The Confidence Chronicles

Erika Cramer
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Welcome to The Confidence Chronicles, a podcast show that's all about empowering women to create self-confidence, to step up and go for what they truly desire. Hosted by award-winning Life Coach and Psychotherapist Erika Cramer, also known as The Queen of Confidence, this podcast will be your go-to source for practical tips and exercises that will help you change your life for the better.      With a raw and real approach, Erika will be like a big sister in your ear, hyping you up and encouraging you to be fully expressed, to take up space and stand in your power. Whether you want to start your own business, find your dream job, or improve your relationships, this podcast will give you the confidence and inspiration to take action and create the life you've always wanted. So, tune in and get ready to be amped up, because the truth is you are a Queen, and you can have everything you desire if you're willing to show up and go get it! 👑 Get your free Confidence cheatsheet here

  1. 👉🏽 My Abuser Emailed Me. Here’s How I Handled It (When Trauma Resurfaces)

    2D AGO

    👉🏽 My Abuser Emailed Me. Here’s How I Handled It (When Trauma Resurfaces)

    This one is personal. In this episode, I share something that happened in real time… I received an email from someone connected to my childhood abuse. And it brought up things I thought I had already processed. I talk about what it actually feels like when old trauma resurfaces. What happens in your body. What happens in your mind. How healing isn’t linear. And why forgiveness is not something you owe anyone. This isn’t a polished “look how healed I am” conversation. It’s real. It’s layered. It’s complicated. Inside this episode I share: What it feels like when the past reappears unexpectedly How I handled the email without betraying myself Why boundaries matter more than being “nice” The truth about forgiveness Why healing doesn’t mean you won’t get triggered again How storytelling has been part of my healing You don’t owe anyone closure. You don’t need to be strong all the time. And you don’t have to perform healing for the world. If this resonates, comment below and let me know. And if it helps you, share it with someone who might need it. Like, subscribe, and turn notifications on so you never miss an episode. 📚 MY BOOKS Becoming Magnetic — Chapter 7 is all about creating your Alter Shego Confidence Feels Like Sht* https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com 📲 CONNECT WITH ME Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/ LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/

    31 min
  2. The Authenticity Lie: Why Most Personal Brands Are Still Fake

    FEB 16

    The Authenticity Lie: Why Most Personal Brands Are Still Fake

    Authenticity is trending. Everyone is talking about it. Everyone is selling it. Everyone is suddenly “real.” And yet… most personal brands still feel fake. In this powerful, no-filter conversation with Jill Stanton, we unpack the uncomfortable truth about authenticity in business today. If you’re using authenticity as a strategy, you’ve already missed it. In this episode, we break down: • Why “authenticity” as a marketing tactic is backwards • The difference between being authentic and performing authenticity • How people-pleasing is emotional manipulation • Why many entrepreneurs are still hiding behind polished personas • The identity work required to truly stand in your power • Fear of success, shadow work, and why it’s rarely about success • Why sovereignty is more magnetic than strategy • How to stop outsourcing your voice and direction • The performative era online, and why it’s collapsing This is not about oversharing your trauma. It’s not about telling the internet your secrets. It’s not about being controversial for attention. It’s about freedom. Real freedom. The kind that happens when you stop managing how people perceive you and start leading yourself from alignment. If you’ve felt exhausted by the noise online… If you’ve questioned who to trust… If you’ve wondered whether you’re blending in without realizing it… This conversation will challenge you in the best way. Authenticity is not a trend. It’s an identity shift. And identity work is the real game. Chapters 00:01:57 From Web TV to Online Empire: Jill's Origin Story 00:05:47 The Bold Move: Closing a Profitable Business 00:11:10 Personal Power Over Strategy: The Missing Piece 00:14:22 The Authenticity Trap: Why Performative Energy Fails 00:15:56 Becoming Uncancellable: Standing in Your Power 00:27:11 Finding Your Values: The Foundation of Authenticity 00:37:34 The River of Misery: Forging Your Next Level Identity 00:52:36 The Smart Enough Wound: Jill's Identity Breakthrough 00:59:28 Shadow Work and Healing: The Uncomfortable Path 01:08:12 From Teaching to Coaching: Jill's Next Evolution 🎧 Connect with Jill Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/iamjillstanton 👑 WORK WITH ME ♟️ The Queen’s Table High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy. https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/ 👑 The Next Level For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income. https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/ 📚 MY BOOKS Becoming Magnetic — Chapter 7 is all about creating your Alter Shego Confidence Feels Like Sh*t https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com 📲 CONNECT WITH ME Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/ LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/

    1h 13m
  3. Why Most Personal Brands Blend In (And How to Become Unmistakable)

