Where Do We Go From Here?

Devi Abraham & Jessica Van Der Wyngaard
Where Do We Go From Here?

A bi-monthly podcast untangling sex, self, and community for a new generation of Christians. Leave purity culture behind, save what matters.

  1. EPISODE 2

    What Does Safe Sex and Ghosting Have in Common?

    Welcome to Where Do We Go From Here's new monthly episode series: No Hard Feelings - where we take on the questions that don’t have easy answers. But the answers don’t need to be hard and fast. Here we’ll explore different perspectives, share our own thoughts and invite you to form your own - because here, there’s no hard feelings.  Host: Jessica  Co-hosts: Emily & Kristen  In the inaugeral episode of 'No Hard Feelings', Jessica, Emily, and Kristen delve into the complexities of ghosting and its implications in dating and relationships. They explore whether ghosting is ever acceptable, the nuances of communication in various relationship stages, and the importance of safety and vulnerability. The conversation encourages thoughtful dialogue and diverse perspectives on these often contentious topics. In this episode, the hosts discuss the emotional impact of ghosting in relationships, emphasizing the lack of communication and emotional intelligence often exhibited by men. They transition into the topic of contraception, debating whose responsibility it is and the importance of open conversations about sexual health. The discussion highlights the need for mutual respect and understanding in relationships, particularly regarding contraceptive choices. The episode concludes with a reflection on the challenges of adulting and the necessity of ongoing dialogue in navigating complex issues.   Takeaways: Ghosting is defined as ending a relationship without explanation. The hosts discuss the disrespectful nature of ghosting in established relationships. Safety concerns can justify ghosting in certain situations. Communication is essential, but not always safe or easy. Different perspectives on ghosting can lead to more understanding. Caspering, or friendly ghosting, is a more respectful approach. The impact of ghosting on emotional resilience is significant. Generational differences in ghosting behaviors are evident. The hosts emphasize the importance of vulnerability in dating. Navigating dating requires balancing honesty and personal safety. Ghosting leaves individuals with an ambiguous loss. Most men lack emotional intelligence regarding ghosting. Women often articulate their feelings better than men. Contraception is a shared responsibility between partners. Open conversations about sex are crucial for safety. Condoms should be prioritized to protect both partners. Purity culture impacts decisions around contraception. Conversations can prevent misunderstandings in relationships. Adulting involves navigating difficult conversations. It's important to keep asking questions about relationships.   Where Do We Go From Here? is a podcast hosted and produced by Jessica Vanderwyngaard.  Support the work of the podcast at patreon.com/wheredowegopod

    47 min
  2. "Talking About Sex in Church Broke Us" — Donna Freitas on Healing What Religion Couldn’t

    EPISODE 12

    "Talking About Sex in Church Broke Us" — Donna Freitas on Healing What Religion Couldn’t

    Author, scholar, and survivor Donna Freitas joins us for a raw and deeply thoughtful conversation on the ways purity culture, religious silence, and institutional failures around sexuality have left lasting wounds — and where healing might actually begin. In this episode, we talk about: 📚 Donna’s personal story of church trauma and spiritual silence ✝️ The impact of purity culture on desire, consent, and autonomy 🧠 Why Christian spaces still struggle to talk about sex without shame 💔 How writing became Donna’s way back to something like prayer 🔍 The difference between sexual ethics and sexual rules 🧎‍♀️ What healing can look like when religion has been the source of harm 👀 The things that don’t get said in evangelical and Catholic conversations around sex — and why they matter This one is for anyone who's been handed shame in the name of God — and is still trying to sort through what’s true, what’s trauma, and what’s worth keeping.   Donna Freitas is an author, researcher, professor, and leading voice in conversations around sex, consent, spirituality, and young adult faith. Website: www.donnafreitas.com Substack: @donnafreitas Instagram: @donnafreitas.writer   Where Do We Go From Here is a podcast by Jessica Vanderwyngaard For more content and to partner with the show: https://www.patreon.com/wheredowegopod Today's Host was EDJ - https://evangelicaldeconstructionjourney.com/

    33 min
4.7
out of 5
190 Ratings

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A bi-monthly podcast untangling sex, self, and community for a new generation of Christians. Leave purity culture behind, save what matters.

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