personal experiences and perspectives are shared in this episode; they do not establish causes of illness or replace individual healthcare advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  2. Sep 24

    The Beautiful Badass Bod Era: How fashion can help create a midlife revolution

    Get tickets for the National Menopause Show, October 17–18, 2026: https://nationalmenopauseshow.com/buy-tickets/ Use code TRANSFORM45. Has your body changed in perimenopause or menopause and suddenly your clothes don’t feel like you anymore? Heather Bolt, founder of Dotty Clothing, joins Lisa Boate for a funny, honest conversation about midlife fashion, changing bodies, body confidence and what happens when we stop trying to dress the woman we used to be. We talk about the messages Gen X women inherited about our bodies, the ridiculous rules around dressing “age appropriately,” sensory and body changes in midlife, colour, comfort, visibility and why getting dressed can be a surprisingly powerful part of reclaiming your identity. Because the goal isn’t to get your old body back. It’s to dress the body you have now in a way that makes you feel like yourself. And sometimes, as Heather puts it, we need to remember who the hell we are. In this episode: • How perimenopause and menopause can change the way clothes feel and fit • Why “age appropriate” style rules deserve to be questioned • Body confidence after 40 and 50 • The messages Gen X women learned about taking up space • Dressing for the body you have instead of waiting for your body to change • Using colour, comfort and personal style to reconnect with yourself • Why midlife can be the moment we stop disappearing Chapters 00:00 How to Dress a Changing Midlife Body 00:47 How Clothes Change How We Feel 02:34 “I’m 56. It’s My Time to Shine” 03:51 Who Decided What’s Age Appropriate? 05:10 Dressing for Perimenopause & Menopause Body Changes 08:25 Let Go of Clothes That Make You Feel Like Garbage 14:00 Fashion, Body Confidence & Taking Up Space 24:00 What Gen X Learned About Women’s Bodies 34:00 Colour, Visibility & Midlife Style 39:48 Why Midlife Women Are Done Disappearing 44:07 Remember Who the Hell You Are 47:30 Dress for How You Want to Feel Connect with Heather: Dotty: https://www.dotty.ca/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dottyclothing/ Connect with Lisa: Website: liberatedmenopause.ca Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Instagram: @lboate YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Transforming45 If you’re figuring out who you are in this version of midlife, subscribe to Transforming 45. These are the conversations we should have been having all along. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  3. Sep 17

    The Practical Magic of Coven Health

    “It’s not a problem that you can’t keep it together enough. It’s a problem that you have too much to keep together.” — Dr. Michelle Jacobson What happens when a leading menopause specialist and a seasoned business builder decide that “this is just how it is” is no longer an acceptable answer? In this episode, Lisa sits down with Dr. Michelle Jacobson and Jenn Patterson, co-founders of Coven Health, to explore why women’s healthcare so often feels fragmented—and what becomes possible when care is evidence-informed, collaborative and built around the whole woman. They talk honestly about perimenopause, migraine, iron deficiency, anxiety, rage, libido, medical dismissal and the impossible pressure to keep everything together. They also unpack why individualized care matters, why a patient must have agency in every treatment plan, and how better education now could change the experience of the next generation. In this epsiode: How a two-and-a-half-year specialist wait list helped inspire a new model of care Why publicly funded physician care is only one piece of comprehensive health support How migraines, mood changes, fatigue and rage can intersect with the menopause transition Why not every midlife symptom is “just hormones” The value of prioritizing one meaningful health change at a time What true patient-centred care and informed choice look like How Gen X women were trained to keep it together—and what that has cost us Why teaching the full life cycle of women’s health could change everything The deeper meaning behind the name Coven Chapters: 00:00 Meet Dr. Michelle Jacobson and Jenn Patterson 01:37 Building a Better Model for Women’s Healthcare 04:12 Jenn’s Journey from Patient to Co-Founder 07:10 Why Women Struggle to Find the Right Care 08:56 Public Healthcare, Private Clinics and the Missing Nuance 12:17 Closing the Gaps in Women’s Healthcare 14:29 What’s Missing from the Menopause Conversation 19:20 Migraines, Anxiety and Early Perimenopause 20:14 Menopause Rage—and the Power Inside It 25:25 Why Women Feel They Must Keep It All Together 28:44 What We’re Teaching the Next Generation 30:13 Supporting Women Earlier in Their Lives 31:59 The Menopause Education Gap 37:39 What Patient-Centred Care Actually Looks Like 43:33 Why the Name Coven? 47:14 Final Thoughts and Where to Find Coven About the guests: Dr. Michelle Jacobson is an OB-GYN and menopause specialist whose work focuses on evidence-informed, individualized women’s healthcare. Jenn Patterson is an entrepreneur, business leader and CEO of Coven Health. Together, they are building a collaborative model designed to help women feel heard, informed and supported across midlife and beyond. Connect with Coven Health: Website: https://www.covenhealth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/covenhealth/ Connect with Lisa: Website: https://liberatedmenopause.ca Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lboate/ And come connect with Coven in person at The National Menopause Show! 📍 International Centre, Hall 5 📅 October 17 & 18, 2026 🎟️ Use code TRANSFORM45 for 15% off your tickets. Gather your own coven and come join us. This episode is for education and conversation only. It does not replace individualized medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Speak with a qualified healthcare professional about your own symptoms and care. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  4. Sep 10

