The Strenuous Life Podcast with Stephan Kesting

Stephan Kesting
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What is it that allows some people to push themselves beyond their limitations? Why can some people survive situations others do not? On this podcast we try to find out the answers. Stephan Kesting, is a lifelong martial artist, BJJ black belt, career firefighter, and outdoorsman. Join us as he talks to fighters, adventurers, competitors, coaches, firefighters, trainers and other people living the strenuous life. Stephan also runs Grapplearts.com, where he has published many hundreds of martial arts videos, articles and tutorials. His free guide to learning Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, A Roadmap for BJJ, has been downloaded more than 10,000 times and has become a foundational text for the art.

  1. 3D AGO

    27 Red Flags to Avoid When Picking a BJJ Club

    Telltale traits of toxic schools by Stephan Kesting, a BJJ black belt for 20 years.  Did he miss any red flags? RED FLAGS 01:24 No cross-training 01:41 Separating you from friends and family 02:30 No trial classes 03:35 No talking to current students 03:55 No watching classes 04:14 Instructor's name + SA = positive  05:19 "Master" 06:27 No sparring till blue belt 07:27 No questions in class 09:07 Poor hygiene and dirty mats  10:48 High-pressure sales tactics 12:53 No talking in class 14:27 Gravy Seal bootcamp 15:24 "Every other school sucks" 16:13 Instructor chronically dates students 17:18 Financial-medical-astronomical-astrological advice 17:27 No competition / in-house tournaments only 20:22 Peaked in high school 22:57 Focusing only on top competitors 23:20 Focusing only on hot women 23:45 Focusing only on their phones 24:55 Can't pause your membership 25:41 "We don't tap to THAT here..." 27:26 Mat bullies are tolerated ORANGE FLAGS 29:46 Mandatory and expensive uniforms 30:52 Ranking and promotion fees 32:19 I see dead people (and bow to them) 33:30 Instructor doesn't roll 35:01 No colored belts (or women) 35:21 "Professor" (see video below) RELATED RESOURCES The infamous "Don't Call Me Professor" video - https://youtu.be/-TeE3tYMiJM Grapplearts instructionals in streaming and app formats: https://www.grapplearts.com/instructionals/ My best-selling book: Perseverance, Life and Death in the Subarctic: https://www.amazon.com/Perseverance-Death-Subarctic-Stephan-Kesting/dp/1639368612/ My book co-written with BJJ black belt world champion Brandon Mullins: Nonstop Jiu-Jitsu: https://www.amazon.com/Non-Stop-Jiu-Jitsu-Champions-Aggressive/dp/B08CPNPNDD

    39 min

  2. FEB 2

    442 - Building a Positive Gym Culture in BJJ, with Josh Peters

    How to create a professional environment and a welcoming gym culture at your BJJ school, and what people do wrong, with Josh Peters. Josh is a 3rd degree black  belt in BJJ, who has competed in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, Muay Thai, Sanda, Sambo, kickboxing and Mixed Martial Arts. He runs combatprinciplesmma.com in Burtonsville Maryland. Follow Josh on Instagram at instagram.com/joshcpmma and/or on Facebook at facebook.com/combatprinciplesmma. Support Josh's run for county council at friendsofjoshuapeters.com.  And if you want to comment on upcoming legistlation as suggested in this episode go to www.dol.gov/agencies/oasp/regulatory-programmatic-policy P.S. Check out my best-selling book, Perseverance, Life and Death in the Subarctic, available anywhere you get physical, digital and audio books and also here: https://www.amazon.com/Perseverance-Death-Subarctic-Stephan-Kesting/dp/1639368612/

    57 min

  3. JAN 20

    441 - The Science of Fighting and Training MMA, with Ian Harris

    How to train MMA effectively, efficiently, and safely, with Ian Harris from Fight Science.  Ian has more than 40 years of martial arts experience and has been working with MMA fighters for more than 20 years. Today we discuss the changes that need to be made to MMA for it to be effective in a real fight, how to create a fight gameplan (and how to get a fighter to follow it), cutting weight intelligently, the best conditioning for a gas tank that never runs dry, and why fighters are so prone to pseudoscience and supplement scams.   Ian runs Fight Science MMA Training Center in Mid-City Los Angeles (fightsciencemma.com). Get in touch with Ian at facebook.com/comediocre and check out his videos on critical thinking at youtube.com/@IanHarrisComedian.

