Divorce Happens

Welcome to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we inspire, educate, and support you through divorce and beyond so that you can start fresh on the next phase of your journey. Produced by Fresh Starts Registry, the only divorce registry platform for everything you need to begin again, including home items, hype team, and everything in between. Remember, divorce happens...and then, we start fresh. We're here to support you before, during, and after divorce. Hosted by Olivia Dreizen Howell, the co-founder and CEO of Fresh Starts Registry.

  1. 5d ago

    Hey Olivia, I posted something on TikTok during an angry divorce spiral and now I regret it. Do I delete it?

    "I posted something on TikTok during an angry divorce spiral last night, mid-rant, feeling completely justified in the moment. This morning I woke up and read it back and felt sick." In this Hey Olivia listener letter episode, Olivia answers a question so many people have quietly lived through: what to do the morning after an emotional, regretted post during divorce. Olivia covers: Why posting in anger at midnight during divorce is a genuinely human response, not a sign something's wrong with youWhy it's okay to simply delete a regretted post without overthinking the optics of the deletion itselfWhy deleting something isn't a confession of guilt or an admission of hiding anythingWhen it's worth a quick, honest conversation with your attorney if you're in an active legal processWhy screenshots can exist even after deletion, and what that means practically going forwardHow to build in a pause before posting during high-emotion moments — even just writing it in a notes app firstWhy you're allowed to have a private outlet to vent that isn't public: a trusted friend, a journal, a voice memo you never send "One moment of oversharing doesn't define you, and it doesn't undo everything else you're doing to handle this whole process with genuine care." Need support navigating this? Fresh Starts offers free consults, a vetted professional network, and free guides. Learn more at freshstartsregistry.com. If this episode helped, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it today. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/ 💛 The Divorce Happens Community: https://divorcehappens.substack.com/

  2. 5d ago

    Hey Olivia, how do I stop sleeping with my spouse now that we're separated?

    "Since my husband and I separated, we keep ending up back in bed together. It's not planned. It just happens." In this Hey Olivia listener letter episode, Olivia answers one of the most common — and least talked about — parts of separation: continuing to sleep with a spouse you've split from, and why it's so much harder to stop than it sounds. Olivia covers: Why this is one of the most common things that happens during separation, even though almost no one admits it out loudThe real chemical bonding that comes with physical intimacy with someone familiar, regardless of where things stand emotionallyWhy keeping this private isn't shame — it's often just protecting yourself from managing other people's reactionsWhy the "setback" feeling afterward isn't confusion, it's clear information: the body wants comfort, growth wants distance, and both are true at onceWhy structural changes work better than willpower alone — limiting alone time, meeting in public, having a plan for lonelinessHow to get specific about whether the craving is for that person, or for touch and closeness in generalWhy deciding your boundary on a calm day beats deciding it in a lonely moment "Your body wants comfort. Your growth wants distance. Both are true." Need support navigating this? Fresh Starts Registry offers free consults, a vetted professional network, and free guides. Learn more at freshstartsregistry.com. If this episode helped, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it today. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/ 💛 The Divorce Happens Community: https://divorcehappens.substack.com/

  3. Sep 7

    Hey Olivia, I haven't told anyone I'm thinking about divorce. Does that mean I'm not serious about it?

    "I've been thinking about divorce for months, but I haven't told a single person. Does that mean I'm not actually serious about it?" In this Hey Olivia listener letter episode, Olivia answers a question so many people carry silently — and makes the case that staying quiet doesn't mean you're not serious. If anything, it might mean the opposite. Olivia covers: Why silence is not the same thing as ambivalenceWhy processing privately first is often the safest, smartest way to approach a life-changing decisionWhy months of quiet thinking is actually fast, not slow, for something this bigWhy telling one person doesn't have to be a "starting gun" for anythingWhy a thought that won't go away is usually strong evidence it's real — not evidence that it isn'tPermission to move at your own pace, on your own timeline, with no outside benchmark to meet "The thoughts that don't go away are usually the ones trying to tell you something true." Want somewhere to say it out loud for the very first time, without it being a starting gun for anything? Divorce Happens offers free consults, a vetted professional network, and free guides. Learn more at freshstartsregistry.com. If this episode helped, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it today. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/ 💛 The Divorce Happens Community: https://divorcehappens.substack.com/

  4. Sep 7

    Hey Olivia, how do I know if this is over, or just a rough patch?

