As a proud gay man, my fear is that other gay or bisexual men whose religious backgrounds make them afraid to accept their sexuality will listen to this podcast and be coerced into a lifetime of shame and self loathing.
Despite their claims of being compassionate and open-minded, Chris and Scott use this platform to peddle a metric ton of misinformation about sexuality, whether it’s the idea that trauma or neglect is likely present in every gay man’s childhood or that “lots of married gay guys” are in unhappy open relationships with intimacy problems. Neither of them is even remotely qualified to opine about this stuff with accuracy, and their built-in bias as (apparent) straight Christian men means none of their advice should be taken seriously by folks like me who aren’t straight. Happy, well-adjusted gay men who aren’t burdened with religious trauma ABSOLUTELY exist, but these guys will never highlight that perspective on their show because they’re only interested in convincing people that “same sex attraction” (itself a bogus term) can be “managed” or “dealt with” if you examine your life and what might cause your sexual deviance.
To any man who’s listening to this show because you’re struggling with your sexuality: I’ve been there, and the solution isn’t to repress your feelings or ascribe your innate sexuality to personal failings or stressors in your life. You are who you are, and nothing can change that. The solution is to understand that homophobic religious beliefs don’t have to dictate the terms of your life.
