Embrace Your Value | Boundaries, Self Worth & Limiting Beliefs for Women

Kristen Burrus & Jen Anderson
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Embrace Your Value is a personal growth podcast about self-worth, boundaries, and overcoming limiting beliefs. Hosted by trauma therapist Kristen Burrus and beliefs-and-boundaries coach Jen Anderson, the show blends therapeutic insights with practical coaching tools. Each episode helps women stop people pleasing, build confidence, and reclaim their voice. Through honest conversations and real strategies, you will learn how to set healthy boundaries, strengthen self-trust, and create a life that reflects your true value.

  1. 1d ago

    5 Signs You're Abandoning Yourself Without Realizing It

    In this episode of Unlearning the Good Girl on Embrace Your Value, Jen Anderson gets honest about one of the most common patterns she sees in women: self-abandonment. Not the dramatic kind, the quiet kind. The kind where you know everyone else's needs, schedules, and emotions, but you haven't truly checked in with yourself in years. Jen walks through five signs you may be abandoning yourself without realizing it, from chronic self-doubt and emotional over-responsibility to resentment, g Download the free guide at www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/chooseyou.

    15 min

  2. 6d ago

    Beliefs + Boundaries = Bliss: Jen Anderson on People-Pleasing, Midlife, and Reclaiming Your Voice

    Kristen Burrus interviews Jen Anderson, a beliefs and boundaries specialist, about the personal experiences that shaped her work, including her older brother’s lifelong addiction and his death in 2017, which led her to focus on helping families love without enabling. Jen explains why midlife (often the 40s and 50s) is a pivotal season for inner work, how people-pleasing is rewarded until its cost becomes exhaustion and resentment, and what limiting beliefs look like in daily life, sharing her own long-held belief of not being smart. She distinguishes kindness from self-abandonment, describes her framework “beliefs plus boundaries equals bliss,” and discusses her book, Give Your Yes a Bestie Named No. Jen outlines what coaching with her involves, who Thankful Hearts Coaching serves, and how to connect via a pathfinder’s call at thankfulheartscoaching.com. 00:00 Welcome and Setup 01:50 Jen’s Boundary Origin Story 04:38 Why Midlife Is Pivotal 06:18 People Pleasing Wake Up Call 09:08 Limiting Beliefs Explained 13:14 Kindness vs Self Abandonment 15:37 Beliefs Boundaries Bliss 17:42 Too Much and Not Enough 20:19 Book Give Your Yes a Bestie Named No 22:38 Reclaiming Your Voice 24:18 What Coaching Looks Like 26:51 Are You Ready and Who It’s For 29:03 How to Connect and Next Steps 30:38 Final Encouragement and Wrap Up If you enjoyed this episode, connect with your hosts, Kristen or Jen, you can find us at the links below! Email us at:  embraceyourvalue20@gmail.com Learn more about Kristen here:  Instagram : enlighten_services Website : www.kristenburrus.com Facebook : enlighten_services  Learn more about Jen here:  Website : https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/ Facebook : @thankfulheartscoaching  Instagram : @the.jennifer.anderson thankfulheartscoaching@gmail.com

    33 min

  3. Jun 2

    Stop Abandoning Yourself and Calling It Love

    Introducing Unlearning the Good Girl, a summer series from Jen Anderson on Embrace Your Value. This series is for the woman who looks functional on the outside but feels emotionally exhausted underneath: the helper, the fixer, the one who keeps the peace while quietly losing herself in the process. In this intro episode, Jen shares why she created this series, what it means to abandon yourself while the world praises you for it, and what it looks like to finally start choosing yourself again. Expect real conversations about people pleasing, guilt, resentment, boundaries, and the hidden grief of becoming who everyone else needed you to be. This isn't about becoming selfish. It's about including yourself in your own life again. 🌐 Join Jen's email community, PEP Talks: www.thankfulheartscoaching.com 🎙️ New episodes drop weekly all summer long.

