The Mother Wound Project

Tandi Hartle
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Break the Cycle. Reclaim Your Voice. Heal for Good. Welcome to The Mother Wound Project, the podcast for daughters of emotionally immature, narcissistic, or unavailable mothers who are ready to stop playing small and start living life on their own terms. Hosted by trauma-informed hypnotherapist and spiritual coach Tandi Hartle, this show dives deep into the hidden wounds, generational patterns, and emotional scars left by dysfunctional mother-daughter relationships, and gives you real, soul-level tools to heal them. Each episode offers powerful insights, raw personal stories, and practical strategies to help you: Recognize the signs of the mother woundBreak free from guilt, perfectionism, and self-abandonmentRewire your subconscious beliefsReclaim your self-worth, voice, and divine feminine powerWhether you're deep in your healing journey or just realizing how your mother’s behavior shaped your identity, this podcast will validate your experience, empower your healing, and guide you back to the woman you were always meant to be. It’s time to stop shrinking yourself for someone who never saw you. New episodes drop weekly. Follow now and start healing.

  1. The Gaslighter’s Favorite Phrases (and How to Shut Them Down)

    Mar 25

    The Gaslighter’s Favorite Phrases (and How to Shut Them Down)

    Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, guilty… or like everything was somehow your fault? You might be dealing with gaslighting. In this episode, we break down the gaslighter’s favorite phrases and exactly how they’re used to make you question your memory, emotions, and reality. You’ll learn how phrases like: • “That never happened” • “You’re too sensitive” • “I guess I’m just a terrible mother then” • “You’re making me the bad guy” • “You’re overreacting” • “Why are you bringing this up again?” are not случай or harmless… They are patterns of manipulation designed to shift blame, avoid accountability, and keep you stuck in self-doubt. This episode will help you: • Recognize gaslighting in real time • Understand why it feels so disorienting • Stop over-explaining and defending yourself • Respond with clear, grounded boundaries • Rebuild trust in your own perception If you grew up with an emotionally immature or narcissistic parent, these phrases will feel familiar. But once you see the pattern… you can’t unsee it. And that’s where your power begins.

    46 min
  2. Low Self-Worth: How Your Mom’s Voice Became Your Inner Critic

    Mar 11

    Low Self-Worth: How Your Mom’s Voice Became Your Inner Critic

    Many women struggle with low self-worth, overthinking, people-pleasing, and constant self-doubt, but few realize where that inner voice actually came from. What if the voice telling you you’re too sensitive… too much… or not enough… isn’t even yours? In this episode, we unpack how a mother’s emotional patterns become the inner critic many women carry into adulthood. Whether your mother was emotionally dismissive, subtly competitive, or openly critical, the messages you absorbed as a child can shape your identity, confidence, and nervous system responses for decades. You’ll learn how children internalize beliefs about their worth through parental reflection, why many women unknowingly carry borrowed beliefs about themselves, and how these patterns show up in adulthood through rumination, anxiety, perfectionism, and difficulty setting boundaries. Different behaviors. Same result: an internalized voice that questions your worth and keeps you playing small. If you’ve ever found yourself replaying conversations for hours, apologizing for your needs, second-guessing decisions, or feeling guilty for simply existing, this episode will help you understand why those patterns formed and how to begin separating your identity from that inherited voice. Inside this episode you’ll discover: • Why low self-worth is often learned, not inherent • How children internalize criticism as identity • The psychology behind “borrowed beliefs” • Why your inner critic feels protective but keeps you stuck • Three practical tools to begin rewiring the pattern This conversation is for women who want to stop living under the voice that trained them to doubt themselves and start reclaiming their confidence, boundaries, and sense of worth. Ready to Go Deeper? Here Are a Few Ways I Can Support You: 🎁 FREE Gift: The Overthinking Offswitch Hypnotherapy Audio If your mind replays conversations, overanalyzes everything, and won’t shut off at night, this short hypnosis session helps your nervous system stand down so your mind can finally rest. Click Here Book a FREE Discovery Call If you’re curious about coaching or hypnotherapy but want to talk first, this call is a chance to share your story, get insight into what’s happening beneath the patterns, and see if working together is the right fit. Click Here Join the Unmothered Rising Collective A powerful inner circle for women who are done shrinking, done over-explaining, and ready to heal in community with others who truly understand the experience of growing up emotionally unsupported. Click Here Work With Me 1:1 Private coaching and hypnotherapy sessions designed to help you break subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop carrying emotional dynamics that were never yours to hold. Schedule Your Session Here

