Fatherhood Field Notes

Ned Schaut
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Fatherhood Field Notes is where we hear real stories from real men living real lives every week. Fatherhood is not only about being a dad, it incorporates providing and serving a home, loving and serving a spouse, engaging and serving in a community, as well as intentionally serving your children. Fatherhood is an adventure, one full of fun, wild, and messy stories. In this podcast, we will hear stories from real men who have found themselves living the Adventure of Fatherhood. The Craft of Fatherhood episodes are 5-10 minute episodes where your guide Ned Schaut shares stories on his own fatherhood journey.

  1. Ep 537: Stop Telling Our Young Men to 'Go Get It Out of Your System'

    OCT 24

    Ep 537: Stop Telling Our Young Men to 'Go Get It Out of Your System'

    In this episode, Ned challenges the destructive cultural narrative that young men need to "get it out of their system" in their twenties, sharing insights from a recent father-son gathering and introducing Adam Lane Smith's transformative framework for masculine leadership based on four areas of safety that men must provide: resource safety, protection, emotional safety, and bonding safety. This episode is essential listening for any father who wants to shape his sons into men of character and teach his daughters what to look for in a partner. (00:00:00) - Father-Son Night (00:02:00) - Challenging "Get It Out of Your System" Mentality (00:03:00) - Working It INTO Your System vs. OUT of Your System (00:05:00) - The Abundance Mindset vs. Hoarding (00:07:00) - Four Areas of Safety Men Must Provide (00:08:00) - Resource Safety and Protection (00:08:00) - Emotional Safety and Bonding Safety (00:09:00) - Teaching These Principles to Family (00:10:00) - Earning the Right to Speak Into Your Children's Lives ---------- Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood? https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/ Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review! Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotes YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Fatherhoodfieldnotes Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

    13 min
  2. Ep. 536 Brad Plett: The One Parenting Mistake That Keeps Kids from Changing the World

    OCT 21

    Ep. 536 Brad Plett: The One Parenting Mistake That Keeps Kids from Changing the World

    Ned sits down with Brad Plett, a father of four and full-time missionary with Youth With A Mission (YWAM) in Kona, Hawaii. Brad opens up about his journey through a dark season of anxiety, shame, and guilt in his early years of fatherhood, and how discovering his identity as a son of God transformed not only his life but his entire family's trajectory. Learn more about YWAM here: https://ywamkona.org/courses/family-dts/ - 00:00:00 - Welcome to Brad Plett - 00:03:00 - 25 Years of Marriage: Keys to Longevity - 00:10:00 - Identity Before Function - 00:14:00 - Walking Through a Dark Season - 00:25:00 - The Power of Humility and Community - 00:27:00 - Marriage: Fighting Through to Deep Connection - 00:30:00 - Women Carrying the Torch: A Call for Men to Pray - 00:33:00 - Life with Four Kids: Ages 4 to 17 - 00:38:00 - The Role of the Father: Imparting Identity - 00:41:00 - Why Compliant Kids Won't Change the World - 00:50:00 - Legacy: Raising Kids Who Know Their Identity

    54 min
  3. Ep 535: Marriage Retreat Part 4 of 4: A Sentence to Change Everything

    OCT 17

    Ep 535: Marriage Retreat Part 4 of 4: A Sentence to Change Everything

    In this powerful solo episode of The Craft of Fatherhood Podcast, host Ned Schaut closes out his four-part marriage retreat series with a heartfelt message that blends raw honesty, practical wisdom, and encouragement for fathers. Sharing lessons from Greg and Julie of Married for a Purpose, Ned unpacks why we must stop defining relationships by differences, how to discipline our minds to focus on promises instead of problems, and the life-changing power of saying, “I didn’t handle that right.” Fathers will walk away with simple but profound tools to strengthen their marriages, model humility for their children, and lead their families with love, integrity, and purpose. 00:00:00 - Welcome 00:01:43 - The Foundation: Love Yourself, Love Your Spouse, Teach Your Kids 00:03:00 - We Become What We Think About 00:03:39 - Stop Thinking About Problems, Start Thinking About Promises 00:05:25 - Shift #1: Stop Defining by Our Differences 00:07:00 - Shift #3: Stop Building a Case Against Your Spouse 00:07:30 - Shift #4: Discipline Your Mind (Book Recommendations) 00:08:57 - The Sentence That Changes Everything: "I Didn't Handle That Right" 00:09:24 - How to Apologize to Your Wife and Kids 00:10:57 - Be the Man You Wish Others Would Be 00:11:40 - Closing: You Matter, Fatherhood Matters

