Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Jennifer Noble, PCC | Relationship Coach, TEDx Speaker, & Best Selling Author
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Are you ready to heal your attachment style, master healthy communication, and create secure, fulfilling relationships? Subscribe now to uncover the secrets of secure attachment, navigate the challenges of trauma recovery, and improve your communication skills in love and life. In each episode of the Speak Honest podcast, we’ll dive into attachment styles, emotional healing, and proven strategies for deeper connection. It’s time to break free from the cycle of heartbreak and start building the relationships you deserve.

  1. 3D AGO

    106. Love Me Better: Why Wanting More Feels Risky

    Why does wanting more love feel so risky, even when connection is the thing you want most? In this episode of Speak Honest, I explore what happens inside us when desire, asking, and receiving love start to feel loaded, especially around Valentine’s Day. We slow things down and look at why love doesn’t always land, even when it’s offered, and what begins to shift when you stop overriding yourself in the process of staying connected. You might want to listen if: You want deeper connection but feel guilty or selfish for wanting moreYou often shrink, over-explain, or apologize when you try to ask for what you needYou’re good at giving love but struggle to fully receive itLove shows up, but it doesn’t always land or feel nourishingYou’re tired of abandoning yourself just to keep the peace in relationships FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

    17 min

  2. FEB 4

    105. When the World Feels Unsafe: How Collective Grief Shows Up in Your Body and Relationships

    Have you been feeling heavier, more reactive, or emotionally exhausted lately, even though nothing specific seems “wrong”?  In this episode of Speak Honest, I’m unpacking how collective grief, political unrest, and ongoing exposure to distressing news impact your nervous system and quietly spill into your closest relationships. We’ll talk about why your body might feel on edge before your mind catches up, how unprocessed stress shows up as anxiety or conflict at home, and why staying regulated is not avoidance but protection. This is a grounding, compassionate conversation for women who care deeply and want to understand what’s really happening beneath the surface right now. You might want to listen if: You’ve been feeling more tired, irritable, or emotionally sensitive lately and don’t know whyThe news or social media has been leaving you with a low-level sense of unease or dreadYou’re noticing more tension, reactivity, or distance in your relationshipsYou feel guilty for enjoying your life when so much is happening in the worldYou want practical nervous system insight without being told to “just calm down” FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

    18 min

  3. JAN 28

    104. How to Get Clear on What You Want | Coaching Call with Cordelia (Part 3)

    What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t because you don’t know what to do… but because you’re afraid of choosing the wrong thing?  In this coaching call with Cordelia, we talk about what it really looks like to get clear on what you want when fear, uncertainty, and old patterns keep pulling you in different directions. We unpack job search anxiety, shiny object syndrome, and the very real fear of ending up back in environments where you don’t feel heard. This episode is about slowing down, listening to your body, and learning how clarity actually creates safety, confidence, and forward momentum. You might want to listen if: You feel paralyzed by too many options and second guess every decision you makeYou’re afraid of starting over because you don’t want to repeat past patternsYou keep chasing new ideas or opportunities but never feel fully settledYour nervous system gets activated around work, money, or being “put in a corner”You want to feel more confident standing up for what you want without over explaining or backing down FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

    36 min

  4. JAN 21

    103. Should I Tell My Avoidant Partner About Attachment Theory?

    Should you tell your avoidant partner about attachment theory, or is that actually making things harder? In this episode of Speak Honest, I unpack the very real urge to explain, teach, and hope that if your partner just understood attachment theory, everything would finally feel safer. We talk about why that urge so often comes from an activated nervous system, how timing and safety matter more than insight, and what actually creates change in anxious–avoidant dynamics. This episode isn’t about fixing your partner. It’s about understanding what’s happening inside you and learning how to get your power back in the process. You might want to listen if: You feel the constant urge to explain yourself or overteach when your partner pulls awayYou’ve learned about attachment theory and want your partner to “get it” tooYou notice yourself feeling more anxious, not less, after trying to help him understandYou’re stuck in a push–pull dynamic and don’t know how to change it without chasingYou want to feel calmer, clearer, and more grounded no matter how your partner shows up FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

