Men Talking Mindfulness: Mental, Physical, and Emotional Fitness to Elevate Performance and Resilience for Leaders and Teams

Jon Macaskill & Will Schneider
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Men Talking Mindfulness is dedicated to empowering men to embrace their true selves with bravery and authenticity. Our mission is to guide them on a journey of continual learning, developing self-love, and meaningful living. We work to inspire men to lead lives that they can look back on with pride and to create legacies that align with their deepest values. We are committed to cultivating a space where vulnerability is strength, being yourself is the norm, and where every man can unleash their potential to live a life of exceptional impact and fulfillment. Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

  1. Fear of Negative Evaluation: The Hidden Pattern Wrecking Men's Careers, Relationships, and Freedom with Andy Riise (An MTM Short)

    18h ago

    Fear of Negative Evaluation: The Hidden Pattern Wrecking Men's Careers, Relationships, and Freedom with Andy Riise (An MTM Short)

    Our A2A Course is live and at 40% off until Friday, May 29th at 1pm ET. Visit https://focusnowtraining.com/a2a-course to sign up NOW!! Marcus Aurelius said it nearly two thousand years ago: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own. On this episode of Men Talking Mindfulness, hosts Jon Macaskill and Will Schneider sit down with Andy Riise... army officer, mental performance coach for NFL athletes including the Chicago Bears, and host of the Skull Sessions podcast... to break down the approval trap and why it's quietly running most men's lives. Will lays the biological foundation. Fear of negative evaluation, FNE, is one of the most studied patterns in clinical psychology. Your brain processes social rejection through the same neural circuits it uses for physical pain. Getting dismissed in a meeting registers the same way getting punched does. That's evolutionary wiring, not weakness. The guys get into the spotlight effect (Cornell research showing people overestimate how much others notice them by roughly double), Andy's story of deliberately sitting with a different group at the West Point prep school mess hall, and Alyssa Liu's gold medal comeback after quitting figure skating to rediscover why she loved it in the first place. Jon, Will, and Andy walk through how FNE shows up in daily life: the yes-man pattern at work that stalls careers, the reassurance-seeking in relationships that erodes attraction, the Disney dad trap of buying approval instead of earning respect, and the deepest layer... the ghost. Most men are performing for one or two specific people from their past, and they've been doing it for decades. Andy teaches the BASS framework he uses with NFL athletes for real-time emotional regulation. Will adds a values audit and a spotlight effect experiment. And Jon talks about how purpose is the single biggest antidote to approval-seeking, which ties directly into the A2A (Awareness to Action) course launching through Focus Now Training. What you'll hear in this episode: Why social rejection activates the same brain circuits as physical pain The spotlight effect: half as many people are watching you as you think Andy's West Point mess hall story and why crossing social lines is the real macho move Alyssa Liu's gold medal run and the next-play mindset How FNE shows up at work, in relationships, with kids, and in community The ghost concept: who you're still performing for decades later BASS framework: Breathe, Accept, Separate, Shift Motivational interviewing basics: OARS (Open questions, Affirmations, Reflective listening, Summarizing) Purpose as the antidote to approval-seeking Andy's podcast: Skull Sessions (available everywhere) Andy's TEDx talk: Fight to Win the War from Within Full episode: https://pod.fo/e/3abd25 Text MTM to 33777 for updates on new episodes, the A2A course, and resources from Focus Now Training. Jon's book, DIAL in Your Leadership: 4 Non-negotiables for Leading with Clarity, Trust, and Purpose, is available now on Amazon. https://a.co/d/0hYwI2Sz Follow Men Talking Mindfulness, Jon Macaskill, and Will Schneider for more. Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    9 min
  2. The Gap Between Stimulus and Response Changes Everything | A2A Course Launch Webinar

    2d ago ·  Bonus

    The Gap Between Stimulus and Response Changes Everything | A2A Course Launch Webinar

    What happens in the space between a trigger and your reaction? That gap — the one most people don't even know exists — is where everything changes. In this special episode, Will and Jon break down the concept live during the Awareness to Action (A2A) course launch webinar, walk the audience through a real-time breathwork exercise to experience the gap firsthand, and explain how training this skill can transform the way you lead, parent, and show up in every relationship. Whether you're a maxed-out leader running on fumes, someone searching for a change that actually sticks, or just going through a hard season, this one's for you. Sign up for the Awareness to Action (A2A) course: https://focusnowtraining.com/A2A-course Or text MTM to 33777 Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    46 min
  3. Your Nervous System Is Destroying Your Relationship — and You Don't Even Know It with EJ & Tarah Kerwin

