Order of Man

Ryan Michler

We are reclaiming what it means to be a man. Each week we interview the world's most successful men on the planet - elite athletes, warriors, New York Times Bestselling Authors, and world-class entrepreneurs – extract their hard-fought lessons and experiences and deliver them straight to you. Past guests include Jocko Willink, Tim Kennedy, Andy Frisella, Lewis Howes, Grant Cardone, Ryan Holiday, Ben Greenfield, Rich Roll, and so many more. If you're ready to level up your life as a man, this is the show for you.

  1. GEORGE from TheTinMen | Why Men Are Killing Themselves

    8h ago

    GEORGE from TheTinMen | Why Men Are Killing Themselves

    Every day, men are dying. Not in some abstract, far-off statistic, but in your town, in your circles, maybe in your own family. They're isolated, disconnected, and being told the very things that make them men are the things that need to be fixed. Meanwhile, the culture cheers on the idea that hating men is a sign of strength, the family courts treat fathers as optional, and any space built exclusively for men gets torn down before it can do any good. Somewhere along the way, we decided men were the problem. My guest today says that's a lie, and he's got the platform to prove it. George from The TinMen joins me to talk about why men are checking out, dropping out of therapy, and ending their own lives at staggering rates, and what it actually takes to turn that around. This isn't about coddling men or excusing them. It's about telling the truth: men aren't broken, the system around them is. We get into male friendship, the war on masculinity, the family court system, and why "man up" might be the worst advice we ever gave. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Welcome to The Tin Men & Men's Emotional Expression 03:09 Are Men Talking—Or Are We Failing to Listen? 05:17 Why Therapy Isn't Working for Many Men 07:45 The Power of Shoulder-to-Shoulder Conversations 08:29 Grief, Brotherhood & Opening Up 11:02 Normal Responses to Difficult Experiences 14:00 Men as Individuals, Not Categories 16:53 When Talking Alone Isn't Enough 21:59 Why Society Pushes Back on Men's Issues 24:18 Boys, Education & Cultural Messaging 28:33 Building Better Men in Everyday Life 34:18 Health, Education & Structural Change 38:43 How Boys Learn Differently 43:36 Misunderstanding Boys' Behavior 46:15 Grassroots Solutions vs Government Solutions 48:24 Why Men Need Male Spaces 52:04 The Loss of Men-Only Communities 54:47 Brotherhood, Belonging & Better Outcomes 59:28 Final Thoughts & Where to Find The Tin Men   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    1h 10m
  2. 7 Strategies for Becoming a Better Father | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

    4d ago

    7 Strategies for Becoming a Better Father | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

    Most men never receive training for fatherhood - but that doesn't make the role any less important. In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan shares 7 strategies to become a better father and explains why your presence, discipline, standards, and personal growth matter more than you think. Your kids are watching how you lead, how you respond to adversity, and how you show up every day. Whether your children are young, grown, or somewhere in between, these principles will help you become the father they remember and respect. This isn't about perfection. It's about intentional fatherhood. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Why Fatherhood Matters 02:58 Be Present, Not Just Around 04:50 Model the Man You Want Them to Become 07:09 Discipline Without Losing the Relationship 10:28 Let Your Kids Struggle 13:28 Tell Them Who They Are 17:56 Build Something Together 19:48 Father From a Full Tank 28:55 Iron Council & Final Challenge 29:36 Final Father's Day Message & Outro   If one of these principles hits home, choose one and apply it this weekend. Join Iron Council: https://orderofman.com/ironcouncil   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    31 min
  3. Invest in Self-Improvement, Take a Year For Yourself, and Never Seek Validation | ASK ME ANYTHING

    6d ago

    Invest in Self-Improvement, Take a Year For Yourself, and Never Seek Validation | ASK ME ANYTHING

    Ryan and Kipp open with a conversation about building, creating, and the satisfaction that comes from seeing your work in the world before diving into another Ask Me Anything. This week, they tackle questions on approval seeking, self-development investments, measuring progress, unpopular opinions, intuition, instant gratification, rebuilding after divorce, and designing an intentional reset year. They also discuss why progress often feels invisible, how to involve family in personal goals, and why growth requires structure instead of endless information gathering. If you're trying to become more intentional and build a life with purpose, this episode delivers a practical perspective. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Intro & catching up 06:48 - Approval seeking vs being likable 20:10 - Investing in self-development 24:30 - Measuring personal growth 26:42 - Unpopular opinions 35:49 - Escaping instant gratification 39:30 - Taking an adult gap year 45:53 - Showing progress to others 53:00 - Getting spouse buy-in for big goals 01:07:00 - Why systems beat information 01:09:30 - Wrap up   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    1h 10m
  4. AJ KAZMIERCZAK | The Lost Art of Brotherhood