    16 min

  5. JAN 14

    102. Is This My Intuition or My Attachment Style Acting Up?

    Is this your intuition… or is your anxious attachment getting activated? In this episode of Speak Honest, I answer a listener question that so many self-aware women struggle with. You’ve done the work. You usually feel secure. And yet, in a new connection, something feels unsettled. Not dramatic. Not chaotic. Just off. Together, we break down the difference between intuition and anxious attachment, what secure attachment actually feels like in real life, and how to stay curious instead of turning on yourself when those feelings show up. You might want to listen if:  You thought you were secure but dating someone brought up anxious attachment You struggle to tell the difference between intuition and attachment activation You feel pressure to decide quickly whether to stay or leave a relationship You tend to judge or shame yourself when anxious attachment shows up You want to make more grounded, secure decisions in dating and relationships FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

    15 min

  6. JAN 7

    101. When Being Easygoing Gets You Taken Advantage Of | My Coaching Call with Cordelia

    Do you ever feel like being easygoing somehow turns into being overlooked, dismissed, or taken advantage of? In this episode, I sit down with Cordelia for our second coaching session and we unpack a pattern so many people live inside of without realizing it. When you’re flexible, capable, and willing to help, those traits can quietly become the reason you end up carrying more than your share, questioning yourself, and feeling trapped or burned out. Together, we explore how these dynamics form, how your nervous system responds when boundaries aren’t honored, and what it actually looks like to start responding differently in real time. This is an honest, grounded conversation about confidence, boundaries, and learning to trust yourself again without becoming rigid or shut down. You might want to listen if:  • You’re often described as easygoing but feel like it costs you  • You struggle to say no and then feel resentful or overwhelmed afterward  • You notice anxiety, shutdown, or burnout building over time  • You second-guess yourself and wonder if you’re the problem  • You want to set boundaries without feeling guilty, harsh, or unsafe Check out Cordelia’s First Coaching Session FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

    36 min

  7. 12/31/2025

    100. How Speak Honest Became 100 Honest Conversations

    Ever wonder how something meaningful actually gets built when you don’t rush it? In this special New Year’s Eve episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the backstory of the Speak Honest Podcast and how it grew into 100 honest conversations about attachment, relationships, nervous system healing, and real change. From an accidental name in a college group project to a steady space for women who are tired of pretending they’re fine, this episode is about consistency, honesty, and staying when nothing seems to be happening yet. We’re celebrating the milestone, reflecting on the journey, and looking ahead to what’s coming next as we step into a new year together. You might want to listen if: You feel behind in your life, healing, or relationships and wonder if the slow path still countsYou’re exhausted from repeating the same patterns and want things to finally feel differentYou’re curious how Speak Honest actually began and why it means so muchYou’re heading into the new year craving reflection, not pressureYou want a reminder that honest, consistent effort really does add up FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

    14 min

  8. 12/24/2025

    99. The Real Reason You Talk Too Much When You’re Nervous

    Do you ever walk away from a conversation feeling exhausted because you said way more than you meant to? In this episode of Speak Honest, we unpack the real reason you talk too much when you’re nervous. This isn’t about learning to “say less” or fixing your communication. It’s about understanding the story underneath your urge to overexplain, the fear of being misunderstood, and the quiet self judgment that kicks in when connection feels shaky. I’ll walk you through why overexplaining is actually a nervous system protection strategy and how to shift it by questioning the story instead of performing for understanding. You might want to listen if: • You replay conversations in your head wondering why you said so much  • You overexplain when you’re late, emotional, or afraid of being judged  • You feel a surge of panic when silence shows up in conversations  • You struggle to trust that your words can be simple and still be enough  • You want to communicate calmly without feeling exposed or unsafe FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

    16 min
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Are you ready to heal your attachment style, master healthy communication, and create secure, fulfilling relationships? Subscribe now to uncover the secrets of secure attachment, navigate the challenges of trauma recovery, and improve your communication skills in love and life. In each episode of the Speak Honest podcast, we’ll dive into attachment styles, emotional healing, and proven strategies for deeper connection. It’s time to break free from the cycle of heartbreak and start building the relationships you deserve.

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