    4d ago

    Your Nervous System Is Destroying Your Relationship — and You Don't Even Know It with EJ & Tarah Kerwin

    Have you ever been mid-conversation with your partner, felt your jaw tighten, your stomach drop, your brain go sideways — and some part of you already looking for the exit? That's not a character flaw. That's your nervous system treating your partner like a threat. EJ and Tarah Kerwin are couples therapists, founders of Relationship Renovation, and parents of twins born on their honeymoon. EJ — a yoga teacher and therapist — turned avoidant the moment real chaos arrived, and Tarah had a name for it: Buddhist motherf***er. They had to learn everything they now teach by surviving their own marriage in real time. This conversation goes deep on why your success traits destroy your closest relationships, how your childhood nervous system patterns are running your marriage without your consent, and what emotional safety actually feels like when a man finally builds it. IN THIS EPISODE: Why the traits that made you successful at work become your biggest relationship wreckers What a genogram reveals about your patterns — and why compassion always follows FINE = Feelings Inside Not Expressed — and what that silence costs you The difference between hypo arousal and being regulated — most men confuse the two Triple H — Heard, Hugged, or Helped? Ask before you fix Your partner is your greatest teacher — if you stop running from the lesson RELATED EPISODES: Ep. 105 — Learning to Respond Without Reactivity with Dr. Charles Freligh Ep. 120 — Creating Emotional Stability with Jay Fields Ep. 124 — No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover FOLLOW EJ & TARAH: Website, Podcast& Couples Coaching: relationshiprenovation.com Book: Relationship Innovation at Homework — Amazon GET MORE FROM MTM: Text MTM to 33777 — free weekly newsletter Subscribe & All Episodes: mentalkingmindfulness.com A2A COURSE: 12 modules on attention, presence & performance. Self-paced. Built for people who hate the word mindfulness. focusnowtraining.com/a2a → This conversation maps directly to Module 4 of A2A: Regulating Your Nervous System Under Pressure BRING FNT TO YOUR TEAM: Custom attention, resilience & leadership training. In-person or online. focusnowtraining.com/contact Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    1h 9m
  4. Leadership theater is killing your team (and it's killing you)

    May 22

    Leadership theater is killing your team (and it's killing you)

    Leaders are exhausted from a job they're not actually doing. They're exhausted from the performance of doing it. The mask, the armor, the carefully calibrated version of themselves they put on every morning before walking into the office. In this solo episode, Jon breaks down what leadership theater is costing you, your team, and your family. Why most leaders are running on imposter syndrome and don't know it. What happens when you finally drop the armor. And five honest questions to ask yourself this week to start dismantling the mask. Awareness to Action is here. The course Will and I have been building for the last year officially opens May 27th. Twelve modules that walk you through this exact work. Sit in on the live launch webinar that same day and you'll get a coupon code for 40% off the course, good for 48 hours after the webinar ends. Register for the webinar here: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_HY7Nta6rQXaoAWZTEEPQGA Text MTM to 33777 to get the course info, the webinar link, and everything else we're doing. Or just click here: https://mentalkingmindfulness.com/linkinbio Timestamps: (00:01) The Mask of Leadership: Authenticity in the Workplace(02:21) "Leadership Without the Mask: Embracing Authenticity"(07:29) Cultivating Authentic Leadership: Steps to Building Trust and Real Connections(10:05) "Embracing Authentic Leadership: Five Questions for Self-Reflection"(13:53) Embracing Authentic Leadership Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    17 min
  5. Start Ugly: What 275 Episodes Taught Us About Getting Started and Finding Your People

    May 20

    Start Ugly: What 275 Episodes Taught Us About Getting Started and Finding Your People

