Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators

Jordan D'Nelle
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Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators with Jordan D'Nelle is an unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations. Tune in every other week for topics that are relevant to learning how women's bodies work and how to improve your intimate life. Subscribe and share to continue to bring awareness to women health.

  1. 5D AGO

    Pleasure, Power, No Rules with Papiii Chulaaa

    Pleasure, power, and dating without apology. In this episode, Corithina (Papiiii Chulaaa), sex educator, youth empowerment leader, and self-proclaimed career dom, joins Jordan D’Nelle to explore holistic sex education, pleasure-centered learning, and radical self-ownership. They dive into dating dynamics, communication, kink, and why pleasure, not just prevention, belongs in sex education. Corinthia shares her journey through intentional “messy” dating, redefining relationships, and embracing autonomy in love and desire. You’ll also hear powerful insights on emotional availability, cultural narratives around relationships, and how to create connections that actually align with your values. Jump to the Good Stuff: 02:24 – Origin story + sex ed activism 06:20 – Why pleasure belongs in sex education 07:37 – Confidence & communication through sex ed 08:00 – Teaching men + menstrual cycle awareness 10:06 – Menopause, generational gaps, and lifelong sex education 13:51 – Dating sabbatical: lovers vs relationships 16:45 – Communication styles in modern dating: voice notes over texting 19:50 – Monogamy myths + cultural conditioning 28:26 – Friendship as a core relationship model 29:15 – Choosing partners who align with your work + identity 31:27 – Kink, BDSM, and finding compatible partners 39.17 – Dating culture, apps, and why men aren’t showing up 45:20 – The “male loneliness epidemic” + relationship skill gaps 46:41 – Pleasure, dominance, and evolving sexual exploration 48:00 – Defining pleasure + where to find Papiii Chulaaa Pleasure Highlights: Pleasure belongs in sex educationCommunication > dating gamesMonogamy isn’t the only modelFriendship as core relationshipEmotional availability gapPleasure = self-ownership Connect with Papiii Chulaaa: Instagram @papiiichulaaaInstagram @corysmileyfaceSubstack  @corysmileyface Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more HERE.  Connect with Jordan D’Nelle: Facebook @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcastTikTok @‌jordandnelleYoutube @jordandnelle Email: JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com If you loved this Episode, please support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.comLeave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives!Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already!Follow Jordan D’Nelle on social media for teasers and extras! Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/vaginas-vulvas-and-vibrators/id1516181113  Spotify Podcasts: open.spotify.com/show/2CyRph5Yawsqck4QdDuN4q?si=20973322f09e4f0f  Youtube @jordandnelle: youtube.com/@jordandnelle  *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated. Website Links: jordandnelle.com Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

