Sober Curious

Ruby Warrington
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Sober Curious author Ruby Warrington talks to all kinds of folks about their relationships to booze, as well as how to navigate life as a non-drinker in a world that loves to get wasted.

  1. Healing Our Mother Hunger with Kelly McDaniel

    03/26/2023

    Healing Our Mother Hunger with Kelly McDaniel

    In this episode, you will hear me in conversation with Kelly McDaniel, a therapist and author, whose latest book, Mother Hunger, examines the impact on women specifically of having lacked the proper nurturance, protection, and guidance from their primary maternal figure in early life. The reason I wanted to speak to Kelly in the context of “women without kids,” is that it seems obvious to me that living with mother hunger can’t NOT have an impact on how one feels about becoming a mother, or about the experience of being a mother after having had a child. In  the episode we discuss: -Kelly’s definition of “mother hunger” and how she came up with the term. -Why 50% of the population experience mother hunger and how it manifests in issues around food and love. -What causes mother hunger - and why this is often the result of an epigenetic inheritance. -Why structural issues make it harder for mothers and babies to bond - and the lifelong attachment issues that can result from this. -How mother hunger impacts our procreative choices and how we may feel about becoming mothers ourselves. -The links between mother hunger, anorexia, and being “a-reproductive” (i.e. having no desire to reproduce). -The impact of a lack of paid parental leave on mother hunger -Why choosing not to have a child can be the most “loving” choice if we are aware that our capacity to mother is being compromised. -Why our materialistic, consumer culture is just another substitute mother - and a way we seek to soothe our mother hunger. Learn more about Kelly and her work HERE and check out Mother Hunger HERE. You can get your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE.

    57 min
  2. A Culture of Excess with Mickey Down + Konrad Kay

    08/11/2022

    A Culture of Excess with Mickey Down + Konrad Kay

    Mickey Down and Konrad Kay, creators of HBO's Industry, on addictions to success, status and money, and the substance abuse that fuels their hit show. In the episode we discuss: -Why the themes of ambition, success, and money are at the heart of HBOs Industry – and how these themes manifest in various addictions among the characters -Choosing what we worship, and what happens when we put our faith in external things to make us feel safe, secure, happy, and whole -Why  recreational drug and alcohol use is so normalized – and how it morphs into more problematic use, especially in high pressure industries -The individual drivers behind the culture of “success addiction” and “never enough” depicted in the show -The role of childhood wounds in our self-destructive adult behaviors -The transactional nature of the sex depicted in the show, and what this says about the characters’ lack of capacity for connection and vulnerability -Dating apps being the crack cocaine of courtship – and the role of this in an addictive hookup culture -The motivations for two of the characters getting sober in Season 2, and their different approaches to their sobriety -The complexity of human nature, and how our “worst selves” often come out when we are feeling vulnerable and afraid -The role of art in helping us develop self-compassion for our less palatable actions and behaviors -Two key lines from the show that encapsulate our modern culture of excess  Seasons One and Two of Industry are streaming now on HBO. You can follow along on Instagram @industryhbo for updates. Big thank you to Ghia for partnering on this episode. Get your Ghia at Drinkghia.com where you can get  $10 off your first online order with the code CURIOUS.

    1 hr
  3. Full Spectrum Sobriety with Goddexx

    08/04/2022

    Full Spectrum Sobriety with Goddexx

    Full-spectrum life coach Goddexx on transcending binaries, the roots of codependency, and embracing the fullness of who we are - in sobriety and beyond. In the episode we discuss: -Their experiences with food addiction in childhood – related to food insecurity in the home -Starting to abuse alcohol in tandem with coming into their bi-sexuality -Toggling between different addictions to manage different situations and emotional challenges -Discovering and enacting their own “harm reduction” approach to substance abuse -The role of codependency in dysfunctional families – and why this is especially prevalent in migrant and other marginalized communities -The prevalence of alcohol and other drugs in queer spaces as a way of numbing out internalized homophobia and transphobia -Their work creating sober circles and spaces for healing in the QTBIPOC space -The value of ritual, spell-work, and other forms of spiritual practice in sobriety -Healing from intergenerational trauma – and the role of substance abuse in numbing the pain of the past -What it means to live a “full spectrum” life – and why this concept can be frightening for people -The value of boundaries when it comes to embracing fluidity  Learn more about Goddexx and their work HERE and follow them on Instagram @iamgoddexx.  Big thanks to Ghia for partnering on this episode. Get your Ghia at Drinkghia.com where you can get  $10 off your first online order with the code CURIOUS. Thanks also to  Curious Elixirs.  Purchase directly online at Curiouselixirs.com where you can use the code RUBY22 for $10 off any order worth $50 or more.

