Addiction Makes Three

Amanda Lockyer
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Addiction Makes Three The Podcast, with Amanda Lockyer is dedicated to shining a light and understanding the lesser talked about side of addiction. The real impact it has on the partners and families of those that struggle with addiction. Are you struggling with a partners addiction and feel at a complete loss as to what to do? You feel like you have no one to turn to and are worried you'll be judged or your partner will be judged. It can feel like no one understands what you are going through and no one could really imagine what this is really like. We will cover what it is truly like to be on the other side of a loved one struggling with addiction or navigating recovery. We will also dive deep on tools, ideas and strategies that will really help you whether you are at the confusing beginning the messy middle or through the other side, including practical tips and ways that you can actually get back to living again, regardless of the path your partner chooses. I will share my own lived experiences and expertise as an Addiction Relationship Coach and Wife of someone someone that struggled with addiction and we will have experts and guests that can share their expertise and experience in this space too so that you truly know you are not alone and know that there are things you can do to help you, your family and your partner - whether you choose to stay in the relationship, leave or leave for now. For more information and support and to find out how you can work with me for 1:1 and group coaching, check out the website or find me on Instagram. New episodes weekly. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Show links I love connecting with the lovely listeners here, so head over to Instagram and let's be friends: https://instagram.com/addictionmakesthree/Ready to think about what could help? Book in a friendly chat: https://addictionmakesthree.as.me/friendlychat If you'd like to implement what have been learning on the podcast Join the waitlist for the next Pathway to Wellness Coaching Program: https://www.addictionmakesthree.com/waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 3D AGO

    93 - How Survival Mode Slowly Becomes Your Personality

    One of the hardest parts about loving someone struggling with alcohol or addiction? How slowly survival mode starts feeling normal. The hypervigilance. The walking on eggshells. The overthinking. The emotional exhaustion. The inability to fully relax. And over time… you stop recognising yourself. In this episode, Amanda explores the hidden ways addiction impacts partners and families - and how survival mode slowly becomes something you mistake for your personality. If you’ve ever found yourself: constantly monitoring moodsover-functioning and carrying everythingunable to switch off or relaxemotionally exhausted all the timewalking on eggshellsfeeling like your world has become smallerthinking “I don’t even feel like myself anymore” …this episode is for you. Inside this conversation, Amanda shares: why survival mode happens so graduallyhow hypervigilance affects your nervous systemthe hidden emotional load many partners carrywhy addiction changes the whole emotional atmosphere of a homethe connection between perfectionism and survival modehow women slowly disconnect from themselves while trying to hold everything together And most importantly? A reminder that this isn’t who you are. This is survival mode. Want more support and clarity? ✨ Discovery to Recovery If you know something needs to change, but feel overwhelmed about where to even begin… this is your first step out of survival mode. Quietly, in the privacy of your own home and at your own pace. Find out more about Discovery to Recovery and take your next smallest step towards a better life. And... if you want the next step The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    19 min

  2. 5D AGO

    92 - Am I Overreacting? The Hidden Damage Addiction Causes

    Have you ever asked yourself, "Maybe It’s Me?" One of the hardest parts about loving someone struggling with alcohol or addiction? It’s not always the drinking, the lying, the gambling, or the chaos. It’s what slowly starts happening to you. And loosing your own trust is one of those impacts that is lesser seen and almost never spoken about. But it's impacts are devastating. In this episode, Amanda talks about the hidden emotional toll addiction can have on partners and families - the confusion, hypervigilance, self-doubt, and the slow erosion of self-trust that can happen over time. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: “Maybe I’m overreacting”“Maybe it’s not actually that bad”“Maybe it’s me” …this episode is for you. Amanda shares: Why addiction-impacted relationships create so much confusionHow hypervigilance and overthinking become survival strategiesThe emotional impact of constantly questioning your realityWhy self-trust is often the biggest casualtyHow survival mode slowly disconnects you from yourselfThe small ways you can begin rebuilding trust in yourself again This is an honest, compassionate conversation for anyone feeling emotionally exhausted, disconnected from themselves, or unsure what’s normal anymore. 💛 You are not crazy. 💛 You are not weak. 💛 And you do not have to carry this alone. Want more support and clarity? The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    23 min

