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You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for Cycle Breakers with Toxic Parents

Torie Wiksell
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Psychotherapist and Coach, Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about challenging and dysfunctional family dynamics. In addition to specializing in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders as both a therapist and coach, Torie grew up with a mother who had an unmanaged personality disorder.Torie has spent a significant portion of her 12 year career as a therapist working with clients with personality disorders, their partners, and family members, and brings a unique and relatable perspective to navigating these complicated relationships.Follow TorieOn TikTok: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoachOn Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundariesLearn more about Coaching and the Confident Boundaries Membership: www.confidentboundaries.comDisclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  1. 4D AGO

    Breaking Family Cycles Without Shame: Why Healing Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All

    Big news: You’re Not Crazy just joined the Bleav Podcast Network! 🎉 That means more growth, more community, and more support for cycle breakers like you. In this episode, Torie shares what this milestone means for the podcast—and then dives into the harmful “bad advice” cycle breakers often hear, like being told there’s only one right way to heal. *Want personalized support, live holiday workshops, and Torie’s updated Holiday Survival Guide? Join the Confident Boundaries Membership today: confidentboundaries.com/membership **And, get access to ad-free episodes when you join: You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    15 min
  2. Breaking Family Cycles Without Shame: Why Healing Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All

    5D AGO • THE PRIVATE FEED ONLY

    Breaking Family Cycles Without Shame: Why Healing Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All

    Big news: You’re Not Crazy just joined the Bleav Podcast Network! 🎉 That means more growth, more community, and more support for cycle breakers like you. In this episode, Torie shares what this milestone means for the podcast—and then dives into the harmful “bad advice” cycle breakers often hear, like being told there’s only one right way to heal. If you’ve ever felt pressured to go no-contact, shamed for not doing enough, or overwhelmed by black-and-white advice, this episode will remind you that your healing journey is yours—and it doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. *Want personalized support, live holiday workshops, and Torie’s updated Holiday Survival Guide? Join the Confident Boundaries Membership today: confidentboundaries.com/membership

    15 min
  3. My Thoughts on Unknown Number

    SEP 25 • THE PRIVATE FEED ONLY

    My Thoughts on Unknown Number

    In this episode of You’re Not Crazy: The Private Feed, I’m diving into the Netflix documentary Unknown Number and unpacking it through the lens of toxic family dynamics. From the “perfect mom” mask that hides abuse, to the fake apologies that are really about saving face, to the heartbreaking freeze/fawn responses we see in Lauren, I share my perspective on how closely this story mirrors what so many of us have lived. I also talk about enabling parents—where the line finally gets drawn, why it matters, and what real repair would actually take. This isn’t some extreme outlier; it’s a painful but validating look at the patterns cycle breakers know all too well. I’ll be releasing another Private Feed episode before the end of September, focused on your holiday questions—so if you’ve got one, email me at torie@confidentboundaries.com with the subject line “Private Feed Question.” And if you’re a member, don’t forget there will be three bonus holiday workshops and a holiday boundaries PDF coming soon! If you need ongoing support, the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/mo) is the place to be, with the full training library, live monthly workshops, two weekly coaching calls, private community chat, and the Boundaries Helper GPT for 24/7 guidance.

    26 min

  4. SEP 23

    Toxic Parents: Why Their ‘Good Intentions’ Don’t Matter—Focus on Behavior Instead

    In today’s episode, I’m sharing one of the most important mindset shifts for healing from narcissistic parents or emotionally immature parents: stop asking if they’re a “good person” and start focusing on their repeated behaviors. So many cycle breakers get stuck in the what ifs: What if they don’t mean to hurt me? What if they’re doing their best? What if they had a hard childhood too? But here’s the truth: your healing doesn’t depend on their intentions—it depends on their behavior. When your parent repeatedly dismisses, minimizes, or harms you despite you telling them it hurts, that’s the real issue. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why focusing on “good vs. bad” keeps you stuck in the cycle How to identify harmful patterns of behavior in your parent Practical ways to reclaim your power and protect your peace This shift will help you get out of the weeds, stop wasting energy, and finally set boundaries that stick. Resources & Next Steps: Download the Confident Boundaries App for free tools & the latest podcast episodes Join the Confident Boundaries Membership for live coaching, workshops, and 24/7 support from The Boundaries Helper GPT Subscribe to You’re Not Crazy: The Private Feed for bonus episodes and archived content Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    15 min
  5. Toxic Parents: Why Their ‘Good Intentions’ Don’t Matter—Focus on Behavior Instead

    SEP 23 • THE PRIVATE FEED ONLY

    Toxic Parents: Why Their ‘Good Intentions’ Don’t Matter—Focus on Behavior Instead

