The Almost Empty Nest—Letting Go, Redefined: Parenting Teens and Finding Yourself Again—with Small Jar Coach

Master Coach Jennifer Collins
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Are you stuck between wanting to guide your teen or college kid and knowing it’s time to start letting go? Welcome to The Almost Empty Nest Podcast, where moms of teens and college kids reframe what ‘letting go’ really means and stop second-guessing themselves to feel more connected, confident, and at peace in this chapter of motherhood. Each week, you’ll learn how to: • Break free from mindset traps like catastrophizing, mom guilt, and the illusion of control • Build a stronger relationship with your teen—even when they pull away or test boundaries • Strengthen your self-trust as you set boundaries, let go of anxiety, and explore your own purpose beyond parenting Hosted by master life coach—and mom of two college kids—Jennifer Collins, this show offers grounded, relatable support and mindset shifts to help you stop overthinking and start showing up as the mom and woman you truly want to be. 🎧 Start with listener favorite Episode 85: The Empty Nest Straddle — The Emotional Tug of Parenting Teens and Facing the Empty Nest.

  1. 3D AGO

    Mindset Traps of Parenting Teens and the Empty Nest—The Real Reason We Feel So Anxious As Our Kids Grow Up—Intro Ep. 193

    Have you ever noticed how motherhood feels like one long lesson in letting go — but no one ever tells you how to do it? One moment you’re deep in the chaos of parenting teens, and the next, you’re staring at an empty nest, wondering how to stop worrying and start feeling at peace again. In this episode, I’m sharing a fresh take on mindset traps — those sneaky thought patterns that keep us moms stuck in anxiety, guilt, and overthinking, especially as our kids grow up and need us differently. You’ll learn how your mindset can either keep you in constant reaction mode or help you create calm, connection, and confidence, even when life feels uncertain. I’ll explain why your brain is wired to crave comfort and control (and how that makes letting go so uncomfortable), and I’ll show you how to start working with your mind instead of against it. If you’ve been feeling drained by the push and pull between wanting to help and needing to step back, this conversation will help you set boundaries with love, reduce anxiety, and begin finding purpose again — not through your kids, but within yourself. Motherhood in this season isn’t just about letting go of your kids. It’s about letting go of everything in your mind that’s holding you back from peace, joy, and freedom in your next chapter. Join me to find out how! 💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class 💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0 ❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.  This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

    24 min

  2. 6D AGO

    “I'm Codependent on My Kids”—Thoughts Moms Parenting Teens Are Ashamed They Think | Ep. 192

    Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I’m codependent on my kids”—and then immediately felt ashamed for it? You’re not alone. So many moms in the empty nest or parenting teens phase feel that tug between love and letting go. For years, we’ve been wired to sense our kids’ needs—to comfort, fix, and protect. That instinct doesn’t just disappear when they grow up. But sometimes our care turns into worry, overthinking, or trying to manage what we can’t control. Not because we’re needy, but because we’re afraid—afraid they’ll suffer, or that we’ll lose our connection or sense of purpose if they don’t need us the same way anymore. In this episode I’ll share why this reaction makes perfect sense and what science says about how motherhood literally wires us to feel our kids’ emotions as if they’re our own. Join me to challenge this concept of codependency and understand what's really at the root of your emotional ups and downs as a mom.   💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class 💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0 ❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.  This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

    20 min

  3. OCT 11

    Parenting Teens Without Pain - What If It's Not Too Good To Be True? | Ep. 191

    Do you every feel like parenting your big kid without the frustration and anxiety is too good to be true? You try to be patient. You want to set boundaries and have productive conversations. But then somehow you find yourself falling back into the same patterns of reacting in ways you regret — or just feeling stuck in anger and worry. It can feel like the only way to feel better is to get your teen to change. But what I’ve learned is that peace doesn’t come from fixing your teen, your circumstances, or even yourself. It comes from understanding what’s really happening in your mind. In this episode, I share why parenting teens can feel so painful — and what’s actually going on when you keep getting stuck in patterns that don’t reflect the mom you want to be. You’ll learn how letting go of judgment and getting curious about your emotions opens the door to real change. Because when you start shifting your mindset, you stop giving your power away. You learn how to set boundaries from calm instead of chaos, how to support your teen without losing yourself. It’s not about giving up. It’s about letting go — of control, of guilt, of the belief that peace is out of reach. If you’ve ever thought, “That sounds too good to be true,” this episode is for you. 💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class 💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0 ❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.  This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

    22 min

  4. OCT 8

    “My Husband Shuts Me Down”—Thoughts Moms Parenting Teens Are Ashamed They Think | Ep. 190

    Have you ever tried to have a real conversation with your husband, only to feel like he completely shuts you down? You start with the best intentions — maybe you’re talking about your teen, or something that’s been weighing on you — and before you know it, he’s irritated, you’re frustrated, and you both end up feeling like you’re speaking different languages. If you’re a mom navigating parenting teens and the transition to the empty nest, you already know how emotional this stage of motherhood can be. And when your marriage feels disconnected on top of that, it can feel lonely and confusing. You might start to wonder if you’re the problem, or if you’ll ever get back to the kind of relationship you want. In this episode of The Almost Empty Nest Podcast, I talk about what’s really going on beneath the thought, “My husband shuts me down.” We’ll look at how our mindset shapes the way we experience communication in our marriages — and how this same awareness can help us in every relationship, from our partners to our kids. You’ll learn why waiting for your partner to change keeps you stuck, and how to start showing up with more intention, even when communication feels hard. You don’t have to wait for anyone else to change for you to feel better. You can take back your power and create the connection and peace you’ve been longing for. 💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class 💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0 ❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.  This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

