It Starts With Attraction

Kimberly Beam Holmes, PhD
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Most people are living a version of themselves that they never choose.You've been showing up for your spouse, your kids, and your career—but you've been doing it on autopilot. You're living within a ceiling built by your past and sustained by your habits.I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.

  1. 02/18/2025

    The Truth About Trauma

    Have a question you want answered? Submit it here! Meredith Ball, a licensed professional counselor dedicated to healing trauma, joins us to unravel the intricate web of trauma's impact on our lives. In this episode, Meredith opens up about her own journey and sheds light on how trauma affects the brain, the underestimated power of neuroplasticity, and the generational gaps in acknowledging these wounds. Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be. 🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

    51 min

  2. 02/11/2025

    Unlocking Learning Strategies and Decision-Making

    Have a question you want answered? Submit it here! Want to unlock your potential? Discover how to study smarter and retain more information with expert insights from Dr. Dan Willingham! Tune in now and transform your learning experience! Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be. 🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

    40 min

  3. 02/04/2025

    Understanding The Difference Between Male And Female Emotions

    Have a question you want answered? Submit it here! Is there actually a difference in the way men and women process emotions? Find out on today’s episode! Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be. 🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

    46 min

  4. 01/28/2025

    10 Things You Can Do To Feel More Attractive

    Have a question you want answered? Submit it here! Feeling unattractive? You're not alone! Discover 10 uplifting strategies to reclaim your self-worth and feel fabulous again! Tune in to our latest episode and transform your outlook! What's your go-to feel-good strategy? Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be. 🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

    32 min

  5. 01/21/2025

    The 5 Step Method To Improving Your Communication

    Have a question you want answered? Submit it here! Discover the 5 step method we use to improve communication. Not only does this help with communication between us as spouses, but it can also be used in conversations with friends, family, coworkers, and everyone in between! Let’s dive in to this week’s episode! Links to SMART Communication Episode: Episode 1 Episode 2 Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be. 🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

    52 min

  6. 01/14/2025

    The Truth Behind Why You’re Not Reaching Your Goals

    Have a question you want answered? Submit it here! Understanding how to set meaningful goals can transform your self-esteem and overall happiness. This episode emphasizes the importance of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, exploring self-concordant goals that resonate with individual desires over societal expectations. • Discussing personal motivations behind goals  • Highlighting the concept of self-concordance  • Distinguishing between intrinsic and extrinsic motivations  • Introducing the PIES framework for holistic goal-setting  • Importance of setting achievable and stretch goals  • Exploring the need for self-compassion in goal pursuit  • Opening the door for future personal growth and achievement Let’s dive in! Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be. 🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

    41 min

  7. 01/07/2025

    The All or Nothing Mindset is Ruining Your Diet - How To Actually Achieve Your Diet Goals

    Have a question you want answered? Submit it here! In this episode, we're diving deep into the truth about weight loss and fat loss, and sharing some of the most important lessons we've learned on our journey. We're going to be talking about our experiences with different diets, including whole 30, and how we've discovered the key to making sustainable changes that actually work. We'll also be sharing our personal journey and the changes that we've made to improve our overall health and fitness. Plus, we'll give some tips on how to stay consistent with your goals and not get discouraged when the scale doesn't show the results you expect. If you're looking to finally lose weight and keep it off, this video is for you! Be sure to like this video, subscribe for more content, and let us know in the comments what your goals are for the new year. Let's do this together! Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be. 🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

    1h 4m

  8. 12/31/2024

    How To Set AND Achieve Your Goals For 2025

    Have a question you want answered? Submit it here! One of my favorite weeks of the year every year is the week between Christmas and New Years. I sit down and reflect on the last year and plan out my goals and dreams for the new year. In this episode, I’ll guide you through how to set attainable goals. Let’s go into the new year striving to be the best versions of ourselves… Let’s dive in! Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be. 🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

    41 min
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Most people are living a version of themselves that they never choose.You've been showing up for your spouse, your kids, and your career—but you've been doing it on autopilot. You're living within a ceiling built by your past and sustained by your habits.I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.

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  • Creator
    Kimberly Beam Holmes, PhD
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2025
  • Episodes
    256
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 PIES University, LLC.
  • Show Website
    It Starts With Attraction

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