The Divorced Dadvocate: Strategic Defense for Fathers

Jude Sandvall

Being unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. I ensure your mistakes don’t become your permanent reality. The Divorced Dadvocate: Strategic Defense for Fathers is the essential operational briefing for men navigating the most high-stakes transition of their lives. In a family court system that rewards preparation, pattern, and restraint, this podcast serves as your Command Center for protecting your parental role and securing your children’s future. Hosted by Jude Sandvall, each weekly briefing delivers mission-critical intelligence designed to help you navigate the "Decision Gap"—the critical time between court dates where your long-term influence as a father is either won or lost through tactical preparation or strategic drift. Every episode provides the tactical advantage you need to: Identify Exposure Points: Pinpoint the subtle mistakes that lead to the "quiet loss" of your parental authority.Master Restraint: Develop the high-conflict emotional regulation required to remain calm and defensible under pressure.Execute Strategy: Move from reactive "hot mess" to a proactive Strategic Defense Blueprint.Bridge the Lawyer Gap: Learn to manage the daily communications and co-parenting precedents that your attorney isn’t designed to handle. Since 2020, Jude has distilled thousands of hours of coaching and real-world case files into a primary resource for fathers who refuse to be sidelined. This is not just a podcast; it is your guide to paternal authority and role preservation. Access full briefings and collective intelligence inside the Command Center: https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/ Stay strong—your kids are counting on you. DISCLAIMER: The purpose of this podcast is to provide strategic information, not legal influence. It is not a substitute for professional legal or psychological care. The host and guests express their own tactical opinions and experiences; The Divorced Dadvocate neither endorses nor opposes specific views discussed.

  1. 293 - How A Dad Beat Legal Gaslighting And Built A Better Life

    FEB 2

    293 - How A Dad Beat Legal Gaslighting And Built A Better Life

    The gut-punch of high-conflict divorce isn’t just the paperwork or the silence after a slammed door—it’s realizing the system you’ve entered runs on efficiency, not fairness. We sit down with strategist and author Alex R. Dane, whose High Conflict Playbook was forged in the fire of restricted access, weaponized narratives, and court calendars that move slower than a parent’s panic. Together, we unpack how he went from shock to strategy and earned 50-50 by becoming the calmest, most consistent person in the room. Buy Alex's book: https://shorturl.at/RSiZ0 Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membership-tiers/ How Are You Adjusting To Your Divorce? Find out in this quiz - http://www.thedivorceddadvocate.com/divorce-quiz.html *FREE Dads Guide To Divorce* How to survive and thrive during and after divorce: http://www.dadsguidetodivorce.com Don't suffer in silence! Get relief from the pain and confusion of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation Coaching Consultation - schedule a time directly into my schedule at www.TalkWithJude.com. Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ Other Resources: The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/ Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ The Divorced Dadvocate Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/thedivorceddadvocate/ Being unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. Most ground is lost quietly through "drift" and decisions made under pressure. Stop the drift today at TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Access your tactical tools: Risk Assessment: Identify your "quiet loss" exposure in 10 minutes.Protection Session: Book a private triage to ensure mistakes don’t become permanent.Your kids are counting on you. Support the show

    1h 13m
  2. 292 - Build A Life That Backs You

    JAN 26

    292 - Build A Life That Backs You

    Rebuilding life after divorce often feels like a test of sheer will, but grit alone rarely carries us past Friday without a crash. The missing piece is environment—the external space we live in and the internal landscape we think in. When our surroundings pull us toward distraction, anger, or numbing, our habits follow. The key shift is to design conditions where the best behavior becomes the easiest behavior. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membership-tiers/ How Are You Adjusting To Your Divorce? Find out in this quiz - http://www.thedivorceddadvocate.com/divorce-quiz.html *FREE Dads Guide To Divorce* How to survive and thrive during and after divorce: http://www.dadsguidetodivorce.com Don't suffer in silence! Get relief from the pain and confusion of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation Coaching Consultation - schedule a time directly into my schedule at www.TalkWithJude.com. Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ Other Resources: The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/ Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ The Divorced Dadvocate Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/thedivorceddadvocate/ Being unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. Most ground is lost quietly through "drift" and decisions made under pressure. Stop the drift today at TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Access your tactical tools: Risk Assessment: Identify your "quiet loss" exposure in 10 minutes.Protection Session: Book a private triage to ensure mistakes don’t become permanent.Your kids are counting on you. Support the show