    54 min

  3. Mar 4

    Why You’re Always the Villain: The Blame Cycle in Narcissistic & Emotionally Immature Families

    If you always end up the villain in your family, this episode is going to hit home. No matter how calm you are. No matter how carefully you explain. No matter how much you try to “do it right.” You somehow become the problem. In this episode, we break down: • The psychological blame cycle in emotionally immature families • Why scapegoat daughters are conditioned to carry responsibility for everyone’s emotions • How gaslighting and guilt conditioning keep you stuck in overthinking • Why insight alone doesn’t stop the replay loop • What actually disrupts the nervous system pattern underneath it If you grew up managing your mother’s emotions, walking on eggshells, or constantly defending yourself, this isn’t random. It’s conditioning. And it can be rewired. Ready to Go Deeper? Here Are a Few Ways I Can Support You: 🎁 FREE Gift: The Overthinking Off switch Hypnotherapy Audio If your mind replays conversations, overanalyzes everything, and won’t shut off at night, this short hypnosis session helps your nervous system stand down so your mind can finally rest. Click Here 👉Book a FREE Discovery Call If you’re curious about coaching or hypnotherapy but want to talk first, this call is a chance to share your story, get insight into what’s happening beneath the patterns, and see if working together is the right fit. Click Here 👉Join the Unmothered Rising Collective A powerful inner circle for women who are done shrinking, done over-explaining, and ready to heal in community with others who truly understand the experience of growing up emotionally unsupported. Click Here 👉Work With Me 1:1 Private coaching and hypnotherapy sessions designed to help you break subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop carrying emotional dynamics that were never yours to hold. Schedule Your Session Here 👉 Come say hi on Instagram: @themotherwound.project

    29 min
  4. Breaking Free From “Respect Your Mother” Conditioning | Mother Wound Healing, Boundaries, and Emotional Sovereignty

    Feb 25

    Breaking Free From “Respect Your Mother” Conditioning | Mother Wound Healing, Boundaries, and Emotional Sovereignty

    When people say “respect your mother,” what they often mean is: stay quiet, don’t question her, don’t have needs. In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, we unpack the deeply ingrained conditioning that equates obedience with respect — and why so many women feel crushing guilt when they try to set boundaries with emotionally immature or narcissistic mothers. If you struggle with: Feeling selfish for having needsOver-explaining simple boundariesGuilt after limiting contactBeing labeled “ungrateful” or “disrespectful”Freezing when family pressure hitsThis episode will help you separate family role from actual relationship and understand why your nervous system still reacts like you’re in trouble. We break down: The generational contract that prioritized adults over childrenThe difference between respect and obedienceWhy “kids are resilient” is often a way to avoid accountabilityWhat it really means when distance triggers outrageHow to adjust access instead of questioning your worthBecause a role is not a relationship. And respect does not mean unlimited access. Ready to Go Deeper? Here Are a Few Ways I Can Support You: 🎁 FREE Gift: The Overthinking Off switch Hypnotherapy Audio If your mind replays conversations, overanalyzes everything, and won’t shut off at night, this short hypnosis session helps your nervous system stand down so your mind can finally rest. Click Here 👉Book a FREE Discovery Call If you’re curious about coaching or hypnotherapy but want to talk first, this call is a chance to share your story, get insight into what’s happening beneath the patterns, and see if working together is the right fit. Click Here 👉Join the Unmothered Rising Collective A powerful inner circle for women who are done shrinking, done over-explaining, and ready to heal in community with others who truly understand the experience of growing up emotionally unsupported. Click Here 👉Work With Me 1:1 Private coaching and hypnotherapy sessions designed to help you break subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop carrying emotional dynamics that were never yours to hold. Schedule Your Session Here 👉 Come say hi on Instagram: @themotherwound.project You’re not breaking the family. You’re breaking the pattern. And that changes everything.

    43 min
  5. Why Every Conversation With Your Mom Feels Like a Trap (And How to Stop Getting Pulled In

    Feb 18

    Why Every Conversation With Your Mom Feels Like a Trap (And How to Stop Getting Pulled In