    You Have No Best-Before Date: Jessica Holmes on Menopause, Mental Health and Moving at Your Own Pace

    Join me at this year’s National Menopause Show, October 17 and 18 at the International Centre in Mississauga. Go to https://nationalmenopauseshow.com/ and use code TRANSFORM45. For years, Jessica Holmes built a career playing other people. Now, in midlife, she is discovering the freedom of becoming more fully herself. In this episode of Transforming 45, Lisa and Jessica talk about the pressure Gen X women inherited to do everything, the fear of having a professional “best-before date,” and the identity shift that arrives when children leave home. Jessica shares the phrase guiding her life now: “I travel at the pace of my own well-being.” Together, they explore why boundaries are not the same as abandoning community, how self-kindness changes with age, and why workplace well-being cannot be used as a bandage for unsafe systems. There is also a giant sun hat, a rebellious braless dog walk and a reminder that midlife liberation can be both meaningful and gloriously ridiculous. In this conversation Identity after years of performing for other people Menopause, ageism and the myth of a professional expiration date Empty-nest transitions and changing caregiving roles Moving at the pace of your own well-being Saying no without an apology essay Self-care, community and the difference between boundaries and disconnection Psychological safety and why resilience cannot fix harmful systems Modelling a different relationship with achievement for young adults If this episode connected with you, share it with the woman who needs permission to stop racing a clock she never chose. Guest bio Jessica Holmes is a celebrated Canadian comedian, speaker, author and mental health advocate. She has opened for Ellen DeGeneres, Jerry Seinfeld and Oprah Winfrey; performed with Just for Laughs and The Second City; and starred in The Holmes Show and Royal Canadian Air Farce. Her book, Depression The Comedy: A Tale of Perseverance, uses humour and honesty to explore resilience, mental health and joy. Website: https://jessicaholmes.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyfunholmes/ Chapters 00:45 – Meet Jessica Holmes: comedy, mental health and finding funny when life goes off-book 03:30 – From playing other people to learning to play yourself 04:23 – Empty-nest identity and having something hopeful to move toward 06:49 – The invisible backpack of work, motherhood and pressure 09:51 – Ageism and the myth of a professional best-before date 13:30 – “I travel at the pace of my own well-being” 18:08 – Comparison, rejection and running your own race 20:17 – The self-kindness that can arrive with age 21:20 – Practising no without over-explaining 24:18 – Self-care, service and community are not opposites 27:58 – UV clothing and the everyday rebellion of dressing for yourself 31:44 – What midlife parents can model for young adults 34:48 – Achievement, money and what actually supports well-being 38:13 – Psychological safety must come from leadership 42:55 – Why workplace well-being cannot be a bandage 44:05 – What makes Jessica feel most alive Learn more about Lisa and Liberated Menopause: https://liberatedmenopause.ca Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  5. Sep 3