    51 min

  2. APR 16

    Own Your Pleasure with Dr. Amber Sophus

    Watch or listen on YouTube + all major podcast platforms! What if “good sex” has nothing to do with orgasms? In this episode, Amber, a social behavior research scientist, joins us to explore women’s sexual pleasure and why pleasure has been left out of sexual health conversations. We dive into the science and stigma around STI prevention, the role of communication and self-exploration, and how societal expectations shape our experiences in the bedroom. Amber shares insights from her research and her “Pleasure Class” workshops, unpacking why so many women struggle to identify what they actually want and how to start reclaiming it. From toys and turn-ons to boundaries and body awareness, this conversation challenges what you thought you knew about pleasure. Because great sex isn’t about performance - it’s about connection. Jump to the Good Stuff: 03:29 - Why pleasure is missing from sexual health conversations 07:55 - Why orgasms don’t equal good sex 10:41 - The pressure to perform vs. actually enjoying sex 13:07 - Why most women don’t know what they want 14:03 - Self-pleasure: the foundation for better partnered sex 16:55 - Toys: why what you like solo ≠ what you like with a partner 18:31 - How to communicate desires during sex without killing the vibe 18:49 - The “pleasure menu” concept 35:26 - Why negotiating condoms can sabotage pleasure 30:58 - Sexual pleasure as political (especially for Black women) 41:08 - Final reflections Pleasure Highlights: Pleasure has historically been excluded from sexual health, especially for womenGood sex is about the entire experience, not just the orgasmMany women know what they don’t want, but struggle to name what they do wantSelf-exploration is essential for confident communication with partnersPreferences vary widely and can change over timeTrying something once isn’t enough; exploration takes repetitionSolo vs. partnered pleasure can feel completely differentCommunication during sex is a skill and a game changer“Negotiating” needs (like condom use) can disconnect you from pleasureBeing in your head = being out of your body - and your pleasureSexual pleasure is deeply tied to identity, culture, and politicsPleasure extends beyond sex - mental, emotional, and physical well-being all play a roleYou don’t need permission to want pleasure but many people still feel like they do Connect with Dr. Amber Sophus: ⁠Instagram⁠ @Dr.AmberSophus Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more ⁠HERE⁠.  Connect with Jordan D’Nelle: ⁠Facebook⁠ @‌jordandnelle ⁠Instagram⁠ @‌jordandnelle ⁠Instagram⁠ @‌TheVVVPodcast⁠TikTok⁠ @‌jordandnelle⁠Youtube⁠ @jordandnelle Email: JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com If you loved this Episode, please support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! Join the Patreon community:⁠ patreon.JordanDnelle.com⁠Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives!Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already!Follow Jordan D’Nelle on social media for teasers and extras!Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast: ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠ ⁠Spotify Podcasts⁠ ⁠Youtube @jordandnelle⁠ *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated. Website Links: ⁠jordandnelle.com⁠ Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

    43 min

  3. APR 2

    From Fantasy to Reality with Carly

    Watch or listen on YouTube + all major podcast platforms! Write your hottest fantasies into existence! In this episode, Carly, creator of Aurore, joins Jordan D’Nelle to explore the power of smart, sexy erotica for women. Carly shares why women often crave erotica over visual porn, how it fuels imagination, celebrates real bodies, and helps expand your personal “sex bucket list.”  Together they dive into the power of writing your own erotica, from reliving hot memories and healing past encounters to straight-up manifesting the sex you want. Along the way, they explore how this practice not only boosts creativity and sexual confidence, but also makes communicating your desires feel easier, more natural, and a lot more fun. Jump to the Good Stuff: 03:47 – Why Women Love Erotica More Than Porn 06:05 – Healing Through Erotica 08:20 – Writing & Manifesting Sex Stories 12:15 – Plane Hookups, Gym Pick-Ups & DM Sliding Done Right 22:41 – Toxic Situationships vs. Clear Communication 25:38 – Erotica in the Bedroom 33:15 – Solo Pleasure & Slowing Down 37:30 – Defining Pleasure Pleasure Highlights: Erotica is powerful because it’s customizable. You control the fantasy, insert real bodies, and stay fully in your imagination without visual porn’s limitations or insecurities. Writing your own sex stories is both arousing and healing. Relive the good, rewrite the disappointing, and even manifest future encounters. Manifestation through writing works. Jordan’s spicy stories have literally come true; putting desires on paper (or sharing them) gives clear permission and builds consent. Good sex fuels creativity. When you’re having satisfying sex or feeling desired, your creative energy skyrockets. Communication is everything. Whether negotiating desires, setting expectations in dating, or introducing new moves inspired by erotica, be upfront about what you want (and what you don’t). Everyday pleasure matters. Slowing down and eroticizing routine moments (coffee, skincare, walking) deepens overall sexual pleasure and life satisfaction. Real, relatable stories hit hardest. Unrequited desire, yearning, and messy human connections often feel hotter than perfect fairy-tale romance. Supportive partners exist. Men who celebrate your sexual openness and even draw inspiration from your work are out there. Connect with Carly Pifer: Instagram @readaurore Substack @readaurore Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more HERE.  Connect with Jordan D’Nelle: Facebook @‌jordandnelle  Instagram @‌jordandnelle  Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcast TikTok @‌jordandnelle Youtube @jordandnelle Email: JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com If you loved this Episode, please support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.com Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives! Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already! Follow Jordan D’Nelle on social media for teasers and extras! Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts Spotify Podcasts Youtube @jordandnelle *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated. Website Links: jordandnelle.com readaurore.com Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

