130 episodes

Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Esther’s Office Hours

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.7 • 13.6K Ratings

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Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.

Listen on Apple Podcasts
Requires subscription and macOS 11.4 or higher

    The Arc of Love - I Don't Think I Want Kids? But My Partner Might?

    The Arc of Love - I Don't Think I Want Kids? But My Partner Might?

    The Arc of Love is my gift to you as your summer beach listen of 2024. A curated collection of stories about trust and betrayal, care and aggression, closeness and distance, attraction and disgust, rupture and repair. As the stories mirror and amplify our own experiences, they help us grapple with the parts of ourselves that hold the same emotions, conflicts, and forbidden truths. Inevitably, one of these episodes will resonate with you, even if it’s not your story. I invite you to listen and tell me which one speaks to you.

    A man has never thought of himself as a father but the partner he's devoted to is now unsure if she wants kids or not. With additional unknowns in his life, Esther helps guide him through his different questions about what the future holds.

    Esther Callings are a one time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com.

    Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter
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    • 54 min
    Where It All Began

    Where It All Began

    Esther has long said that "couples therapy is the best theater in town" but it wasn't until Esther opened the doors to her office on Where Should We Begin that we could agree with her. Eight years ago, the very first session of Where Should We Begin was recorded. This week we re-released Impotent Is No Way To Define A Man in the main feed but afterwards we recorded a little something special for Apple subscribers. Join Esther, Jesse, and our sound engineer and composer Paul, as they revisit the very first session ever recorded.

    Impotent is No Way To Define a Man

    Impotent is No Way To Define a Man

    This is a classic session, from the first season of Where Should We Begin? A husband hasn’t had an erection in 12 years and struggles with acknowledging it openly. His wife, in despair over her feelings of hopelessness in the bedroom, seeks relief from her sexual frustration and feelings of resentment. Esther reinforces to both of them that defining him as “impotent” is only making things worse.

    Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter
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    • 47 min
    Stress, Vulnerability, Security, and Men with George Faller

    Stress, Vulnerability, Security, and Men with George Faller

    When we think about stress, we think of it as being bad and wanting to avoid it at all costs. But the research is clear that stress is necessary for growth and development. Fellow therapist, George Faller, joins Esther in this important conversattion about stress, vulnerability, security, and men. This episode is part of a longer conversation that Esther and George had on her membership platform Sessions with Esther Perel, where Esther hosts conversations  with colleagues in and around the mental health space.

    For more on George Faller visit www.georgefaller.com, his training website www.successinvulnerability.com, and his podcast https://www.foreplayrst.com/

    Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter

    You Keep Planning A Future Without Me

    You Keep Planning A Future Without Me

    They met as community organizers in their neighborhood. She had just gotten out of a multi-year marriage to her ex-wife and began to forge new friendships. After about a year, something shifted for her and she began to develop feelings for him, sending her seemingly solid identity into a tailspin. After 15 years of identifying as a lesbian, she was in her first straight relationship. Now, he is beginning to question what he wants out of life and their relationship and can’t seem to grow out of his youth-formed habits of yearning for greener pastures. They find themselves at an erotic stalemate and come to Esther for help.

    Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter
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    • 51 min
    A Few Weeks Later: Esther Calling - Four Affairs, Four Divorces. Why Do I Keep Doing This?

    A Few Weeks Later: Esther Calling - Four Affairs, Four Divorces. Why Do I Keep Doing This?

    She left four marriages after having an affair each time. After coming to Esther to try to figure out why, she returned to therapy on her own. Now, a few weeks later, she sent Esther a voice note to let her know where everything landed and what actually happened to her current relationship.

    As a thank you for the entire month of June, Esther wants to offer you 20% percent off the annual price so you can stay connected on her Office Hours on Apple Podcasts. So if you are a monthly member now is the best time to convert to being an annual subscriber. And thanks so much for listening and for all your help to make Esther's Office Hours exactly what you want them to be.

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
13.6K Ratings

13.6K Ratings

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Heartwarming

This podcast brought me to tears. The counseling seems to work for people really well and it’s really special to see all these relationships get better.

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Sheron

What an excellent session that offered a different way to view her father. Childhood trauma is so deep and it is amazing how it gets passed on. I love this podcast. The best therapy I have ever had.

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I used to really like this show and found it helpful, but lately it just seems like she nit picks certain things. For example, the episode I’m listening to now - she said she wonders when the last time the man touched the woman’s legs was. The man answers and Esther says he’s insecure for answering. When it clearly seems like she was asking him. I would feel very self conscious if I was in one of her sessions, and I’m sure some of them do feel that way. Also, seems like she insinuates too much.

It’s also no longer couple counseling, as there was one with a daughter talking about her dad. Which is fine, I’m just saying it’s not what the show originally was.

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