  3. MAY 14

    91 - The Hills I’ll Die On After Loving Someone With Addiction

    Today Amanda shares the “hills she’ll die on” after loving someone struggling with alcohol and addiction… and after supporting hundreds of women and men impacted by it too. From waiting for rock bottom… to believing sobriety should magically fix everything… to thinking more information will finally make things feel better… This episode challenges some of the biggest myths people quietly carry in addiction and recovery. In this episode we talk through... Why you do NOT need to wait for things to get worse before getting supportWhy sobriety doesn’t automatically heal the people around the addictionThe confusion, self-doubt and “crazy making” impact of addictionWhy learning more about addiction is not the same as healing from its impactThe truth about hypervigilance and survival modeWhy you deserve to live your life tooAwareness matters. But awareness alone does not create change. Want more? The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    19 min

  4. MAY 13

    90 - I Miss Who I Used To Be: How Survival Mode Slowly Changes You

    Sometimes the hardest part about addiction…. is realising how much you have changed too. In this deeply personal episode, Amanda opens up about the grief of losing yourself in survival mode. The anxiety. The hypervigilance. The exhaustion. The version of you that slowly disappeared while trying to hold everything together. Because addiction doesn’t just impact the person struggling. It changes the people around them too. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: How survival mode slowly changes youThe grief of losing yourself in addictionWhy hypervigilance becomes your “normal”The hidden emotional exhaustion partners carryWhy you may not recognise yourself anymoreThe difference between your identity and your survival adaptationsRebuilding self-trust and reconnecting with yourselfWhy life is not supposed to feel like constant survival mode You didn’t lose yourself because you were weak. You lost parts of yourself trying to survive something really hard for a really long time. The version of you that exists in survival mode… is not who you are. It’s an adaptation. And underneath it all? You are still there. So if you’re quietly thinking: “God… I miss myself…” The waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you want to find out more. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    21 min

  5. MAY 7

    89 - Mother’s Day, Addiction, and the Grief No One Talks About

    Mother’s Day can bring up a lot for many of us. And when addiction has touched your life… not all of it feels good. Because Mother’s Day can become this painful mix of hope, disappointment and grief all at the same time. In this deeply personal episode, Amanda opens up about the complicated emotional reality of Mother’s Day when addiction is part of your story. From unmet expectations… to feeling unseen… to grieving the version of family life you thought you’d have… this episode puts words to feelings so many people quietly carry. In this episode, we talk about:Why Mother’s Day can feel emotionally heavy in addictionThe hope that “maybe this year will be different”The heartbreak of disappointment and unmet expectationsGrieving the life and relationship you thought you’d haveThe invisible loneliness of high-functioning addictionWhy social media can make these feelings even harderThe meaning we attach to gifts, effort, and feeling seenHow to approach Mother’s Day with more compassion for yourself Because truthfully You can love your family deeply… and still feel sadness. You can feel grateful… and still grieve what’s missing. And multiple things can be true at once. This episode is for you if:Mother’s Day feels complicatedYou feel unseen or emotionally aloneAddiction has changed how family celebrations feelYou’re carrying grief no one else seems to noticeYou’re trying to hold it all together for everyone else If this episode feels close to home… you don’t have to carry this on your own. Amanda has opened up a small number of “talk it through” spaces - a chance to simply talk things through with someone who understands this space. 👉 book in a friendly chat here You are allowed to have mixed feelings about Mother’s Day. And you are worthy of being seen, appreciated, and cared for too. 👉 Resources and support: If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    27 min

  6. MAY 5

    88 - Why Learning More About Addiction Might Be Keeping You Stuck

    You’ve learnt a lot about addiction. You understand the patterns. You can see what’s happening. You’ve done the reading, the podcasts, the research. So why does it still feel like nothing is changing? In this episode, we’re talking about a trap that’s easy to fall into - especially when you’re trying to handle this better: 👉 learning more… instead of doing differently Because at some point, more knowledge doesn’t create change. It keeps you in what I call consumption mode. In this episode, we cover:What “consumption mode” actually looks like (and how to spot it)Why learning more about addiction can start to keep you stuckThe difference between understanding something and being able to act on itWhy you can’t access what you know in high-stress momentsHow your nervous system pulls you back into familiar patternsWhy this isn’t about effort - it’s about implementationWhat actually helps you start doing things differently Truthfully... You’re not stuck because you don’t care. And you’re definitely not stuck because you’re not trying. You’re stuck because knowing what to do and being able to do it in real life… are two very different things. Here’s the shift There’s no prize for knowing everything about addiction. Change doesn’t come from more information. It comes from: 👉 practising something different 👉 applying it in real moments 👉 getting support while you do If you’re thinking: “I know so much… but I’m still doing the same things…” You don’t need another podcast. You need support to start doing this differently. 👉 Resources and support: If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. You can study the map all you like… But nothing changes until you actually start walking the path of change. 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: where I can suggest what your next best step forward is, because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 4️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    15 min