    41 min

  4. MAR 19

    Discovering Your Pleasure with Hannah, The Libido Fairy

    Discovering Your Pleasure with Hannah, The Libido Fairy Watch or listen on YouTube + all major podcast platforms! Struggling with “What do I want in bed?” or feeling like sex has become routine? In this episode of Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, host Jordan D’Nelle and Hannah, The Libido Fairy, drop raw, hilarious truth bombs on reigniting desire and boosting libido in long-term relationships. They reframe sex as adult playtime: ditch porn pressure, embrace sex exploration, and treat new kinks like the floppy first pancake - try anything twice for real calibration. Listen for practical, shame-free tools for better communication, boundaries, and erotic connection. Jump to the Good Stuff: 00:00 – Intro & Meet The Libido Fairy 04:24 – Sex as Adult Playtime 06:24 – The Floppy Pancake Rule: Try Anything Twice 09:55 – Tuning Into Your Body’s Yes/No 13:05 – The Likes + Limits Checklist Magic 14:37 – Navigating Mismatched Desires 18:59 – King & Queen Nights 23:29 – Daily Rituals for Lasting Connection 43:45 – What Hannah’s Exploring Now 45:46 – Defining Pleasure Pleasure Highlights: ​Treat sex like pancakes: Try things, notice your body’s yes/no signals (tingling, squirmy), and try anything twice—first try is just calibration.​Embrace playful exploration: Separate maintenance sex from no-pressure sex exploration sessions—fail, experiment, build desire in long-term relationships.​Use Hannah’s free Likes + Limits Checklist (500+ items) to map desires, find overlaps, and avoid resentment.​Unlock King/Queen Nights for focused pleasure, plus daily 6-second kisses and eye contact for sustained heat.​Pleasure = anything that brings you more alive: sustainable joy through communication, boundaries, and prioritizing your relationship. Connect with Hannah : ​Instagram @thelibidofairy​TikTok @thelibidofairy​Facebook @thelibidofairy​YouTube @thelibidofairy​Podcast: The Libido Fairy Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more ⁠HERE⁠.  Connect with Jordan D’Nelle: ​Facebook @‌jordandnelle ​Instagram @‌jordandnelle ​Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcast​TikTok @‌jordandnelle​Youtube @jordandnelle Email: JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com If you loved this Episode, please support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! ​Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.com​Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives!​Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already!​Follow Jordan D’Nelle on social media for teasers and extras! Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts Spotify Podcasts Youtube @jordandnelle *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated. Website Links: ​Jordan D’Nelle⁠⁠​⁠⁠Hannah’s Likes and Limits Checklist (Menu)⁠⁠ ​⁠⁠The Libido Fairy Webite⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.thelibidofairy.com/⁠⁠ ​⁠⁠The Relationship Ritual Guide⁠⁠ - includes the King and Queen Night resource Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