    "How do I actually know if what I'm feeling is 'this is over,' or just a rough patch?" In this Hey Olivia listener letter episode, Olivia answers one of the most common quiet questions in marriage — the doubt that comes and goes, with no single big reason attached. She walks through five honest, practical questions to help you tell the difference between a temporary rough season and something more permanent, without rushing you toward an answer before you're ready. Olivia covers: Why feeling doubt about your marriage isn't automatically proof "it's over"How to tell if what you're feeling is tied to a specific season versus something more permanentThe difference between a thought that flares and settles versus one that's become a constant low humWhy your body's honest, gut-level reaction often knows before your mind doesHow to check whether you're the only one still reaching in the relationshipWhy wanting clarity isn't the same as looking for a reason to leave "You don't have to know for certain right now. You're allowed to keep asking the question for as long as you need to." Want help thinking this through with someone who isn't inside your marriage and won't rush you toward an answer? Divorce Happens offers free consults, a vetted professional network, and free guides. Learn more at freshstartsregistry.com. If this episode helped, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it today. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/ 💛 The Divorce Happens Community: https://divorcehappens.substack.com/

  5. Sep 5

    You Don't Owe Anyone a Reason For Your Decision Yet

    Do you feel like you need an airtight, defensible reason before you're even allowed to think about divorce? In this solo episode, Olivia pushes back on that pressure and hands you permission you didn't know you were waiting for: "something isn't right for me" is allowed to be a complete reason, full stop. This episode is for anyone stuck in the private, early stage of questioning their marriage — before they've said a word to anyone else. Olivia covers: Why we've all absorbed a hierarchy of "acceptable" reasons to leave a marriage — and why that hierarchy is a trapThe real difference between explaining your feelings and justifying them to someone elseWhy waiting for a "good enough" reason can keep you stuck in the thinking stage for yearsWhy "I don't know exactly why, I just know something feels off" is a complete sentenceA simple script for holding your boundary when people push for more detail than you're ready to giveWhy you're allowed to still be figuring it out, with no defense prepared in advance "Something isn't right for me" is allowed to be a complete, sufficient reason. Full stop. Need a place to think this through out loud with someone who won't ask you to justify a single word of it? Fresh Starts Registry offers free consults, a vetted professional network, and free guides. Learn more at freshstartsregistry.com. If this episode helped, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it today. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/ 💛 The Divorce Happens Community: https://divorcehappens.substack.com/ Divorce Financial Clarity Academy™ is a six-week live program designed to help women better understand the financial decisions that come with divorce—including the questions they may not even know they need to be asking yet. Led by Donna Cates of Money Matters Wealth Solutions, with guest professionals joining throughout the program, the Academy begins September 18. Registration is now open. Investment: $297 Learn more and register here: bit.ly/divorcefinancialclarity

  6. Sep 5

    Why Your Body Shakes The First Time You Say Divorce Out Loud

    Why does your heart race, your hands shake, or your throat tighten the moment you finally say "I'm getting divorced" out loud? In this solo episode, Olivia breaks down the physical, nervous-system side of disclosing a divorce — the part almost nobody talks about. This isn't about the emotional grief of divorce; it's about what's actually happening in your body in that first raw moment of telling someone, and why that reaction is completely normal. Olivia covers: Why your body reacts so intensely the first time you say it out loudThe nervous system science behind shaking hands, a racing heart, nausea, or a tight throatWhy keeping a divorce private feels "safer" — and what changes the moment you tell someoneHow to recognize a normal stress response instead of thinking something's wrong with youSimple aftercare for after a hard conversationWhy healing isn't linear, and why that's not backsliding "Your body is going to have a reaction, and that reaction is not a red flag. It's proof this matters exactly as much as you think it does." If this episode helped, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it today. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/ 💛 The Divorce Happens Community: https://divorcehappens.substack.com/ Divorce Financial Clarity Academy™ is a six-week live program designed to help women better understand the financial decisions that come with divorce—including the questions they may not even know they need to be asking yet. Led by Donna Cates of Money Matters Wealth Solutions, with guest professionals joining throughout the program, the Academy begins September 18. Registration is now open. Investment: $297 Learn more and register here: bit.ly/divorcefinancialclarity

  7. Sep 4

    You Signed Your Divorce Decree — But Do You Actually Know What's In It? Molly Rosenblum, Esq. explains!