    Jun 16

    AJ KAZMIERCZAK | The Lost Art of Brotherhood

    We've never been more connected, and we've never been more alone. Men have endless ways to reach each other and almost no reason they'll actually use them. We don't reach out. We don't check in. We won't pay another man a compliment without slapping "no homo" on the end of it to make sure nobody mistakes us for caring. And somewhere along the way, we decided that the first flowers a man receives should arrive at his funeral. This week, AJ Kazmierczak joins the show to tear that pattern apart. We get into why connection is the single most valuable skill a man can build, how to develop it on purpose, and why most guys would rather avoid the discomfort of self-auditing than face what's actually holding them back. We talk accountability, discernment, evolving without losing yourself, and what it really costs to be the kind of man other men want in their corner.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 01:30 - Reconnecting After Montana Knife Company 05:20 - Why Men Are More Connected Yet More Isolated 08:00 - The Lost Art of Complimenting Other Men 12:57 - Building Relationships Through Small Conversations 16:24 - Accountability and Encouragement in Unexpected Places 21:16 - Why Communication Skills Matter More Than Credentials 24:47 - Whose Opinions Should Actually Matter 31:21 - Creating an Identity Instead of Fitting In 35:49 - Authenticity, Attention, and Standing Out 38:36 - Evolving Without Losing Yourself 42:55 - Why Honest Feedback Is So Rare 45:09 - Self-Auditing and Becoming More Self-Aware 49:08 - Fast Decision Makers vs Overthinkers 51:59 - The Problem With Being the "Nice Guy" 54:14 - Technical Reset + Bringing It Home 55:12 - Redefining What It Means to Be Alpha 57:36 - Family, Purpose, and Building a Meaningful Life 01:00:18 - Connection, Conversation, and Community 01:01:12 - Winter Strong, Sorenex, and Future Plans 01:02:59 - Final Thoughts and Closing Remarks   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    1h 9m
  5. How to Forge Masculinity Into Manliness | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

    Jun 12

    How to Forge Masculinity Into Manliness | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

    Modern culture often treats masculinity as something dangerous that needs to be suppressed, softened, or apologized for. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler challenges that narrative and draws a critical distinction between masculinity and manliness. Masculinity, Ryan argues, is the raw, God-given force within men - the drive to compete, build, protect, lead, and conquer. It is neither good nor bad on its own. Manliness, however, is what happens when that force is refined, disciplined, governed by principle, and directed toward a righteous purpose. Ryan outlines five practical ways to forge masculinity into manliness: attaching your strength to a mission, submitting yourself to discipline, living by a code, serving others, and embracing voluntary hardship. He explains why purpose, responsibility, and self-mastery are essential for becoming the man you're meant to be. If you've ever wrestled with what it means to be a strong man in today's world, this episode offers a framework for harnessing your natural gifts and turning them into something valuable for yourself, your family, and your community. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Introduction 00:07 The Lie We've Been Told About Masculinity 02:32 Masculinity vs. Manliness 04:58 Why "Toxic Masculinity" Gets It Wrong 07:17 Responsibility Over Shame 09:14 Choosing Who You Become 11:22 1. Attach Your Masculinity to a Mission 15:47 2. Submit Your Masculinity to Discipline 19:11 3. Govern Masculinity with Principles 23:08 4. Aim Your Strength in Service of Others 25:27 5. Embrace Voluntary Difficulty 28:46 Happiness vs. Fulfillment 30:18 Why Men Are Not the Problem 32:09 Becoming a Man in Command of Himself 33:13 Iron Council Invitation 34:02 Final Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    34 min
  6. Raising Boys in an Effeminate World, Self-Awareness Strategies, and Paying the Price of Success | ASK ME ANYTHING

    Jun 10

    Raising Boys in an Effeminate World, Self-Awareness Strategies, and Paying the Price of Success | ASK ME ANYTHING