    48 min

  5. MAR 5

    The Pleasure Evolution with Kim Airs

    The Pleasure Evolution with Kim Airs Watch or listen on YouTube + all major podcast platforms! We're back baby!! And we’re kicking things off with an absolute legend: Kim Airs, the trailblazing sex toy pioneer who ditched her Harvard job in 1993 to open one of the first women-friendly sex shops and has been myth-busting, innovating, and celebrating pleasure ever since. In this juicy return episode, Kim spills the wild history of sex toys – from bathtub-caulk dildos to today's mind-blowing robot strokers and app-controlled vibes – while sharing hands-free orgasm secrets, breathwork magic, lazy toy-cleaning hacks, and why really letting go unlocks next-level fun. Jump to the Good Stuff:  02:40 – Welcome back after 19 months! Introducing legend Kim Airs 03:30 – From boring marriage to smut hound: Kim’s wild origin story 04:30 – Writing for On Our Backs & the spark to open Grand Opening! 05:48 – Quitting Harvard to sell “rubber dicks to girls” 11:28 – The surprising bathtub-caulk origin of silicone dildos 15:15 – Busting the silicone lube on silicone dildo myth - test it overnight! 16:48 – Lazy cleaning hacks: Baby wipes & why most “toy cleaners” are overkill 20:18 – Evolution of toys: From jelly rubber to app-controlled & discreet designs 23:05 – Penis pleasure explosion: Robot strokers, spinning, thrusting & beyond Fleshlight 27:00 – Sex dolls & AI companions - fascinating or concerning? 39:03 – Hands-free orgasms: Kim’s fMRI-proven breath & energy magic 41:32 – Letting go = animal-level pleasure - scream, grab sheets! 44:34 – Beginner tips: Pick what visually turns you on + check measurements 48:42 – Final thoughts + where to find Kim Pleasure Highlights: Silicone's surprising origin: Bathtub caulk saved a marriage!Busting myths: Silicone lube + silicone toys? Test it—it's usually fine now.Hands-free Os are real (and learnable via breath/energy work).Modern penis toys are exploding—way beyond Fleshlight.Let go of control for animal-level pleasure (scream, grab sheets—it's hot!). Connect with Kim Airs: Instagram: @KimAirsTikTok: @TheKimAirsFacebook: @Kim.AirsPodcast: SexChat with Kim AirsCameo:  @Naughty Grandma Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more HERE.  Connect with Jordan D’Nelle: Facebook @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcastTikTok @‌jordandnelleYoutube @jordandnelle Email: JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com If you loved this Episode, please support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.comLeave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives!Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already!Follow Jordan D’Nelle on social media for teasers and extras! Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts Spotify Podcasts Youtube @jordandnelle Website Links: jordandnelle.comKim Airs LinkTreehttps://grandopening.com/ SEXchat with Kim Aires | Spotify Podcasts *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated. Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

    53 min

  6. 11/14/2024

    Cultivating Emotional Intimacy with Jodie Milton

    Humans have a deep need for connection, and emotional intimacy fulfills this by allowing us to truly be seen by others. In this episode, Jodie Milton joins us to explore emotional intimacy and its impact on partnered relationships. We discuss practical ways to cultivate intimacy, address common barriers, and discuss the importance of nurturing these connections in friendships. Jodie also shares valuable advice for men on building emotional intelligence, helping listeners strengthen their ability to connect deeply and authentically with others. You can find Jodie Milton on Instagram and Facebook @practicalintimacy. Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more HERE. Follow Jordan D'Nelle on Facebook and Instagram @jordandnelle and @TheVVVPodcast. Email: JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com Support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.com Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives! Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already! *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. jordandnelle.com practicalintimacy.com Free intimacy quiz: https://practicalintimacy.com/intimacy-quiz-for-couples/ Online intimacy course for couples: https://practicalintimacy.com/online-connection-intimacy-course-for-couples

    49 min

  7. 10/31/2024

    Sexuality, Desire, and Pleasure with Jennifer Summers

    Jennifer Summers joins us to discuss sexuality, intimacy, and pleasure. We cover topics such as the role of sex toys in relationships, strategies for improving desire and balancing partners' needs,  navigating polyamory and non-monogamy, and the significance of open communication, consent, and honesty.  You can find Jennifer Summers on Instagram and TikTok @theselfmadediva. Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more HERE. Follow Jordan D'Nelle on Facebook and Instagram @jordandnelle and @TheVVVPodcast. Email: JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com Support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.com Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives! Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already! *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. jordandnelle.com selfmadediva.com

    1h 5m

  8. 10/17/2024

    Creating a Three Hour Sex Date with Jennifer Kaylo

    So much becomes possible when you open your mind to new possibilities. Jennifer Kaylo joins us to talk about three-hour sex dates. We explore concepts like erotic blueprints, the emotional impact of long sexual experiences, teaching partners to enhance sexual experiences, and navigating open relationships and throuples.  You can find Jennifer on Instagram @theopenbedroompodcast. Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more HERE. Follow Jordan D'Nelle on Facebook and Instagram @jordandnelle and @TheVVVPodcast. Email: JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com Support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.com Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives! Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already! *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. jordandnelle.com jenniferkayloruscin.com Link to Opening Up Guide

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Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators with Jordan D'Nelle is an unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations. Tune in every other week for topics that are relevant to learning how women's bodies work and how to improve your intimate life. Subscribe and share to continue to bring awareness to women health.

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