    There's a piece of paper that ends your marriage and quietly runs your life for years afterward — and almost nobody reads the whole thing. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia sits down with Molly Rosenblum, Esq., founding attorney of The Rosenblum Allen Law Firm and one of the most respected family law attorneys in Las Vegas, Nevada — the self-described “divorce capital of the world.” With more than two decades of experience trying family law cases to verdict and a career built almost entirely around helping people through divorce, Molly is exactly the guide listeners need for the deceptively simple question at the center of this conversation: what actually is a divorce decree, and why does it matter so much more than anyone tells you going in? Molly walks Olivia — and every listener who's ever stared blankly at their own divorce paperwork — through what a decree actually contains: property and debt division, custody and visitation schedules, child support, alimony, and, depending on your state, requirements as specific as whether you're reverting to your maiden name. She compares it to “the rule book” of your divorce, the document a court will always return to if a dispute resurfaces years later. Molly shares real moments from her practice, including panicked holiday phone calls from clients convinced their ex is violating the custody schedule — only to discover, decree in hand, that the schedule was on their side all along. It's a candid look at how much confusion, fear, and even relief lives inside a single legal document, and why understanding it before you sign it may be one of the most protective things you can do for yourself and your kids. What makes this conversation land is Molly's refusal to treat divorce as something to whisper about. She talks about clients who've framed their finalized decrees on the wall — a symbol of survival, not shame — and reminds listeners that divorce, however common it's become, still deserves to be met with knowledge instead of fear. Two takeaways to walk away with: read every single word of your decree before you sign it, and keep a certified copy somewhere safe, because you'll need it in places you'd never expect — school enrollment, the DMV, even the Social Security office. Whether you're heading into your first consultation or you've been divorced for years and just realized you never actually understood your own paperwork, this episode offers the clarity, and quiet confidence, you didn't know you needed. Learn more about Molly Rosenblum: Molly Rosenblum is the founder and managing attorney of Rosenblum Allen Law Firm, a leading Nevada family law firm serving Las Vegas, Henderson, and Summerlin. Raised in Las Vegas, Molly graduated Cum Laude from the William S. Boyd School of Law at UNLV in 2002 and began her career gaining valuable courtroom and litigation experience before founding her firm in 2005. For more than 20 years, Molly has focused on complex family law matters, including high-asset divorces, contested custody cases, and prenuptial and postnuptial agreements. Today, Molly leads a growing team of attorneys and has handled more than $100 million in high-asset family law matters. She is a court-appointed Guardian ad Litem, a Certified AFCC Parenting Coordinator, and a member of the Raise the Bar committee, helping shape professional standards for family law practitioners in Las Vegas. She is licensed to practice in Nevada and Idaho. Helpful Resources Rosenblum Allen Law Firm has more on both situations: → Enforcing a Divorce Decree in Nevada → Post-Divorce Modifications in Nevada Learn more about Rosenblum Allen Law Firm. This episode is a sponsored placement, presented by The Rosenblum Allen Law Firm

    You Signed Your Divorce Decree — But Do You Actually Know What's In It? Molly Rosenblum, Esq. explains!
  8. Aug 11

    Hey Olivia, why am I the villain for leaving an abusive marriage?

    There's a particular kind of injustice that so many survivors know intimately: you're the one who finally said enough, and somehow you've become the villain of the story. In this week's Hey Olivia letter episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell answers a listener who is pushing for her own divorce after enduring abuse for years — abuse that is still ongoing, even now, in the middle of the process — while her husband performs the role of the blindsided, devastated spouse to his family and to anyone who will listen. She's holding a boundary, refusing to explain or justify herself to people who've only ever heard his side, and she wrote in asking a question so many divorcing survivors carry silently: how do you breathe through being cast as the bad guy for finally protecting yourself? Olivia meets this letter with a clarity that cuts straight through the noise. She names, plainly, one of the most disorienting dynamics in high-conflict and abusive divorces: the person who names the problem out loud almost always looks like the problem to people standing outside the relationship, because outsiders only ever get the version of the story someone motivated to tell it favorably chooses to give them. She calls the “I never saw this coming” performance exactly what it often is — a self-protective narrative for behavior that wouldn't hold up under real scrutiny — and she's unflinching about the deeper truth underneath it: his performance doesn't get to overwrite what the listener already knows happened to her. This episode speaks directly to anyone questioning their own reality after leaving an abusive marriage, and to anyone wondering whether they owe the people around them a full explanation before they're allowed to go. Where this episode offers real, usable relief is in the boundary tools Olivia hands listeners for surviving outside judgment during divorce. She gives an exact script for holding a line with family and friends who push for details survivors don't owe anyone, encourages finding real, dedicated support from a therapist experienced specifically in abuse and coercive control, and reframes survival itself: getting through to a final divorce was never about convincing everyone else of your reality, it's about protecting your own nervous system one day at a time. Listeners walk away with both a permission slip to stop explaining themselves and a concrete plan — including where to find real support — for surviving judgment while healing from an abusive marriage. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/ 💛 The Divorce Happens Community: https://divorcehappens.substack.com/

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Welcome to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we inspire, educate, and support you through divorce and beyond so that you can start fresh on the next phase of your journey. Produced by Fresh Starts Registry, the only divorce registry platform for everything you need to begin again, including home items, hype team, and everything in between. Remember, divorce happens...and then, we start fresh. We're here to support you before, during, and after divorce. Hosted by Olivia Dreizen Howell, the co-founder and CEO of Fresh Starts Registry.

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