    Ever hang up the phone after talking to your mom and think… what just happened to me? You went in calm. You knew what you wanted to say. And somehow you're the one apologizing, doubting yourself, and replaying the conversation at 2am. In this episode, I break down why conversations with emotionally immature mothers feel like traps, not because you're saying the wrong thing, but because you're stepping into a system that was never designed for mutual understanding. You'll learn: • The 4 most common conversational "trap" dynamics (moving goalposts, emotional courtroom, gotcha questions, rewriting history) • Why you freeze, fawn, or over-explain, even when you promised yourself you wouldn't • Her 5 most common "trap moves" and one-line responses for each • The difference between a relationship and a role, and how to tell which one you're in • A quick self-check to use after every interaction Plus, I share practical tools to stop getting pulled into the old patterns, so you can finally protect your peace without the guilt hangover. Ready to Go Deeper? Here Are a Few Ways I Can Support You: 🎁 FREE Gift: The Overthinking Off switch Hypnotherapy Audio If your mind replays conversations, overanalyzes everything, and won’t shut off at night, this short hypnosis session helps your nervous system stand down so your mind can finally rest. Click Here 👉Book a FREE Discovery Call If you’re curious about coaching or hypnotherapy but want to talk first, this call is a chance to share your story, get insight into what’s happening beneath the patterns, and see if working together is the right fit. Click Here 👉Join the Unmothered Rising Collective A powerful inner circle for women who are done shrinking, done over-explaining, and ready to heal in community with others who truly understand the experience of growing up emotionally unsupported. Click Here 👉Work With Me 1:1 Private coaching and hypnotherapy sessions designed to help you break subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop carrying emotional dynamics that were never yours to hold. Schedule Your Session Here 👉 Come say hi on Instagram: @themotherwound.project If every conversation with your mom leaves you feeling smaller than when you started, you're not difficult, you're waking up. And you're allowed to choose peace.

    39 min
  6. “It Wasn’t That Bad…” Why You Still Minimize Your Childhood Pain (And How to Finally Heal the Mother Wound)

    Feb 11

    “It Wasn’t That Bad…” Why You Still Minimize Your Childhood Pain (And How to Finally Heal the Mother Wound)

    Do you constantly tell yourself, “Other people had it worse” or “She did her best” even though your body still reacts like it wasn’t okay? In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, Tandi breaks down the quiet self-gaslighting that keeps women stuck in emotional loops long after childhood ends. If you grew up with an emotionally immature, narcissistic, or trauma-impacted mother, you may have learned to minimize your pain as a survival strategy. But what kept you safe as a child is now keeping you from healing. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why you defend your mother even when she isn’t in the roomHow loyalty conditioning trains you to minimize emotional abuseWhy your nervous system still reacts even when your mind says “it wasn’t that bad”The real turning point in mother wound healingHow to stop protecting her image and start protecting yourselfThis conversation is for women navigating childhood emotional neglect, narcissistic mothers, trauma bonding, loyalty conditioning, and the painful process of telling the truth about their past. You don’t have to label her. You don’t have to hate her. But you do have to stop gaslighting yourself. If you’re ready to stop minimizing your pain and start healing in a grounded, supported way, this episode is for you. Ready to Go Deeper? Here Are a Few Ways I Can Support You: 🎁 FREE Gift: The Overthinking Off switch Hypnotherapy Audio If your mind replays conversations, overanalyzes everything, and won’t shut off at night, this short hypnosis session helps your nervous system stand down so your mind can finally rest. Click Here 👉Book a FREE Discovery Call If you’re curious about coaching or hypnotherapy but want to talk first, this call is a chance to share your story, get insight into what’s happening beneath the patterns, and see if working together is the right fit. Click Here 👉Join the Unmothered Rising Collective A powerful inner circle for women who are done shrinking, done over-explaining, and ready to heal in community with others who truly understand the experience of growing up emotionally unsupported. Click Here 👉Work With Me 1:1 Private coaching and hypnotherapy sessions designed to help you break subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop carrying emotional dynamics that were never yours to hold. Schedule Your Session Here 👉 Come say hi on Instagram: @themotherwound.project