    12 min

  4. May 28

    May 2026 Re-introducing Kristen Burrus

    Jen goes off script on Embrace Your Value to reintroduce co-host and resident trauma therapist Kristen Burrus of Enlightened Services, who helps clients with trauma, addiction, and building healthy boundaries. Kristen explains why people struggle with boundaries—unclear values and not knowing how to set them—and clarifies that boundaries aren’t about controlling others, but about how you will respond. She emphasizes accountability in relationships, focusing on each person’s part, and notes that relationships are salvageable when both parties are willing to put in effort. Kristen shares practical tools for overwhelm (breathing in for three, hold for three, out for six, plus structure and routine), how mood impacts relationships, and why therapy can help if you’re considering it. She discusses choosing a therapist fit, the meaning behind “Enlightened Services,” her path into trauma work, her self-care, and her hope that listeners leave knowing they matter and have value.00:00 Welcome and Setup02:40 Why Boundaries Are Hard04:12 What Boundaries Really Mean06:10 Relationships and Accountability08:00 Repair or Let Go09:08 Healthy Relationship Balance10:13 Tools for Overwhelm11:25 Mood Impacts Everything12:27 Do I Need Therapy13:52 Finding the Right Therapist15:22 Enlightened Services Origin16:19 Why Trauma Therapy19:20 Self Care and Real Life23:53 Podcast Growth and Meaning26:11 Therapy Advice and Wrap UpIf you enjoyed this episode, connect with your hosts, Kristen or Jen, you can find us at the links below!Email us at: embraceyourvalue20@gmail.comLearn more about Kristen here: Instagram: enlighten_servicesWebsite: www.kristenburrus.comFacebook: enlighten_services Learn more about Jen here: Website: https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/Facebook: @thankfulheartscoaching Instagram: @the.jennifer.andersonthankfulheartscoaching@gmail.com

    30 min

  5. May 21

    The Fear of Being Judged Is Keeping You Stuck

    What we cover: What judgment fear actually looks like in daily life — and why it's so much quieter and more constant than we thinkThe neuroscience of why judgment fear is wired for survival, not weaknessThree patterns: why we edit ourselves, why confidence grows when you stop performing, and why authenticity builds better relationshipsThe specific cost of staying small — including how shrinking trains the people around you to expect lessThree practical tools: the opinion question, the editing catch, and one unedited momentYour homework this week:Write: "What would I do differently if I wasn't afraid of people's opinions?" Then pick one thing from that list and do it this week. Reflection question:What would it feel like to be truly known — not liked by everyone, but genuinely known by someone? References worth exploring: Brené Brown — Daring Greatly (vulnerability and true belonging)Susan David — Emotional Agility (self-editing and authentic expression)Naomi Eisenberger — research on social pain and physical pain (UCLA) If you enjoyed this episode please connect with your hosts, Kristen or Jen, you can find us at the links below! Contact us at the podcast at:  embraceyourvalue20@gmail.com Learn more about Kristen here:  Instagram : enlighten_services Website : www.kristenburrus.com Facebook : enlighten_services  Learn more about Jen here:  Website : https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/ Facebook : @thankfulheartscoaching  Instagram : @the.jennifer.anderson thankfulheartscoaching@gmail.com

    30 min

  6. May 13

    What Permission Are You Waiting For?

    Jen Anderson and Kristen Burrus explore why so many smart, capable women keep waiting for “the right time” to pursue what they want—after the kids are older, finances are perfect, work calms down, or someone finally understands. They argue that these conditions are rarely fully met and that waiting often masks fear and avoidance, reinforced by beliefs that joy must be earned and that women’s desires are less legitimate than others’ needs. They explain that confidence comes after action, not before, and frame midlife dissatisfaction as a normal invitation to reevaluate who you’re becoming. The episode emphasizes reclaiming self-authorization through small, consistent steps, tolerating disappointment, and using three tools: a permission-writing prompt, naming what you’re waiting for, and one real act of self-authorization this week. 00:00 What Permission Awaits 03:05 Meet the Hosts 03:57 Waiting for Kids 06:00 Waiting for Money 07:04 Waiting for Validation 09:36 Fear and Avoidance 12:35 Joy Must Be Earned 14:28 Confidence After Action 17:14 Midlife Wake Up Call 19:40 Stop Waiting Start Small 22:21 Three Practical Tools 25:47 Permission Is Yours 26:58 Final Question and Goodbye If you enjoyed this episode, connect with your hosts, Kristen or Jen, you can find us at the links below! Email us at:  embraceyourvalue20@gmail.com Learn more about Kristen here:  Instagram : enlighten_services Website : www.kristenburrus.com Facebook : enlighten_services  Learn more about Jen here:  Website : https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/ Facebook : @thankfulheartscoaching  Instagram : @the.jennifer.anderson thankfulheartscoaching@gmail.com