    10 min

  4. OCT 14

    Ep. 534 Ryan Miller: Stepping into your Fatherhood Potential

    In this powerful episode of Fatherhood Field Notes, we sit down with Ryan Miller—a man whose joyful demeanor belies a journey through significant trials and transformation. Ryan opens up about his 24-year marriage, raising two daughters, and how embracing suffering has shaped him into the father and husband he is today. He shares vulnerable stories about his own mistakes, including a near-infidelity experience, surviving the 2017 Las Vegas mass shooting, and how these moments became catalysts for growth rather than destruction. Ryan discusses the importance of physical and spiritual health, intentional presence with our children, and how fathers can balance ambition with family priorities. He offers practical wisdom on passing faith to our children and extending fatherly influence beyond biological connections. This conversation will challenge you, inspire you, and equip you to embrace both strength and vulnerability in your fatherhood journey. Chapters:00:00:00 - Introduction and first impressions 00:01:06 - Finding joy through suffering and Ryan's transformative experiences 00:05:30 - Discussing suffering with children and embracing life's challenges 00:09:09 - Ryan's background and focus on health 00:11:19 - Life in California and creating family memories 00:13:00 - Building relationships with daughters and potential sons-in-law 00:22:38 - Ryan's central message to men about purpose and responsibility 00:25:01 - Men of Greatness Brotherhood community and resources 00:26:43 - Understanding discipline as alignment rather than control 00:29:18 - Discussing God's purpose versus individual choices 00:35:52 - Balancing career aspirations with family priorities 00:40:17 - Rebelling against the idea that vulnerability is weakness 00:45:45 - The father's role as provider and protector 00:48:10 - Passing faith to children through modeling and conversation 00:56:53 - Envisioning the future as a grandfather Links and ResourcesRyan's Community: Skool.com/men-of-greatness Ryan on YouTube: YouTube.com/RyanJamesMiller Ryan's Website: RyanJamesMiller.com Wounds: How Hurt, Heartache, and Tragedy Become the Keys to Unlocking Greatness:

    56 min

  5. OCT 10

    Ep. 533: Marriage Retreat Part 3 of 4 + Keeping the Boys Away

    In this episode, Ned shares powerful insights from a recent marriage retreat that every dad needs to hear. He explores the importance of creating rhythms of rest in a 24/7 culture, the life-changing power of speaking blessings over your kids, and the vital role of truly listening to your wife and children. With raw honesty and practical takeaways, Ned challenges fathers to stop striving, start resting, and build a family culture of peace, presence, and love. Chapters: - 00:00 - Introduction to the Marriage Retreat series - 03:24 - The importance of rest in a 24/7 culture - 08:12 - Shabbat and Sabbath: Creating family rhythms - 12:45 - Speaking blessings over your children - 17:30 - The power of truly listening to your wife and kids - 22:18 - Keeping the boys away: Protecting your daughters - 27:53 - Building a family culture of peace and presence - 34:09 - Practical takeaways for dads - 38:42 - Closing thoughts and next steps

    11 min
  6. Ep 532 Larry Hagner: Escaping the Dad Drift: A Guide to Legendary Fatherhood

    OCT 7

    Ep 532 Larry Hagner: Escaping the Dad Drift: A Guide to Legendary Fatherhood

    Larry Hagner, author of "The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood," founder of the Dad Edge Podcast, and a passionate advocate for helping men discover their identity and opportunity in fatherhood. With over 1,400 podcast episodes and a decade of coaching fathers, Larry shares profound insights on breaking free from "the drift" - the state where many fathers find themselves going through the motions without true fulfillment. Chapters:00:00:00 - Introduction to Larry Hagner00:01:58 - Larry's background and experience as a fatherhood coach00:04:00 - The wisdom of turning 50 and advice for fathers in their 40s00:05:00 - The importance of learning fatherhood skills like any other discipline00:08:00 - Making intentional time investments in marriage relationships00:12:35 - The connection between being a good husband and a good father00:15:00 - The three needs of wives and kids: feeling seen, heard, and safe00:19:00 - The state of modern marriages and the three camps of couples who stay together00:24:00 - Setting a marriage example for our children to follow00:27:00 - Overview of "The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood"00:29:00 - Understanding "the drift" and why men settle for less00:34:00 - Raising sons and daughters with complementary values00:41:00 - Final wisdom: You already have what it takes to be an amazing father Links and Resources:Larry's new book: The Pursuit of Legendary FatherhoodDad Edge Podcast: https://thedadedge.com/podcast/Larry's website: https://thedadedge.com/ (includes free resources with book purchase)Dad Edge Alliance (for career dads): https://thedadedge.com/alliance/Dad Edge Business Owner Brotherhood: https://thedadedge.com/bob/