    We've got a new course, Awareness to Action, launching May 27. Text MTM to 33777 or hit this link to stay in the know: https://focusnowtraining.com/a2a-course-interest Episode notes: We almost didn't make it past the first few episodes. Jon was filming from a yellow Fiat with black racing stripes in a Starbucks parking lot, stealing their wifi. Will was in his old apartment. The dogs walked through every shot. The phone overheated so badly Jon would drop off and Will would carry the show alone. We had no plan, no audience, no producer, and no idea what we were doing. 275 episodes later... we're still figuring it out. And that's kind of the whole point. Today's episode is about two things. Starting before you're ready, and why community is the thing that actually keeps you going once you do. We talk about the moment Will convinced Jon not to quit the show. The gold mine story... how close we came to stopping right before things broke open. Why Gene Roddenberry was embarrassed by the first episode of Star Trek (and why that's a good sign). What we've learned from 275 conversations with people like Jocko Willink, John Eldredge, Sean Fargo, James Nestor, Dr. James Doty, Nir Eyal, Steven Kotler, Howard Behar, Stanley Cup winners, SEALs, Special Forces, Olympic athletes, monks, psychologists, and guys who rebuilt their lives from scratch. Every single one of them started before they were ready. Every single one of them had somebody in their corner. If you've been sitting on something... a project, a business, a conversation, a creative thing you keep putting off... this one's for you. The timing will never be perfect. You will never feel ready. Start anyway. Start ugly. And find your people. We also talk about our new course, Awareness to Action, launching May 27. Text A2A to 33777 or hit this link to stay in the know: https://focusnowtraining.com/a2a-course-interest Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    26 min
  6. From the Dark Edge to Paralympic Podium: Rebuilding When Everything Is Stripped Away - Dennis Connors

    May 18

    From the Dark Edge to Paralympic Podium: Rebuilding When Everything Is Stripped Away - Dennis Connors

    Who are you when everything you've built your identity on gets taken away? For Dennis Connors, that question wasn't hypothetical. A teenage USA rock climber turned Marine Corps intelligence operator, he served three combat tours in Iraq supporting Tier 1 Special Operations, ran 250 interrogations, and came home with multiple undiagnosed TBIs, severe PTSD, and two strokes — the second partially paralyzed his left side. In March 2018, his call sign was still Villain and he had a plan to end his life the next day. What happened on the other side of that moment took him to the Paris 2024 Paralympic podium as a Silver Medalist and to a TED stage where he made 4,000 people cry. IN THIS EPISODE: Why Dennis stood at the dark edge in March 2018 — and the single moment that stopped him How undiagnosed TBIs compounded PTSD for years — and why he toughed them both out Vulnerability reframed: not disclosing weakness — opening a conversational gate Self-worth tied to results vs. self-love that doesn't collapse under pressure Why community with shared passion goes deeper than shared service alone The four pillars of perseverance: vulnerability, self-love, disciplined action, community RELATED EPISODES: Ep. 123 — Bipolar General: Maj. Gen. Gregg Martin's Forever War with Mental Illness Ep. 106 — Transcending Trauma with Dr. Frank Anderson Ep. 135 — The Lie of Self-Sufficiency: Jon Macaskill on Why Men Carry Too Much Alone FOLLOW DENNIS CONNORS: Website: dennisconnorsusa.com LinkedIn: Dennis Connors GET MORE FROM MTM: Text MTM to 33777 — free weekly newsletter Subscribe & All Episodes: mentalkingmindfulness.com FNT Website: focusnowtraining.com A2A COURSE: 12 modules on attention, presence & performance. Self-paced. Built for people who hate the word mindfulness. focusnowtraining.com/a2a → This conversation maps directly to Module 3 of A2A: Building Unshakeable Self-Awareness Under Pressure BRING FNT TO YOUR TEAM: Custom attention, resilience & leadership training. In-person or online. focusnowtraining.com/contact Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    1h 10m
  7. The Shadow You've Been Hiding From: Connor Beaton on Shame, Anger, and Men's Work | MTM AI Read Short

    May 15

    The Shadow You've Been Hiding From: Connor Beaton on Shame, Anger, and Men's Work | MTM AI Read Short

