Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse | Covert Narcissist, Discernment, Boundaries, Healing, Self Worth

Tekyia Nisheka | Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach, Self-Trust Restoration Coach
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Has your confidence and self-worth been shattered? Do you carry guilt and shame, quietly wondering if you're somehow to blame for the abuse? Do you constantly second-guess yourself -- doubting your decisions, your perception or even what you remember happening? Tired of feeling like you're crazy and wondering if you'll ever feel like yourself again? I'm so glad you're here! This podcast will help you heal from the effects of narcissistic abuse - not just cope with them - so you can rebuild your confidence, restore your self-worth and finally experience the peace, joy, and emotional stability you've been longing for. Hey, I'm Tekyia, a mom and survivor of covert narcissistic abuse! For years, I carried the weight of guilt and shame, feeling like a failure, convinced something was wrong with me. My confidence was gone. My sense of self-worth? Non-existent. I tried therapy, self-help books, motivational pep talks, but nothing brought real lasting change. It wasn't until I found practical tools to restore my mind and emotions that I finally started to heal, and even that wasn't complete until it was all anchored in God's truth. Now I'm here to share the truth and tools that bring real healing — the kind that restores your mind, renews your confidence, and anchors your worth in God's unchanging truth. If you're ready to stop just surviving and start truly healing — rebuilding real confidence, restoring your self-worth, and reconnecting with the woman God created you to be — this podcast is for you! So take a deep breath. You have permission to exhale now. Let's heal for real. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

  1. Jul 16

    54 | The Truth About Feeling Abandoned By God & Why Shaming Yourself Isn't Helping

    Have you felt distant from God after narcissistic abuse, even though you still love Him? Do you wonder if your faith is weak because you do not feel as close or connected to God as you think you should? Are you trying to trust God while healing, but keep getting stuck in the thought that something must be wrong with you? In this episode, I’m sharing what to do when God feels distant after narcissistic abuse and why that distance does not mean your faith is gone. This conversation will help you understand why distance can feel so painful, how it can lead to shame or performance, and how to return to God’s Word when your feelings are loud. Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Self-Trust Breakthrough Call Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

  2. Jul 9

    53 | You're Not Selfish For Needing Rest -- You're Healing!

    Do you feel guilty when you know you need rest? Do you worry that slowing down means you are being selfish, disappointing people, or not pleasing God? In this episode, I’m sharing why guilt feels so loud after narcissistic abuse, especially when your healing requires rest. If you’ve been exhausted mentally, emotionally, spiritually, or physically, this conversation will help you understand why rest is not selfish and why guilt does not get to lead you away from what your healing needs. Related Episodes: Ep.24 Boundaries - Why They Matter For Healing After Narcissistic Abuse Ep. 28 3 Boundaries Every Christian Woman Needs When Healing From Narcissistic Abuse Part 1 Ep. 29 3 Boundaries Every Christian Woman Needs When Healing From Narcissistic Abuse Part 2   Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Self-Trust Breakthrough Call Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

  3. Jul 6

    52 | Simple Decisions Feel Hard After Narcissistic Abuse? Here's How To Begin Trusting Yourself Again

    Have simple decisions started feeling harder to make after narcissistic abuse? Do you second-guess yourself, replay choices or feel ashamed when a choice you made does not go the way you hoped? In this episode, I’m sharing why decision-making can feel so heavy after narcissistic abuse and why it does not mean you are incapable of making good decisions. If you’ve been struggling with self-doubt, overthinking, or trusting yourself again, this conversation will help you begin understanding what’s happening underneath the fear and why imperfect decisions do not define who you are. Related Episodes: Ep.19 3 Keys To Making Confident Decisions After Narcissistic Abuse Without Overthinking Ep. 20 When "Waiting On God" Keeps You Stuck: How To Make Decisions God Trusts You To Make   Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Self-Trust Breakthrough Call Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

  4. Jul 2

    51 | What If the Real You Isn’t Gone? Discovering Yourself After Abuse Starts Here

    Have you ever looked at your life after covert narcissistic abuse and wondered, “Where did I go?” Do you feel like you’re doing what needs to be done but deep down, you don’t really feel like yourself anymore? Are you trying to rebuild confidence after narcissistic abuse, but it still feels impossible? In this episode, I’m sharing why finding yourself after narcissistic abuse can feel so confusing, especially when gaslighting has trained you to doubt and second-guess everything, including who you are. If you’ve been trying to heal from covert narcissistic abuse and wondering whether the real you is gone, this conversation will help you begin seeing yourself with more compassion. I pray it gives you hope as well. All is not lost. Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Self-Trust Breakthrough Call Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