    1h 4m
  4. The New Cocktail O'Clock with Melanie Masarin

    07/28/2022

    The New Cocktail O'Clock with Melanie Masarin

    Ghia founder Melanie Masarin shares how she came to be a pioneer in the nonalcoholic beverage space, and why quitting drinking was the best she ever did for her productivity and her wellbeing. In the episode we discuss: -How her upbringing in France informed her drinking choices in later life -How the drinking culture in France differs from that in the UK and US -Cutting out alcohol to try to diagnose her stomach issues – and discovering how good it felt not to drink -Why not drinking is integral to her success as an entrepreneur  -Why taking a month off booze isn’t really enough to experience all the benefits of living alcohol-free -The prophetic conversation that led to her coming up with the concept for Ghia -Her go-to drink when there is no Ghia on the menu -The social value of European “Aperitivo” culture - and why we don’t need alcohol to enjoy it -Not providing options for non-drinkers as a form of social discrimination -Why she has over-invested in getting Ghia into hospitality venues and the long-term vision attached to this -Being “sober curious” with cigarettes and coffee -Her experiences of the “Cali Sober” scene in LA Follow Melanie on Instagram @melaniemasarin and get your Ghia at Drinkghia.com, where you can get $10 off your first online order with the code CURIOUS. Big thanks to Athletic Brewing for partnering on this episode. Get your brews at Athleticbrewing.com and use the code RUBY20 to receive 20% off your online order of any beer or Daypack sparking water products.

    56 min
  5. Booze, Buddhism and being Human with Jason Gots

    07/21/2022

    Booze, Buddhism and being Human with Jason Gots

    Jason Gots, podcaster and author of Humanity is Trying: Experiments in Living with Grief, Finding Connection, and Resisting Easy Answers, on the nature of human suffering, living with grief, and the Buddhist approach to addiction and self-discipline. In the episode we discuss: -Jason’s drinking history and what led to him getting sober curious -How Buddhist ideas and practices have influenced his relationship with alcohol -The conversation with his father than helped his sober curiosity stick -Having a lot of “drunken poets” as his early heroes, and letting go of his romantic associations with booze -How a culture of “survivalism” has been passed down the generations, and different generations’ responses to this -What the show Euphoria shows us about shifting motivations for substance use and abuse -The role that alcohol and other substances played in his relationship with his sister, and in her death in 2015 -Medicating our grief – for both the people and the things we have lost, and the things we fear we will never be able to have -Self-discipline as both punishment and liberation – and the role of “friendly curiosity” in supporting healthy new habits -The Buddhist concept of “the middle way,” and why it’s so hard to achieve this – through moderation – with a substance like alcohol Learn more about Jason and his work HERE, get your copy of Humanity is Trying HERE, and listen to the Clever Creature podcast HERE. Big thanks to Ghia and Athletic Brewing for partnering on this episode. Get your Ghia at DrinkGhia.com and get $10 off your first online order with the code CURIOUS. Order your Athletic brews at Athleticbrewing.com and  use the code RUBY20 to receive 20% off your online order of any beer or Daypack sparking water products.