    FEB 9

    Why Most Personal Brands Blend In (And How to Become Unmistakable)

    If this episode lands for you join me on my upcoming workshop DM me “BRAND” on instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence If you’re holding back, second-guessing yourself, or diluting your message so you don’t upset anyone… this episode is for you. Caring what people think doesn’t make you professional. It makes you forgettable. In this episode, I’m breaking down why people-pleasing is the fastest way to kill your authority, your confidence, and your personal brand, and what actually happens when you stop editing yourself for approval. This is a real conversation about visibility, courage, leadership, and the cost of staying small. If you’ve ever thought: • “What if they judge me?” • “What if I say the wrong thing?” • “What if I’m too much?” You’re going to want to hear this. 🔥 IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER: • Why caring what people think keeps you invisible • How people-pleasing shows up in your content and messaging • The difference between being liked and being trusted • Why neutrality does NOT equal authority • What actually happens when you stop playing it safe • How your personal brand grows when you stop shrinking • The mindset shift that changes how you show up online and in rooms 🎯 THE REALITY CHECK If no one disagrees with you, no one deeply trusts you either. Your job is not to be liked by everyone. Your job is to stand somewhere. 📣 CALL TO ACTION If this episode hit, I want to hear from you. • DM me on Instagram or comment on Spotify and tell me what landed • Share this episode with a woman who needs to stop hiding • And if you know you’re ready to stop blending in and start leading, let me know 👀 I’m watching who’s ready. 📲 CONNECT WITH ME Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/ LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/ 👑 WORK WITH ME (when you’re ready) ♟️ The Queen’s Table High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/ 👑 The Next Level For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/ 📚 MY BOOKS Becoming Magnetic Confidence Feels Like Sh*t https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com

    23 min
  4. Bad Bunny 2026 Super Bowl Reaction 😭

    FEB 9 · BONUS

    Bad Bunny 2026 Super Bowl Reaction 😭

    Wow mi gente, I can’t even 😭 I had to share this with you in the moment because damn it was massive. This is a moment we will never ever forget. Benito Gracias, por TODO! If you are Rican and living down under hit me up! Watch my episode with Yadi on being Puerto Rican Down under here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Z3D36sK4fI&t=5542s Chapters 00:00:58 The Benito Bowl Halftime Show Reaction 00:02:19 Living Without Your Culture: 16 Years in Australia 00:03:30 Bad Bunny's Global Impact on Culture and Connection 00:04:53 From Kidnapped at Seven to Celebrating Puerto Rican Pride 00:05:13 The Power of Self-Belief: Bad Bunny's Message 00:05:43 Don't Stop Believing in Yourself 00:07:37 Uniting People Through Music and Love 00:08:01 Bad Bunny Is Coming to Australia 00:09:51 It's More Than Music: A Cultural Celebration 00:10:33 Thank You Benito: Final Thoughts and Gratitude

    12 min
  5. Puerto Ricans Down Under: Identity, Diaspora & Finding Home Away From Home

    FEB 2

    Puerto Ricans Down Under: Identity, Diaspora & Finding Home Away From Home

    In this episode, I sit down with my friend Yadi, an anthropologist and fellow Puerto Rican living in Australia, to talk about what it really means to live far from your motherland and still keep your culture alive. There are less than 1% Latinos in Australia. There are even fewer Puerto Ricans. No restaurants. No food. No community hubs. No shared language in the streets. And yet… here we are. This conversation was inspired by Bad Bunny bringing his global tour to Australia, selling out two massive shows, and reminding us how deeply culture lives in the body, especially when you’re far from home. We talk about diaspora, displacement, identity, grief for the motherland, and the responsibility of keeping culture alive for our children when it’s not reinforced by the environment around us. This episode is for anyone who has ever: • Left their home country • Missed their people, food, music, or language • Felt invisible in a dominant culture • Had to become the culture carrier • Built family and community from scratch ✨ IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER: • What it’s like being Puerto Rican in a country that doesn’t know Puerto Rico • The grief and beauty of living in diaspora • Relearning what our grandmothers knew instinctively • Raising children with cultural pride far away from home • Why music, food, and language matter more than we think • Finding each other when “your people” barely exist • Celebrating Puerto Rican identity in a non-latin country 💛 FOR THE IMMIGRANTS, THE DISPLACED, AND THE DIASPORA If you’ve ever felt homesick for a place that shaped you, If you’ve ever had to explain who you are, again and again, If you’ve ever worried about your kids losing their roots… This episode is for you. You’re not alone. Chapters 00:00:00 Celebrating Puerto Rican Culture Down Under 00:02:05 The Miracle Meeting: Finding Family 16,000 Miles From Home 00:09:12 Seeds Planted: How a Mother's Dream Sparked a Journey 00:12:51 From the Bronx to the World: A Puerto Rican Upbringing 00:14:47 The First Flight: Italy at Fifteen and Finding Identity 00:33:35 Kidnapped at Seven: Erica's Traumatic Puerto Rico Story 00:34:51 Bad Bunny's Gift: Music as Cultural Healing 00:59:31 The Diaspora Experience: Living Between Worlds 01:07:19 Bailé Inolvidable: The Quinceañera Dance That Connected Generations 01:23:08 Building Community in Foreign Soil 01:33:40 The Concert Countdown: Bad Bunny Comes to Australia 📲 STAY CONNECTED If this conversation resonated, share it with someone who needs to feel seen. Tag us on Instagram and tell me what landed https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en These conversations matter. 👉🏽 And if you are down under and going to see Benito in Sydney hit us up! We’d love to see you there 💃🏻 👑 WORK WITH ME ♟️ The Queen’s Table High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy 👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/ 👑 The Next Level For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income 👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/ 📚 MY BOOKS Becoming Magnetic Confidence Feels Like Sh*t 👉🏽 https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com 📲 CONNECT WITH ME Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/ LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/