    Text A2A to 33777 to stay in the know about our upcoming Awareness to Action Course! Carl Jung said that when a man deals with his own shadow, he does something real for the world. On this episode of Men Talking Mindfulness, host Will Schneider sits down with Connor Beaton, founder of Man Talks and author of Men's Work, to get into what shadow work actually looks like for men and why most of us have been trained since childhood to avoid it. Connor explains why men tend to carry a denser shadow than women. Masculine culture teaches strength through suppression. Stuff it down, hide the weakness, perform. The result is that the parts of yourself you've rejected... anger, vulnerability, self-compassion... don't go away. They go underground. And they start running the show from there. Connor walks Will through the mechanics of how anger gets repressed and creates the nice guy pattern, how shame gets used on boys to gain compliance and then keeps grown men living small, and what he calls shame-based motivation... using pain as fuel to achieve, which works until it doesn't. Connor shares his own story of bottoming out in his late twenties, living in the back of a Pontiac G5, apprenticing with a Jungian mentor, and the conversation with a close friend that changed everything. He and Will get into relationships as mirrors for shadow, the difference between guilt and shame, psychedelics and the default mode network, and why the real work for men is growing down into yourself rather than always building up and out. What you'll hear in this episode: Why masculine culture creates a denser shadow through suppression The nice guy pattern and what happens when anger goes underground Shame-based motivation and why it has a shelf life Connor's crisis story and the two things that pulled him out Separating personhood from behavior and why it matters for fathers and sons Relationships as the clearest mirror for your shadow Psychedelics, the default mode network, and accessing the unconscious Growing down instead of growing up as the real path to maturity Connor's book: Men's Work Connor's website: ManTalks.com Man Talks Alliance: ManTalks.com (courses, live calls, community) Connor's platforms: Instagram, YouTube, Spotify Full episode: https://pod.fo/e/33c406 Text MTM to 33777 for updates on new episodes and resources from Focus Now Training. Jon's book, DIAL in Your Leadership: 4 Non-negotiables for Leading with Clarity, Trust, and Purpose, is available now on Amazon. https://a.co/d/0hYwI2Sz Follow Men Talking Mindfulness, Jon Macaskill, and Will Schneider for more. shadow work for men, Connor Beaton, Man Talks podcast, men's shadow work, shame and masculinity, anger suppression men Men Talking Mindfulness podcast, Will Schneider, nice guy pattern, shame-based motivation, Jungian shadow, men's personal development, separating personhood from behavior, default mode networkwhat is shadow work for men, why do men suppress anger, how does shame affect men, what is shame-based motivation, nice guy syndrome and anger, how do psychedelics help shadow work, Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    8 min
  8. Beyond Belief NY Times best seller - Nir Eyal on why you keep quitting on yourself

    May 11

    Beyond Belief NY Times best seller - Nir Eyal on why you keep quitting on yourself

    You've read the book. You nodded at every page. And then you changed absolutely nothing. Sound familiar? Nir Eyal helped Silicon Valley build the systems that capture your attention — then turned around and wrote the books on how to fight back. Hooked became the playbook for habit-forming products. Indistractable showed you how to resist them. And now Beyond Belief cracks open the real reason most men read all of it, agree with all of it, and still don't change. It's not discipline. It's not information. It's belief. Specifically, the stories you've been telling yourself about who you are, what you're capable of, and whether change is actually possible for someone like you. Nir calls them limiting beliefs — and he spent six years researching how to replace them with something better. This one hits different if you've ever blamed your ADHD, your past, your upbringing, or the algorithm for the gap between who you are and who you know you could be. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: Why 90% of distraction isn't your phone — it's a feeling The motivation triangle: behavior and benefit fail without belief How a diagnosis becomes a cage — and how to break out The man who almost died from a placebo overdose Richter's rats: how one belief produced 240x more persistence Why to-do lists are broken — and what to do instead FREE RESOURCE FROM NIR: 5-Minute Belief Change Guide — nirandfar.com/beyondbelieflive FOLLOW NIR EYAL: Website & free resources: nirandfar.com Books: Hooked, Indistractable, Beyond Belief — Amazon Go Deeper here are Three Supporting EPISODES FROM MTM: Ep. 92 — Overcoming Procrastination Ep. 121 — Managing Your Mind: How to Kick Out Negative Thoughts Ep. 138 — Curiosity Is Key to Breaking Men Free from Judgment and Rumination Follow MTM: SUBSCRIBE - Thursday Three Things or Text MTM to 33777: newsletter.focusnowtraining.com FREE Training Content or Corporate Workshop: focusnowtraining.com More Episodes & Resources: mentalkingmindfulness.com Coaching with Will: willnotfear.com Book Jon to Speak: jonmacaskill.com Co-produced by Robert Lopez | cratesaudio.com Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    1h 7m
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Men Talking Mindfulness is dedicated to empowering men to embrace their true selves with bravery and authenticity. Our mission is to guide them on a journey of continual learning, developing self-love, and meaningful living. We work to inspire men to lead lives that they can look back on with pride and to create legacies that align with their deepest values. We are committed to cultivating a space where vulnerability is strength, being yourself is the norm, and where every man can unleash their potential to live a life of exceptional impact and fulfillment. Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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