    24 min
  3. 291 - Love Is The Fuel, Skills Are The Steering Wheel

    JAN 19

    291 - Love Is The Fuel, Skills Are The Steering Wheel

    The hardest seasons can also be the clearest mirrors. When divorce turns up the heat, it doesn’t create flaws—it reveals the skills you were never taught and now urgently need. We open up about the cracks that surfaced under stress, from shutting down emotionally to fighting without resolving, and map a practical path from intention to execution. Love powers the journey, but skills steer it—presence, boundaries, conflict resolution, and emotional regulation. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membership-tiers/ How Are You Adjusting To Your Divorce? Find out in this quiz - http://www.thedivorceddadvocate.com/divorce-quiz.html *FREE Dads Guide To Divorce* How to survive and thrive during and after divorce: http://www.dadsguidetodivorce.com Don't suffer in silence! Get relief from the pain and confusion of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation Coaching Consultation - schedule a time directly into my schedule at www.TalkWithJude.com. Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ Other Resources: The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/ Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ The Divorced Dadvocate Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/thedivorceddadvocate/ Being unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. Most ground is lost quietly through "drift" and decisions made under pressure. Stop the drift today at TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Access your tactical tools: Risk Assessment: Identify your "quiet loss" exposure in 10 minutes.Protection Session: Book a private triage to ensure mistakes don’t become permanent.Your kids are counting on you. Support the show

    19 min
  4. 290 - Structure Over Strength

    JAN 12

    290 - Structure Over Strength

    Your battery isn’t empty because you’re weak—it’s drained because divorce floods your day with nonstop decisions and emotional friction. We unpack why willpower fails under that load and how simple, durable structure can carry you when grit runs out. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membership-tiers/ How Are You Adjusting To Your Divorce? Find out in this quiz - http://www.thedivorceddadvocate.com/divorce-quiz.html *FREE Dads Guide To Divorce* How to survive and thrive during and after divorce: http://www.dadsguidetodivorce.com Don't suffer in silence! Get relief from the pain and confusion of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation Coaching Consultation - schedule a time directly into my schedule at www.TalkWithJude.com. Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ Other Resources: The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/ Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ The Divorced Dadvocate Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/thedivorceddadvocate/ Being unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. Most ground is lost quietly through "drift" and decisions made under pressure. Stop the drift today at TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Access your tactical tools: Risk Assessment: Identify your "quiet loss" exposure in 10 minutes.Protection Session: Book a private triage to ensure mistakes don’t become permanent.Your kids are counting on you. Support the show

    24 min
  5. 289 - New Year, Same Chaos, Better Plan

    JAN 5

    289 - New Year, Same Chaos, Better Plan

    The new year can feel loud with resolutions while your world feels quiet and broken. If divorce has left you unmoored, this conversation offers a steadier path: not hype or hollow motivation, but direction you can act on today. We walk through a simple 21‑day framework built for dads who need clarity, calm, and a plan that fits real life. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membership-tiers/ How Are You Adjusting To Your Divorce? Find out in this quiz - http://www.thedivorceddadvocate.com/divorce-quiz.html *FREE Dads Guide To Divorce* How to survive and thrive during and after divorce: http://www.dadsguidetodivorce.com Don't suffer in silence! Get relief from the pain and confusion of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation Coaching Consultation - schedule a time directly into my schedule at www.TalkWithJude.com. Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ Other Resources: The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/ Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ The Divorced Dadvocate Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/thedivorceddadvocate/ Being unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. Most ground is lost quietly through "drift" and decisions made under pressure. Stop the drift today at TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Access your tactical tools: Risk Assessment: Identify your "quiet loss" exposure in 10 minutes.Protection Session: Book a private triage to ensure mistakes don’t become permanent.Your kids are counting on you. Support the show

    23 min
  6. 288 - What If The Pain Is Your Path To Becoming The Dad Your Kids Need