    In today’s episode, I’m sharing one of the most important mindset shifts for healing from narcissistic parents or emotionally immature parents: stop asking if they’re a “good person” and start focusing on their repeated behaviors. So many cycle breakers get stuck in the what ifs: What if they don’t mean to hurt me? What if they’re doing their best? What if they had a hard childhood too? But here’s the truth: your healing doesn’t depend on their intentions—it depends on their behavior. When your parent repeatedly dismisses, minimizes, or harms you despite you telling them it hurts, that’s the real issue. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why focusing on “good vs. bad” keeps you stuck in the cycle How to identify harmful patterns of behavior in your parent Practical ways to reclaim your power and protect your peace This shift will help you get out of the weeds, stop wasting energy, and finally set boundaries that stick. Resources & Next Steps: Download the Confident Boundaries App for free tools & the latest podcast episodes Join the Confident Boundaries Membership for live coaching, workshops, and 24/7 support from The Boundaries Helper GPT

    15 min

  6. SEP 16

    I’ve Been Self-Gaslighting a Lot Lately: Why It’s Happening, What I’m Doing, and Why I’m Not Freaked Out

    Lately, I’ve caught myself spiraling into self-gaslighting quite a bit—wondering if I’m exaggerating my childhood trauma, if maybe my mom wasn’t really a narcissist, or if I’m just “too sensitive.” If you’ve ever doubted your own reality, you’re definitely not alone. In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, I share: Why self-gaslighting shows up (especially around stressful seasons like the holidays) The hidden reasons cycle breakers start questioning themselves How I personally deal with these thoughts today—without letting them derail my healing Why it no longer scares me the way it used to Self-gaslighting doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you grew up in a toxic family system that trained you to doubt yourself. For deeper support navigating toxic family dynamics, join the Confident Boundaries Membership. You’ll get access to live coaching, holiday workshops, and The Boundaries Helper GPT—your 24/7 tool for navigating boundary challenges. Learn more at confidentboundaries.com/membership Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    19 min
  7. I’ve Been Self-Gaslighting a Lot Lately: Why It’s Happening, What I’m Doing, and Why I’m Not Freaked Out

    SEP 15 • THE PRIVATE FEED ONLY

    I’ve Been Self-Gaslighting a Lot Lately: Why It’s Happening, What I’m Doing, and Why I’m Not Freaked Out

    Lately, I’ve caught myself spiraling into self-gaslighting quite a bit—wondering if I’m exaggerating my childhood trauma, if maybe my mom wasn’t really a narcissist, or if I’m just “too sensitive.” If you’ve ever doubted your own reality, you’re definitely not alone. In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, I share: Why self-gaslighting shows up (especially around stressful seasons like the holidays) The hidden reasons cycle breakers start questioning themselves How I personally deal with these thoughts today—without letting them derail my healing Why it no longer scares me the way it used to Self-gaslighting doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you grew up in a toxic family system that trained you to doubt yourself. For deeper support navigating toxic family dynamics, join the Confident Boundaries Membership. You’ll get access to live coaching, holiday workshops, and The Boundaries Helper GPT—your 24/7 tool for navigating boundary challenges. Learn more at confidentboundaries.com/membership

    19 min

  8. SEP 9

    No Contact Isn’t Trendy: The Truth About How Hard Cycle Breakers Fight for Toxic Parent Relationships

    In this episode, therapist and boundaries coach Torie Wiksell (and fellow cycle breaker) exposes the myth of “no contact as a fad” and validates the years—sometimes decades—of exhausting effort cycle breakers pour into maintaining relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature parents before making the heartbreaking decision to step back. We’ll cover: Why going no contact with a toxic parent is never taken lightlyThe hidden grief and guilt cycle breakers face when boundaries still aren’t respectedHow narcissistic parents weaponize the “estranged parent” narrativeWhat it really takes to break the cycle of dysfunction without losing yourselfIf you’ve ever questioned whether you’ve “tried hard enough” with your toxic parent, this episode will give you the validation and relief you need. Next steps for support: Download the free Confident Boundaries App for tools, resources, and access to the newest episodes of the podcast.Join the Confident Boundaries Membership to get live workshops, group coaching, our private chat, and 24/7 access to the Boundaries Helper GPT. This month’s workshop is “Unspoken Grief: Mourning the Parent You Never Had.”You don’t have to navigate this cycle-breaking journey alone. Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    16 min
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Psychotherapist and Coach, Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about challenging and dysfunctional family dynamics. In addition to specializing in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders as both a therapist and coach, Torie grew up with a mother who had an unmanaged personality disorder.Torie has spent a significant portion of her 12 year career as a therapist working with clients with personality disorders, their partners, and family members, and brings a unique and relatable perspective to navigating these complicated relationships.Follow TorieOn TikTok: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoachOn Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundariesLearn more about Coaching and the Confident Boundaries Membership: www.confidentboundaries.comDisclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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