    27 min
  7. How to Stop Feeling Responsible for Her Happiness

    Feb 4

    How to Stop Feeling Responsible for Her Happiness

    Mother Wound Healing, Guilt, and Emotional Responsibility If you’ve spent your life managing your mother’s emotions, walking on eggshells, and feeling crushing guilt anytime you choose yourself....this episode is for you. In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, we unpack why so many daughters of emotionally immature or narcissistic mothers feel responsible for their parent’s happiness, and why that belief is so hard to shake, even in adulthood. You’ll learn how childhood conditioning turns emotional caretaking into an invisible, unpaid job, why guilt often intensifies when you go low contact or no contact, and how family, religion, and society reinforce the myth that being a “good daughter” means self-sacrifice. We explore: How emotional responsibility gets wired into the nervous systemWhy “just letting it go” doesn’t workThe difference between family roles and real relationshipsWhy guilt shows up even when distance is healthyHow emotional blackmail, religious pressure, and minimization keep women trappedThis episode isn’t about blaming. It’s about clarity, relief, and finally understanding why your body reacts the way it does. If you’ve ever thought: “Why do I feel so guilty when I know I’m doing the right thing?” “Why does choosing myself feel wrong?” “Why can’t I stop worrying about her feelings?” You’re not broken, you were conditioned. Ready to Go Deeper? Here Are a Few Ways I Can Support You: 🎁 FREE Gift: The Overthinking Off switch Hypnotherapy Audio If your mind replays conversations, overanalyzes everything, and won’t shut off at night, this short hypnosis session helps your nervous system stand down so your mind can finally rest. Click Here 👉Book a FREE Discovery Call If you’re curious about coaching or hypnotherapy but want to talk first, this call is a chance to share your story, get insight into what’s happening beneath the patterns, and see if working together is the right fit. Click Here 👉Join the Unmothered Rising Collective A powerful inner circle for women who are done shrinking, done over-explaining, and ready to heal in community with others who truly understand the experience of growing up emotionally unsupported. Click Here 👉Work With Me 1:1 Private coaching and hypnotherapy sessions designed to help you break subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop carrying emotional dynamics that were never yours to hold. Schedule Your Session Here 👉 Come say hi on Instagram: @themotherwound.project

    24 min
  8. The Eggshell Dance: Living With Constant Criticism

    Jan 28

    The Eggshell Dance: Living With Constant Criticism

    The Eggshell Dance: Living With Constant Criticism If you grew up feeling like one wrong word, one wrong look, or one wrong move could ruin everything, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Mother Wound Project, we unpack what it really means to live in the “eggshell dance," that exhausting, hyper-aware way of being where you’re constantly monitoring tone, timing, and behavior to avoid criticism. This isn’t about occasional conflict. It’s about growing up with chronic criticism from an emotionally immature or narcissistic parent, and how that conditioning follows you into adulthood. We talk about: Why constant criticism trains hypervigilance in the nervous systemHow your parent’s voice becomes the inner critic in your own headWhy feedback feels devastating, even when you’re competent and capableHow walking on eggshells shows up in adult relationships, work, and self-worthThe difference between healthy guidance and shame-based criticismWhy you were never “too sensitive”, you were adaptiveI also share personal stories and explain how this pattern forms at a subconscious and bodily level, not just a mindset level, and what it actually takes to begin stepping off the eggshells for good. If you’re exhausted from trying to get it right, from shrinking yourself to keep the peace, or from hearing a critical voice every time you rest, succeed, or speak up, this episode will help you feel seen and grounded. Ready to Go Deeper? Here Are a Few Ways I Can Support You: 🎁 FREE Gift: The Overthinking Off switch Hypnotherapy Audio If your mind replays conversations, overanalyzes everything, and won’t shut off at night, this short hypnosis session helps your nervous system stand down so your mind can finally rest. Click Here 👉Book a FREE Discovery Call If you’re curious about coaching or hypnotherapy but want to talk first, this call is a chance to share your story, get insight into what’s happening beneath the patterns, and see if working together is the right fit. Click Here 👉Join the Unmothered Rising Collective A powerful inner circle for women who are done shrinking, done over-explaining, and ready to heal in community with others who truly understand the experience of growing up emotionally unsupported. Click Here 👉Work With Me 1:1 Private coaching and hypnotherapy sessions designed to help you break subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop carrying emotional dynamics that were never yours to hold. Schedule Your Session Here 👉 Come say hi on Instagram: @themotherwound.project

    48 min
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About

Break the Cycle. Reclaim Your Voice. Heal for Good. Welcome to The Mother Wound Project, the podcast for daughters of emotionally immature, narcissistic, or unavailable mothers who are ready to stop playing small and start living life on their own terms. Hosted by trauma-informed hypnotherapist and spiritual coach Tandi Hartle, this show dives deep into the hidden wounds, generational patterns, and emotional scars left by dysfunctional mother-daughter relationships, and gives you real, soul-level tools to heal them. Each episode offers powerful insights, raw personal stories, and practical strategies to help you: Recognize the signs of the mother woundBreak free from guilt, perfectionism, and self-abandonmentRewire your subconscious beliefsReclaim your self-worth, voice, and divine feminine powerWhether you're deep in your healing journey or just realizing how your mother’s behavior shaped your identity, this podcast will validate your experience, empower your healing, and guide you back to the woman you were always meant to be. It’s time to stop shrinking yourself for someone who never saw you. New episodes drop weekly. Follow now and start healing.

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  • Creator
    Tandi Hartle
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    33
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Tandi Hartle
  • Show Website
    The Mother Wound Project

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