    3 Answers to Midlife Wellness We All Need to Know

    This week on Transforming 45 Podcast, Lisa sits down with Karen Armes, founder of ZuZu Unleashed, holistic health educator, retreat leader, entrepreneur, and passionate disruptor in the wellness space. Together, they unpack the modern midlife experience through the lens of nervous system health, depletion, minerals, emotional overwhelm, identity shifts, connection, and what happens when women stop abandoning themselves. This conversation moves beyond surface-level wellness trends and into the deeper questions so many women are asking right now: Why am I exhausted? Why doesn’t my body feel like mine anymore? Why do I still feel depleted even after “doing all the things”? Expect a spicy, thought-provoking conversation about modern health culture, human connection, nervous systems, emotional load, and how we move from survival mode into possibility. Episodes of Transforming 45 drop every Thursday on all listening platforms and YouTube. Why modern women are feeling so depleted Nervous system overload and emotional exhaustion The role of minerals and nourishment Human connection and energetic health Midlife identity shifts Returning to yourself after years of survival mode Chapters: 00:00 Meet Karen “ZuZu” Armes 02:30 Why Aging Looks Different for Women Today 07:21 Menopause, Minerals & the Nervous System 11:47 What Does It Mean to Be “Electric”? 18:21 Why “Vibration” Isn’t Just Woo-Woo 19:50 Human Connection, Energy & the Nervous System 23:07 How Collective Experiences Change Us 26:10 What’s Actually in Your Supplements? 30:09 The Overwhelming Wellness Landscape 31:06 Where Do Midlife Women Even Start? 35:02 Why We Long to Reconnect With Our Roots 37:36 Grief, Spiritual Connection & Those We’ve Lost 40:00 “I’ve Done Everything and Still Don’t Feel Like Myself” 41:03 Are You Stuck in Fight-or-Flight? 43:11 Moving From Fear Into Possibility 44:39 One Tiny Morning Practice That Can Shift Your Day 45:29 Why Social Media Keeps Us Stuck in the List 47:36 Smile, Mineralize & Ask Questions Connect with Lisa: Website: Liberated Menopause Consulting & Coaching Instagram: @lboate Facebook: Lisa Boate Facebook Group: Transforming 45 Community YouTube: Transforming 45 Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Website: ZuZu UnleashedHolistic Health Education: Holistic Health EducatorsRetreat Centre: Lily Fields Retreat CenterInstagram: @zuzu_unleashedFacebook: ZuZu Unleashed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    3 Answers to  Midlife Wellness We All Need to Know
  6. Aug 27

    Can We Actually Slow Aging? What Women Over 40 Need to Know

    What if aging isn't something that simply happens to us? This week's conversation completely shifted how I think about longevity. Not because it promised magic supplements or miracle cures. Because it reminded me that the goal isn't living longer. It's protecting the years we're living. If you've ever wondered… ✨ Should I take supplements? ✨ Does intermittent fasting really work? ✨ What happens to our bodies during menopause? ✨ How do I know what's real? ...this conversation is for you. Chapters: 00:00 Can We Actually Slow Aging? 02:39 Why Do We Age? 08:25 Why Aging Sneaks Up on Gen X 10:00 What Menopause Has to Do With Aging 12:06 When Should You Seek Menopause Treatment? 13:19 The 7 Biological Causes of Aging 18:58 Mitochondria, Energy & Aging 20:01 Why Sleep Changes As We Age 21:07 Estrogen's Effect Throughout the Body 23:40 Inflammation and the Aging Immune System 27:07 Glucose, Insulin Resistance & Aging 29:25 Lifespan vs Healthspan 33:50 Which Supplements Actually Have Evidence? 40:03 Where Do You Start? 42:15 Exercise, Bones & Women's Longevity 52:58 What Quality of Life Do You Want? Aging begins long before menopause. Healthspan matters more than lifespan. Hormones are only one piece of healthy aging. Strength training becomes increasingly important after 40. Good science embraces uncertainty. Longevity isn't about perfection—it's about reducing disease risk over time. Fact Check: Rosalind Franklin Connect with Dr. Kaufmann: Website: https://kaufmannprotocol.com Clinical website: https://kaufmannlongevity.com Instagram: @kaufmannlongevity Connect with Lisa: Website: https://www.liberatedmenopause.ca Podcast: https://www.liberatedmenopause.ca/podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lboate Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/leaninfindyourwayhome Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/245092311417467 Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Can We Actually Slow Aging? What Women Over 40 Need to Know
  7. Aug 13