    1h 28m

  4. 12/16/2025

    440 - Training Methods and Cross Training in Jiu-Jitsu, with Josh Peters and Stephan Kesting

    Josh Peters and Stephan Kesting look at the evolution of effective teaching methods, school culture, risk, cross-training, and why you want your students to become better than you in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. Follow Josh on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/joshcpmma/ and check out his school in the Maryland area at https://combatprinciplesmma.com/ And if you want concrete examples of how training in BJJ creates the skills to deal with the rest of life check out my best-selling book, Perseverance, Life and Death in the Subarctic, available anywhere you get physical, digital and audio books and also here: https://www.amazon.com/Perseverance-Death-Subarctic-Stephan-Kesting/dp/1639368612/.  That journey wouldn't have been possible without my jiu-jitsu training, and there were lessons I learned on that trip that inform my life to this day.

    1 hr

  5. 12/02/2025

    439 - The Real Catch Wrestling and What it Can Teach Jiu-Jitsu, with Val 'The Crippler' Childs

    Catch wrestling was a brutal method for settling disputes on the American Frontier as well as one of the largest, most respected spectator sports prior to the modern era.  In this episode Val Childs - who has been training in catch wrestling since he was 5 - takes us on a tour through the historical roots of catch, the modern catch competition circuit, and the training methods that can be adopted to make any combat athlete much more effective. Incidentally, catch wrestling has had a significant impact on my own development. For example it has had a strong influence on my submission game as you can see in something like the Kimura Roadmap. https://www.grapplearts.com/kimura. Follow Val Childs on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/cc_catchwrestling or check out his school in San Antonio, Texas at https://combatcitysa.com/

    1h 4m

  6. 11/18/2025

    438 - Crafting Your Ideal Jiu-Jitsu Journey, with Tom Wortman

    AOJ black belt Tom Wortman is a fierce competitor; he won IBJJ Pans, Euros, North Americans and Master Worlds in a single year as a brown belt.  He's also a jiu-jitsu gypsy, typically training at a club for 3 to 6 months, then moving thousands of miles to see a new part of the country and training at a new club.  Find out how he he does this, what the red and green flags are for training at new clubs, how to stay injury free even when training 7 days a week, and redefining success on your own terms.  I hope you find Tom as inspiring and insightful as I did - enjoy! Also, please rate and review this podcast on whichever podcast platform you listen to it - I can't emphasize enough how useful this is and how much I appreciate it. Finally, if you're interested in my take on living life on your own terms please check out my best-selling book, Perseverance, Life and Death in the Subarctic, available anywhere you get physical, digital and audio books and also here: https://www.amazon.com/Perseverance-Death-Subarctic-Stephan-Kesting/dp/1639368612/ Thanks! Stephan

    59 min

  7. 11/04/2025

    437 - Adam Shoalts, Vanished Beyond the Map

    Canoeist and author Adam Shoalts on the mindset that drives individuals to seek adventure, and the importance of safety and decision-making in the wilderness. We also dive into the mysterious disappearance of the greatest explorer you've never heard of.   Grab Adam's book, Vanished Beyond the Map, anywhere books are sold or here: https://adamshoalts.com/literature/ Follow Stephan Kesting's outdoor adventures here: YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@essentialwilderness Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/essentialwilderness TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@essentialwilderness Check out Stephan's book, Perseverance, Life and Death in the Subarctic here: https://www.amazon.com/Perseverance-Death-Subarctic-Stephan-Kesting/dp/1639368612/ And here are some links to the audio-only form this podcast : Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5NTGdrtMZv8JcxpUBcdREx Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/strenuous-life-podcast-stephan-kesting-grapplearts/id320705565?mt=2 Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/stephan-kesting/grapplearts-radio-podcast Cheers, Stephan Kesting

    40 min

  8. 10/28/2025

    436 - How Training Your Submissions as Positions Takes Your Game to the Next Level, with Steve Kwan from BJJ Mental Models

    Today the tables get turned and I end up on the other end of the microphone as Steve Kwan from BJJ Mental Models picks my brain about the huge benefits that arise to treating your jiu-jitsu submissions as positions first, and submissions second. I promise this will make perfect sense by the end of the episode, and may change how you approach your training. Check out my positional approach to mastering the Kimura and tapping out more training partners and competition opponents at https://www.grapplearts.com/kimura And check out Steve Kwan's excellent BJJ Mental Models podcast at https://www.bjjmentalmodels.com Thanks! Stephan

    58 min
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What is it that allows some people to push themselves beyond their limitations? Why can some people survive situations others do not? On this podcast we try to find out the answers. Stephan Kesting, is a lifelong martial artist, BJJ black belt, career firefighter, and outdoorsman. Join us as he talks to fighters, adventurers, competitors, coaches, firefighters, trainers and other people living the strenuous life. Stephan also runs Grapplearts.com, where he has published many hundreds of martial arts videos, articles and tutorials. His free guide to learning Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, A Roadmap for BJJ, has been downloaded more than 10,000 times and has become a foundational text for the art.

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