  5. Jun 29

    50 | Low On Confidence? This Is What Happens When You Stop Constantly Second Guessing Yourself

    Have you ever had a sense of what you were supposed to do — a nudge, a knowing — and just kept pushing it down because you did not trust it? Do you have something sitting inside you that you have been too afraid to step into because someone else's voice convinced you it was pointless? Learning to trust yourself again after covert narcissistic abuse does not always feel dramatic. Sometimes it looks like finally doing the thing you sat on for over a year because someone told you it was pointless. In this episode I share my story of writing and publishing my first book — the inner knowing that was always there, being mocked and discouraged, sitting on it for over a year while that person's voice played on repeat in my head, and the moment I started evaluating those thoughts and realised they were not actually mine. This is what reclaiming your self-worth and discernment looks like in real life. Not a big breakthrough moment — just one step, one act of trusting yourself, and watching what God does with it. Resources Mentioned → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness  Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

  6. Jun 25

    49 | You're Not Stupid Nor Weak For Staying But There's More - Here's What It Is

    Have you ever felt like something must be wrong with you for staying in a narcissistic relationship as long as you did? Do you find yourself still feeling something for someone you know was hurting you and not understanding why? Have you ever felt judged or judged yourself for going back to a narcissistic relationship after you knew better? If you have been carrying shame about staying in narcissistic abuse, going back, or still feeling something for someone you know was hurting you — this episode is going to speak directly to that. I share my own honest experience and we get into why leaving covert narcissistic abuse is so much harder than it looks from the outside.  Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

  7. Jun 22

    48 | The Real Cost of Narcissistic Abuse On Your Identity

    Have you ever looked up and realised you had become someone you did not recognise and could not even pinpoint when it happened? Did you spend years changing yourself, shrinking yourself, trying to be enough and it still was never enough? Covert narcissistic abuse has a way of taking you from yourself so gradually you do not even notice until you look up one day and feel like a stranger to yourself. In this episode I get honest about what that looked like for me — the slow numbing, the shrinking, the keeping quiet, and finally being told I may never change even after years of being willing to become whatever was required. If you are a narcissistic abuse survivor who spent years adjusting yourself trying to fix a relationship and wondering why it was never enough — this episode is for you. Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

  8. Jun 18

    47 | The #1 Key to Restoring Your Confidence After Covert Narcissistic Abuse

    Do you constantly question your judgment, your worth and your abilitieseven while you look like you have it all together on the outside? Have you tried to feel confident after narcissistic abuse, or maybe never even known where to start? What if rebuilding your confidence and self-worth after narcissistic abuse doesn't start with confidence at all but with reconnecting to the voice God placed in you? If you have been wanting to feel confident again after narcissistic abuse or whether you have tried everything or have not known where to begin — this episode is your starting point. Confidence is not where healing begins. Narcissistic abuse, especially the gaslighting that comes with it, goes after your internal voice directly — not just your decisions, but your sense of your own worth, your abilities, and who you actually are — until you doubt your grasp on reality and on yourself. But that inner knowing, that God-given instinct, doesn't disappear. It gets buried under everything that was said over it. Learning to recognise it again, with God and not apart from Him, and telling it apart from the voice that moved in, is essential for restoring your self-worth and confidence after narcissistic abuse.  Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

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Has your confidence and self-worth been shattered? Do you carry guilt and shame, quietly wondering if you're somehow to blame for the abuse? Do you constantly second-guess yourself -- doubting your decisions, your perception or even what you remember happening? Tired of feeling like you're crazy and wondering if you'll ever feel like yourself again? I'm so glad you're here! This podcast will help you heal from the effects of narcissistic abuse - not just cope with them - so you can rebuild your confidence, restore your self-worth and finally experience the peace, joy, and emotional stability you've been longing for. Hey, I'm Tekyia, a mom and survivor of covert narcissistic abuse! For years, I carried the weight of guilt and shame, feeling like a failure, convinced something was wrong with me. My confidence was gone. My sense of self-worth? Non-existent. I tried therapy, self-help books, motivational pep talks, but nothing brought real lasting change. It wasn't until I found practical tools to restore my mind and emotions that I finally started to heal, and even that wasn't complete until it was all anchored in God's truth. Now I'm here to share the truth and tools that bring real healing — the kind that restores your mind, renews your confidence, and anchors your worth in God's unchanging truth. If you're ready to stop just surviving and start truly healing — rebuilding real confidence, restoring your self-worth, and reconnecting with the woman God created you to be — this podcast is for you! So take a deep breath. You have permission to exhale now. Let's heal for real. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

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