    23 min

  5. OCT 4

    When Being Just a Mom No Longer Feels Enough While Raising Teens or in the Empty Nest | Ep. 189

    Have you ever looked around your life and thought: Is this it? Am I really just a mom? As our kids grow into teens—or leave the nest altogether—it’s easy to feel both grateful and yet strangely empty. I’ve been there too. For years, I measured my worth through my kids’ needs, my to-do list, or the approval of others. But underneath it all, I was constantly asking myself, Am I enough? In this episode, I open up about my own journey through motherhood—those moments of folding laundry while everyone else was out chasing their dreams, and the dissatisfaction, and even resentment, that crept in when the house got quiet. I’ll share how this struggle shows up for so many moms of teens and empty nesters: the endless busyness, the invisible labor, the resentment, the guilt, and the anxiety. I also talk about the ways we chase “enoughness”—and why it never lasts. What if you could stop chasing “enough”? Your worth isn’t tied to grades, chores, or anyone else’s approval—it’s already within you. In this episode, I’ll show you how to shift your mindset so you can let go of doubt and rediscover yourself beyond motherhood. 💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class 💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0 ❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.  This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

    22 min

  6. OCT 1

    “I Miss Being Needed”—Thoughts Moms Parenting Teens Are Ashamed They Think | Ep. 188

    Do you ever miss being needed by your big kid? When I think about the empty nest, and even those times when my boys were still at home, what surprises me most isn’t just the quiet house or the extra time on my hands. It’s how much I miss being needed. Parenting teens and young adults can feel like a constant practice of letting go — and sometimes it hurts more than we expect. If you’re a mom in this season, you probably know the ache I’m talking about. The texts that go unanswered, the eye rolls when you offer advice, the long weekends where you wait around “just in case” they need you. It’s easy to slip into overthinking, questioning yourself, and wondering if your value as a mom is fading right along with their dependence on you. In this episode, I share a story about my son coming home from college, and how in one moment I felt the rush of being needed again, only to be reminded days later of the distance and independence that comes with this stage. Through that story, we’ll look at the deeper layers — why missing being needed stirs up grief, shame, and fear, and how mindset traps like all-or-nothing thinking and personalization can make it even harder. If you’ve been missing the days when being needed was constant and obvious, this conversation is for you. Because even when our kids don’t show it, the bond is still there. And learning to trust that bond is what makes space for you to step into your next chapter with clarity and confidence. 💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class 💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0 ❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.  This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

    22 min

  7. SEP 27

    Parenting Teens through Screen Time Struggles—The Phone Is Not the Only Problem | Ep. 187

    If you’ve ever caught yourself staring at your teen glued to their phone—ignoring you, zoning out, lost in a scroll—and thought, “This can’t be good,” this episode is for you. Today I’m digging into what’s really going on with cell phones and screentime—why it feels so hard to set boundaries, and what’s behind the resistance (theirs and ours). I’ll share what I learned from Jonathan Haidt’s The Anxious Generation, including some truly alarming data that had me feeling a wave of guilt—but also helped me reframe what our role actually is as parents of teens in this digital world. We can’t turn back the clock. And we can’t control our teens. But we can absolutely decide how we want to show up. Setting boundaries doesn’t have to be about power struggles and punishment—it can be about clarity, ownership, and connection. And if you’re ready to stop second-guessing your boundaries—or feeling like you’re failing at holding them—I’d love to invite you to my next free masterclass on setting boundaries. I’ll walk you through the exact process I use with clients to create boundaries you can actually hold, without the constant fights. 💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class 💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0 ❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.  This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

    23 min

  8. SEP 24

    “My Teen Walks All Over Me”—Thoughts Moms Parenting Teens Are Ashamed They Think | Ep. 186

    Have you ever had the thought, “My teen walks all over me”… and then instantly felt ashamed for even thinking it? It's actually more like: If my own kid can treat me this way, what does that say about me? You're not just frustrated — you feel hurt, resentful, and afraid that maybe you’ve lost the connection, influence and respect you once had with your big kid. In this episode, I dig into why this thought is so common for moms of teens. I’ll show you the surprising reason why the story you attach to your teen’s behavior matters more than the behavior itself — and how shifting this perspective can help you reclaim your calm, confidence, and power without waiting for your teen to change first. Imagine showing up to these challenging moments with a sense of peace, knowing that your value as a mom doesn’t depend on whether your teen listens, obeys, or even acknowledges your existence that day. That power is available to you right now, and in this episode I’ll walk you through how to start stepping into it. So tune in, my friend — and if this resonates, I’d love for you to join me in my upcoming masterclass Setting Boundaries with Your Teen and Yourself. We’ll go deeper into what real boundaries are (hint: not just rules your teen ignores) and how to set them in a way that feels clear, calm, and effective 💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class 💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0 ❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.  This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

    20 min
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Are you stuck between wanting to guide your teen or college kid and knowing it’s time to start letting go? Welcome to The Almost Empty Nest Podcast, where moms of teens and college kids reframe what ‘letting go’ really means and stop second-guessing themselves to feel more connected, confident, and at peace in this chapter of motherhood. Each week, you’ll learn how to: • Break free from mindset traps like catastrophizing, mom guilt, and the illusion of control • Build a stronger relationship with your teen—even when they pull away or test boundaries • Strengthen your self-trust as you set boundaries, let go of anxiety, and explore your own purpose beyond parenting Hosted by master life coach—and mom of two college kids—Jennifer Collins, this show offers grounded, relatable support and mindset shifts to help you stop overthinking and start showing up as the mom and woman you truly want to be. 🎧 Start with listener favorite Episode 85: The Empty Nest Straddle — The Emotional Tug of Parenting Teens and Facing the Empty Nest.

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