    1h 10m
  6. Addiction + Attachment Theory with Jessica Baum

    07/14/2022

    Addiction + Attachment Theory with Jessica Baum

    Jessica Baum, psychotherapist and author of Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love, on the links between attachment theory and our addictions to substances, behaviors, and unhealthy relationships. In the episode we discuss: -An overview of attachment theory – and how our relationship with our early caregivers wires our attachment style -How an inability to trust and connect with others can be traced back to how our nervous system formed in infancy -Why we become “attached” to certain substances, behaviors, and people, when we are detached from ourselves -Why so many people experience insecure attachment – whether this is expressed in “anxious” or “avoidant” tendencies -Why addictive behaviors are only a symptom of underlying distress – which often has its roots in attachment issues  -The meaning of “dis-regulation” and how we learn to reach outside of ourselves to regulate our nervous system -Why a state of relaxation and ease can feel so alien to us when we are used to being dis-regulated -Why workaholism and “overdoing” are so prevalent as ways of avoiding states of inner distress -The chemical reaction that makes some people more vulnerable to “love addiction” -Where codependency and love addiction overlap -Why healthy conflict is what builds intimacy in relationships – and how being conflict averse can enable destructive behaviors -The journey from “selfless” to “self-full” as a way to become more secure in our attachments -Why it’s normal and okay to “self-medicate” and how to discover what are safe medicators for us Get your copy of Anxiously Attached HERE and follow Jessica on Instagram @jessicabaumlmhc Big thanks to Ghia for partnering on this episode. You can get your Ghia at Drinkghia.com - where you can also use the code CURIOUS to get $10 off your first online order.

    1h 6m
  7. Shopping Addiction & Us with Avis Cardella

    07/07/2022

    Shopping Addiction & Us with Avis Cardella

    Avis Cardella, the author of Spent: Memoirs of a Shopping Addict, discusses our pervasive culture of compulsive spending and why we're more vulnerable to shopping addiction than ever. In the episode we discuss:  -When everyday consumption morphs into compulsive spending or shopping addiction -Why compulsive shopping is not the same as over-spending or regularly getting into debt -The physical sensations that could show shopping has become a problem -Why shopping addiction is not taken as seriously as substance abuse  -How our desire to be loved and accepted plays into shopping addiction -Growing up in a consumer culture – and equating spending and being bought stuff with “love” -How consumer culture has changed in the decade following the 2008 financial crash – and become more targeted and insidious  -How Avis addressed her shopping addiction – and the one time it has back come up in her life -The psychology of “pandemic shopping” -Why shopping too much, along with working too much, is often celebrated under capitalism – and the negative consequences of both -The link between compulsive spending and body image issues -The impact of social media on our spending habits You can get your copy of Spent: Memoirs of a Shopping Addict by Avis Cardella HERE. Big thanks and shout out to Athletic Brewing for partnering on this episode. You can order online at Athleticbrewing.com and use the code RUBY20 to receive 20% off your online order of any beer or Daypack sparking water products.

    1h 5m
  8. Addicted to Perfection with Swan Huntley

    06/30/2022

    Addicted to Perfection with Swan Huntley

    Author Swan Huntley on drinking to escape the trap of perfection, and why self-love is a part of every sober and sober curious journey. In the episode we discuss: -Swan’s sober story – and how her drinking found her living a secret double life -The book that made her realize it was time for her to quit -Why everybody is sober curious before they get sober serious -Why she decided to write a fictionalized account of somebody’s sober curious journey -Reading and daydreaming as a healthy escape – and another way to dissociate  -Why total abstinence equals freedom from our addictions -Whether there is any such thing as an “addictive personality” – and the factors driving our compulsive behaviors -Why the themes of perfectionism and control are very much tied to addictive behaviors -The concept of “keeping your side of the street clean” as it pertains to sobriety -The process of letting go of thoughts, beliefs, and resentments that are keeping us stuck in the past -The trap of using alcohol to unlock inspiration– and finding the courage to create sober  Learn more about Swan Huntley and her work HERE, get your copy of Getting Clean with Stevie Green HERE, and follow her on IG @swanhuntley Big thanks to Ghia for partnering on this episode.  You can get your Ghia at Drinkghia.com - where you can use the code CURIOUS to get $10 off your first online order

    1h 1m
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Sober Curious author Ruby Warrington talks to all kinds of folks about their relationships to booze, as well as how to navigate life as a non-drinker in a world that loves to get wasted.

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  • Creator
    Ruby Warrington
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2023
  • Episodes
    88
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © The Numinous LLC
  • Show Website
    Sober Curious

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