    Two hosts, five powerful listener questions, and a conversation that moves from comparison and fatherhood to relationships, self-awareness, and personal growth. Ryan and Kipp open with a quick catch-up before diving into questions from listeners on feeling behind in life, protecting children from cultural influence, rebuilding relationships with adult children, navigating difficult conversations with a spouse, and developing greater self-awareness. Along the way they discuss intentional parenting, accountability, ownership, communication, and why the quality of your questions often determines the quality of your life.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Intro & Hawaii recap 08:29 Comparison and feeling behind 21:00 Protecting your kids from culture 31:35 Rebuilding relationships with adult children 40:09 Talking to your spouse about difficult issues 51:19 Building self-awareness 01:08:59 Men's Forge event announcement 01:11:12 Outro Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    1h 12m
  7. MICHAEL MILLIN | Break the Cycle of Trauma and Addiction

    Jun 9

    MICHAEL MILLIN | Break the Cycle of Trauma and Addiction

    Every man carries forces that pull against each other. It could be the urge to numb out and the call to face it, the inheritance of his father's failures and the responsibility to break the chain. For Michael Millin, those opposing forces weren't a metaphor. They were the difference between a life lost to addiction and the 17 years of sobriety he's built since hitting bottom with his back against the wall. Today, Michael and I talk about generational trauma, the instability of growing up with a father who came in and out of his life, and what it actually takes to stop running from the pain you've spent your whole life numbing. This is a raw conversation about alcoholism, faith, and the lie that we have to wrap our identity up in being broken. Michael shares how he went from mocking Christianity to wrestling honestly with God, how a single sober friend changed the trajectory of his life, and why enablers do more damage than they'll ever admit. If you've ever told yourself you weren't okay, this one is for you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 01:04 - Fatherhood, addiction, and absent fathers 04:06 - Growing up with addiction and instability 05:33 - Ryan's recovery experience and AA discussion 06:28 - Watching a father relapse after 15 years sober 09:24 - Rock bottom, poverty, and getting sober 13:39 - What rock bottom actually looked like 16:03 - Recovery, Indonesia, and spiritual searching 17:18 - Christianity, marriage, and life transformation 20:29 - Finding an outlet and building a meaningful life 21:51 - Addiction, purpose, and destructive patterns 23:37 - Fatherhood and defining a personal mission 26:49 - Turning childhood pain into purpose 28:50 - Faith, doubt, and searching for God 32:43 - Generational cycles and breaking family patterns 35:56 - Accepting hard truths and personal responsibility 39:50 - Addiction, identity, and becoming okay internally 41:50 - Family trauma and inherited suffering 44:20 - Native American heritage and generational impact 50:30 - Spiritual warfare and healing 51:16 - The story behind A Life of Opposing Forces 53:20 - Surfing, sharks, and feeling alive 59:16 - Lessons from being new on the journey 01:00:10 - Relationships, faith, and changing direction 01:01:55 - Where to connect with Michael   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    1h 9m
  8. 5 Archetypes of Immature Masculinity | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

    Jun 5

    5 Archetypes of Immature Masculinity | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

    Masculinity isn't inherently good or bad - it's a force. Like fire, it can be used to build or destroy. The real question isn't whether masculinity is the problem; it's whether a man has learned to direct it with discipline, character, and purpose. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores the critical distinction between masculinity and manliness, then breaks down five immature archetypes that keep men from reaching their full potential. From the Man Child to the Jester, Ryan explains how these patterns show up in everyday life and what it takes to move beyond them. If you're willing to take an honest look in the mirror, this episode may reveal exactly where you need to grow.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Intro 00:17 Masculinity Is Not Inherently Good or Bad 02:26 Masculinity vs. Manliness 04:33 Being Good vs. Being Good at Being a Man 05:44 Manliness Requires Virtuous Direction 06:40 The Meaning of Arete 08:29 Masculinity Without Refinement 09:27 Archetype #1: The Man Child 15:31 Archetype #2: The Ghost 21:27 Archetype #3: The Tyrant 25:36 Archetype #4: The Martyr 30:49 Archetype #5: The Jester 34:45 Which Archetype Are You? 36:45 Iron Council Preview Invitation 38:05 Final Thoughts and Challenge   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    38 min
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We are reclaiming what it means to be a man. Each week we interview the world's most successful men on the planet - elite athletes, warriors, New York Times Bestselling Authors, and world-class entrepreneurs – extract their hard-fought lessons and experiences and deliver them straight to you. Past guests include Jocko Willink, Tim Kennedy, Andy Frisella, Lewis Howes, Grant Cardone, Ryan Holiday, Ben Greenfield, Rich Roll, and so many more. If you're ready to level up your life as a man, this is the show for you.

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  • Creator
    Ryan Michler
  • Years Active
    2015 - 2026
  • Episodes
    1.5K
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    Copyright © Order of Man 2024
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