    1h 34m
  6. Caring What People Think Is Ruining Your Personal Brand

    JAN 27

    Caring What People Think Is Ruining Your Personal Brand

    If you’re doing all the “right things” Showing up. Posting. Being consistent. Trying to be professional… But still feel invisible, overlooked, or like you’re blending in, This episode is for you. In today’s conversation, I’m breaking down how caring what people think quietly destroys your authority, weakens your personal brand, and keeps you stuck editing yourself instead of leading. This isn’t about being loud, controversial, or reckless. It’s about clarity, embodiment, and owning your voice without apology. In this episode, we cover: Why people-pleasing kills authority faster than inconsistency How “being liked” keeps you invisible, not respected The subtle ways you’re diluting your message to stay safe Why neutral brands are forgettable brands How confidence and trust are felt, not forced What shifts when you stop managing perception and start owning your perspective If you’ve ever thought: “I don’t want to upset anyone” “What if people judge me?” “I should probably tone this down…” This episode will challenge you in the best way. You cannot build a powerful personal brand while prioritising approval. Authority is built by standing somewhere, not blending in everywhere. 👑 WANT MORE OF THIS? I’m considering running a live personal brand workshop where I teach my full method for building authority, visibility, and a brand people actually remember. If that’s something you’d want: 👉🏽 Send me a DM on Instagram or 👉🏽 Leave a comment on Spotify and tell me “I’m in.” Your responses will decide if I run it. Chapters 00:00:00 Caring What People Think Is Ruining Your Brand 00:04:25 The Green Bush Analogy: Why Criticism Hurts 00:07:05 The Truth About Putting Yourself Out There 00:08:43 When Someone Triggers You: The Gift in Disguise 00:11:15 The Power of FWOT: Living Unapologetically 00:12:00 Building Thick Skin: Your Invitation to Practice 00:13:17 Becoming Untouchable: The Mission Over Opinions 00:16:21 The Celebrity Mindset: Look Forward to the Critics 00:17:57 Personal Branding Masterclass 00:19:13 Your Mission on This Planet 📲 LET’S CONNECT If this episode hit, take a screenshot, share it to your Instagram Stories and tag me @thequeenofconfidence https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence Or, if you’re listening on Spotify, drop a comment: What’s one way you’ve been holding back because of other people’s opinions? Because the moment you stop performing for approval… Your brand starts working for you.

    19 min
  7. The Energetic Shift That Makes You Unforgettable :How to Be Felt Without Saying a Word

    JAN 19

    The Energetic Shift That Makes You Unforgettable :How to Be Felt Without Saying a Word