    12/29/2025

    288 - What If The Pain Is Your Path To Becoming The Dad Your Kids Need

    Divorce can feel like a blender: everything loud, spinning, and out of your control. Yet beneath the chaos is a path that can lead to a stronger you and a better relationship with your kids. That path starts with vision. When dads picture life after divorce—how they parent, how they co-parent, how they live—clarity replaces panic. A vision is not a fantasy; it’s a compass. From that picture, you can map steps, build skills, and design an environment that supports your goals. It’s the shift from reacting to leading. And leadership is the role your kids need you to claim, even when the courtroom muddies your confidence. Listeners save 25% on 1-on-1 divorce coaching! Book any coaching between now and the end of the year to claim your discount. Don't just survive this—get a strategic plan. Sign up now: https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/coaching-3/.  Enter DADS25 at checkout. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membership-tiers/ How Are You Adjusting To Your Divorce? Find out in this quiz - http://www.thedivorceddadvocate.com/divorce-quiz.html *FREE Dads Guide To Divorce* How to survive and thrive during and after divorce: http://www.dadsguidetodivorce.com Don't suffer in silence! Get relief from the pain and confusion of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation Coaching Consultation - schedule a time directly into my schedule at www.TalkWithJude.com. Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ Other Resources: The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/ Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ The Divorced Dadvocate Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/thedivorceddadvocate/ Being unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. Most ground is lost quietly through "drift" and decisions made under pressure. Stop the drift today at TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Access your tactical tools: Risk Assessment: Identify your "quiet loss" exposure in 10 minutes.Protection Session: Book a private triage to ensure mistakes don’t become permanent.Your kids are counting on you. Support the show

    1h 7m
  7. 287 - When The Truth Hurts Your Child More Than A Lie

    12/22/2025

    287 - When The Truth Hurts Your Child More Than A Lie

    The hardest part of alienation isn’t the shouting match—it’s the silence before it. In this special replay from our members’ call, parental alienation coach Charlie McCready unpacks the quiet mechanics of pre‑alienation and shows how small shifts—subtle digs, shrinking one‑on‑one time, “false choices” that adultify kids—set the stage for a later cutoff. We dig into what actually helps: airtight parenting plans that leave no wiggle room, steady documentation, and fast but measured enforcement when orders are breached. Listeners save 25% on 1-on-1 divorce coaching! Book any coaching between now and the end of the year to claim your discount. Don't just survive this—get a strategic plan. Sign up now: https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/coaching-3/.  Enter DADS25 at checkout. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membership-tiers/ How Are You Adjusting To Your Divorce? Find out in this quiz - http://www.thedivorceddadvocate.com/divorce-quiz.html *FREE Dads Guide To Divorce* How to survive and thrive during and after divorce: http://www.dadsguidetodivorce.com Don't suffer in silence! Get relief from the pain and confusion of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation Coaching Consultation - schedule a time directly into my schedule at www.TalkWithJude.com. Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ Other Resources: The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/ Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ The Divorced Dadvocate Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/thedivorceddadvocate/ Listeners save 25% on 1-on-1 divorce coaching! Book any coaching between now and the end of the year to claim your discount. Don't just survive this—get a strategic plan. Being unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. Most ground is lost quietly through "drift" and decisions made under pressure. Stop the drift today at TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Access your tactical tools: Risk Assessment: Identify your "quiet loss" exposure in 10 minutes.Protection Session: Book a private triage to ensure mistakes don’t become permanent.Your kids are counting on you. Support the show

    1h 8m
4.6
out of 5
27 Ratings

About

Being unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. I ensure your mistakes don’t become your permanent reality. The Divorced Dadvocate: Strategic Defense for Fathers is the essential operational briefing for men navigating the most high-stakes transition of their lives. In a family court system that rewards preparation, pattern, and restraint, this podcast serves as your Command Center for protecting your parental role and securing your children’s future. Hosted by Jude Sandvall, each weekly briefing delivers mission-critical intelligence designed to help you navigate the "Decision Gap"—the critical time between court dates where your long-term influence as a father is either won or lost through tactical preparation or strategic drift. Every episode provides the tactical advantage you need to: Identify Exposure Points: Pinpoint the subtle mistakes that lead to the "quiet loss" of your parental authority.Master Restraint: Develop the high-conflict emotional regulation required to remain calm and defensible under pressure.Execute Strategy: Move from reactive "hot mess" to a proactive Strategic Defense Blueprint.Bridge the Lawyer Gap: Learn to manage the daily communications and co-parenting precedents that your attorney isn’t designed to handle. Since 2020, Jude has distilled thousands of hours of coaching and real-world case files into a primary resource for fathers who refuse to be sidelined. This is not just a podcast; it is your guide to paternal authority and role preservation. Access full briefings and collective intelligence inside the Command Center: https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/ Stay strong—your kids are counting on you. DISCLAIMER: The purpose of this podcast is to provide strategic information, not legal influence. It is not a substitute for professional legal or psychological care. The host and guests express their own tactical opinions and experiences; The Divorced Dadvocate neither endorses nor opposes specific views discussed.

You Might Also Like