66 episodes

Listen to the incomparable therapist Esther Perel counsel real couples as they reveal the most intimate, personal, and complicated details of the conflicts that have brought them to her door. This season Esther speaks to a constellation of new relationships: A couple wrestling with the guilt they feel over the happiness their infidelity created. Another trying to make space for their queerness in an outwardly appearing hetero relationship. A set of friends trying to sort out if their childhood friendship needs to continue into adulthood. And Esther checks back in with couples from seasons past to see where they are now as she creates a space for us to hear our own lives and struggles articulated in the stories of others. So....where should we begin?

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Esther Perel Global Media & Gimlet

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 12.3K Ratings

Listen to the incomparable therapist Esther Perel counsel real couples as they reveal the most intimate, personal, and complicated details of the conflicts that have brought them to her door. This season Esther speaks to a constellation of new relationships: A couple wrestling with the guilt they feel over the happiness their infidelity created. Another trying to make space for their queerness in an outwardly appearing hetero relationship. A set of friends trying to sort out if their childhood friendship needs to continue into adulthood. And Esther checks back in with couples from seasons past to see where they are now as she creates a space for us to hear our own lives and struggles articulated in the stories of others. So....where should we begin?

    I've Had 100 Conversations With You In My Head, Part 2

    I've Had 100 Conversations With You In My Head, Part 2

    We first met them three seasons ago in the painful aftermath of an infidelity. She was diagnosed with an STD during a routine visit to her OBGYN, leading to the revelation that her husband had been visiting sex workers. Four years later, they’re still together, but old wounds persist.
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    • 55 min
    Esther Calling - I Need Her to See Me

    Esther Calling - I Need Her to See Me

    In this latest episode of Esther Calling, we meet a young woman looking for advice on how to stand up for herself in a fraught and traumatic relationship with her mother. She worries the trauma and violence she experienced in upbringing is dictating how she responds to authority figures elsewhere in her life.
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    • 27 min
    Esther Calling - Still Single at 40

    Esther Calling - Still Single at 40

    In this episode of Esther Calling, Esther meets a man who’s never been in a relationship for more than five months. As he approaches age 40, he knows the reason lies with him, and not the women he’s dating. Esther encourages him to look back and see if the clues can be found in his early parental relationships. Perhaps the work starts there.
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    • 27 min
    We Started As An Affair

    We Started As An Affair

    Esther says in this session, “a love story is between two people, a marriage engages an entire community of people.“ Here we see how that plays out when the relationship in question is the result of an affair; when it means the dissolution of two prior marriages and the breaking up families. How does this couple write their own two-person love story when there’s "an entire community of people" with a stake in the plot?
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    • 56 min
    Esther Calling - Stuck In the Middle

    Esther Calling - Stuck In the Middle

    He prides himself on being an empathic confidante to his friends…but is it to a fault? In this episode of Esther Calling, we meet a man fed up with being the container for his friends’ relationship woes. But, he wonders, can I put up barriers without losing the intimacy of those friendships?
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    • 25 min
    Esther Calling - I Deserve to Be a Mother

    Esther Calling - I Deserve to Be a Mother

    She longs for a child, but her partner isn’t there yet, and as a trans woman she already faces other barriers to parenthood. She worries she’s letting her partner’s indecision dictate her own future happiness. She and Esther navigate the delicate dance between exerting her own wishes within the relationship, without letting the pressure shut down the conversation altogether.
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    • 31 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
12.3K Ratings

12.3K Ratings

Alliehope18 ,

Thank you!

Listening to this podcast has given me the tools to dramatically change my relationships for the better. I can not recommend this podcast enough. Thank you so much Esther for your dedication to helping others look at their relationships in a new light.

JJulG ,

Grateful

Beautiful session! I love having the opportunity to listen to this and learn and grow as an individual and therapist. Thank you, Esther!

LuluReview ,

Fascinating

Esther is amazing. I love listening to her ask questions.

What’s fascinating is how she leads clients to confront and explain their profound selfishness and they can’t see it ie Leaving your wife and 4 children to marry your mistress who was also married with two children. Stunned me.

‘How can you explain saying no to all the expectations and the values you purported to hold dear, and put your own personal pleasure ahead of the highest good of alllllll those lives?’

I’ll never stop listening, just to hear the protective parts of people run massive interference for their exiles.

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