    Before you even open your mouth, people are already feeling you. Your energy walks into the room before your words do. This lesson is all about presence, not performative, not loud, not forced. We’re talking about grounded, magnetic energy that holds weight. That commands respect. You’ll learn the psychology of presence, how to shift your nervous system into calm confidence, and how to use breath, posture, and stillness to take up space without overcompensating. This isn’t about being the loudest. It’s about being the most anchored. Because when you’re regulated, rooted, and intentional—people listen. Not because you yelled… But because they felt you. Chapters 00:00:00 The Energy You're Broadcasting Right Now 00:00:22 You Don't Have to Be Loud to Be Powerful 00:00:45 Energetic Presence: How to Be Felt Without Speaking 00:01:15 The Lion in the Room: Understanding True Presence 00:03:08 What Presence Really Is: Safety, Confidence, and Congruence 00:04:35 The Insecurity Trap: How Self-Obsession Kills Presence 00:06:41 93% of Communication Is Nonverbal 00:08:02 Your Nervous System Doesn't Lie 00:09:24 Confidence Is Frequency: Contracting vs. Expanding 00:09:55 Are You Leaking or Anchoring Your Power? 00:10:47 Commanding Attention Without Overcompensating 00:11:18 The Power of Stillness and Silence 00:12:21 Body Language Mastery: Posture, Movement, and Eye Contact 00:16:30 The Final Shift: Becoming the Lioness in the Room ✨ Reflection Prompts: 👑 What kind of energy do you usually bring into a room? Is it grounded, chaotic, avoidant, performative? 👑 What does it feel like when someone walks in and you can immediately sense their presence? 👑 What would it look like to bring more intention into your presence this week—at a meeting, a dinner, or even a social media post? 👑 WORK WITH ME ♟️ The Queen’s Table High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy. 👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/ 👑 The Next Level For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income. 👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/ 📚 MY BOOKS Becoming Magnetic Confidence Feels Like Sh*t 👉🏽 https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com 📲 LET’S CONNECT If this episode hit, let me know. 👉🏽 Come and DM me on Instagram and tell me where you noticed yourself leaking or anchoring your power. 👉🏽 Or leave a comment on Spotify and share what landed for you.

    17 min
  8. How to Connect With Your Future Self (The Alter-SHE-go Method™️)

    JAN 12

    How to Connect With Your Future Self (The Alter-SHE-go Method™️)

    If you’re ready for a massive identity shift, this episode is for you. Because you don’t become your future self by “trying harder”, you become her by deciding who she is, then moving like her until your life catches up. In this episode, I’m teaching you the method that changed my identity, changed my life, and created “The Queen of Confidence” version of me. It’s called the Alter-SHE-go Method. The practice that helped me go from a shy, traumatised, playing-small version of me, to building the Queen identity and everything that came with it. We talk about: Why identity comes before results, every time The biggest trap people fall into, “when I have it, then I’ll be it” The real shift, Be, Do, Have Why this is not fake, and what to do if you feel cringe trying it The science behind it, enclothed cognition, and why what you wear changes how you perform How I used Alter Shigo energy to do scary things, including stepping onto big stages The questions to build your future self, her values, standards, boundaries, style, beliefs, and energy The real challenge, taking action as her, not just journaling about her This is your reminder that the future version of you is not coming to save you, she’s waiting for you to meet her. Mentioned in this episode Watch Beyoncé talking about Sasha Fierce (Alter Ego energy): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BtTlFW9_sTI Chapters 00:00:00 Welcome to the Alter Shego Experience 00:00:30 The Origin Story 00:01:45 Main Character Energy and Becoming Magnetic Preview 00:02:59 The Confession: From Hot Mess to Queen of Confidence 00:06:36 Why Confidence Matters 00:08:39 The Five Steps to Becoming Magnetic Framework 00:09:24 Beyoncé and Sasha Fierce: The Alter Shego Method 00:10:18 Flipping the Script 00:13:42 Forget Fake It Till You Make It: Just Make It 00:16:25 The TEDx Story: Alter Shego in Action 00:20:00 The Science Behind Dressing the Part 00:21:16 Let's Create YOUR Alter Shego 00:24:20 Don't Confuse Your Future Self With Your Present Self 00:26:09 The Challenge: Share and Embody Your Alter Shego 00:28:49 The Final Question ▶️ WATCH THE PODCAST ON YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/thequeenofconfidence Connect with me If this episode hits, DM me on Instagram and tell me who your Alter She-go is. Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/ And if you’re listening on Spotify, leave a comment and tell me your biggest takeaway, I read them. 👑 WORK WITH ME The Queen's Table High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy. https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/ The Next Level For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income. https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

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Welcome to The Confidence Chronicles, a podcast show that's all about empowering women to create self-confidence, to step up and go for what they truly desire. Hosted by award-winning Life Coach and Psychotherapist Erika Cramer, also known as The Queen of Confidence, this podcast will be your go-to source for practical tips and exercises that will help you change your life for the better.      With a raw and real approach, Erika will be like a big sister in your ear, hyping you up and encouraging you to be fully expressed, to take up space and stand in your power. Whether you want to start your own business, find your dream job, or improve your relationships, this podcast will give you the confidence and inspiration to take action and create the life you've always wanted. So, tune in and get ready to be amped up, because the truth is you are a Queen, and you can have everything you desire if you're willing to show up and go get it! 👑 Get your free Confidence cheatsheet here

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  • Creator
    Erika Cramer
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    489
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2025 The Confidence Chronicles
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