    Uncage the Rage: Menopause, Music and Hormonal Justice

    Menopause was kept quiet for decades. Alicia J. Rose is done whispering. In this fierce, funny and deeply cathartic conversation, Lisa sits down with the award-winning filmmaker, photographer and musician behind MENOPUNKS—a documentary, podcast and growing movement using punk-rock rebellion to challenge menopause misinformation and demand hormonal justice. Alicia shares her own path from medical dismissal to becoming “hormonally radicalized,” why music remains one of Gen X’s most powerful languages, and what happens when midlife rage is channeled into creativity, community and action. Lisa and Alicia also unpack the cultural fallout from decades of fear surrounding hormone therapy, the stories Alicia is hearing from iconic musicians, and the electric energy of Menopunkapalooza. This episode is for anyone who has wondered whether the problem was their body—or a system that never gave them the information, care and choices they deserved. Content note: This conversation contains strong language and discussion of medical dismissal, cancer, dementia, reproductive rights and political systems. It shares lived experience and advocacy perspectives and is not personal medical advice. Speak with a qualified healthcare professional about your individual circumstances. What we talk about: Alicia’s symptoms became impossible to dismiss in her early 50s, but getting informed, appropriate care was anything but straightforward. MENOPUNKS grew from a personal health reckoning into a documentary, podcast and movement focused on misinformation, access and hormonal justice. Gen X’s relationship with music matters: for the last analog generation, art did not just entertain us—it helped us define ourselves. Alicia is gathering menopause stories from musicians and artists, revealing common experiences of dismissal, confusion and feeling as though something was seriously wrong. Lisa and Alicia explore the lasting cultural fear created by the early reporting on the Women’s Health Initiative and why informed, individualized care matters. Menopunkapalooza put menopause advocacy onstage with music, comedy, clinicians, politicians, resources and joy. Rage can consume us, but it can also carry information. When combined with creativity and community, it can become fuel for change. Listeners can support MENOPUNKS by following and sharing the project, listening to the podcast, buying merch or donating toward documentary post-production. Chapters: 00:01 — Meet Alicia J. Rose and the MENOPUNKS movement 00:57 — When menopause became bigger than Alicia’s own body 03:45 — The echo chamber of hormone fear and misinformation 08:22 — Why Gen X may be uniquely equipped to change the story 10:47 — Music, identity and the last analog generation 17:18 — What musicians are revealing about menopause 20:21 — Feminism, cultural backlash and the future women expected 23:30 — The Women’s Health Initiative and the consequences of its reporting 30:43 — Menopunkapalooza: reclamation, healing and euphoria 37:12 — Why resistance also needs joy 38:46 — How Gen X wants to age differently 40:38 — Storytelling as an uncensored source of power 41:55 — How to support the MENOPUNKS film, podcast and movement 44:07 — Alanis Morissette, consider this your invitation 45:10 — Uncaging rage and turning it into action MENOPUNKS website: https://www.menopunks.com/ About Alicia and the MENOPUNKS team: https://www.menopunks.com/about-1 Alicia J. Rose: https://www.aliciajrose.com/bio Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menopunks/ Email: menopunks@gmail.com Podcast, merch, documentary updates and donations are available through the MENOPUNKS website. The Estrogen Dilemma - Historical Article Connect with Lisa: Lisa Boate | Menopause Consultant, Coach and host of Transforming 45 Website: https://liberatedmenopause.ca/ Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lboate/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Uncage the Rage: Menopause, Music and Hormonal Justice
  8. Aug 6

    Braless, Out of Gas, and Finally Free with Kara @mediocremom76

    Join me at the National Menopause Show, October 17–18 at the International Centre in Mississauga! Get your tickets at nationalmenopauseshow.com and use code TRANSFORM45 at checkout. What happens when you stop trying to hold it all together… and start laughing instead? This week, Lisa sits down with Kara Murray—aka MediocreMom76—former teacher turned viral content creator and now stand-up comedian. Kara built a massive audience by telling the truth about motherhood, menopause, and the absolute chaos of midlife—and people felt it. In this episode, we explore what happens when you stop striving for perfection and start embracing “good enough.”  What You’ll Hear: The accidental creation of the “Menopause Hotline” (and why it exploded) Why midlife unlocks confidence you didn’t have before Teacher ➡️ creator ➡️ comedian: how reinvention actually happens The mental load, brain fog, and identity shifts of menopause Body image, generational patterns, and what we pass to our kids Why comedy might be one of the most powerful forms of advocacy Letting go of perfection and embracing “mediocre”  Key Takeaways: You don’t have to suffer in your body Reinvention isn’t reckless—it’s necessary “Good enough” is more powerful than perfect Midlife isn’t shrinking you—it’s expanding you Laughter is connection—and we need more of it   About Kara Murray Kara Murray (MediocreMom76) is a former teacher turned social media personality and emerging stand-up comedian. She shares honest, hilarious takes on motherhood, menopause, and midlife identity, building a community through truth and humour. 🔗 Connect with Kara Instagram: @mediocremom76 Merch Shop: https://mediocremom76.com/ Connect with Lisa Website: https://www.liberatedmenopause.ca/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lboate/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leaninfindyourwayhome/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/245092311417467 Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Braless, Out of Gas, and Finally Free with Kara @mediocremom76
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Transforming 45 is where midlife gets real. Host Lisa Boate, menopause coach and educator, dives into the truth about perimenopause, menopause, identity shifts, and midlife reinvention. Through candid stories and menopause conversations with men and women, Lisa helps listeners understand their bodies, relationships, and purpose in this powerful chapter. Honest, funny, and empowering. This is your go-to podcast for thriving through midlife transformation.

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