    29 min

  7. May 6

    If No One Was Watching, What Would You Stop Doing Tomorrow

    Trauma therapist Kristin Burrus and co-host Jen Anderson explore “performance mode”—the version of yourself shaped to meet others’ expectations—and what it costs to live there. They unpack how people pleasing often begins as an early survival strategy in unpredictable environments, then persists into adulthood as an automatic “audit life” of self-editing for approval. They name four common patterns: overcommitting, overexplaining boundaries, staying in outgrown roles, and saying yes out of guilt, and discuss how chronic performance can erode identity and make it hard to know what you want. They also describe what it looks like to step out of performance mode—slower, more deliberate responses, discomfort and pushback, and eventual relief—and offer three tools: the audit question, a 24-hour pause before commitments, and setting limits without explanations. The episode closes by revisiting the prompt, “If no one was watching, what would you stop doing tomorrow?” and asking what you’d start if you trusted you were enough. 00:00 The No One Watching Question 02:22 Meet the Hosts and Theme 03:06 What Performance Mode Looks Like 05:49 People Pleasing as Survival 08:27 Four Patterns of Performing 08:43 Overcommitting and Busyness 10:16 Overexplaining Boundaries 11:37 Outgrown Family Roles 13:31 Guilt Driven Yeses 15:30 Losing Your Sense of Self 16:57 Stepping Out of Performance 19:14 Three Tools to Practice 19:22 Tool One Audit Question 20:16 Tool Two 24 Hour Rule 21:00 Tool Three Drop the Receipt 22:02 Closing Questions and Wrap Up If you enjoyed this episode, connect with your hosts, Kristen or Jen, you can find us at the links below! Email us at:  embraceyourvalue20@gmail.com Learn more about Kristen here:  Instagram : enlighten_services Website : www.kristenburrus.com Facebook : enlighten_services  Learn more about Jen here:  Website : https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/ Facebook : @thankfulheartscoaching  Instagram : @the.jennifer.anderson thankfulheartscoaching@gmail.com

    24 min

  8. Apr 22

    Why We Struggle to Receive Support

    Jen Anderson and Kristen Burrus explore why many women struggle to receive support even when it’s offered, using “Maya” as an example of someone overwhelmed by work, family health, and marriage yet reflexively declining help. They explain that difficulty receiving isn’t a character flaw but often a learned adaptation, including patterns from being a parentified child, being praised for being low-maintenance, and tying value to usefulness. They discuss nervous system discomfort with unfamiliar care, the fawn response, and the “capable woman trap,” where competence becomes identity and vulnerability feels unsafe. They outline costs to health, relationships, and self-worth, then share three practices: a two-second pause, saying “thank you,” and starting small while tracking it, ending with a weekly reflection on noticing and gently examining your first reaction to support. 00:00 Maya’s Breaking Point 02:15 Why Receiving Is Hard 03:16 Parentified Child Pattern 04:53 Nervous System and Fawn 06:40 Capable Woman Trap 09:09 Hidden Costs of Doing It Alone 11:10 Three Tools to Practice Receiving 13:33 Worthy Without Earning 15:50 Weekly Reflection Prompt 16:51 Door Holding Example 17:57 Final Takeaways and Goodbye If you enjoyed this episode, connect with your hosts, Kristen or Jen, you can find us at the links below! Email us at:  embraceyourvalue20@gmail.com Learn more about Kristen here:  Instagram : enlighten_services Website : www.kristenburrus.com Facebook : enlighten_services  Learn more about Jen here:  Website : https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/ Facebook : @thankfulheartscoaching  Instagram : @the.jennifer.anderson thankfulheartscoaching@gmail.com

    19 min
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Embrace Your Value is a personal growth podcast about self-worth, boundaries, and overcoming limiting beliefs. Hosted by trauma therapist Kristen Burrus and beliefs-and-boundaries coach Jen Anderson, the show blends therapeutic insights with practical coaching tools. Each episode helps women stop people pleasing, build confidence, and reclaim their voice. Through honest conversations and real strategies, you will learn how to set healthy boundaries, strengthen self-trust, and create a life that reflects your true value.

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