    42 min
  7. Ep. 531: Marriage Retreat Part 2 of 4: Decreasing Conflict

    OCT 3

    Ep. 531: Marriage Retreat Part 2 of 4: Decreasing Conflict

    In this heartfelt solo episode, host Ned Schaut continues his four-part series on lessons from a recent marriage retreat. Speaking directly to fellow fathers, Ned shares raw stories and practical takeaways on how to stop defending yourself, start asking for forgiveness, and bring your best energy home to your family. From learning the three questions that heal conflict, to navigating moments of being misunderstood with his teenage son, Ned unpacks what it means to lead through serving. With a mix of vulnerability, humor (including an unforgettable skinny-dipping story), and fatherly wisdom, this episode equips dads to fight for connection, love, and unity in their marriages and families. Three questions for healing conflict: "By the tone of your voice, sounds like I hurt you. Is that true?""Please tell me how I made you feel.""I'm so sorry. Will you forgive me?" Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome and Introduction00:01:00 - The Power of Fighting for Connection in a 20-Year Marriage00:02:00 - How People Leave Your Presence: Being Interested, Interesting, and a Blessing00:04:00 - Decreasing Conflict: Three Questions That Heal Hurt Feelings00:06:00 - The Power of Asking for Forgiveness Without Defending Yourself00:08:00 - Feeling Misunderstood: A Father-Son Conversation00:10:00 - The Different Hats of Fatherhood: Parent, Friend, and Mentor00:11:00 - Creating Unforgettable Memories: The Skinny Dipping Story00:12:00 - A Man's Identity: Created to Fight for Love and Connection00:13:00 - Final Encouragement: Your Kids Need to See You Fight for Their Mom Links and Resources:Craig Hill's booksJohn Tyson's "Primal Path" program

    12 min
  8. Ep. 530 Tim Campbell: Raising Gifted and Disabled Children — A Father’s Honest Reflection

    SEP 30

    Ep. 530 Tim Campbell: Raising Gifted and Disabled Children — A Father’s Honest Reflection

    In this powerful conversation, Ned chats with Tim Campbell, an 82-year-old father with decades of hard-earned wisdom to share. As a husband of 50 years, Peace Corps veteran, and author of "Holding Up the Sky," Tim opens up about the challenges and triumphs of raising three children—including two with serious health challenges. This isn't just theory; it's battlefield-tested fatherhood advice from a man who's lived it. Tim introduces concepts like the "phantom captain" and reframes discipline as building trust rather than punishment. His stories will resonate with dads in the trenches of parenting, offering practical insights on embracing selflessness, developing resilience, and committing to the long game of fatherhood. Both vulnerable and encouraging, this episode reminds fathers that your daily investments—even when unseen or unappreciated—are creating a legacy that will shape generations long after you're gone. Chapters:00:00:00 Introduction - The Journey of Fatherhood00:01:47 Tim at 82: Wisdom That Transcends Age00:03:03 Passing Down Fatherhood Lessons Between Generations00:04:45 Marriage as the Foundation: 50 Years of Partnership00:06:15 Supporting Your Spouse Through Family Crises00:08:19 How Challenges Can Strengthen Your Marriage00:12:41 Raising Children with Different Needs and Challenges00:27:05 Developing the Heart of a Father: Leading with Love00:39:36 How Our Fathers Shape Our Parenting Approach00:44:55 Building Your Legacy as a Dad Links and Resources:Holding Up the Sky (Book)Tim Campbell’s Personal SiteTim Campbell on LinkedInFamily Culture Guide Rebel and Create: A Compass to Mastering the Craft of Fatherhood

    49 min
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Fatherhood Field Notes is where we hear real stories from real men living real lives every week. Fatherhood is not only about being a dad, it incorporates providing and serving a home, loving and serving a spouse, engaging and serving in a community, as well as intentionally serving your children. Fatherhood is an adventure, one full of fun, wild, and messy stories. In this podcast, we will hear stories from real men who have found themselves living the Adventure of Fatherhood. The Craft of Fatherhood episodes are 5-10 minute episodes where your guide Ned Schaut shares stories on his own fatherhood journey.

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  • Creator
    Ned Schaut
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2025
  • Episodes
    538
  • Rating
    Explicit
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