  7. MAY 1

    87 - Why It’s Not Getting Better (Even Though You’re Doing Everything Right)

    You’re struggling with a loved one’s addiction and you’re trying really hard to make things better. Reading. Listening. Learning everything you can. Trying to handle this better. Trying to respond better. Trying to make things work. And yet… You still find yourself in the same place. Reacting. Overthinking. Carrying it all. And nothing is actually getting better - in fact it’s getting worse. In this episode, we’re talking about why. Because this isn’t a lack of effort. And it’s not because you’re not capable. I am talking about... Why “trying harder” isn’t creating changeThe trap of believing you should be able to handle this aloneHow addiction becomes normalised over timeWhy this isn’t a knowledge problemThe difference between awareness and actual changeWhy doing the same things keeps you stuck I know you’ve done hard things before. Built careers. Raised children. Handled more than most people ever will. So of course you think: “I should be able to do this.” But this is different. You don’t need more information. You need the right support. Because this isn’t something you can think your way out of. If you’re tired of doing more of the same and ending up in the same place… This is your moment to do something different. Not everything. Just one thing. If you’re ready for support, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for my program, or book in a friendly chat with me where I can suggest the next best step for you. Nothing changes if nothing changes. But that change? It doesn’t have to be everything. Just the next step. 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: where I can suggest what your next best step forward is, because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 4️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    19 min

  8. APR 29

    86 - I Can’t Keep Doing This: What Happens When You Reach Your Limit

    Sometimes it’s not a big moment. Not a crisis. Not the worst day. Not the breaking point you thought it would be. It’s quieter than that. It’s the moment where something inside you says: “I can’t keep doing this like this.” In this episode, we’re talking about that moment. The one where you realise: 👉 This isn’t sustainable 👉 This isn’t working 👉 And something needs to change Even if you don’t know what that looks like yet. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: The “low hum” of anxiety that becomes normal Why things don’t need to be a crisis to not be okay What’s actually in your control (and what isn’t) Why waiting and hoping keeps you stuck The quiet decision that shifts everything I know you’ve been holding a lot together for a long time. Managing. Anticipating. Keeping things steady for everyone else. And it’s costing you. The truth is, If nothing changes… nothing changes. And over time? It gets heavier. Not lighter. You don't need to have all the answers. Just to acknowledge: 👉 “Not like this.” So iff you’re thinking, “I don’t want another year like this…” Listen to that little whisper. You don’t need everything to fall apart to decide something needs to change. Sometimes it starts with: “Not life like this.” Listen next: Ep 41 - The One Question Not to Ask Someone Struggling With Addiction Ep 53 - Are you Gaslighting Yourself? The Quiet Habit Keeping you Stuck Ep 6 - Painful thought #1 - Why are they choosing a substance over me? Ep 47 - 11 Subtle Signs Your Partner’s Addiction Is Controlling Your Life 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    17 min
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Addiction Makes Three The Podcast, with Amanda Lockyer is dedicated to shining a light and understanding the lesser talked about side of addiction. The real impact it has on the partners and families of those that struggle with addiction. Are you struggling with a partners addiction and feel at a complete loss as to what to do? You feel like you have no one to turn to and are worried you'll be judged or your partner will be judged. It can feel like no one understands what you are going through and no one could really imagine what this is really like. We will cover what it is truly like to be on the other side of a loved one struggling with addiction or navigating recovery. We will also dive deep on tools, ideas and strategies that will really help you whether you are at the confusing beginning the messy middle or through the other side, including practical tips and ways that you can actually get back to living again, regardless of the path your partner chooses. I will share my own lived experiences and expertise as an Addiction Relationship Coach and Wife of someone someone that struggled with addiction and we will have experts and guests that can share their expertise and experience in this space too so that you truly know you are not alone and know that there are things you can do to help you, your family and your partner - whether you choose to stay in the relationship, leave or leave for now. For more information and support and to find out how you can work with me for 1:1 and group coaching, check out the website or find me on Instagram. New episodes weekly. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Show links I love connecting with the lovely listeners here, so head over to Instagram and let's be friends: https://instagram.com/addictionmakesthree/Ready to think about what could help? Book in a friendly chat: https://addictionmakesthree.as.me/friendlychat If you'd like to implement what have been learning on the podcast Join the waitlist for the next Pathway to Wellness Coaching Program: https://www.addictionmakesthree.com/waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  • Creator
    Amanda Lockyer
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    94
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Amanda Lockyer
  • Show Website
    Addiction Makes Three

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